StilmaVsBorn2w:
This is so embarrassing to say, I would never advise a man to be so sluggish in life. It pains my heart having to experience this several times but since he is an elderly bro that senior me very far I can't put my mouth in his family affair because of this.

I went to visit my brother yesterday, was surprised while we were seated in the parlour... the wife told her husband to go check if the woman selling provision is back.

This wasn't the first time, my brother stood up and went.. I was looking at her the whole time, she was looking at me. The anger was so deep but there is nothing I can do.

They are different instances I can give but no need for that...All I just want to say it's not good to be that calm type of guy.

This is not about being the bread winner of the house, my elder brother is doing very well for himself so is his wife.

As a man, it's just not good to be quite always or be quiet all the time.. gentlemanly. I just don't know how to say it.

Guys what do you think?

I'm not in support of men who are clueless and weak...they allow the woman be the man of the house, but i want to point out that there could be more to the story.

I say this because i have seen different families and how they could differ due to the personalities of the couples involved.

On this note, imagine if in this story, both husband (his elder brother) and wife are career people and they have 1 or 2 small kids and they don't have a house help. Maybe wife just got pregnant. Wife comes back from work, does her house-keeping and kitchen stuff...many wives in her circumstance need assistance. Maybe she cooking and wants to buy stuff from the provision shop, which is just a few steps from their house and the husband isnt doing anything at the time...she might have also asked politely...why can't he help out? i'm just telling you how it may have happened and how the OP may not have gotten all the details.

I do also think that African civilized society has gotten past that point where the men heaps all the house work on the woman. Some assistance is needed.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
This is so embarrassing to say, I would never advise a man to be so sluggish in life. It pains my heart having to experience this several times but since he is an elderly bro that senior me very far I can't put my mouth in his family affair because of this.

I went to visit my brother yesterday, was surprised while we were seated in the parlour... the wife told her husband to go check if the woman selling provision is back.

This wasn't the first time, my brother stood up and went.. I was looking at her the whole time, she was looking at me. The anger was so deep but there is nothing I can do.

They are different instances I can give but no need for that...All I just want to say it's not good to be that calm type of guy.

This is not about being the bread winner of the house, my elder brother is doing very well for himself so is his wife.

As a man, it's just not good to be quite always or be quiet all the time.. gentlemanly. I just don't know how to say it.

Guys what do you think?

Leave their family matters alone. Did your brother complain to you

StilmaVsBorn2w:
This is so embarrassing to say, I would never advise a man to be so sluggish in life. It pains my heart having to experience this several times but since he is an elderly bro that senior me very far I can't put my mouth in his family affair because of this.

I went to visit my brother yesterday, was surprised while we were seated in the parlour... the wife told her husband to go check if the woman selling provision is back.

This wasn't the first time, my brother stood up and went.. I was looking at her the whole time, she was looking at me. The anger was so deep but there is nothing I can do.

They are different instances I can give but no need for that...All I just want to say it's not good to be that calm type of guy.

This is not about being the bread winner of the house, my elder brother is doing very well for himself so is his wife.

As a man, it's just not good to be quite always or be quiet all the time.. gentlemanly. I just don't know how to say it.

Guys what do you think?

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Hello, is your elder brother complaining?
Please mind your business. Don't visit their home again. What God has joined together let no man put asunder.

Bye!

Romanoff:


Stay out of their business. If your brother ever complains to you that his wife treats him badly and he's not happy, then you can give him advice.

If not, stay out of married people's business.

As long as she's not disrespectful to the man, stay out of their business.


Them go soon settle their issue turn am for your head.

You mean disrespectful. So what do you call this " go check the provision woman" like errand boy

My babe they cook she send me magi because magi done finish for house
I rush go out go buy am come

You do something for a reason

Love get as he be I know some men that will do that and men that will not

Please no violence

Your advantages may be my own disadvantage

Romanoff:


Stay out of their business. If your brother ever complains to you that his wife treats him badly and he's not happy, then you can give him advice.

If not, stay out of married people's business.

As long as she's not disrespectful to the man

, stay out of their business.


Them go soon settle their issue turn am for your head.

Yes it’s their business and he should stay out of their business. But hey! If sending a man an errand like that is not disrespectful then you don’t know what respect is

Romanoff:


Stay out of their business. If your brother ever complains to you that his wife treats him badly and he's not happy, then you can give him advice.

If not, stay out of married people's business.

As long as she's not disrespectful to the man, stay out of their business.


Them go soon settle their issue turn am for your head.

100%

StilmaVsBorn2w:
This is so embarrassing to say, I would never advise a man to be so sluggish in life. It pains my heart having to experience this several times but since he is an elderly bro that senior me very far I can't put my mouth in his family affair because of this.

I went to visit my brother yesterday, was surprised while we were seated in the parlour... the wife told her husband to go check if the woman selling provision is back.

This wasn't the first time, my brother stood up and went.. I was looking at her the whole time, she was looking at me. The anger was so deep but there is nothing I can do.

