Is it a crime to be honest in this country ? Referencing to the post I saw here yesterday.

https://www.nairaland.com/7315480/thought-honesty-hardwork-pays

I had my own share too, though it's long but I need your advice.

The episode started when the Suffocating and comprehensive ASUU strike is becoming more elongated.

My mum discussed with her boss if I can be working with them depending when ASUU will call off their strike.

Fortunately, they affirmed to my mum's request and I was employed to work as a secretary.

Note: They are both husband and wife running the organization.

My role is to write receipt for all payments entering the organization account, write and ensure all the payments of the day are updated before the next day.

As a result of the nature of my work, this give me access to the boss office as I may need some things to take there. Even if other staff want to access the office, they will inform me first, then I will collect the key and give them whatever they need in the office.

Things was going smoothly until a fateful Friday I was accused of stealing.

The scenario happened like this.

As the secretary of the organization, I do resume work by 7:30am and close by 5:pm.

Apart from the cleaners that tidy the compound. In most cases, I'm the last person that leaves the office. And whenever I'm leaving, I collect the key to the office and park the bags of the boss and his wife into their car, check whether they bought something and ensure everything is placed in their car.

That fateful day, as usual, His wife wasn't around, then I look for the husband to collect the office key and he told me that the office is opened. With no further delay, I moved into the office and carried their bags. As I was going, he stopped me and check the bag. He claimed that inside the bag, where he packed money, the money has been rough handled and the nylon bag that housed the money was found tore.

Then pandemonium began. He insisted that a person has accessed the money and I was the only person that has the privilege to enter the office. I was troubled and confused. My perplexity was so high that I don't even know what to say.

I tried to explain to the best of my knowledge. I tried my best to exonerate myself that I knew nothing about the money. I told everyone that I met the office opened and I ain't aware that the office was opened. Most times, if I see the office ain't closed. I will close it because it's close to my office. But on this day no one to bear me withness. Every odds look against me. We left there around to 5:30pm that day.

I even told my boss that he should count the money that I don't perceive anyone entering the office. But he kept saying that he didn't know the amount he put there and he can't give the precise amount that has been stolen.

Beforehand, I noticed that the environment is full of jealousy. The staff jealous themselves. They envy each other and there are lots of faction within the organization. To be on a safer side. I didn't join any caucus or faction. I play my role diligently and discharge my duty responsibly. I don't do favouritism as I make myself to be honest in all things. There are many evil things that I'm aware of that goes underground but I don't interfer in it or report it except the bosses know by themselves. With my altitude, well with this I thought, I was loved by the boss and his wife.

When I got home, I wept profusely because no one to bear me withness, everyone seems I'm the thief.

I explained to my mum what happened because she has left earlier. She pacified me and said. If I'm not guilty of the stealing, nothing will happen to me and they should use whatever they want to use to look for their money.

On Monday we resume back to work. What happened on Friday kept pondering my heart, the wound hasn't been healed yet another mysterious thing happened again.

My own office is at the front of the boss office. My table and chair are placed there but it doesn't look privately. It looks like a reception before entering the main office. I got to my office next day to find that #3,600 has been smuggled into my drawer.

Chaiii! No one to bear me withness again about the money I saw. All things look like I was the one that stole the money, and just hiding under the guise of innocency.

I was extremely perplexed, different thought were ruminating my mind. One thought said if you give them the money they will say you are lying that you just kept it there. Another thought said, who knows, perhaps they are putting you under integrity test. Well! I carried the money, luckily the wife was around and I explained how I saw the money and handed it over to her.

When the husband came, she told him exactly what I reported to her and the husband responded, he might be the money they stole on Friday. He continues, definitely the thieves has returned the money as a result of their actions on Friday.

The matter dies there and no one ever made reference to it again until today when the boss (he) asked me to prepare a bill for a customer.
I've done that already and also listening to him and the customer while they were conversing. In a nut shell. I heard the customer telling him that he wants another bills too. Therefore I was preparing that too, unknowingly as I was preparing it, I have covered the first bills with lot of books on my table. As the boss arrived, he requested for the first bill he asked me to prepare. Unfortunately, it's no where to be found again, �‍♂️. I tried to explain to him that I was also preparing other bills the woman mentioned. I think that was the only mistake I made thinking that would make the work faster for the woman to collect the bills.

