Juliusmartin01:
thanks very much brother may God uplift you..,please how can I send you a mail?am new to this nairaland something.

Or drop ur digit let me message u

ObinaaDubai:


Or drop ur digit let me message u

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Juliusmartin01:
thanks very much brother may God uplift you..,please how can I send you a mail?am new to this nairaland something.

U can delete ur number now

Sometimes we make of mistakes in life which have a great tendency of reshaping us or wearing us down in the future. It is very nice to help people out but do it appropriately, so that the embargo won't ruin your hardworks and reputation in the future.

The advice that i will give to us today is this. Dont always GIVE PEOPLE FISH TO EAT BUT RATHER TEACH THEM ON HOW TO CATCH THE FISH.

DON'T ALWAYS GIVE FRIENDS MONEY TO EAT BUT GIVE THEM MONEY THAT WILL HELP THEM IN THE LONG RUN. Invest in their lives, use your money to create task that will sustain them.

I rarely comment on threads but I'd comment on this and I'd make my response as simple as possible.

OP, you have to first love yourself and understand the value of peace of mind. ANYONE (it doesn't matter who the person is to you) that doesn't give you peace should be cut off from your life as soon as possible. When you understand this principle of life, you would realise that there are some kind of women you should never tolerate.

From all you have said on this thread, it is obvious that that girl does not love you and doesn't belong in your life but my guess is you guys have already engaged in sex a number of times so that is hindering your ability to see things clearly.

There are no two ways to this, you have to let that girl go if you want to have a peaceful future. Next you need to set standards when choosing a woman. Look at her family, engage her in conversations and gauge her mental wavelength before you decide to have a commited relationship with her. Don't let your emotions take over when assessing a woman. I'm sure if you had done this, you wouldn't have fallen into the mess you currently find yourself in.

I wish you all the best.

@Juliusmartin01

My brother, end this kind of relationship, it's just overly parasitic, and the lady I should presume opportunistic at the moment.

Going forward, remain single for like six months to heal from this, block her everywhere. Like someone said, focus on you at the moment. Guy relationship requires money, even healthy ones, you want to spend to that money with a reasonable girl.

Guy look for lady way ready to make things work and live within her means. Why carry wahala?

Bsharp:
I rarely comment on threads but I'd comment on this and I'd make my response as simple as possible.

OP, you have to first love yourself and understand the value of peace of mind. ANYONE (it doesn't matter who the person is to you) that doesn't give you peace should be cut off from your life as soon as possible. When you understand this principle of life, you would realise that there are some kind of women you should never tolerate.

From all you have said on this thread, it is obvious that that girl does not love you and doesn't belong in your life but my guess is you guys have already engaged in sex a number of times so that is hindering your ability to see things clearly.

There are no two ways to this, you have to let that girl go if you want to have a peaceful future. Next you need to set standards when choosing a woman. Look at her family, engage her in conversations and gauge her mental wavelength before you decide to have a commited relationship with her. Don't let your emotions take over when assessing a woman. I'm sure if you had done this, you wouldn't have fallen into the mess you currently find yourself in.

I wish you all the best.

thanks very much bro

Yusufisraelj:
@Juliusmartin01

My brother, end this kind of relationship, it's just overly parasitic, and the lady I should presume opportunistic at the moment.

Going forward, remain single for like six months to heal from this, block her everywhere. Like someone said, focus on you at the moment. Guy relationship requires money, even healthy ones, you want to spend to that money with a reasonable girl.

Guy look for lady way ready to make things work and live within her means. Why carry wahala?

Thanks very much bro.

Juliusmartin01:
well her attitude this day’s seems like she wanna serve me the breakfast already.lol

Do not wait for her to break it up with you.

Break up with her, if you refuse to do this and stand by it then she'd still find a way to creep in and continue leeching off of you.

That lady does not love you for who you are but for what you have.

Break up with her now or you might end up hating yourself for allowing her use you.

Juliusmartin01:
her mom will always want to come through for her and beg me..,I really don’t know how to go about this part.

Be like you be real bornfool o. Ah!

