tensazangetsu20:


But the girl is an orphan.

Op is in a terrible situation. I wonder why he would be foolish enough to impregnate a woman from such a background. Men just complicate their lives anyhow.

chinchum:
She is ill charactered with a sense of entitlement. That you offered that 2 of her siblings stay with you is a privilège. I dont know what you promised her in the past but be careful with such entitled individual. Entitled individuals are almost incapable of gratitude. Show me an ingratitude individual, i will tell you that is a self centered individual.

You have to be self centred now and prioritise your peace. Keep sending the money and if she likes she may keep sending it back. Keep the bank statements for trail purposes.

Tob456:
Hey guys, my ex girlfriend is 7 months pregnant. She doesn't want to have anything to do with me cos I didn't want to carry the responsibility of her four sisters.

She is 24 orphen and the oldest of seven children. She is a fruit seller and the pregnancy wasn't plan she took in 6 months into the relationship but I have accepted the responsibility and I wanted to make her my wife.

First of all I wanted us to discussed about her sisters living arrangements after the wedding and she said she wanted to bring all four who are under 18 to live with us after the wedding and I rejected.

I suggested that the youngest two can live with us while the other two can stay with the aunty but she refused.

She said the relationship was over and she doesn't need me in her life that she will take care of the baby alone.

I've told her even if she doesn't want me in her life anymore she should not stop me from helping her financially because I want our baby to be born in good condition but she refused.

Last week I sent 30k to her account for baby stuffs and she sent the money back to me saying she doesn't need a kobo from me she will take care of the baby alone.

I want to leave her alone but it is hard for me to do so cos she is carrying my child. It will not be easy for me to give up easily I just want to be a part of my daughter life. What do you guys think please?

Tob456:
Hey guys, my ex girlfriend is 7 months pregnant. She doesn't want to have anything to do with me cos I didn't want to carry the responsibility of her four sisters.

She is 24 orphen and the oldest of seven children. She is a fruit seller and the pregnancy wasn't plan she took in 6 months into the relationship but I have accepted the responsibility and I wanted to make her my wife.

First of all I wanted us to discussed about her sisters living arrangements after the wedding and she said she wanted to bring all four who are under 18 to live with us after the wedding and I rejected.

I suggested that the youngest two can live with us while the other two can stay with the aunty but she refused.

She said the relationship was over and she doesn't need me in her life that she will take care of the baby alone.

I've told her even if she doesn't want me in her life anymore she should not stop me from helping her financially because I want our baby to be born in good condition but she refused.

Last week I sent 30k to her account for baby stuffs and she sent the money back to me saying she doesn't need a kobo from me she will take care of the baby alone.

I want to leave her alone but it is hard for me to do so cos she is carrying my child. It will not be easy for me to give up easily I just want to be a part of my daughter life. What do you guys think please?

Tob456:
Hey guys, my ex girlfriend is 7 months pregnant. She doesn't want to have anything to do with me cos I didn't want to carry the responsibility of her four sisters.

She is 24 orphen and the oldest of seven children. She is a fruit seller and the pregnancy wasn't plan she took in 6 months into the relationship but I have accepted the responsibility and I wanted to make her my wife. It's a red flag and u will regret your life if u marry her. Just try it and see. Marry ur own better half and have other kids, ur daughter will one day look for u period!

First of all I wanted us to discussed about her sisters living arrangements after the wedding and she said she wanted to bring all four who are under 18 to live with us after the wedding and I rejected.

I suggested that the youngest two can live with us while the other two can stay with the aunty but she refused.

She said the relationship was over and she doesn't need me in her life that she will take care of the baby alone.

I've told her even if she doesn't want me in her life anymore she should not stop me from helping her financially because I want our baby to be born in good condition but she refused.

Last week I sent 30k to her account for baby stuffs and she sent the money back to me saying she doesn't need a kobo from me she will take care of the baby alone.

