.

find a new babe, focus on having a great r/ship with her... and everything will be fine!

PS since you dont want to see your ex with the other guy, delete her from any social media etc and dont try to contact her.

I don't know what is happening lately, it seems so many young men are losing it. I can't believe that a guy typed this and post. How can you turned a weakling overnight because of a liability? It's the weak tendencies you exuded that makes the girl to dumped your ass and jumped on another guy.

Never love a woman too much, and even if you do, don't make it too obvious and never beg to marry any woman, they don't deserve it. Infact they should be the ones walking on their knees for men to marry them.

Candid advice, move on.

She what's best for herself, can you meet up with her demands? Most girls will prefer a rich woman beater to a poor caring husband, the reason is clear, money is involved.

We can't separate humans from this thing called money, I'm sure your ex is not the most pretty woman on earth, neither does she possess the best attributes one could have, there are replacement for us human beings, so please my brother try and look for an upgraded version of your ex.

Honestly I have female friends that have clearly showed interest, some I have politely turned down to save them from heartbreaks. Just that I can't enter into a relationship with someone that I know for sure I won't marry that's even my problem now

MrBrownJay1:
find a new babe, focus on having a great r/ship with her... and everything will be fine!

PS since you dont want to see her with the other guy, delete her from any social media etc and dont try to contact her.

I'm not really broke either, I'm living fine

I just need advise on how to move on, money is not my problem now

Olaoluwa112:
Make money

Firstly. whenever a girls says its over and refuse to give u reasons, just politely and maturely walk out of her life, stop begging her to stay. Its creepy

Secondly, Oga try and have a girlfriend so u could move on with ur life and build another relationship.

Thanks Michelle for the advice, I have been thinking about this lately when this whole drama was affecting my work and personal growth just that I haven't really see someone that I love but all the same thank you

Michelle70:
Firstly. whenever a girls says its over and refuse to give u reasons, just politely and maturely walk out of her life, stop begging her to stay. Its creepy

Secondly, Oga try and have a girlfriend so u could move on with ur life and build another relationship.

Las las everybody go swallow breakfast .


Do u want to tell me that if it was dongote, adenuga, or queen Elizabeth's ii son's that she would say that?

Dude focus an make money, a lot of women are opportunist, and majority of them uses psychy to determine a man's future whether or not to continue with him, and how they do I don't know.

Fear this gender for ur mental health Op..

Hmmmmmmmm

Thank you

brosom:
Las las everybody go swallow breakfast .


Do u want to tell me that if it was dongote, adenuga, or queen Elizabeth's ii son's that she would say that?

Dude focus an make money, a lot of women are opportunist, and majority of them are psych a man's future whether or not to continue with him, an how they do I don't know.

Compare the time you and her were dating and how much you spent on her daily and now that you are no longer dating and how much you have saved.
Do the maths and get back to me if you can.

It's normal to spend on someone you love abi

All thesame I have be more responsible with fund this period than the past few years

Pickmycall:
Compare the time you and her were dating and how much you spent on her daily and now that you are no longer dating and how much you have saved.
Do the maths and get back to me if you can.

Very simple, call me make we go eat Isi ewụ and nkwobi

The likes of Davido, Wizkid even David had lots of women at their beck and call.

This is because they are strong men who understands that they cannot be tied or Monopolized by one woman.

It hurts to see guys turn to jelly over some kitty.

Sucking it up to a woman is never the way.

When they understand that you are a sucker for them.... you are finished.

Guy....... This may sound corny but sadly true. Go up your game. Update and reinvent yourself.

Stop, I repeat stop building castle with a woman's affection...... It ain't worth nothing.

Kealmin:
Good evening nairalanders please I have known this girl for more than 5 years now and 2 years ago I opened up to her about my intention to marry her at first we didn't really took things serious but later that year we got serious with each other and started planning ohhh, but few months ago she told me both of us can no longer work out due to somethings beyond her control, I beg her to stay but she just couldn't heed to my plea, it wasn't easy at first but with the help of God and close friends I was able to move on, though she still check on me sometimes but I noticed that anytime I see her with the guy she is Currently dating I feel bad and pained and sometimes I just feel downcast and may not be able to work that day.

