[b]Women do not rigorously shit test their men out of malice, but merely out of insecurity, out of a need to feel protected, out of a nagging sense of insecurity that they “just need to make sure” they have made the right choice and are still in a relationship with a man who is badass .
As soon as a man can no longer give a woman “that safe feeling”, she will leave him and find a guy who can make her feel safe. She will then rewrite history in her memory to say the man she is leaving was always weak and that he failed in his duties to her, she will paint him as the bad guy so that it makes it easier for her to branch swing to the next guy without feeling bad or having any sense of personal responsibility for it.

This is why women say bad things about their exes

She has to demonise him and paint herself as the victim within her own mind to allow herself to carry on without hating herself.

She needs him to “be the bad guy” so that she can move on. As far as she is concerned, it’s his fault she lost interest in him, regardless or despite if he did everything in his power for her. It’s always the man’s fault in the mind of a woman.

She wants a man she can’t change but she tries to change him as a form of counterintuitive test of his strength, and if she succeeds in changing a man into someone who is no longer dominant she will grow to hate what she has made of him.[/b]

Women want you to fall in love with them, but not so much so that you don’t make them feel safe anymore.

Women want to be loved, but as a man if you fall in love and allow that to change who you are, to be overwhelmed by them and allow them to erode your identity, you no longer remain attractive.

To keep a woman you must remain everything you were when she found you, despite everything, despite a tirade of emotional manipulation manifesting itself as shit tests. You see with women it’s not you in and of yourself that they are attracted to, it’s your masculinity and how that makes them feel which they find attractive.

Plenty truth being spilled here.
Bring it on.

LutherSanchez:
“ The guy with the capacity to call a woman’s bluff with a confidence that implies she is to be worthy of him rather than the other way around is the Man to be competed for.


“ Women despise a man who needs to be told to be dominant, told to be confident, told to be anything they have on their list of prerequisites for their intimacy.

—Rollo Tomassi

Your last paragraph is true.

Martinez39s:
It's so hard for him/her to understand becauuuusse, to anyone who still remembers the past silly activities of that moniker, he is a detractor and a willful antagonist of the red pill. He is either an odious blackpiller who chooses to play silly games here or a blue pill detractor who is just weaponising the black pill to counter and antagonise.

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Most of the redpillers on this thread are too matured —or shall I say friendly and too decent of a human being— that they always, with the passage of time, sweep under the carpet the silly and stupid activities of certain monikers, especially when these monikers take some time off, come back again and subtly wiggle their way back into our discussions.

In their decency or immense maturity (whichever one) in this regard, most redpillers hope to give these monikers some sort of "second chance" thinking bygones are bygones and that these monikers will surely straighten up themselves and behave maturely, intelligently and accordingly, and everyone will get along. I have been guilty of this in how I treated people way back. Sometimes, these monikers come back and appear to be talking sense or getting along only for them to revert to their usual pattern and games; some are more clever and cautious when reverting back, but you can spot them easily.

Let's not project our maturity and decency unto these people. Let us handle people strictly the way people who are experienced in dealing with people do: when someone has been spotted playing (or known to play) silly games or other childish and emotional nonsense, let that person remain in our "personal blacklist." Either we ignore him or we don't take such person too seriously to engage in serious or lengthy discussions. We will continue to see such person in light of his silly actions and nonsense until he, of his own accord, publicly owns up to his past silly actions thoroughly and in details, declare that he shouldn't have done what he did and that he will act accordingly from henceforth, and he must then consistently follow up with the appropriate behaviour. This should be the standard regardless of what the person subsequently posts. We must hold people accountable.

This is how I treat people in real life, online or offline. I hold everyone accountable (man or woman); I don't sweep anything under the carpet; I have a good long-term memory and I always study and remember people's past behaviour, attitude and patterns, and I treat them according to their behavioural track record until they own up their silliness thoroughly and in details by listing what they did, (of course, it must be of their own accord and without any pressure or obvious ulterior motives). Owning up this way will make me treat such people differently, albeit very cautiously, by letting them create a new track record with their future actions.