They are different instances I can give but no need for that...All I just want to say it's not good to be that calm type of guy.

This is not about being the bread winner of the house, my elder brother is doing very well for himself so is his wife.

As a man, it's just not good to be quite always or be quiet all the time.. gentlemanly. I just don't know how to say it.

Guys what do you think?

When you marry your own do as you like, don't go and scatter your brother's marriage. Did he complain to you?

RightToReject:
Most of you've got a poor/absurd concept of respect. Even if your brother is the sole breadwinner in their union, I don't see how a wife sending her husband on a just errand (a wife expecting/reminding her husband to be diligent) amounts to disrespect to him.

Like in this scenario here, telling him to go and check whether the woman that sells provisions is back showed that there was a pre-existing arrangement between the husband and the provisions seller. So, I wonder how she erred by reminding her husband to strive to bring the arrangement to fruition. And don't tell me that you had expected her not to send such a request to her husband because of your presence, citing that you're a brother-in-law and obviously wasn't having some kind of formal deliberation with him.

Eschew needless pride.

God will bless you

There are scenarios whereby I will want the buy something and seller won't be there, she can remind me later to check the seller.

StilmaVsBorn2w:
This is so embarrassing to say, I would never advise a man to be so sluggish in life. It pains my heart having to experience this several times but since he is an elderly bro that senior me very far I can't put my mouth in his family affair because of this.

I went to visit my brother yesterday, was surprised while we were seated in the parlour... the wife told her husband to go check if the woman selling provision is back.

This wasn't the first time, my brother stood up and went.. I was looking at her the whole time, she was looking at me. The anger was so deep but there is nothing I can do.

They are different instances I can give but no need for that...All I just want to say it's not good to be that calm type of guy.

This is not about being the bread winner of the house, my elder brother is doing very well for himself so is his wife.

As a man, it's just not good to be quite always or be quiet all the time.. gentlemanly. I just don't know how to say it.

Guys what do you think?

Na she marry your brother oh

StilmaVsBorn2w:
This is so embarrassing to say, I would never advise a man to be so sluggish in life. It pains my heart having to experience this several times but since he is an elderly bro that senior me very far I can't put my mouth in his family affair because of this.

I went to visit my brother yesterday, was surprised while we were seated in the parlour... the wife told her husband to go check if the woman selling provision is back.

This wasn't the first time, my brother stood up and went.. I was looking at her the whole time, she was looking at me. The anger was so deep but there is nothing I can do.

They are different instances I can give but no need for that...All I just want to say it's not good to be that calm type of guy.

This is not about being the bread winner of the house, my elder brother is doing very well for himself so is his wife.

As a man, it's just not good to be quite always or be quiet all the time.. gentlemanly. I just don't know how to say it.

Guys what do you think?

You live in yesterday Sir. There is absolutely nothing wrong or sinister about that. What you see playing out in their relationship is love. It does not take away from the fact that the husband is the head of the wife. To run errands for your wife solidifies your position as head and earns the respect of all members of the family even more.If you cannot put up with their lifestyle it will be best for you to interact less with them for obvious reasons.

Go do deliverance for your brother it's not normal
No man whether is the breqd winner or not would take such height of disrespect from any woman

Is it a mumu man with no guts that will complain of being maltreated by his wife? Somebody wey dem don collect Saturday fromnhim hand, come give am Sunday?
Stay out of what?! All these evil woman turning men to weaklings and idiots. Is it until the brother’s destiny is ruined & he becomes a liability to the family that they will rescue him from the jezebel?[
Until you can pray for all the men in your family and your male kids to experience same in your presence, I think your advise is very vile and unhelpful! Good family members come to the aid of weak members even when they are too weak to ask for help. That mumu man needs help ASAP!
quote author=Romanoff post=116866455]

Stay out of their business. If your brother ever complains to you that his wife treats him badly and he's not happy, then you can give him advice.

If not, stay out of married people's business.

As long as she's not disrespectful to the man, stay out of their business.


Them go soon settle their issue turn am for your head. [/quote]

Dis marriage na diff Character man fit see him sef end up dey dis play..All no be Simp Simp
Am married but I do alot
I bath my Son n carry him to school
I get tomatoes and pepper
I go grind it mysef
I buy cooking gas mysef
I go to market most times
I buy tins.. I mean u can see me going out 20tims aday n somtims 5tims within 30mins
I wash my clothes n kids own
I provide 90% of the money in d house
My wife cn Cook 3times fr me everyday
Me naturally I lik waka
But wen am in work dem go find way
Me sha I no dey send person or want person do somtin fr me
But if my wife mess up she collect even my mother inlaw sef dey collect steady wen dey wan try me I no gt shame lik dat
Na just me

What's your problem with somebody send his wife on errand.

Stay out if thier business , the guy said it right ! When you have your own wife , you can do whatever you like . Whatever goes on in thier house is none of your business!!!

madridguy:
As if you will be cool seeing your son roaming about for a woman.

Jerrick:
Yes it’s their business and he should stay out of their business. But hey! If sending a man an errand like that is not disrespectful then you don’t know what respect is

Let me give you a gist about my own brother.

