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Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by sheldonbbt: 4:00pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Stop calling your father deadbeat. You don't know what happened between him and your mum. Your mum can appear as a Saint to you but at the end of the day, your mother may have been the cause of this problem from the beginning. I know a father who did not care about his kids because their mom was maltreating their father, the man kept mute, never discussed the issues with the kids because he respected their mum. Infidelity and unfaithfulness will only happen when a man is not satisfied or being denied intimacy, of course, your father cannot tell you this but most women use this as a weapon to maltreat their husband's. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by tydi(m): 4:00pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Emaprince: 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 4:00pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Grandmeister:Again, Culture, as far as I am concerned, means nothing to me. So, stop pretending it should to OP or me. Like water, you find it most everywhere you go and so it has no meaning except for the one you pretend to give it where you find it. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by tydi(m): 4:00pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Emaprince: Luckily for the man if the kids happens to be male children BECAUSE irrespective of what the mother could had fed them towards their dad. Good or bad they will definitely grown up one day to become a man too and see the truth for themselves 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 4:02pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Emaprince:Again, you are not making any sense at all. Are all men the same? Why would you then assume all women to be the same? That is braindead thinking right there. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by ibechris(m): 4:06pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
IamBlessed12: Because u are a an irresponsible single mother does not mean I should hate good single mothers out there. I was straight forward on this and never brought forth my marriage in this discussion,just because I decided to be who I have always been. Stop reading my comments because I am not yet done talking good of my marriage and many more out there. Note: I am a pro marriage fellow and if that gives u sleepless night,may u never rest. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Exceed15: 4:08pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Franzinni: Looool |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by cococandy(f): 4:08pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
How old are you? If you’re old enough to use the internet without parental guidance, you should be old enough to say what name you want to keep or leave Alexxx2000: 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by 2Radii: 4:08pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Spherica177:Lol, yes, Africa mentality is what made u not to read what she wrote before u write jargons about ur origin (Africa) Wen u finally leave ur parent house and start vending for ursef, pls keep a cheating wife just to prove that u re with American mentality.. Awon oponu. Adagbamadanu 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Honestfrend: 4:08pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
advanceDNA: I carry yash for u... U sabi lie.. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by cococandy(f): 4:11pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Woman hater? Or at least that’s what you’d call someone who makes half the generalizations you made about women Emaprince: 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by cococandy(f): 4:13pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
A parent who doesn’t care for their kids is deadbeat. It’s immature to punish kids for rifts between parents. That’s the definition of deadbeat sheldonbbt: 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by LaJoe2: 4:23pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Never mind changing his name, just don't put on his character. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by advanceDNA: 4:25pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Honestfrend: U want to live with a nigerian parent and not know how to lie...??...nigerian parent that will give u school fees, and pocket money and not worry about how u will wear clothes..... na there lie start.... 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by caprini1: 4:28pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee:Let the effort to see the father,be made first,some women shield children away from their fathers unnecessary and suffer for nothing. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 4:30pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
caprini1:OP said nothing about being shielded from his/her father in this so why assume it the case? How do you know the effort hasn't already been made for the OP to have concluded that the father has likely erased all memories of them from his mind? |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kyaptein(m): 4:35pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
advanceDNA: The above may deem humorous at first perception, But to be rather candid in my opinion, its full of WISDOM. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by phemmyfour: 4:41pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Alexxx2000:If her claims are genuine, if she's not lying to you about your father.......it's just an honorable thing to do to show that you appreciate all her effort in seeing you through life |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Emaprince: 4:42pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee:women are the same in emotional situations |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Fantazy(m): 4:42pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Do you know what? Go with your mother i.e play along with her so she won't get heartbroken. But if you want to do anything important with names like BVN registration, Nat. ID, Professional Exam registration any document that might be needed for recognition in future, use your real father's name else you will have problem. Your mother is not thinking of the negative effect that may/will have, she's just being pained. So use your own sense |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by lawrenzooo: 4:43pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Kobojunkiee: Nah it's not same! Most men have the tendency of abandoning responsibilities when love goes sour particularly if they have moved on with another partner. If Op is an adult and the brother a kid since his just starting school it means op at least for the most part of his childhood and teenage years had his father around. So the mom should allow him make his own decision whether he wants a change of surname or not. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Emaprince: 4:44pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
cococandy:I said the truth. Women weaponize their kids against their fathers in bitter break ups. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by 07kjb: 4:44pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Are you from the EAST? IF UR DAD DIDN'T PAY YOUR MOM'S BRIDE PRICE U CAN BEAR YOUR MOM'S FATHERS NAME BUT IF HE HAD PAID HER BRIDE PRICE,U SHOULDN'T CHANGE YOUR SURNAME 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Oyiboman69: 4:45pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Antimarraige:and you advice she bears her mother's father's name...how will that feel to the mother's siblings?. are they going to share from their grandfather's will?. What will the society make of that when they grow up?.... |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Emaprince: 4:46pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
cococandy:How are you sure he didn't care for the kids. As if you don't know your gender. What if she made sure that man has no access to the kids again? 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Timekeeper452: 4:54pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
She is right and very correct. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Oyiboman69: 4:56pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Franzinni:there is no need for names to be changed. you can answer the name without been involve with the person. I'm saying this cos you'll also find a way to change the name back to her father's name trust me. this is Africa, things like this is very important. Look at the political scenes today and see what the situation of name changing is causing. there will be a time when the name of his mother wiil be used to mock him, besides, one's name should be extended to different family and that is the important of it and it is the root of a man. you can't deny it,one day,that name will mean a lot ..... |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 4:56pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
lawrenzooo:If OP is minor then the mother can change names for her children. When OP becomes an adult, OP can change the name back if he/she chooses. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by Kobojunkiee: 4:57pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
Emaprince:Yet, the one fuming and emotional in this situation is you, a man? 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by caprini1: 5:00pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
LaJoe2:Very simple and apt!....lost both my parents at a very yound age ,was so angry with everything,but i later found out (by myself) say nobody send me . Retracted my self ,became the best i can be ,for ME....nobody send anybody .OP should move on name change or not. |
Re: My Mother Wants Us To Stop Bearing Our Father's Name by lawrenzooo: 5:03pm On Sep 20, 2022 |
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