Many times, we see people come here and do the following:
(1) antagonise the red pill and redpillers,
(2) strawman the red pill and redpillers to antagonise and combat us,
(3) troll us,
(4) chase relevance by whatever silly and annoying means (eg. misrepresenting us to make a point, cleverly playing the moral card or writing posts that appeal our moral sensibilities or human decency even when this is not what this thread is about, etc.)
(5) play silly, childish and emotional games,
(6) refusing to create or go to other threads that align with their views and being insistent on staying here and writing things that are antithetical to the red pill, only to play victim or egotistically act like a sagacious outlier when redpillers come en masse to put them in their place. Sometimes, when outrightly cornered, they disingenuously double down on their silly and childish games and ignorance instead of owning up to their actions like men,
(8 ) always trying to turn everything into ( "logical" ) arguments and trying to come out on top during the argument by all means,
(9) what have you,

Redpillers see these things and are displeased, only for most of them to give these silly individuals a "second chance" and let bygones be bygones with the passage of time thinking things have settled and they will all get along. This usually backfires to the detriment of this thread. We must know that some people developed and are just wired differently for whatever reason; people usually know what they are doing and will never change. Their mentality and attitude defy immense intellectual and attitudinal maturity, and smart and matured folks don't see their actions coming. The least we can do is hold them accountable and treat them as they ought to be treated. People must laboriously earn their "second chance." Unfortunately, when a troll or clown resurfaces later and starts making little sense or writing posts that appeal to our moral sensibility and human decency, a lot of redpillers skip their past misdeeds. Let's start acting right with these trolls and clown.

_{Edit: treating a troll or clown accordingly doesn't mean we hate them. However, we do not throw pearls to pigs. Holding someone accountable doesn't mean we hate them.}

you definitely have a point there. My bad I forgot who I was dealing with. Initially I thought he didn't understand the point I was explaining to him but when I saw how he was vehemently rejecting even other people's correction I saw it was not that he didn't understand but he didn't want to understand. Thanks man.

Been quite a while since I saw you participate fully here. Hope you've been good.

Mrcritic2:
Good morning guys am sorry for bringing this here but am confused asf....

So here's the thing been dating this girl for two year at the beginning of our relationship I had fight of a vicious sugar daddy in her life that almost ended my life and hers but with the help the police and me being a strong man we over came she promised not to ever cheat on me and so she moved in with me.
Two years later (this present time) I noticed she became cold towards me absent most times from the house and even when we have sex she's so dry that it made me wonder what was up.

So I hacked her WhatsApp and what I saw almost killed me I confronted her and she confessed that she bleeped another nigga and she's been leading on some.other guys...
This girl I paid her school fee, fed her, cloth her and all...

Now her reasons for cheating she said her mom asked her to call it a quits with me because according to one prophet we are not meant for each other....

Second reason she blamed me for not giving her enough attention and not being attentive to her emotional needs. mind you this was a time things where difficult and I had to double up on hustling so I could take care of her sily ass...

Since all this came to light I have been depressed she's still at my house though but. Confused as how to go about it I love this girl... But she has hurte deeply what do you guys think I should do...

If you have been following this thread since 2020 it was created or Know Ubunja and other Miseducation Teachers about women and you still do this nonsense am Glad to tell you that you're cuckold.
You're supposed to have break up with her when you find out she had sugar daddy but you still went ahead dating her. And you expect miracle to happened to her that she should be faithful.
Your case i leave it to the elders sha.
I for give you advise but i no go give you because am sure yours guys will have been advising you about her but you didn't hear.

ubunja:
you definitely have a point there. My bad I forgot who I was dealing with. Initially I thought he didn't understand the point I was explaining to him but when I saw how he was vehemently rejecting even other people's correction I saw it was not that he didn't understand but he didn't want to understand. Thanks man.

There is no problem, bro. Matured, rational and decent folks initially tend not to see these attitudes and games (by clowns like LifestyleTònite and others) coming because they aren't like these clown and they (the smart ones) see no reason to descend so low. These attitudes and games take decent and smart folks by surprise because no smart, decent, and normal person should sink so low, emotionally and intellectually.

Having experience in dealing with these clowns accordingly will save us and this thread a lot of unnecessary bullsh!t.

Been quite a while since I saw you participate fully here. Hope you've been good.

I have been good. Just been busy, but I always make it a point of duty to come here. Nairaland is the place I visit the most for many important things. I hope to find time to contribute as I used to.

heartofcity12:



Exactly!. Guys already predicted that he’s going to see the light with time but he was adamant and stubborn back then, I’m glad he’s seeing things clearly with his own two eyes now, if care is not taken this guy will switch into something women hate more than the redpill itself, he’s just beginning to know about female nature and he’ll learn more with time. The same women he fought and advocate for were the same women that want him cancelled, currently hate him, mocking him and reported his IG page(one of his source of livelihood) till it got deactivated. It’s funny a once hardcore male feminist has completely turned 360 to denounce feminism and rebuke everything it stands for. It’s funny how he has become this, something he himself doesn’t understand. I bet there is still more to come, watch out

Idan remember when someone was saying he will soon change if he see the light.
And he is changing

LifestyleTonite:


Will it matter for a guy she's not attracted to?