Note that she said I didn't do anything wrong to her because several times I asked her why she left she told me it's beyond her control

Please I don't like sinking into depression and I don't like see myself wallowing over a lady that decided to leave me on her terms, please how do I move on without having to feel bad whenever I see her with her current guy.

Thank you
Good evening

Mod I would appreciate if you can move this to FP.

I don't know if what I'm going through is normal after breakup or is just me that doesn't know what to do after breakup

Hmmmmm.

First things first, acceptance is very important here. Accept that what you had with her is gone forever - allow it rest in peace.

Second, do not nurse any thoughts of the both of you getting back together. It's going to delay the process of your healing. Neither should you try to do anything to make her jealous - it isn't necessary.

Here's what you should do;
√ Plan to make money. Charge your heartbreak to your hustle. Anytime you remember her or feel hurt, increase your hustle. You need something to challenge your deflated ego - money making would boost it.

√ Get busy - socialize and date casually Or give yourself a challenge.

I do not support rebound sex. It's pivotal to know many women on a platonic note. It will make you understand the opposite sex better and see things from their perspective. Heck, you'd even see your ex in a new light - mostly bad, I tell you.

Speaking of your ex, why are you still in communication with her? You can still be cordial and civil with her but don't let anyone treat you like a Plan B by putting you on the side until her Main Man F's Up!

Don't sit around wallowing in self pity - you'd be broke and heartbroken - pick a struggle, man.

You'd look back soon and smile when you read this thread. Straighten up your chin, man. Hugs.

brosom:
Las las everybody go swallow breakfast .


Do u want to tell me that if it was dongote, adenuga, or queen Elizabeth's ii son's that she would say that?

Dude focus an make money, a lot of women are opportunist, and majority of them uses psychy to determine a man's future whether or not to continue with him, and how they do I don't know.

Fear this gender for ur mental health Op..

Guy you nailed it...
Na so my supposed gf served me breakfast last 2 weeks because I sent my two bank accounts with #600 in them when she requested money to fill her cooking gas, while hiding my main bank account from her just to test her....
Two days later, she sent me a message that she is no longer interested in dix relationship anymore after 1 yr of dating oo...
After that day, I fear women d more, what if na only 600 I get nko, hmmmm
And she knew that I am a university lecturer wey never receive shishi for 7months o... Ma dat one vex me d more...
After I read her message, I just replied her " No wahala, I wish you d all d best, Goodluck!!!..
Fear women
I swear

Come let me show you hundreds of classy girls on IG dying to marry. They will be so glad to meet you.

Kealmin:
Honestly I have female friends that have clearly showed interest, some I have politely turned down to save them from heartbreaks. Just that I can't enter into a relationship with someone that I know for sure I won't marry that's even my problem now

This is a bad inclination to hold when getting into a relationship and this is why you can't move on.

You date as many as you can.

Then you filter out till you find the one that meets your taste.

You can't start dating a woman with the intention to marry her. That's a recipe for heartbreak.

You are about to make a life long choice, don't put all your eggs in one basket. Diversify.

Get more ladies involve and start a vetting process.

Sticking to one and wasting your time with that one won't help you here.

Women are smarter than you give them credit.

They are logical. They only get emotional when they fall in love but if they fall out of love....... they could be a bìtch.

Your ex is good. She knows what she wants. So she sugarcoated her words not to hurt you much.

The thing here is that she made her choice after studying you.

Learn from this experience and understand that: all is fair in love and war.

Getting a wife material is war. You are making a life long choice.

Adopt the right mental approach.

Don't be a sucker.

Thank you so much queen I appreciate I think I'm specially guilty of your first and second point. All the same thank you

SoapQueen:


Hmmmmm.

First things first, acceptance is very important here. Accept that what you had with her is gone forever - allow it rest in peace.

Second, do not nurse any thoughts of the both of you getting back together. Its going to delay the process of your healing. Neither should you try to do anything to make her jealous - it isn't necessary.

Here's what you should do;
√ Plan to make money. Charge you heartbreak to your hustle. Anytime you remember her or feel hurt, increase your hustle. You need something to challenge your deflated ego - money making would boost it.