I want to leave her alone but it is hard for me to do so cos she is carrying my child. It will not be easy for me to give up easily I just want to be a part of my daughter life. What do you guys think please?

wunmi590:


This is a difficult situation to dissect.

1. Reach to that her sister, and discuss issues with her based on the plan you have for her...

2. Try as much as possible to reach your pregnant girl also and ask if she will foot the bill of the girls she's bringing, if her answer is affirmative, then you have nothing to fear...

James289:
Do you have proof it is your child?

ZIMDRILL:


Being an orphan doesnt mean all extended families are also dead unless they never knew other relatives

[b]Its a common thing for girls to deliberately fall pregnant and be married to escape poverty[\b]

Tob456:
Hey guys, my ex girlfriend is 7 months pregnant. She doesn't want to have anything to do with me cos I didn't want to carry the responsibility of her four sisters.

She is 24 orphen and the oldest of seven children. She is a fruit seller and the pregnancy wasn't plan she took in 6 months into the relationship but I have accepted the responsibility and I wanted to make her my wife.

First of all I wanted us to discussed about her sisters living arrangements after the wedding and she said she wanted to bring all four who are under 18 to live with us after the wedding and I rejected.

I suggested that the youngest two can live with us while the other two can stay with the aunty but she refused.

She said the relationship was over and she doesn't need me in her life that she will take care of the baby alone.

I've told her even if she doesn't want me in her life anymore she should not stop me from helping her financially because I want our baby to be born in good condition but she refused.

Last week I sent 30k to her account for baby stuffs and she sent the money back to me saying she doesn't need a kobo from me she will take care of the baby alone.

I want to leave her alone but it is hard for me to do so cos she is carrying my child. It will not be easy for me to give up easily I just want to be a part of my daughter life. What do you guys think please?

Richy4:
I will suggest that you take care of the child's full responsibility when it arrives...

<<She is right by not planning to abandon her siblings because of marriage...I believe it won't be easy because she is now their mother as well as their father...giving up her siblings as you suggested to different relatives because she wants to marry you doesn't sound right in my opinion...she will not be happy in that union knowing that her siblings were not OK..

<<You are equally right by not agreeing to let her siblings come to stay with you... You know your pocket very well and you know how much that will weigh you down financially...Especially if u want to build a house in future, out of compulsion, u might be forced to train her siblings which you did not bargain for... Cost of living are skyrocketing daily around the world and earnings are almost just the same no changes...Except if u are Elon Musk, u might not have the savings to achieve your long term goals in future...

<<She needs someone who will have her siblings as well as her.. and u are not that guy... she is giving you a lifeline now and you couldn't see it or read the handwriting...If u eventually get married to her, u might be frustrated that she and her family are drinking your money that u have nothing to show after working for years...That might result to domestic violence...What you have in common with her now should be the child that is on the way....

NemoDatQuod:
We Nigerians are overly emotional and unreasoning when it comes to toddlers and children.

I'm, sure you like yourself and you want peace. If so, stay away from that young woman. If in the future, she asks for your help, render it. Else, stay away.

How do you know that the child she is carrying in her womb is yours? How do you know she did not simply tell another guy that the baby is his and that the other guy is now taking care of all her needs for herself and her baby, and that you are now making yourself an inconvenience by insisting on being in the picture?

What do you think she may be ready to do to remove you from the picture, so you don't spoil what she has with the other guy? That is how many of you set yourself up to be killed because of your lack of thought and your innate foolishness.

I will say it again: stay away. In fact, flee from that young woman and going forward, handle her with a vey long spoon if she corresponds with you.

I also hope your foolishness will reset your mind for your next relationship. If you are going to get married, do not let any relative (yours or hers) to come live with you. That is, if you want your marriage to succeed.

Also ask yourself why you want to get married. Then write down what you are bringing to the table and what your other half is bringing to the table. No man or woman should go and carry a liability with your eyes open, no matter what. That thing from your partner that is sweeting you today, will become of no consequence in a short time and you will live with the consequences of your decision for a very long time.