All of a sudden, I noticed that he has been seethe with anger. He shouted at me that I don't have regards for him, he said, he asked me to do something but I'm doing otherwise. Before I could utter any statement to clear myself out. Everything has already scatter, he remained deaf to whatever I wanted to say. He insisted that I'm not working with them again, he chased me out like a dog that I have to go back to take my phone.

Amongst all the turbulence, I kept begging him. I prostrated on the floor to show that I'm sorry. But he didn't even looked at me.

For the sake of my mother. I don't want to do anything that would affect her relationship with her bosses, I would have said. I'm not working again and not even bother to beg.

To cut it short. His wife signaled to me to meet an erderly man close to the place, possibly he might listen to his pleas. I did as instructed by his wife, "God bless that woman" The erderly man followed me but another thing bursted. He said apart from this, that he can't employ somebody that he doesn't trust. He made it known to the erderly man that I'm not trustworthy using the past money that was stolen as a case of study.

That moment, tears began to roll down from my face. I didn't know what to say in the midst of everyone. Everyone was just saying, please forgive him, he will change, he won't do that again. I looked at myself and said this is humiliation of the highest order. If I take any step, it might affect my mum too and lead to the termination of her appointment. I don't want her to be traumatized.

I remained calm and crying bitterly. Well! he accepted the elderly man plea for me and they concluded that this is yellow card, that if I do anything bad again, they will resort by giving me red card.
Since ASUU is still on strike now and there's no way I can say I'm leaving there without having implication on my mum employment. Who knows, what will happen next that might get me roped and I will be given red card couple with humiliation. I want men with wisdom to advice me on how I can justify my resignation peacefully.
I don't want anything to backfire on my mum. I don't want her to be traumatized and I don't want them to transfer their aggression on her.

I just want to leave there peacefully because I can't see myself working there again. Even all these things was written with my unbalanced emotions. I know I have been traumatized and accused falsely but I believe I will bounce back strongly and soon or sooner God will revealed the perpetrator in Jesus name.���.

I will be glad if this can be moved to front page.

Honesty, hardworking and loyalty only pay when you sell them. Not when you give them

Tofee:
Honesty, hardworking and loyalty only pay when you sell them. Not when you give them

As I'm writing this, I don't even know what to do. The wife sees my heart but to the husband I'm the thief. And this is an organization I go extra mile to satisfy their them and customers.

I just prayed the strike is called off soon. At least I will be freed without any implication.

U are very patient.....I would never take that kind of humiliation....ever, d thing na obvious set up, d man just no like U at all, He is looking 4 ways to fire U, but U refuse to leave..
& him wife no send am, unfortunately U might suffer more humiliation...but U not leaving go pain more, if u fit take am, stay & let d man choke on his own frustrations...

Elsueno:
U are very patient.....I would never take that kind of humiliation....ever, d thing na obvious set up, d man just no like U at all, He is looking 4 ways to fire U, but U refuse to leave..
& him wife no send am, unfortunately U might suffer more humiliation...but U not leaving go pain more, if u fit take am, stay & let d man choke on his own frustrations...

I want to leave. I have even planned on leaving today if my mum isn't attached with the organization. But for the sake of her, I don't want to do something that they will be transferring aggression on her. If there's a way I can tender my resignation. Can you suggest please?

sammieking2017:


I want to leave. I have even planned on leaving today if my mum isn't attached with the organization. But for the sake of her, I don't want to do something that they will be transferring aggression on her. If there's a way I can tender my resignation. Can you suggest please?

U need to speak with ur mom, if it would negatively affect her, then u might have to take one 4 d team as it's only temporary...but personally I think u are d one d boss doesn't like, not ur mom & make sure he doesn't know u are enduring d humiliation because of her

Elsueno:


U need to speak with ur mom, if it would negatively affect her, then u might have to take one 4 d team as it's only temporary...but personally I think u are d one d boss doesn't like, not ur mom & make sure he doesn't know u are enduring d humiliation because of her

Ohh! thanks for this. I won't let him aware.

