I have been married for 7 years now and dated my wife for another 7 years prior.,we are blessed with 2 kids,a girl and a boy.

I am not keen on having anymore children and we are quite happy and comfortable.However, my wife's elder sister who is also happily married for about 20 years has only one child who is about 16 years now but she has been having it difficult having another one.

My wife told me she wants us to help her sister have another baby, that is make a new baby and give it to her, this initially sounded like a joke the first time she told me and I just laughed it off,but she has asked me this same thing several times over. I havent even given her room to discuss it with me but she somehow always finds a way to slip it into our convo oftentimes.

Though her sister who is quite comfortable never mentioned it to me but I am very sure they must have discussed it and her mum as codedly been pressuring me to have another child yapping on about how she wants more grandchildren because she has only 2 children- my wife and her sis.

How ridiculous does this sound or am i the one making too much of an issue out of this?

Things dey happen

What fuckery is this?
Her elder sister should go and adopt and leave your family out of it.

Looks to me there's so much to this story that your wife isn't letting you know about.

Namdeenero:
Things dey happen

Bros!! Who dey craze, me or them? ;

Na like this child trafficking dey start.

Bigleaf1006:

so long as say you go fuk the sister for as long as it takes to get her pregnant then no problems at all.

BUT IF THEM TELL YOU SAY NA THAT TYPE WEY THEM GO GIVE YOU BOTTLE MAKE YOU GO WA-NK INSIDE GIVE THEM, NEVER EVER EVER ACCEPT IT!

Bigleaf1006:
I have been married for 7 years now and dated my wife for another 7 years prior.,we are blessed with 2 kids,a girl and a boy.

I am not keen on having anymore children and we are quite happy and comfortable.However, my wife's elder sister who is also happily married for about 20 years has only one child who is about 16 years now but she has been having it difficult having another one.

My wife told me she wants us to help her sister have another baby, that is make a new baby and give it to her, this initially sounded like a joke the first time she told me and I just laughed it off,but she has asked me this same thing several times over. I havent even given her room to discuss it with me but she somehow always finds a way to slip it into our convo oftentimes.

Though her sister who is quite comfortable never mentioned it to me but I am very sure they must have discussed it and her mum as codedly been pressuring me to have another child yapping on about how she wants more grandchildren because she has only 2 children- my wife and her sis.

How ridiculous does this sound or am i the one making too much of an issue out of this?

This issue was brought up to you because they all know you are a weak man . Fear no go allow any wife or woman raise such issues to a strong man. So they can't go and adopt or look for solutions outside? You must be the one to give her a child. So many weak men in this generation.

obiekunie01:


so long as say you go fuk the sister for as long as it takes to get her pregnant then no problems at all.

BUT IF THEM TELL YOU SAY NA THAT TYPE WEY THEM GO GIVE YOU BOTTLE MAKE YOU GO WA-NK INSIDE GIVE THEM, NEVER EVER EVER ACCEPT IT!

What kinda stewpid Advice is this?

Did OP tell you he's sex starved or ready to be a Sperm donor

Unzerious:


What kinda stewpid Advice is this?

Did OP tell you he's sex starved or ready to be a Sperm donor

oga he seek for opinion and i gave him my own!

you give your won and waka pass! leave other peoples opinion alone!

Op tell them to go look for solution elsewhere if they persist change it for them.


From what i can see it is like it has sth to do with family tradition i am not sure o

This is what happens when u relate to ur family in laws too much

HarlequinLekex:
This is what happens when u relate to ur family in laws too much

Thank you. Na all dis men wey Sabi do eye service where their in-laws dey.Forming better man.Make him go give him wife sister pickin.

This is ridiculous. How you didn't see this as a high form of disrespect both from your wife and her family is what amazes me.

Another day, another fake story on Nairaland.

This makes no sense. Unreasonable and highly unusual request on so many levels. Just say no!

Justbehave:
This issue was brought up to you because they all know you are a weak man . Fear no go allow any wife or woman raise such issues to a strong man. So they can't go and adopt or look for solutions outside? You must be the one to give her a child. So many weak men in this generation.

Sometimes, i feel ashame of sharing dis generation with some idiots, we hv so many weak idiots parading themselves as man, imagine d effontry.

emmanuelbrown26:

Sometimes, i feel ashame of sharing dis generation with some idiots, we hv so many weak idiots parading themselves as man, imagine d effontry.

The guy na akamu. Na him be the wife and the wife na the husband.Imagine a woman no get fear come to tell me such rubbish. I never see that woman even my mother sef, fear no go allow her talk such thing near me.