Let both mother and daughter continue using you now. When your money finish, You go get sense.

Iranu

I ll advise you serve her the breakfast first, block her everywhere, look for a female companion for the time being , channel all your energy in your work and stay focus.

This story really touched me ... Because I was in the very exact shoes this OP is in right now and it ended in tears, loss, wreckage and financial set back. In the end I discovered that this my ex got pregnant for another and now they are married, probably because she felt he has more money than I. She left me at the point I lost everything and began to show me attitudes and even added insult to it. This girl my ex insulted life out if me and even gave me a wound scar that's an everlasting Mark on my hand. Anytime I see that scar it reminds me if the ordeal I went through with this girl in the name of love.
I had to let go when I realized this girl does not love me and never loved me, she only came for the money and when it was gone she bailed out on me.
I can emphatically tell you her family drained me,I lost 2.4m because of this girl, she got married to a guy with Benz and was mocking me, the guy she was secretly seeing while we were already in premarital counseling about to marry. That girl caused me pained, emotional torture I had to go back to class room to start teaching while praying to God for a better job. From a guy that had over 2.4m in his account to a guy who was struggling with 18k teaching salary and sometimes we were not even paid.i became very emaciated also thought of ending it all. But God in his Mercy had a better plans for me. I moved on and let her be, her mum supported her in all her actions towards me. I keep laughing at the current husband because he doesn't know who he married, she he losses his money that's when the demon in her will show.
I have a standard now... If it's money that will keep her she doesn't worth my time and stress I let go of leeches till I find my own, I have not at the moment but I know very soon I will do so.
Bro just move in let her be she will wreck you. When a woman doesn't love you she wrecks you.

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kepstone:
This story really touched me ... Because I was in the very exact shoes this OP is in right now and it ended in tears, loss, wreckage and financial set back. In the end I discovered that this my ex got pregnant for another and now they are married, probably because she felt he has more money than I. She left me at the point I lost everything and began to show me attitudes and even added insult to it. This girl my ex insulted life out if me and even gave me a wound scar that's an everlasting Mark on my hand. Anytime I see that scar it reminds me if the ordeal I went through with this girl in the name of love.
I had to let go when I realized this girl does not love me and never loved me, she only came for the money and when it was gone she bailed out on me.
I can emphatically tell you her family drained me,I lost 2.4m because of this girl, she got married to a guy with Benz and was mocking me, the guy she was secretly seeing while we were already in premarital counseling about to marry. That girl caused me pained, emotional torture I had to go back to class room to start teaching while praying to God for a better job. From a guy that had over 2.4m in his account to a guy who was struggling with 18k teaching salary and sometimes we were not even paid.i became very emaciated also thought of ending it all. But God in his Mercy had a better plans for me. I moved on and let her be, her mum supported her in all her actions towards me. I keep laughing at the current husband because he doesn't know who he married, she he losses his money that's when the demon in her will show.
I have a standard now... If it's money that will keep her she doesn't worth my time and stress I let go of leeches till I find my own, I have not at the moment but I know very soon I will do so.
Bro just move in let her be she will wreck you. When a woman doesn't love you she wrecks you.

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Omo

And u expect nobody to insult u? Ure a big f.o.o.l!

