yeyeosoronga:


That's unfair
You can't ask OP and husband to terminate their pregnancy when it happens so as not to be "insensitive".
They're not God who gives children.
While I understand how painful it must be seeing OP get pregnant year after year, you cannot blame OP for that. She's not complaining that they're unable to look after their battalion children btw

Lamanii22:
The best thing you can do is leave the house... If your husband refuses, you just leave with the children and go to your family house.. Or your mom's place...

Chiomamoses:
Good morning everybody I haven’t been able to come online for a long time cos a lot it’s happening right now, my husband people are forcing me to give my baby to my co wife cos they have said we have many children and we should help and give them one , my husband agreed but I have refused to give my baby away to her I told them my sister in law also has 7 children and why can’t she give them one of her children and why just me , everybody in the family are against me and they are not talking to me. She is now treating me badly reminding me that it’s her house and I should leave . I keep calm and watching everything like a fool but I am not a fool , I decided After this quarantine I will pack my things and kids and leave for my sister place until I get my own place and hubby can join us if he likes

LordsBattleAxe:
with 5 children? Nlanders never cease to amaze me

Chiomamoses:

Thank you my dear you are right if we were in our own house all this wouldn’t have happened and my husband just don’t understand we need our own space and privacy

My sister I understand how you feel attached to your baby, I am a mother to a toddler myself. But after much thought. This is my take .Your SIL getting attached to your new born is not a bad thing, she is family and you live in the same compound. Another woman breastfeeding your child occasionally is not a bad thing ( if that is what you're afraid) as far as she is clean and has no disease. Holding your child often migth help that woman heal, and if you are not comfortable you could spend time in her house with the baby even on some night. Consider her as your own sister it will help her heal

PrincessEstates:
@ Chiomamoses, please I’m very interested in this your issue. What finally happened? Have you and your husband finally moved out from there? I hope you didn’t cave in to the pressure of giving them your baby.

Please update us. Nairaland(ers) can actually help your situation, if they’re still on your case.

PrincessEstates:
@ Chiomamoses, please I’m very interested in this your issue. What finally happened? Have you and your husband finally moved out from there? I hope you didn’t cave in to the pressure of giving them your baby.

Please update us. Nairaland(ers) can actually help your situation, if they’re still on your case.

overdrive:


I remembered her this morning but couldn't find her moniker again thanks for bringing this upto date I really wish to know how everything went down.

Chiomamoses:



Good evening dear , thanks for ur concern we have moved out and relocate to a new place far away from them. We are doing well my husband got a new job and I started my own business. I didn't give them any of my children all five children are with us. Thanks again and God bless you.

Chiomamoses:



Good evening dear , thanks for ur concern we have moved out and relocate to a new place far away from them. We are doing well my husband got a new job and I started my own business didn't give them any of my children all five children are with us. Thanks again and God bless you.

Chiomamoses:



Good evening dear , thanks for ur concern we have moved out and relocate to a new place far away from them. We are doing well my husband got a new job and I started my own business. I didn't give them any of my children all five children are with us. Thanks again and God bless you.

sisisioge:


This was how you guys guessed the intentions of the other woman and encouraged her to make an issue out of nothing! Well, here we are. Which sane person will ask a complete transfer of a child between two women living in the same compound? Do you even think the other woman would want to take her fellow wife's child as her own knowing fully well that they live in the same compound and the whole world, plus the siblings of the child will tell the baby who her true mama is? How long do you think it takes babies to really know their mothers and refuse to be picked up by someone other than their mothers? For all we know, that woman was just spending time with the baby while she completely heals.

By the way, your fixation with the word "sharing" is starting to sound like a broken record.

Well, I guess you guys will assist with sound advice again. Cheers.

Chiomamoses:
I have 5 children for my husband d last one is 7months my husband brother wife was pregnant wit her first child after waiting for almost 10 years we were all happy for them and couldn’t wait for him to be with us unfortunately on December 27 she delivered tru CS and lost d baby that same day is so painful for us as family we stay in the same compound the house belonged to my husband brother , I take care of her she start getting too attached to my baby she want to be with her all the time she will take her away from me and stay with in her house all day until I go for her for breastfeeding then last time she ask me if she can spend the night with my baby but I refuse making excuses for her not to be offended. For the past 1 week I have been avoiding her and keeping my baby inside d house making excuses she is sleeping or she is not feeling well and she ask my elder daughter to come take the baby and I refuse and she came asking me if she offended me I said no and lied my baby was not feeling well but she was offended and told her husband cos she has no child and I have stopped my children coming to her house my brother in law got angry and told my husband to warn me my husband cautioned me which I went to her and apologise even taught what she said is not true cos I do let my other 4 children to go to her house and I only stopped my baby going there because she is getting too attached to her and I know she is feeling so much pain for d loss of her baby but me too I need my baby I don’t like sharing her with anyone. For 3 days now she ceased talking to me and stop responding my greeting. Please am I wrong ?

Cornerstone2018:
It might just be a test o, life is so unpredictable, yeah... she needs you today, you might need her tomorrow. Let the grown up kids visit her pending the time God gives her own child.

clockwisereport:
Good morning @chiomamoses. I have been looking for your thread. How are you and your baby? Hope you did not give out your baby?