√ Get busy - socialize and date casually Or give yourself a challenge.

I do not support rebound sex. It's pivotal know many women on a platonic note. It will make you understand the opposite sex better and see things from their perspective. Heck, you'd even see your ex in a new light - mostly bad, I tell you.

Hmmmmmmmmm
Thank you for your input

Godada:



This is a bad inclination to hold when getting into a relationship and this is why you can't move on.

You date as many as you can.

Then you filter out till you find the one that meets your taste.

You can't start dating a woman with the intention to marry her. That's a recipe for heartbreak.

You are about to make a life long choice, don't put all your eggs in one basket. Diversify.

Get more ladies involve and start a vetting process.

Sticking to one and wasting your time with that one won't help you here.

Women are smarter than you give them credit.

They are logical. They only get emotional when they fall in love but if they fall out of love....... they could be a bìtch.

Your ex is good. She knows what she wants. So she sugarcoated her words not to hurt you much.

The thing here is that she made her choice after studying you.

Learn from this experience and understand that: all is fair in love and war.

Getting a wife material is war. You are making a life long choice.

Adopt the right mental approach.

Don't be a sucker.

Chibueze90:

Guy you nailed it...
Na so my supposed gf served me breakfast last 2 weeks because I sent my two bank accounts with #600 in them when she requested money to fill her cooking gas, while hiding my main bank account from her just to test her....
Two days later, she sent me a message that she is no longer interested in dix relationship anymore after 1 yr of dating oo...
After that day, I fear women d more, what if na only 600 I get nko, hmmmm
And she knew that I am a university lecturer wey never receive shishi for 7months o... Ma dat one vex me d more...
After I read her message, I just replied her " No wahala, I wish you d all d best, Goodluck!!!..
Fear women
I swear

Yeah I can relate, lot's of them are that way and reason why it's good to taste ur so called girlfriend's loyalty, e get why..

It's obvious she just used you to pass time, and I'm very sure you were a boring guy judging from the facts you begged her to stay with you, never beg for love bro ( don't do that shit) she ain't doing you a favour by dating you, you are the trophy and not the other way round...Guy you need to take some pills mehn, things like this will never happen to you anymore.

BTW...The first thing after every break up or rejection is detachment, you have to cut off/delete all chats, calls and tell her not to call your line because you need to clear your head...

Cutehector:
Come let me show you hundreds of classy girls Olosho on IG dying to marry. They will be so glad to meet you.

Cut off every communication with her..
That lady is suffering from Narcissistic personality disorder and the earlier you cut her off the better for you.

Kealmin:
Good evening nairalanders please I have known this girl for more than 5 years now and 2 years ago I opened up to her about my intention to marry her at first we didn't really took things serious but later that year we got serious with each other and started planning ohhh, but few months ago she told me both of us can no longer work out due to somethings beyond her control, I beg her to stay but she just couldn't heed to my plea, it wasn't easy at first but with the help of God and close friends I was able to move on, though she still check on me sometimes but I noticed that anytime I see her with the guy she is Currently dating I feel bad and pained and sometimes I just feel downcast and may not be able to work that day.

Note that she said I didn't do anything wrong to her because several times I asked her why she left she told me it's beyond her control

Please I don't like sinking into depression and I don't like see myself wallowing over a lady that decided to leave me on her terms, please how do I move on without having to feel bad whenever I see her with her current guy.

Thank you
Good evening

Mod I would appreciate if you can move this to FP.

I don't know if what I'm going through is normal after breakup or is just me that doesn't know what to do after breakup

Nothing is beyond her control dear, she only saw someone who more wealthy than yourself. She's keeping close tabs on u because u are her second option (I'm sorry to say this) when the other guy is done with her, she will come back to u..

It's better it happend now than later in your marriage.. Take heart and Just move on dear

Kealmin:
Honestly I have female friends that have clearly showed interest, some I have politely turned down to save them from heartbreaks. Just that I can't enter into a relationship with someone that I know for sure I won't marry that's even my problem now

your desperate state of mind is hindering you from moving on... forget marriage right now and instead just enjoy life and have fun.

she told me both of us can no longer work out due to somethings beyond her contro

Better offer came, ofc it's beyond her control.