When we were all.living together, my brother refused to do any house chores. He'd say he can't have sisters at home and be doing chores.

Guess what?

Mans got married and one day, my sisters went to visit him, they met my brother washing toilet. Shock catch them.

They came home and gave us there gist.

My mum and I rolled with laughter ehn.

mariahAngel:


It is also love to treat with respect the one who loves you.

Seems you're the only woman here with her right senses commenting on this thread.

Wahala for that man

madridguy:
They don collect trouser from your elder brother give him wrapper

This is problem of majority of men of this era, forming woke " westernization ". Wetin even concern me.

BABANGBALI:
may the same love find you

na so.

Josephkabila12:
You mean disrespectful. So what do you call this " go check the provision woman" like errand boy

So it's not "disrespectful" if he's the one that sends the wife.

Abi?

See, you can't judge what respect is base on what you think it is.

Na wa for you ooo

Abfinest007:
Doing well for himself but if u go deep d woman may be d source of his wealth.






Two things na involve either them do snack am spiritual two by two

Or d woman owns every

Kwanu! This is why i find it difficult bringing personal issues here. U'll see ppl rationalizing pure senselessness.
Ppl with irrational thoughts & awful character hide behind keyboard to dish out rabid nonsense.
It's very improper & lack of proper upbringing for any wife to send her husband an errand in such a manner, more so, in d presence of her brother-in-law. Nothing can justify this.

RightToReject:
Most of you've got a poor/absurd concept of respect. Even if your brother is the sole breadwinner in their union, I don't see how a wife sending her husband on a just errand (a wife expecting/reminding her husband to be diligent) amounts to disrespect to him.

Like in this scenario here, telling him to go and check whether the woman that sells provisions is back showed that there was a pre-existing arrangement between the husband and the provisions seller. So, I wonder how she erred by reminding her husband to strive to bring the arrangement to fruition. And don't tell me that you had expected her not to send such a request to her husband because of your presence, citing that you're a brother-in-law and obviously wasn't having some kind of formal deliberation with him.

Eschew needless pride.

You don't understand that you brother really isn't doing too well. His wife is the breadwinner in that house. If she was a stay at home wife who was being taken care of financially, your brother would not move his foot.

pocohantas:
Many men would simp for their wives at some point, but I think it shouldn’t be overplayed in public.

There are some men that do dishes and wash clothes. The wife doesn’t need to go about announcing it that her husband washes clothes or her pant. That should be between them. Especially in a country like Nigeria.

She didn’t have to overplay it in your presence. Even sensible men would be wary about sending their wives unnecessary errands in the presence of his/her siblings. At best they do that thing themselves. But that one sef go bring another wahala. Omo, you can’t please world people o.

100%
tbh, at some points, a man might need to simp for his wife to make marriage work, e.g if she’s pregnant there are some things I will personally be responsible for just to ensure her comfort , but not that she’ll be rubbing it on my face in public

Sammy101111:
My babe they cook she send me magi because magi done finish for house
I rush go out go buy an come
Love get as he be I know some men that will do that and men that will not

Please no violence

Your advantages may be my own disadvantage

So you can run errands very well �

Future wife please we would run the errands together I no go run you around like mad you aren’t a slave….

GUNITGuy:
Go do deliverance for your brother it's not normal
No man whether is the breqd winner or not would take such height of disrespect from any woman

That is not disrespectful Sir. That way you will live longer as a man, husband and father. Your legacy is sure to be great long after you are gone. Fact check the lives of men who lived well all round.

GloriousGbola:


i think you should mink your fking business
are you there to visit your brother or to report on the goings on in his house?
as a man, it is not good to be doing poknose - i thought that was the exclusive preserve of women.

when the unusual happens that is definitely no pokenose .... if you don't look out for your blood whu will.
i don't give a fvck if my friend washes her wife pants outside, at worst i go end the friendship but for a family,
blood is thicka than water, until you digest and understand that quote

StilmaVsBorn2w:
This is so embarrassing to say, I would never advise a man to be so sluggish in life. It pains my heart having to experience this several times but since he is an elderly bro that senior me very far I can't put my mouth in his family affair because of this.

I went to visit my brother yesterday, was surprised while we were seated in the parlour... the wife told her husband to go check if the woman selling provision is back.

This wasn't the first time, my brother stood up and went.. I was looking at her the whole time, she was looking at me. The anger was so deep but there is nothing I can do.

They are different instances I can give but no need for that...All I just want to say it's not good to be that calm type of guy.

This is not about being the bread winner of the house, my elder brother is doing very well for himself so is his wife.

As a man, it's just not good to be quite always or be quiet all the time.. gentlemanly. I just don't know how to say it.

Guys what do you think?

You have issues bro, real issues!!!

What a perfect set of attributes men should have/not have.

Keep at it, you are doing good.

If that's how his marriage is working and he has peace of mind, leave him be oooo.
No be everything for life we go dey form super commando all the time o.