Juliusmartin01:
Good morning nairalanders,am in serious pain,I really need your help.,there’s this girl I’ve being dating for 3yrs now.,we have both being doing well ever since we’ve being dating.,I take almost 98% of her responsibilities.,we actually stay together but I’m actually out for work right now in Lagos..,so her dad passed away last year.,because her dad married two wives the other one isn’t giving her mom peace so they actually had to relocate from where they are to ibadan,so her and her mom was actually staying at her elder brother’s place till they find a house..,they already find a house and she was telling me the house worths 700k.,and the deadline would be end of this month,she said she’s depressed she’s this and that,definitely she’s trying to say i should come pay it,I also have bills on my neck to sort,this girl has a elder brother that doesn’t even wanna do anything to support..they will all keep asking me for money putting all their problems on my head all in the name of relationship.,we actually planning to get married but I don’t think it can happen again.,her brother will ask me for money.,her mom will ask me for money.,even when her dad was alive I’m actually fed up..,I do almost everything for this girl financially.,going to Clothings,feeding and all.,this time around because I’m not capable enough of doing all this financial needs for her like before I just noticed her attitude changed towards me.,my parents already know her parents and her parents already know my parents even before her dad passed away last year.,they actually speak on phone.,most of this financial help i render to them wouldn’t even let me do much financially for my own parents.,this girl will always need money which I will always try my best in doing everytime to give her.,her elder brother will always ask me for money too.,someone who’s supposed to be working very hard to make the little family okay.,I’m really trying my best.,I have spent so much money on her I’ve invested in her alot.,the last time we had a fight just because i sent her money..she said I embarrassed her and sent her money out of pity.,she deleted her WhatsApp and said if I want to reach her I can reach her at Instagram or phone call.,so I’m actually fed up about this whole thing and I don’t know what to do anymore I also have my own problems.,ever since this below �screenshot I posted happened she refuse to chat anymore since then.,since yesterday morning.,please I need your advice,no insults please and please pardon my grammars I’m not really good at it.thanks so much in advance.

I heard on twitter that some women prepare soup for their guy with their vagina discharge. They call it Obe Idi.

Op, you don chop pussy soup.

You be yahoo boy so what do u expect, na where ur money suppose to dey go be dat

kepstone:
This story really touched me ... Because I was in the very exact shoes this OP is in right now and it ended in tears, loss, wreckage and financial set back. In the end I discovered that this my ex got pregnant for another and now they are married, probably because she felt he has more money than I. She left me at the point I lost everything and began to show me attitudes and even added insult to it. This girl my ex insulted life out if me and even gave me a wound scar that's an everlasting Mark on my hand. Anytime I see that scar it reminds me if the ordeal I went through with this girl in the name of love.
I had to let go when I realized this girl does not love me and never loved me, she only came for the money and when it was gone she bailed out on me.
I can emphatically tell you her family drained me,I lost 2.4m because of this girl, she got married to a guy with Benz and was mocking me, the guy she was secretly seeing while we were already in premarital counseling about to marry. That girl caused me pained, emotional torture I had to go back to class room to start teaching while praying to God for a better job. From a guy that had over 2.4m in his account to a guy who was struggling with 18k teaching salary and sometimes we were not even paid.i became very emaciated also thought of ending it all. But God in his Mercy had a better plans for me. I moved on and let her be, her mum supported her in all her actions towards me. I keep laughing at the current husband because he doesn't know who he married, she he losses his money that's when the demon in her will show.
I have a standard now... If it's money that will keep her she doesn't worth my time and stress I let go of leeches till I find my own, I have not at the moment but I know very soon I will do so.
Bro just move in let her be she will wreck you. When a woman doesn't love you she wrecks you.

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Damn sorry bro..,this one touched me big time…i learned a great lesson in this..,May GOD be with you and help you bro..it’s well..,Chai.

Mr OP I beg you in the name of everything that is holy, drop this bittch. Please I'm begging you. The red flag I'm seeing here is bigger than the Japanese national flag! I'm not joking please leave her and find someone else, it may be hard at first but you will surely be happy you did. Please!

Give her the money na. Giving has a way of bringing favour into one's life

Walk away. The handwriting is every where. She is just using you to take care of all her family's financial problems. You deserve way better. Shalom!

Since you don't want to be insulted I will try my best not to but kudos to your girl because it's not easy getting someone there is a different between someone getting a man that has the money and getting a man who foolishly spends money, your babe got the latter in you.

As it is now, you have tried but she is ungrateful and inconsiderate, the best for you is to count your loss and move on or else you will finally confirm it yourself what you are and beg for the insult.

cayorday89:
Since you don't want to be insulted I will try my best not to but kudos to your girl because it's not easy getting someone there is a different between someone getting a man that has the money and getting a man who foolishly spends money, your babe got the latter in you.