I beg her to stay but she just couldn't heed to my plea

One you never did, it's to beg a bitch!

it wasn't easy at first but with the help of God and close friends I was able to move on

Na, you've not. Else you won't be crying on Nairaland nor asking "Please How Do I Move On Completely".
She got you on lock. You might've even washed her panties.

though she still check on me sometimes but I noticed that anytime I see her with the guy she is Currently dating I feel bad and pained and sometimes I just feel downcast and may not be able to work that day.

You deserve to 100x raised to power 10. There are 10 tens of million of marriage age girls in Nigeria, you just have to mess up your life with one ?

Note that she said I didn't do anything wrong to her because several times I asked her why she left she told me it's beyond her control

1. That's womanese, it's the equivalent of saying: you're a slowpoke, a bum, I want a man. Perhaps she finally got a man.
2. You whole write up till this point shows why she left, you did 9099 things wrong.

Please I don't like sinking into depression

People are struggling to eat in this country and you're "depressed" over a COMMON COMMODITY ? You absolutely deserve it.

and I don't like see myself wallowing over a lady that decided to leave me on her terms, please how do I move on without having to feel bad whenever I see her with her current guy.

Visit the hospital and grave yard, maybe you'll realize how much you've blessed.

Mod I would appreciate if you can move this to FP.

Move wetin ?

Thank you
Good evening

Thank for weting ? And what's good about the evening, you just spoilt mine.

Sheistoopretty:



Nothing is beyond her control dear, she only saw someone who more wealthy than yourself. She's keeping close tabs on u because u are her second option (I'm sorry to say this) when the other guy is done with her, she will come back to u..

It's better it happend now than later in your marriage.. Take heart and Just move on dear

The funny thing is that the ignorant man is too unaware to understand what happened then goes to beg haha - one thing women hate at that point.

She's keeping close tabs on u because u are her second option (I'm sorry to say this) when the other guy is done with her, she will come back to u..

... and she'll cook up some stories which the ignorant man will believe, take her back and cycle continues until all his 3 - 5 kids are not his 20 years later.

Strangely, my exes still wish for me to be in their lives, you're here crying over one ?
Who raised this weakling ?

Kealmin:
Good evening nairalanders please I have known this girl for more than 5 years now and 2 years ago I opened up to her about my intention to marry her at first we didn't really took things serious but later that year we got serious with each other and started planning ohhh, but few months ago she told me both of us can no longer work out due to somethings beyond her control, I beg her to stay but she just couldn't heed to my plea, it wasn't easy at first but with the help of God and close friends I was able to move on, though she still check on me sometimes but I noticed that anytime I see her with the guy she is Currently dating I feel bad and pained and sometimes I just feel downcast and may not be able to work that day.

Note that she said I didn't do anything wrong to her because several times I asked her why she left she told me it's beyond her control

Please I don't like sinking into depression and I don't like see myself wallowing over a lady that decided to leave me on her terms, please how do I move on without having to feel bad whenever I see her with her current guy.

Thank you
Good evening

Mod I would appreciate if you can move this to FP.

I don't know if what I'm going through is normal after breakup or is just me that doesn't know what to do after breakup

What you are passing through is expected of anyone that is in your shoes

A part of you left you and the vacuum is what you need to fill up

Is better you mourn the relationship and after that uou move on

Definitely you will come out of it and it will strengthen you and prepare you for another relationship
You have to take care of your emotions

But one thing I need to let you know now is that, She has found someone she feels, is better than you and you can't do anything about it

It also mean that she wasn't faithful and loyal to you in the first place

So because of that, you have a good reason to move on and get a replacement

One other thing, Start ignoring her chats if you can, she is keeping you on hold incase this other guy drops her, then she return to you

It is well ohhh

All the same I'm glad I didn't commit suicide ohhh Satan wanted me to commit suicide, what would I have told God? That I died because of a woman? Godforbid ooooo.....
I'm strong in the Lord and in the power of his might

Thank you ladies and gentlemen for all your kind advise I have learnt and l'm still learning.