Justbehave:
The guy na akamu. Na him be the wife and the wife na the husband.Imagine a woman no get fear come to tell me such rubbish. I never see that woman even my mother sef, fear no go allow her talk such thing near me.

Otochaaa a, d guy na confirm aakwa mkpuru amu

emmanuelbrown26:

Otochaaa a, d guy na confirm aakwa mkpuru amu

Kikiki. Make him kukuma go do Wetin dem ask am before dem go throwway him things outside.

madness upon madness.... so technically they want you to have a child and give it up for adoption to her sista.

Bigleaf1006:
I have been married for 7 years now and dated my wife for another 7 years prior.,we are blessed with 2 kids,a girl and a boy.

I am not keen on having anymore children and we are quite happy and comfortable.However, my wife's elder sister who is also happily married for about 20 years has only one child who is about 16 years now but she has been having it difficult having another one.

My wife told me she wants us to help her sister have another baby, that is make a new baby and give it to her, this initially sounded like a joke the first time she told me and I just laughed it off,but she has asked me this same thing several times over. I havent even given her room to discuss it with me but she somehow always finds a way to slip it into our convo oftentimes.

Though her sister who is quite comfortable never mentioned it to me but I am very sure they must have discussed it and her mum as codedly been pressuring me to have another child yapping on about how she wants more grandchildren because she has only 2 children- my wife and her sis.

How ridiculous does this sound or am i the one making too much of an issue out of this?

so you mother in-law had only 2 kids, but wants you guys to have more?
Wow
Some women don't see anything wrong with some of the things they suggest until the table is turned.
I cant say anything. I nver marry

Justbehave:
The guy na akamu. Na him be the wife and the wife na the husband.Imagine a woman no get fear come to tell me such rubbish. I never see that woman even my mother sef, fear no go allow her talk such thing near me.

u d call am akamu, but think first; have you imagined you couldn't have kids and surrogacy is ur option?

DaInferno:
u d call am akamu, but think first; have you imagined you couldn't have kids and surrogacy is ur option?

And he is the only person that can give them a child? Why didn't they go look for someone else and pay? See finish na him be this abeg.

obiekunie01:


oga he seek for opinion and i gave him my own!

you give your won and waka pass! leave other peoples opinion alone!

the opinion wack sha...be like wetin small pikin go talk

DaInferno:
the opinion wack sha...be like wetin small pikin go talk

It wasn't wack because you guys fail to notice the sarcasm in his comments. Since his wife,their mother and sister are so stupid to say such they should allow the op to Bleep the sister-in-law and get her pregnant nah.

DaInferno:
the opinion wack sha...be like wetin small pikin go talk

hia!!

who are you to decide wack opinion??

Justbehave:
It wasn't wack because you guys fail to notice the sarcasm in his comments. Since his wife,their mother and sister are so stupid to say such they should allow the op to Bleep the sister-in-law and get her pregnant nah.

men! am so happy people with oil in their heads still full naija!

obiekunie01:


men! am so happy people with oil in their heads still full naija!

Welcome nwanne mmadu. Don't mind all this weak men that are willing to support any rubbish from a woman just because of pussy

This is ridiculous. Having a kid and giving it to your sister isn't surrogacy. You're giving your kid out.

If you're interested in helping your in-law with a kid, you could make her pay for artificial insemination (I think it's called IVF) with your wife carrying the baby. But this one where you impregnate your wife and give the kid to her sister isn't part of it and would cause many problems down the line.

I would say no. They want a baby they can adopt

Shoodboi:
This is ridiculous. Having a kid and giving it to your sister isn't surrogacy. You're giving your kid out.

If you're interested in helping your in-law with a kid, you could make her pay for artificial insemination (I think it's called IVF) with your wife carrying the baby. But this one where you impregnate your wife and give the kid to her sister isn't part of it and would cause many problems down the line.

Thanks for your apt comment, I am not even interested in neither of the options. Its the seeming absurdity in my wifes thinking that I just find it difficult to believe

Justbehave:
This issue was brought up to you because they all know you are a weak man . Fear no go allow any wife or woman raise such issues to a strong man. So they can't go and adopt or look for solutions outside? You must be the one to give her a child. So many weak men in this generation.

Mr macho!! I have not in anyway opined I am interested in any options as regards my wife's request, my mother inlaw herself won't have the guts to say it to me directly though we are very close and she is very fun of me, don't know why, maybe cos she doesn't have a son and I am very relatable.
Let's leave it at being just a warped thought in my wife's head. But I not go lie the thought of her mentioning it gives me cringes