Her mind is at the faraway place where the attractive dude is. It's just a matter of time before her body will arrive at the place. The chats with Chad have shown whom she's truly attracted to and desires sexually. Remember, girls ghost guys they don't like on Whatsapp.

Isn't it funny that you guys had to throw Chad to some faraway place before the 5 could get a chance? The fact that she's giving Chad attention on Whatsapp shows that that's the kind of man that triggers her.

The disregard for LOOKS IS KING is the reason why guys struggle and apply all kinds of strategies just to get a girl. What strategy did Chad use that he's dividing the girl's attention despite the 5 spending to take her out? None.

You talk about “looks is king” like it’s not common knowledge that women will fvck the guy that gives them the good feels, irrespective of looks. Do you know how female sexual desire work? What’s your definition of a chad? You seem to think “chad” is the most good looking guy in the room. Only losers compete for pussy, why should any right thinking man go into competition for pussy? If she is talking to “chad” and she thinks you’re not good enough for her then let Chad have her. We talk about abundance mentality but pussy is in fact abundant. Men have standards too, I personally don’t take ugly girls seriously and I am not a 10 myself. You have been pushing this narrative that the redpill is useless if you’re not a 9 or 10 but this mentality is so funny because the world is literally full of average people having sex everyday? I guess pussy has been reserved solely for the 9’s and 10’s and we are all products of 9’s and 10’s. Women will fvck you if you’re the right guy for them at the given time, fvck first, think later. You could be a 10 and your girl will fvck the homeless guy that eats from your garbage bag at the back of your house. I want to believe you’re a guy, are you a 9 or 10? If you are then do you get pussy on a platter? If you’re a girl, all the guys you’ve fvcked, are they all 9’s and 10’s? All I read from your posts is you think we’re all a bunch of average guys here to hustle pussy with the redpill.

Edit: Just saw that Ubunja spoke on this too, I just don’t want a lot of the new readers to think this thread is meant for guys who are hustling pussy.

logicalhumour:


E don cast tay tay na. Lol.
1. The Government needs man to be a Simp.
2. The media needs man to be a Simp
3. The Church, Mosque, Society, etc., needs man to be a Simp.

Hence, a woke man is bad for business.

They're catching your children young. That way, they do not need to bother if you (the parent) is woke beyond the possibility of backsliding. They have your balls in their hands.

Look at all Nickelodeon series. The husbands/men/boys are always stupi.d and dumb and rely totally on the woman for all important decisions even though it has been statistically proven that women are worse at decision making. Lol. They throw that all through the window while telling your children otherwise. And where will you be while the media achieves this? Yes yes, you'll be too occupied with working to feed them and you wife. You're no longer in charge of bringing up your children: woman and the internet is. Bite on that. Lol.

***

I've seen all three episodes of the movie. The part of that scene that got me laughing uncontrollably (even tho I was disgusted) was when she finished twerking and said "I'll kill for you, Megan Thee Stallon." Lol.

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I swear, if they in the end say she's stronger than Hulk eh, I'll f^cking burn down Marvel. Before now, I've forgiven way too many of their atrocities.

Shebi you still dey watch am ever since i hear the name of the movie she-hulk i got irritated and lost appetite for the movie.
About to watch Thunder and Love.
And if i see any simp moves in the middle of the movie am deleting it right way.

Don't be decieved many girls are having steady sex even the church going ones, don't be naive and think beta bucking and being in the friendszone for such women will do you good, you are wasting your time, a woman must provide sexual value or something very tangible like a work colleague, don't be a buffoon, don't be an emotional tampon.

To all the Single guys,, if you've female cousins and female work colleagues you vibe with , Get in the habit of asking them to introduce you to a friend they think you may click with. Don't sleep on those introductions. They do work. And they're many times better and more productive than cold approaching Women on the street ,,, and in terms of labor, definitely more fruitful than even being Chosen, especially if you have problems identifying choosing signals. Women listen to women and trust women above men and having a woman make a case for you with another woman will always be better than engaging and seducing a woman yourself. The added bonus with introductions is that they are a passive way of getting girls, you literally don't have to lift a finger. You don't even have to talk to the girl until she's brought to you. The most that'll be required from you is maybe your pics. And even then, if you're like every guy out there your pics are already on your social media so no one may even directly ask for the pics.

Go ahead try it. You've nothing to lose.

Women are being pumped and dumped, they are coming with emotional baggages,past exes trauma, lack of pair bonding ability, creating rules for you to have sexual intimacy, having narcissistic entitled character,bad manners, wanting to waste your time, sagging breast and used pussy.

