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Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by sentix(m): 2:22pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Pls don't change your name. What if your father would have destabilized your lives if he was around. Maybe God removed him to protect you. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 2:22pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
tydi:Look, regardless of what lead to the split, so long as a father erases the memory of his kids, there is no reason for them to feel burdened by him in anyway. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by IamBlessed12: 2:22pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Franzinni: God bless you 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by igbowoman: 2:23pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Corridon: Any man that walks away from children is not a man. Period!! Any vestiges of him must be erased from their lives 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by djseanjohn77: 2:23pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
UnusualEmissary: You have said it all. No word to add. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 2:24pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
sentix:If we are to assume God did it, isn't that all the more reason to abandon the man's name as well? 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by IamBlessed12: 2:25pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
ibechris: You keep brandishing your marriage and use it as a yardstick to judge other situations. Oga Ibe rest abeg. She doesn't have a dad 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Franzinni: 2:25pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
IamBlessed12: Amen. And you too. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by BRATISLAVA: 2:28pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
excellence44: She has no right, according to you, yet these are her minor children who she has sacrificed the almighty money for. If her father wanted to be in her life and answering his name, he would've done so. This place and its double standards that don't even have proper grounding. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Badowski: 2:28pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
bros seek your father, Remember, there are two sides of a coin, you were not there when the dispute happened. what she did and what let to the mans decision. thank God you and your brother are males, one day you will understand your father. so dont be too quick to judge 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by SUNNINO(m): 2:28pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Who committed the adultery,if it's your mum then he is doubtful of your paternity. Also,let your mum live according to her means. You are a Man meet your Dad and discuss with him about his grievance over your mum. Alexxx2000: |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by advanceDNA: 2:29pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
eminikansoso: Abi naaaa....we can just say no to our mothers Na indirect method go work 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by tydi(m): 2:30pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee: What about in a case where the mother refuses the father to see the kids talk more of speaking with them. Regardlessly the mindset towards father the mother would had fuel the kids with. What do you expect the man to do. Not to move on with his dear life! |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by OdefaGirl(f): 2:32pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
I believe all the comments on the first page were done by men...... I understand your mother, it hurts when a man abandons his responsibilities towards his children because marriage failed. And the thought that after all your years of labour to raise them and give them a better life.... someone would emerge and claim to be their Dad is even more hurtful. This is why she wants to take that step. If your Dad didn't pay the marital rites of your mum..... He can't claim you two, according to some traditions. In some way, your mum is right.... but you know your story more than us and you know who's who amongst the two, so don't play on your mum's intelligence but try talking with her, if you are of age or simply obey her..... The future holds a lot, the bond wouldn't be tampered with. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by OdefaGirl(f): 2:33pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Badowski: He/She was there. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by ibechris(m): 2:35pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
IamBlessed12: I am proud of my marriage and that is why I am so proud to see people happy in their marriages no matter their tribe,class or colour So,she should not look for her dad because of a single mother and her lies. Na people like u dey like see other marriages suffer and come back here to tell other how discouraging it is for men and women to marry. Like I said to her,she should go and look for her father. Well,u are angry because u are a single mother...sorry no be me do u. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Nobody: 2:37pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
I so much love men that drags kids with their wife during separation, that action alone is enough to know a responsible man. But who told women to be carrying kids along during divorce? Some women like wahala and burden sha, shishi I no go carry if I still love the man deep down, except for the one that’s still a toddler. I have my strong reasons for saying this . 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Seunspyder(m): 2:37pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
advanceDNA: Supported |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by IamBlessed12: 2:38pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
ibechris: Stop always rubbing your marriage on other people. I READ YOUR COMMENTS ALL THE TIME AND YOU KEEP DOING IT STOP IT. MAKE WE HEAR WORD. YOUR WIFE THIS, YOUR MARRIAGE THAT THE PEOPLE AT HAND DONT GIVE TWO HOOTS ABOUT YOU |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by folks4luv(f): 2:40pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Theknowledge:With all you typed up there, you still don't know humans and life yet. I hope one day, you will learn 4 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by BRATISLAVA: 2:40pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
ibechris: What if he begins lying about what happened to get back at her mother and paint himself a saint? Why should what he has to say be the truth? All this "go and look for your father" is the prime excuse and reasoning of deadbeats and their refusal to be responsible for their children.. Because they believe—according to pointless African tradition—that they are so important the child must come back to hear their side of the story, be it entirely falsehood or whatever they eventually decide to tell. Later on, single women are like this and like that. As if there's always a saintly man who walked out. She said there was battery and adultery involved in their separation. Hopefully the deadbeat will be able to turn that around and bleat like a little lamb when she finds him. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by phemy36(m): 2:40pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Qatar2022: Please stop arguing with her. She's a female. They are wired to reason emotional while men reason logically. All what you are saying doesn't make sense to her. Please let her be. They are one way traffic in reasoning |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Reinamaria(f): 2:41pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Alexxx2000: Infidelity and harsh on whose part? How's your dad with you all (his children)? Does he even show up? What do YOU think about the whole situation? Your answer to the first question should at least help you make your decision. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by BRATISLAVA: 2:42pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
folks4luv: Really, the number of children (boys) who post on this forum is terrible. Most of them are U30/40. And as such, their posts are horrifically myopic. 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Exceed15: 2:42pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
advanceDNA: Oil dey ur head bro |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by ibechris(m): 2:42pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
IamBlessed12: U are just sick and filled with so much hate. I am pro marriage and I will keep saying it marriage is good and mine is great. So,if u hate me for praising marriage especially mine...then u could kill yourself. I know u hate me yet u read every garbage I write here following me here and there. In summary,u are too empty and nothing reasonable to contribute other than hate. My wife is a great woman if that hurts so be it. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by neonly: 2:44pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Theknowledge: Nice one most sensible answer Am sure u must have had an experience |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by phemy36(m): 2:44pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
BRATISLAVA: Can you see what am trying to tell you @Quatar. The man will lie to the children while the woman is the only person that can say the truth to their children. I pity those who still trust this gender. They are so unreasonably I swear |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Ihenzy(m): 2:45pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Same thing with me, tho they gave birth to me out of wedlock, she saw me through and I'm currently serving now. Tho I do not intend to change the name on my certificates but I have since changed my surname on social media to my mom's father name |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by ochiosa(m): 2:45pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
HMMM WAYO PIPU Everywhere quote author=advanceDNA post=116841425] Tell her u have gone to find out how to change name....Tell her court refuse to do sworn afidavit without you NIN and birth certificate showing the name.. If u have done NIN already...tell her U went to NIN office.... surname change on NIN is 35k.... News paper publication 20k...She will leave u alone... If u have not done NIN..tell her they said u should bring sworn afidavit to show your name and birth certificate......that is back to square one since u cant do sworn affidavit without NIN or document that shows your name.. She will leave u alone [/quote] |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by BRATISLAVA: 2:46pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Rozross: Most men do it to spite their exes. It's not as if they love their children so much or know how to take care of them. The more a man wants to take away the children as his sole property during a separation, like Nigerian men always do, the more evil he is. He just wants to take them away to another woman (like his old mother or sisters), as he will never be truly interested in caring for them by himself. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by KIDfurniture(m): 2:46pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Bad marriage will humble you Alexxx2000: 1 Like |
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