Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

you made a few mistakes (and so did he)...
A) just because you work hard, never assume that others dont (simply because you dont see/feel it)
B) cutting off your husand and giving him the silent treatment for NINE WEEKS is insane. is that not the father of your kids any longer?!?! why such harsh treatment?
C) your husband is as childish as you are and now playing your own game by ignoring you for months... blame y'all childish self, which ultimately will only hurt the children.
D) look within yourself to see what is bothering you so much that you could take such a small statement from your husband, and turn ii into such a big deal... then put your pride aside, get down on your knees and beg him to forgive you (because it is obvious, you aint gonna win at this "childish" game)

see how insulting and disrespectful you are to your husband.

anyways, prepare for your divorce ASAP cause your hubby is fed up of your shits!

he's got his life to live.

you women think without you guys we cannot breath!

You had an argument with your hubby over the phone...
You hung up on him before he could say his peace...
Avoided his calls consecutively for 4days...
Cut him off completely for 9weeks...

And then out of the blues, you send a completely unrelated message without first trying to resolve the old issue and you expect him to be cool with that?
You expect to just come through for you because you finally reached out to him?
LMAO ...

My dear...
The same way you took the initiative to start this matter is the same way you should take the initiative to end it...

The fact that you felt comfortable cutting your hubby off for 9 full weeks is proof that this is not the first time you have given him the cold shoulder over minor issues such as this and so Oga is fed up ...

You need to start aplogising through calls, messages, voice notes.....yes you wronged your husband. Unfortunately he is not mature enough to forgive you and let go easily.

Satan is fighting marriages these days seriously , such that you will see so much ego, anger, unforgiveness over minor issues, how much more serious offense.

Your husband seems all out to embarrass you among your family members and let them know there is a problem in the marriage.

This is the disadvantage of long distance marriage.
Appologise with speed.

Madam the problem is from you please, cut your husband some slacks now. He is working his a$s out to take care of you and the kids and also, so you all can stay abroad peacefully you're still complaining. Haba mana! I am sure somebody is encouraging you to be this disrespectful to your him. How do you expect your husband to communicate freely about your sister's admission and marriage when you his wife you're not at peace with him.

As someone said above, you're the one who started this issue so you should be the one to end it in any way you can think off.

The world does not revolve around you and your sister (family).

Over the past months, how many times have you called to speak to his family? Or...their lives don't matter?

And what is this game you people are playing sef? If I don't talk to my spouse in 2 weeks, then I'll naturally assume that the relationship is dead. You guys go months without talking and all that concerns you is your sister's fiance?

Are you in some kind of open marriage?

How can you cut off your husband for 9weeks?? Aunty, you are the problem. Look inwards. Since you started it, you have to end it.

Hian. Marriages of nowadays

My thoughts are do not do to others what you wouldn't want them to do to you.

If you still want your husband back, find ways to make amends.

na2

Na your English pursue your husband

I guess its pay back time


embrace it jare

Ego, Self Centeredness, Disregard, Disrespect all combined! That's what's happening to your marriage. Your husband has had enough

How do you muster up the courage to drop a call on your husband and go ahead to ignore him for weeks? What kind of super childishness is that? Your husband is doing the right thing by ignoring you and your family.
I hate rubbish!

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

In one sentence, you 4kup badly

Confirm guy.

It takes two humble or humbled people to make marriage work.

You dropped the call on your self-proclaimed husband, ignored his repeated attempts to reach you including his messages and want him to respect your wishes. Come on.

Respect is very important to us men regardless of how much of a s!ssy the world wants to reduce the gender to today. You treat him like shit but still want him to come through for you and your family.

As we grow older, we cherish peace more. He is probably evaluating his life and happy to miss your drama in it at the mo.

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You and your fellow malice people would learn the hard way.

Ishilove:
How can you cut off your husband for 9weeks?? Aunty, you are the problem. Look inwards. Since you started it, you have to end it.

Hian. Marriages of nowadays

Very hardened heart. Her type can frustrate someone. They can keep malice for 200 years even when they are dying inside and yearning for peace.

your husband was talking to you, you dey do strong head.. mehn if I was the guy, I might even do worse.. what kind of effrontery is that to hang up on him? abi you think say na your friend dey follow you talk... and he even brought down himself and tried contacting you, you still dey do strong head?

wetin dey worry these women sef? this is what happens when a woman who works and earns money feels she don arrive also and can do whatever she likes... lack of respect begins to creep in...

you better apologize to him and if possible contact those he knows he respects to help you talk to him...

I don’t interfere on marriage issues.

Ok

Ggg

You no talk to Your Husband for 9 weeks?? Y'all ain't Married na

Your marriage don leak and at this stage you can't patch it unless God does

Who the hell are you to cut the call on your husband he even tried to call you again and again and yet you were still harden to pick up and talk to him

For snubbing Him that long the love you have for him has depreciated

Nairaland no fit help you better rush to his siblings that's if you and them are in good talking terms

Communication is like a thread connecting two people together and it's very key in ships and marriages...

When u put a knife on it, e fit no dey the same again..

9weeks no be child play o

Okay... During that 9weeks who were you phucking... The story never finish....

Na wa o!

It is well

E be many things walahi

Reminds me of a song by the great Kenny Rogers "anytime two **** collide"

You cut him off for NINE weeks? Haba, there's something you are not telling us.

I just kuku like how truthfully you narrated your story.