toobusy:
Sorry bro,so many men have trained and some are still training kids that are not there's,things most women do to men are better imagined

Johnnyjohnnyman:


She is aware of the result she swear that the child is mine that she wasn't pregnant when she breaks up with the other guy in July 2020. It can't be possible because she conceived in September2020 and put to bed in June2021 if she breaks up with him in July and I am not the bio father there is no way for the child to be born in June.
Unless she was slept with another guy before we got back together which she denied. She can't poison me I don't eat her foods neither do I share the same room with her, I eat out and I come home and spend time with my kids then I sleep. I don't know what to do about her and the baby yet but I was thinking about calling both families next week Sunday for a family meeting. I will update you guys on whatever decision I will take.

Pells:
If you the rest of your kids are yours then your 4th child was exchanged at the hospital by the nurses
Your wife is innocent
Don't be a stupid

Saao:
Bro when I saw your message, I was angry in my soul and I took decision to send the woman away but in second thought which I believe its the right thing to do. Tell your wife the result of the DNA, let her inform the father of the child, give him the option of taking his child, if he didn't, consider her as ur adopted child for the sake of your other children. Broken home is the most terrible thing to imagine, don't go into it. Your wife is terrible

Pells:
If you the rest of your kids are yours then your 4th child was exchanged at the hospital by the nurses
Your wife is innocent
Don't be a stupid

Johnnyjohnnyman:


These 3 children not being mine it is the least of my worries. Why would I waste such a lot of money 130k ×3 when the truth is they are biologically mine. I rather use the money for their educations and welbeing than wasting it for dna.

CalmElder:
Be strong and reject depression, by immersing yourself in whatever to keep you busy.
For the sake of your dependants, man up.



A colleague who is having issues with the husband told me that they didn't have a proper marriage, after 3 kids o.

She wants to put my heart at rest so that I can 'chop'. Not me.
Another mumu is sleeping with her and feeling like Romeo.

Sometimes I blame our fellow men for breaking people's homes.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

waldigit:

This why we the religious people believe some situation in life can only be handled by divine intervention. Bros, your situation is one of such. Call your wife discuss with her about your discovery, if she disagree both of you should go for a comfirmatory DNA test. After let the real father know, if he refuses adopt the child. When he or she is 18 let him or her know the truth. Have your peace and move on.

Judybash93:


I think there are agencies that run such tests for free in Lagos as a fight against paternity fraud. I'll let you know if you're interested. It'd be better to know now than to spend a lifetime raising kids that aren't yours. But, in my experience as well, fathers hardly make mistakes when it comes to identifying their kids. So, you might be right

MisterMan123456:
Johnny, it seems you love to eat shit. Get ready to eat more shit from the LovePeddler you call a wife. You never did her wrong by sending money to your sister.
If the money you sent to your sister made you a millionaire, would she have complained? No. But because you were duped temporarily, then she went wild.

For me I can't harbor the thoughts of someone pounding my wife to the point it bore a bastard fruit.

Johnnyjohnnyman:



I haven't decide yet but sending her away will be better for my own sanity. My children will be fine they have a grandmother and a cousin who adore them they will help me to take care of them

CalmElder:





You don't understand.
There are men whose fetish is married women.
This men actually chase them, though I'm not excusing anybody sha.

Maynman:

Lol i advise you do the DNA test for the other kids.
Before a woman can get pregnant for someone she must have really LOVED him talkless of a married woman, maybe their love life didn’t start when y’all separated, it only made her more free to have unprotected s.ex
Fact is she doesn’t respect you, she only settled down for you,

ifihearam:


You religious people just open your mouth and talk rubbish..a married woman cheats on her husband, gets pregnant for another man..you want him to take the child to the father and if he refuses adopt a bastard under his roof? Can you advise your brother or son to do that? Why is everyone suddenly wise when its not their issue?

Do you know the pains and emotional drainage this young man passes through when he sees his wife and the child??
This is why the strong hearted people always say never forgive a cheat, cos of the adverse effect...once they cheat just let them go.. She was pregnant already before calling for peace...fear women.

Bobbynobobby:


My prayer for you is that smile should not turn to a permanent frown for you

Johnnyjohnnyman:


She is aware of the result she swear that the child is mine that she wasn't pregnant when she breaks up with the other guy in July 2020. It can't be possible because she conceived in September2020 and put to bed in June2021 if she breaks up with him in July and I am not the bio father there is no way for the child to be born in June.
Unless she was slept with another guy before we got back together which she denied. She can't poison me I don't eat her foods neither do I share the same room with her, I eat out and I come home and spend time with my kids then I sleep. I don't know what to do about her and the baby yet but I was thinking about calling both families next week Sunday for a family meeting. I will update you guys on whatever decision I will take.

Father254:


The baby switching is possible.
Is always good for husband's to join their wife's during delivery to remove any doubt about switching their baby.

For me I always stand, watch and encourage my wife during delivery.

xtivin:

My Brother take it easy even one of my ex just gave birth for her husband July this year, me and this girl still do correct things till September last year,when I see the child I smiled.

CalmElder:
Be strong and reject depression, by immersing yourself in whatever to keep you busy.
For the sake of your dependants, man up.



A colleague who is having issues with the husband told me that they didn't have a proper marriage, after 3 kids o.

She wants to put my heart at rest so that I can 'chop'. Not me.
Another mumu is sleeping with her and feeling like Romeo.

Sometimes I blame our fellow men for breaking people's homes.

bishopandy:
Sorry for whatever might have transpired. Please, I will like to know, is she also the child's mother because children are also switched at birth. So I will indulge you to delve further. Please, take heart and forgive so the child can have a happy home

GerogeI:


You are naive. This thing is more common than you think. A lot of men have kids they know are not theirs.
They consider the impact on the rest of their children. For some its their licence to cheat as much as they want, the wife keeps the home irrespective and is the begging party. For others , every child is a blessing.

zedegit:


Have you given birth before? Do you understand the horrible pains women go through pushing out babies?

I understand what she did was wrong but don't send her away. Confront her with the discovery, her response should guide your decision. If she's sober, give her a chance.

Remember some men also cheat, men like Yul Edochie and they expect their wife to forgive them.

#Cheating is wrong

Sweetplum:

Bittered mumu, the advise is better than yours.