When they want to settle down, it's now you the patient hardworking, God fearing, nice, good boy that will deal with leftovers.

Due to the dominant ideology of our society is religion, girls can easily use it to impose rules for you coupled with the abundance of sexual options they receive, it gives them the ability to portray themselves as angelic self restraint disciplined NAWALTS who have spiritual values after enjoying countless dicks in their prime years they now expect you to be patient and work hard for what other men got for free and cheaper by making you pass through husband beta bucking route.

I'm not against marriage but if you want to settle down, if you want a relationship, you must go for the best and understand when you are being used manipulated.

If she's not having sex with you, she's using and manipulating you, why? someone, somewhere is getting it for free while you are patiently hoping that the right moment will come by being in the friendszone or giving unnecessary attention.

May we never be “the dad that stepped up”

Martinez39s:
There is no problem, bro. Matured, rational and decent folks initially tend not to see these attitudes and games (by clowns like LifestyleTònite and others) coming because they aren't like these clown and they (the smart ones) see no reason to descend so low. These attitudes and games take decent and smart folks by surprise because no smart, decent, and normal person should sink so low, emotionally and intellectually.

Having experience in dealing with these clowns accordingly will save us and this thread a lot of unnecessary bullsh!t.

I have been good. Just been busy, but I always make it a point of duty to come here. Nairaland is the place I visit the most for many important things. I hope to find time to contribute as I used to.

good to hear you doing fine. Take care bro. And the clowns we'll try by all means to ignore.

From the source

Kenogidi:


I heard we even have long distance marriages too!☺☺�

WTF IS THAT

Agelastus:
The issue of texting and proximity reminds me of my university days.
I'm a bit of a nerd, so back then in my department people always wanted to join me to read and all that.
Naughty me always picked girls as reading partners and we only schedule night class for such reading sessions. I ended up f*cking almost all my "reading parners" at least once. Mind you.....I'm not that good looking, neither was I so financially buoyant back then but I never had issues getting into them panties.

I had always wondered at the back of my mind why I was easily getting what other guys paid dearly for. I mean right there while studying, these girls would be chatting with several guys simultaneously, some even sent them money right there in my presence. There was one that this man (a doctor based in USA) would always ask her stupid quwstions....Have you eaten?, Who is there with you? and all that and then boom! He sends money to a girl he's never met face to face.

Thinking back now, it's now getting clearer.

I didn't text these girls or spend time chatting on phone with them. Our only communication was to schedule our meeting time and venue. Shikena! We'd see each other online and ignore. But once we're together in night class after reading for like 2-3 hours.....The kissing and touching starts and pants starts to shift.

Ubunja is right. A 5 who is close by has the edge over a 10 who is far away.

MAD OH LEVEL

Abba114:
bro they fk the one who is closer to them more, no matter how much they like the one that is far away. i know a girl that travel to another state to meet a guy she met online, she does that only when she has money. but she sneak to my place whenever shes Hot, she likes the other dude more, she even tell me that i no sabi anything compared to her .....state bf

You sha dey smash her na the koko be that

2dice01:
From the source

the day men learn that the same exact way they abhor a hoe and are endlessly disgusted by a morally loose woman is exactly the same way women LOVE a manhoe and are endlessly TURNED ON by a morally loose man is the day they'll drop that goodboy image and start winning. WOMEN LOVE A HOE. It's why the 80/20 rule exists. A small 20% of men who are absolute hoes are sleeping around with 80% of women who love a hoe. Women fantasize over a hoe. and as a man that prude image is doing you no favors.

ubunja:
good to hear you doing fine. Take care bro.

Nice. Sure.

And the clowns we'll try by all means to ignore.

Nice. Even if we mention/reference some of them, it shouldn't be to engage them in serious discussions or try to reason/argue with them as they are always a waste of time and energy... very insufferable lot. Good day, boss.

ubunja:
To all the Single guys,, if you've female cousins and female work colleagues you vibe with , Get in the habit of asking them to introduce you to a friend they think you may click with. Don't sleep on those introductions. They do work. And they're many times better and more productive than cold approaching Women on the street ,,, and in terms of labor, definitely more fruitful than even being Chosen, especially if you have problems identifying choosing signals. Women listen to women and trust women above men and having a woman make a case for you with another woman will always be better than engaging and seducing a woman yourself. The added bonus with introductions is that they are a passive way of getting girls, you literally don't have to lift a finger. You don't even have to talk to the girl until she's brought to you. The most that'll be required from you is maybe your pics. And even then, if you're like every guy out there your pics are already on your social media so no one may even directly ask for the pics.