From your narration, since the company is run by husband & wife, he be like say you dey burn the man cable.
Some runs dey when the man dey do when he wife nor kwn, since you dey there he nor dey fit run the parole. I don't see why he will hate you for no reason or maybe he get him own babe wen he wan take do secretary, so he has to get you off the way.
Just tell your mum say you wan leave the place, she kwns what to do.
@Op, this is also an experience, after graduation, if it happens you work in the government sector, or private sector, muti national company etc, you may likely encounter worst or something similar, so it's an experience of a life time. That is how some work environment is in the real world. Welcome !!!

samwash:
From your narration, since the company is run by husband & wife, he be like say you dey burn the man cable.
Some runs dey when the man dey do when he wife nor kwn, since you dey there he nor dey fit run the parole. I don't see why he will hate you for no reason or maybe he get him own babe wen he wan take do secretary, so he has to get you off the way.
Just tell your mum say you wan leave the place, she kwns what to do.
@Op, this is also an experience, after graduation, if it happens you work in the government sector, or private sector, muti national company etc, you may likely encounter worst or something similar, so it's an experience of a life time. That is how some work environment is in the real world. Welcome !!!

Hmmmn! Thanks boss. Today I felt like the ground should swallow me. In the midst of everyone all gazes at me. I have been hearing this before but I have never experienced it.

Well! Whether ASUU call off strike or not, I just want some fresh air on this matter.

1. That's the common behavior of private institutions, they use and sap the freshness out of your life because you work under their organization. They feel or think ownership over your life. No matter how much you work for them, it is never appreciated.

2. You will feel bad after one week of resigning. You will go broke, depressed, and helpless. Chances of getting a job above the minimum wage in Nigeria, are as difficult as a camel's head wanting to pass the eye of a needle.

3. But the question is: how long can you be patient with them as you sacrifice your mental health and physical well-being for people who neither appreciate your presence nor value you? The fear of becoming lonely and jobless looms, but is it enough to sacrifice yourself on the altar of hell?

4. The only time you should even consider staying is when your salary can compensate for office politics, silent feuds, and work stress. But if your life is not protected at all corners and constantly subjected to a wild atmosphere, why do you think your salary can suffice?

5. The best way to protect your reputation and that of your mum is to resign. Further pinching on your affairs and character will affect your mum in the long run, and may end up relieving both of you of your work. Your mum is the one acclimatized to that toxic environment, so let her remain. Perhaps, she has learned to counter them and still appreciates her salary. Else, it is better for mother and son device means to opt-out of such a perilous atmosphere.

6. The economy of this nation is bad, and for that reason people just flow with the tides, doing jobs they don't love a bit.

7. You need to fasten up with good plans as you prepare your way out. Assume the company is going to fold up in a week, what will you do? Crack your brain with this question and others stated above and within a short time you will come up with other better plans.

Stay safe. It shall be well.

Thanks.

H

Bro, you have to leave that place to protect the appointment of your mum. It's a fact that the MD doesn't like you, you better leave before he (MD) starts showing resentment towards your mum (your presence can cause that).

Write a letter, title it "Permission for study tutorials/computer trainings" this is better when compared to "Resignation Letter". Explain in the letter that you need to enroll in tutorials/computer trainings.

Since he doesn't want to terminate your appointment directly, he's giving you signs, read the signs.

CaveAdullam:
1. That's the common behavior of private institutions, they use and sap the freshness out of your life because you work under their organization. They feel or think ownership over your life. No matter how much you work for them, it is never appreciated.

2. You will feel bad after one week of resigning. You will go broke, depressed, and helpless. Chances of getting a job above the minimum wage in Nigeria, are as difficult as a camel's head wanting to pass the eye of a needle.

3. But the question is: how long can you be patient with them as you sacrifice your mental health and physical well-being for people who neither appreciate your presence nor value you? The fear of becoming lonely and jobless looms, but is it enough to sacrifice yourself on the altar of hell?

4. The only time you should even consider staying is when your salary can compensate for office politics, silent feuds, and work stress. But if your life is not protected at all corners and constantly subjected to a wild atmosphere, why do you think your salary can suffice?