There is no law that says every man or woman must be married. Concentrate on making yourself a better person and meeting your objectives in life, whatever they are and however small or large they may be. There are several avenues of satisfying one's urges in our generation. Marry only because there is no other avenue of getting what you desire. If there is an avenue of getting what you desire, apart from marriage, use that avenue.

It is time to start thinking and not just do things because every fool around you is doing them the same way.

NemoDatQuod:
We Nigerians are overly emotional and unreasoning when it comes to toddlers and children.

I'm, sure you like yourself and you want peace. If so, stay away from that young woman. If in the future, she asks for your help, render it. Else, stay away.

How do you know that the child she is carrying in her womb is yours? How do you know she did not simply tell another guy that the baby is his and that the other guy is now taking care of all her needs for herself and her baby, and that you are now making yourself an inconvenience by insisting on being in the picture?

What do you think she may be ready to do to remove you from the picture, so you don't spoil what she has with the other guy? That is how many of you set yourself up to be killed because of your lack of thought and your innate foolishness.

I will say it again: stay away. In fact, flee from that young woman and going forward, handle her with a vey long spoon if she corresponds with you.

I also hope your foolishness will reset your mind for your next relationship. If you are going to get married, do not let any relative (yours or hers) to come live with you. That is, if you want your marriage to succeed.

Also ask yourself why you want to get married. Then write down what you are bringing to the table and what your other half is bringing to the table. No man or woman should go and carry a liability with your eyes open, no matter what. That thing from your partner that is sweeting you today, will become of no consequence in a short time and you will live with the consequences of your decision for a very long time.

There is no law that says every man or woman must be married. Concentrate on making yourself a better person and meeting your objectives in life, whatever they are and however small or large they may be. There are several avenues of satisfying one's urges in our generation. Marry only because there is no other avenue of getting what you desire. If there is an avenue of getting what you desire, apart from marriage, use that avenue.

It is time to start thinking and not just do things because every fool around you is doing them the same way.

NemoDatQuod:
We Nigerians are overly emotional and unreasoning when it comes to toddlers and children.

I'm, sure you like yourself and you want peace. If so, stay away from that young woman. If in the future, she asks for your help, render it. Else, stay away.

How do you know that the child she is carrying in her womb is yours? How do you know she did not simply tell another guy that the baby is his and that the other guy is now taking care of all her needs for herself and her baby, and that you are now making yourself an inconvenience by insisting on being in the picture?

What do you think she may be ready to do to remove you from the picture, so you don't spoil what she has with the other guy? That is how many of you set yourself up to be killed because of your lack of thought and your innate foolishness.

I will say it again: stay away. In fact, flee from that young woman and going forward, handle her with a vey long spoon if she corresponds with you.

I also hope your foolishness will reset your mind for your next relationship. If you are going to get married, do not let any relative (yours or hers) to come live with you. That is, if you want your marriage to succeed.

Also ask yourself why you want to get married. Then write down what you are bringing to the table and what your other half is bringing to the table. No man or woman should go and carry a liability with your eyes open, no matter what. That thing from your partner that is sweeting you today, will become of no consequence in a short time and you will live with the consequences of your decision for a very long time.

There is no law that says every man or woman must be married. Concentrate on making yourself a better person and meeting your objectives in life, whatever they are and however small or large they may be. There are several avenues of satisfying one's urges in our generation. Marry only because there is no other avenue of getting what you desire. If there is an avenue of getting what you desire, apart from marriage, use that avenue.

It is time to start thinking and not just do things because every fool around you is doing them the same way.

backnbeta:
Save up the money- she'll need it (if she doesn't have another man whom she has "given" the baby to). I don't believe she's refusing your help just because she wants you to take in her sisters! For all you care; the baby may not be yours and the father is already taking care of her

Tob456:
Hey guys, my ex girlfriend is 7 months pregnant. She doesn't want to have anything to do with me cos I didn't want to carry the responsibility of her four sisters.

