killmods:
Somebody when nor well won date... fix ur mentality first

Karleb:
If that's you on your Twitter dp, then you are not ugly man.

Let's say you earn 150k a month. A typical outing in Lagos could set you back by at least 10k and that's just to meet and know each other and hang out. Now imagine doing that 3 times a week. These frivolous outings that guarantee nothing to you could pretty much be eating up all your salary if you aren't careful at all.

Persephone1:
Why would he want to go on dates 3 times a week?

Is sex the only thing a relationship is made for that he would substitute a partner for a prostitute ?

With some things i read here i would say Dating a Nigerian does not make sense to start with.

Magnoliaa:


You sha wan smash this table we're managing its one leg. Anyway, I am just here for the cruise, chaos and hunts.

I don't just understand the thought process of some guys these days. Its stupid to say the least, funny enough it is the other party that is always at fault.
Why would a grown ass man will want to meet up with random girls 3 times a week? He jobless reach that level?
Or think of substituting a partner with prostitutes?
That guy is one promiscuous dude who is trying to find some justification.

tensazangetsu20:

Does dating make sense for a Nigerian man?

tensazangetsu20:
I have this friend who called me today telling me that he's done with dating. He just got a graduate trainee role at GT and he said going out on dates and getting to know women et al aren't looking funny on his finances that he's just gonna go visit prostitutes whenever he has the urge and since he's so busy at work or with work he's only gonna be able to go maybe once a week or once in two weeks and this got me thinking does it make sense to date as a Nigerian man?

Let's say you earn 150k a month. A typical outing in Lagos could set you back by at least 10k and that's just to meet and know each other and hang out. Now imagine doing that 3 times a week. These frivolous outings that guarantee nothing to you could pretty much be eating up all your salary if you aren't careful at all.

There are men that do get sex without spending or going on dates but these are like the top 1 percent of Nigerian men probably by looks or social status considering that the vast majority of Nigerian men are ugly (I inclusive) does dating make sense for a Nigerian man? Datings are just one part of it the extreme energy and time it takes to keep up a relationship is also something else entirely.

Zabiboy:
NO
Even if you want to "date", Dont date "down"(especially financially).
If you know, you know

Zabiboy:

NO
Even if you want to "date", Dont date "down"(especially financially).
If you know, you know

He should date up , In a hypergamy society?

Dream on!

Magnoliaa:


There's something quite wrong about the whole of this, but I can't exactly place it down.

Magnoliaa:

Lolxxxxxxxx. He should not date down now? Guys shouldn't date down?

Zabiboy:

NO
Even if you want to "date", Dont date "down"(especially financially).
If you know, you know

Rosaline5000:

Dating is more than Sex, and I usually feel most guys go for the flashy type of girls that's why they are always complaining about billings.
Once you date a responsible girl, she won't bother you that much for money, she must be working and doing something for herself and the guy can pay for the occasional dates not 10k per date o or just going to the beach to relax or somewhere they wont spend a lot.
Nowadays people see relationship like transactions where the guy brings the money and the woman brings the sex and they think they can just have sex with prostitution instead of been in a relationship but relationships is more than that, it's a companionship, a bond between a man and a woman to build a life together.
Anyway if you and you friend decides to stop chasing slay queens that dont work and depends on men and start finding responsible ladies around, you will be happy in relationship.
And another thing, you have to have something to offer and not been broke but expect to date, nobody likes suffering o

Rosaline5000:

Dating is more than Sex, and I usually feel most guys go for the flashy type of girls that's why they are always complaining about billings.
Once you date a responsible girl, she won't bother you that much for money, she must be working and doing something for herself and the guy can pay for the occasional dates not 10k per date o or just going to the beach to relax or somewhere they wont spend a lot.
Nowadays people see relationship like transactions where the guy brings the money and the woman brings the sex and they think they can just have sex with prostitution instead of been in a relationship but relationships is more than that, it's a companionship, a bond between a man and a woman to build a life together.
Anyway if you and you friend decides to stop chasing slay queens that dont work and depends on men and start finding responsible ladies around, you will be happy in relationship.
And another thing, you have to have something to offer and not been broke but expect to date, nobody likes suffering o

Gerrard59:

The modern Nigerian woman strives to date up, and 1) expectedly the man has to date down. Maybe as equals financially speaking, 2) but one party will out-earn the other and in most cases, the man is that person.

tensazangetsu20:


Is it really? What else can the average woman give except this and don't call companionship cause there are way more boring women out there that you dont even want their company.

Rosaline5000:

What does the average man have to offer and the answer will be money and that's why most women use you because you have no substance, even conservation skills is 0, that's why most women leave you for another guy who is richer

Rosaline5000:

What does the average man have to offer and the answer will be money and that's why most women use you because you have no substance, even conservation skills is 0, that's why most women leave you for another guy who is richer

There are men that do get sex without spending or going on dates but these are like the top 1 percent of Nigerian men probably by looks or social status considering that the vast majority of Nigerian men are ugly (I inclusive) does dating make sense for a Nigerian man? Datings are just one part of it the extreme energy and time it takes to keep up a relationship is also something else entirely.

tensazangetsu20:


If the money easy make am na

Johnchrix:
who be this one..

siofra:


So the saying is true.

men give/show love to have sex

Zabiboy:
Yes.
Any guy who isn't in need of constant ego boost and can control his urges would know that dating down, especially in the poverty capital of the world (Nigeria) is modern day slavery.

_{i know you are a female and might not agree to this. so we can either have a cool debate without insults ( cos i'm also here to learn ) or this becomes my last reply.}