Go ahead try it. You've nothing to lose.

All the virgins my friend fuçked, his sister introduced them to him, made me wish I had a sister

CovenHighPriest:


All the virgins my friend fuçked, his sister introduced them to him, made me wish I had a sister

nice,, I actually had a friend with such a sister too. I think I mentioned it here before. Some sisters are the gift that keeps giving.
You don't have a sister you say? How about cousins?

LutherSanchez:
Even though a man’s friendship is worth more than a woman’s, women won’t trade sex for it because being likeable doesn’t make you fuckable. Women have the opposite problem, they are fuckable rather than likeable. Men have to work to be fuckable, women have to work to be likeable.

But a woman is only concerned with her own needs(Narcissism) not yours. Just like men will gladly use a women up sexually, a woman will gladly use up a man emotionally and financially.

A woman is all too happy to devour your time and use you as a source of entertainment and conduit (means) for complaining all the while she gives you nothing in return.

This is a bad deal for a man because his company is infinitely higher quality, and thus more valuable than hers. In 99% of cases this means if you’re hanging out with a woman you are interested and you’re not fucking, you’re getting a bad deal .

whoever findeth this group findeth wisdom.
This is situation I'm

CaveAdullam:


1. Truth be spoken, women have nothing to offer save children. Like every other thing that brings a man pleasure, women are so. But men don't build their worth on pleasure, pleasure is a time away from work. As a man can't constantly engage in pleasures, so he can't be with women. Like pleasure, his dealings with women must be short else he becomes nonchalant.

2. Women become enjoyable when they are of sound character, assiduous, calm, peaceful, intelligent, and suggestive not poke-nosing, assisting, and comforting their man as they tarry in the journey to their destination. Not that she's offering something tangible here, but because of her demeanor, in addition to the shining light, the journey gets smoother, hope waxes stronger and the light dims brighter. On this note, "he that finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from God". This is comparable to using the right tool for the right job, you will certainly find the treasures you seek.

3. A wife is comparable to "a good thing" because, at that level, she has surpassed other women, she is now in the collection of the 'things' that bring a man joy and comfort. Not because she is a married woman per se, but because she embodies the qualities of a good thing. Meaning that any woman can become a good thing' whether married or not. However, it is submission to a (high value) man which is a quid pro quo for his commitment that elicits this hidden nature of hers. Marriage/commitment becomes an approval and insignia of that nature and character.

4. Disorderliness in relationships is a result of a lack of compatibility: it is either the bad one is unable to fit in or the good one can't control the bad one or both are bad. In any of these scenarios, both can hardly cohabit, there is always friction and a clash of ego and edges. On the male's side it is either because he is low value or doesn't know how to lead, and for the woman, she is aloof from the qualities that make a wife or woman a 'good thing'.

The male and female species have come this far, men want women while women need men. As a good thing, and as a guardian respectively.

Thanks.

DAY 249, REDPILL 2022

Authority: Positive masculinity. Positive femininity.

Very on point. Nice one

ubunja:
the day men learn that the same exact way they abhor a hoe and are endlessly disgusted by a morally loose woman is exactly the same way women LOVE a manhoe and are endlessly TURNED ON by a morally loose man is the day they'll drop that goodboy image and start winning. WOMEN LOVE A HOE. It's why the 80/20 rule exists. A small 20% of men who are absolute hoes are sleeping around with 80% of women who love a hoe. Women fantasize over a hoe. and as a man that prude image is doing you no favors.

Men won't/can't learn

Women are wiser and can adapt in any situation to achieve their goals

The media make the matter worse for men
Check this music video out

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L-KY1nYpsWg

This is what the average Nigerian guy calls being Romantic
But watching with RedPill lens shows this is a Slave vs Master relationship

Notable lyrics : Mama raise a Gentlemen

KVN1:

whoever findeth this group findeth wisdom.
This is situation I'm

She is keeping sex away from me with reason that it takes her time before she can fucc someone. Firstly she claimed she wanted to get comfortable around me. Next is she needs more time. She has great feelings for me and she confides in me. She has two bfs anyway. Already told her how I don't date taken girls and how I don't make 'just friends' with girls. She has tried so much in getting the attention while witholding sex..I maintain frame. Now, I have learnt from the elders in this place how to make a woman invest more,and she has done so both financially,emotionally and in many other ways...more like an 80/20 sth. Now the thing is, I just told her we cannot be together if sex keeps coming between us. She sick and heartbroken now,calling me ruthless,heartless...how that one even take concern me...lol.
Elders here,what's the next step to be taken. We don't live very close to each other