As it is now, you have tried but she is ungrateful and inconsiderate, the best for you is to count your loss and move on or else you will finally confirm it yourself what you are and beg for the insult.

Thanks bro

kepstone:
This story really touched me ... Because I was in the very exact shoes this OP is in right now and it ended in tears, loss, wreckage and financial set back. In the end I discovered that this my ex got pregnant for another and now they are married, probably because she felt he has more money than I. She left me at the point I lost everything and began to show me attitudes and even added insult to it. This girl my ex insulted life out if me and even gave me a wound scar that's an everlasting Mark on my hand. Anytime I see that scar it reminds me if the ordeal I went through with this girl in the name of love.
I had to let go when I realized this girl does not love me and never loved me, she only came for the money and when it was gone she bailed out on me.
I can emphatically tell you her family drained me,I lost 2.4m because of this girl, she got married to a guy with Benz and was mocking me, the guy she was secretly seeing while we were already in premarital counseling about to marry. That girl caused me pained, emotional torture I had to go back to class room to start teaching while praying to God for a better j,.

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Funny thing is karma might not get to her.

Them no dey invest in woman. There's no ROI of any sort.

The best you can get is pucci & these days you can EASILY get that without being committed so why the unnecessary burden you people put yourselves through?

Anyway i wish you the best

Op thinks he can buy his way into a woman's heart, when all he did was to donate himself as a financial cow, to be butchered by a family of broke people.

Relationship like this always end in two ways. Either the op wise up and leave her, or the become broke and she leaves him. You're not even broke yet and she is giving you attitude, how much more if you can't give her money?

You can never be good enough for the wrong person. I don't care if you make her a billionaire, she just will never love you. She is not fit for a friend, talk more a wife.

Hoping she will love you due to your excess spending is like a sheep hoping a tiger will love him because the sheep is good to him. It seems like you don't even understand human nature and by extension, how the female mind works.

Stop giving her money and end the relationship straight up. It's painful I know, but it's the only way out. Don't fall into the "sunk cost effect", meaning you don't want to break off because you've gone too far.

Lick your wound, process the pain, and never let it happen again. The pain you feel now will be the reason you'll never donate yourself for future exploitation. Harsh experiences like this sharpen us, and makes us better. Take care.

Juliusmartin01:
Thanks so much for the advice bro…,a house of 700k that’d still have to be furnished.,even the TVs and chairs that should be placed there isn’t part of the money yet..,and the brother isn’t doing anything than to be asking me for money.,my elder brother that’s abroad said I can’t marry such girl.,that the family problem will affect me big time..,and the so called brother will feel very entitled and I won’t have a peace of mind.

Now you are talking..
You even have a brother abroad....
No wonder they want to suck you up....
Dey don see rich man...

@juliusmartin01 that girl is your good luck charm, don't leave her o I beg you. I just see it from my oracle, don't mind the advices that says you should leave her. Don't you notice anytime you provide for her God provide for you?. She's your cross, just groom her to become a better bride. Correct her and see how things fall in place. Good luck

tensazangetsu20:
Give her the money na. Giving has a way of bringing favour into one's life

Sannu motivational speaker

xtivin:
@juliusmartin01 that girl is your good luck charm, don't leave her o I beg you. I just see it from my oracle, don't mind the advices that says you should leave her. Don't you notice anytime you provide for her God provide for you?. She's your cross, just groom her to become a better bride. Correct her and see how things fall in place. Good luck

Chia.....
Man of oracle without common sense...

Chai! May I never have a very distant neighbour like this Ops o . Infact one thousand lashes of ORAIMO CORD will not be enough to reset your brain (�)

[/b]When a woman doesn't love you she wrecks you.[b]

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At what age are you carrying all these responsibilities


You will just die... before your time

Even us that are looking for responsible girls to choke us with responsibilities, we can't fall for this kain trap.

Tufiakwa

Wise up Bro from your maga-ness

I was very annoyed while reading this... Anyways, you can never advise a man nor a woman in love, all I see is that you will surely learn the hard way some day...

A wise man once told me ""My son, if you don't use your head to apply wisdom, someone else will make use of it..."