She is 24 orphen and the oldest of seven children. She is a fruit seller and the pregnancy wasn't plan she took in 6 months into the relationship but I have accepted the responsibility and I wanted to make her my wife.

First of all I wanted us to discussed about her sisters living arrangements after the wedding and she said she wanted to bring all four who are under 18 to live with us after the wedding and I rejected.

I suggested that the youngest two can live with us while the other two can stay with the aunty but she refused.

She said the relationship was over and she doesn't need me in her life that she will take care of the baby alone.

I've told her even if she doesn't want me in her life anymore she should not stop me from helping her financially because I want our baby to be born in good condition but she refused.

Last week I sent 30k to her account for baby stuffs and she sent the money back to me saying she doesn't need a kobo from me she will take care of the baby alone.

I want to leave her alone but it is hard for me to do so cos she is carrying my child. It will not be easy for me to give up easily I just want to be a part of my daughter life. What do you guys think please?

francisbarrack:


C comment. Pls leave sentiment n give reasonable advice. Imagine if op happened to b ur brother will u make this up.

entrep88:

I really like what she has done to you, there is high possibility you have made her feel she was a leech and probably said more than what you have written it's not nice, she is an orphan am sure you know all these when you were enjoying her honeypot. To be fair, I would prefer to hear from her before any advice because for denying your responsibility initially put question mark on your integrity.

Oloniyan:



Did you read the whole thing at all?

I don't think so

Saintmary:
She said she doesn't need your money because you have been rubbing her poverty in her face.




She's better off without you.

Tob456:
Hey guys, my ex girlfriend is 7 months pregnant. She doesn't want to have anything to do with me cos I didn't want to carry the responsibility of her four sisters.

She is 24 orphen and the oldest of seven children. She is a fruit seller and the pregnancy wasn't plan she took in 6 months into the relationship but I have accepted the responsibility and I wanted to make her my wife.

First of all I wanted us to discussed about her sisters living arrangements after the wedding and she said she wanted to bring all four who are under 18 to live with us after the wedding and I rejected.

I suggested that the youngest two can live with us while the other two can stay with the aunty but she refused.

She said the relationship was over and she doesn't need me in her life that she will take care of the baby alone.

I've told her even if she doesn't want me in her life anymore she should not stop me from helping her financially because I want our baby to be born in good condition but she refused.

Last week I sent 30k to her account for baby stuffs and she sent the money back to me saying she doesn't need a kobo from me she will take care of the baby alone.

I want to leave her alone but it is hard for me to do so cos she is carrying my child. It will not be easy for me to give up easily I just want to be a part of my daughter life. What do you guys think please?

Tob456:
Hey guys, my ex girlfriend is 7 months pregnant. She doesn't want to have anything to do with me cos I didn't want to carry the responsibility of her four sisters.

She is 24 orphen and the oldest of seven children. She is a fruit seller and the pregnancy wasn't plan she took in 6 months into the relationship but I have accepted the responsibility and I wanted to make her my wife.

First of all I wanted us to discussed about her sisters living arrangements after the wedding and she said she wanted to bring all four who are under 18 to live with us after the wedding and I rejected.

I suggested that the youngest two can live with us while the other two can stay with the aunty but she refused.

She said the relationship was over and she doesn't need me in her life that she will take care of the baby alone.

I've told her even if she doesn't want me in her life anymore she should not stop me from helping her financially because I want our baby to be born in good condition but she refused.

Last week I sent 30k to her account for baby stuffs and she sent the money back to me saying she doesn't need a kobo from me she will take care of the baby alone.

I want to leave her alone but it is hard for me to do so cos she is carrying my child. It will not be easy for me to give up easily I just want to be a part of my daughter life. What do you guys think please?