5. The best way to protect your reputation and that of your mum is to resign. Further pinching on your affairs and character will affect your mum in the long run, and may end up relieving both of you of your work. Your mum is the one acclimatized to that toxic environment, so let her remain. Perhaps, she has learned to counter them and still appreciates her salary. Else, it is better for mother and son device means to opt-out of such a perilous atmosphere.

6. The economy of this nation is bad, and for that reason people just flow with the tides, doing jobs they don't love a bit.

7. You need to fasten up with good plans as you prepare your way out. Assume the company is going to fold up in a week, what will you do? Crack your brain with this question and others stated above and within a short time you will come up with other better plans.

Stay safe. It shall be well.

Thanks.

Thanks boss, I'm leaving there today and I will update you whatever happens. The salary is not even worth the stress. I'm recieving 15,k while undergoing all these emotional traumas.

Openair:
Bro, you have to leave that place to protect the appointment of your mum. It's a fact that the MD doesn't like you, you better leave before he (MD) starts showing resentment towards your mum (your presence can cause that).

Write a letter, title it "Permission for study tutorials/computer trainings" this is better when compared to "Resignation Letter". Explain in the letter that you need to enroll in tutorials/computer trainings.

Since he doesn't want to terminate your appointment directly, he's giving you signs, read the signs.

I'm thinking of this too. Thank God I was given scholarship for digital course in one NGO just of a recent. I think that will suffice with the option for permission for study. Thanks boss.

Just leave there.. With all the insults? God forbid, start a small business, frying akara is better than all these nonsense.

Maybe its because ur still in school... Start hand work and learning which business will make you rich now ..

Employment is not usually fun in nigeria as you have had the foretaste now ..

Edit: By hand work i mean any entrepreneurship hustle it could be IT or skit making.. anything.. Google is your friend

Since the beginning of the ASUU strike if only you joined a technical workshop, or any vocation you would now have at least 6 months experience which can help you in the long run, instead of a meagre 15K salary on top of humiliations.

Lie down to beg for something you didn't do? For what?

When you endure these kind of toxic environment, you will continue to weaken your self esteem. The effect will show up in the future.

Quit that job. I would have said you should give the man a middle finger while quiting, if not that your mum works there.

Do not work in a small organisation where your parent is currently working, your mistake or error can affect them, now you cant leave just anyhow because your mum works there

unibenakpos:
Do not work in a small organisation where your parent is currently working, your mistake or error can affect them, now you cant leave just anyhow because your mum works there

Sincerely! I regretted working there. Since yesterday I'm not able to gather myself together.

Richie029:
The best option is to write a letter and present it to your boss stating why you want to quit as a result of your innocency that you cannot work in a place where you are not trusted.

To me this is the very best option but we all reason from diffrent pespective anyways.

You don't need to put yourself in an environment that would jeopardize ur self esteem... Being vulnerable to someone would make them ride you at will and make them think they're doing you a favour for keeping you at the company.

Present a letter to them and let them know and walk out freely like a boss... Dis is 2022 bro!
No time to take unnecessary bs.

Seek for divine direction

Honesty is alien to Nigerians.

Just keep doing you, no matter what anyone says about you.
It will end in praise for you.

Real matters

P

When in Rome........

Sometimes it is sometimes it is not, the bottomline is use your brain to know when it is and when it's not.

Ask Amoda

Sometimes!

Back in the early 2000s while I was writing GCE, A bastard corrupt invigilator approached me to pay for "expo" the day I was writing biology... Back then, I was above an average student and won't even indulge in such mess and interestingly, biology was my best subject. I could pass biology exams in flying colours without dedicated studies and preparations... Unfortunately for me, because I refused to pay the bribe, my biology paper was WITHHELD!!! Till date, I'm still in shock because I passed every other papers.

On this day, I lay curse on that man, wherever he is, HE WILL NOT KNOW PEACE in this life and in the hereafter by God's Grace.
Ameen.

No matter what you encountered while being honest, whether good or bad encounter, just know that being honest is good and it always save people from numerous unforseen problems