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Arrange to meet with her and he husband, settle things for them(hope she isn’t abused). If she refuses just because she want to bed and lazy, then tell her it won’t work..

Musty112:
Someone who is doing nothing is complaining about teaching job being stressful . Even if you have i am not in support that you give her alm the time. That will amount to you enabling her not to do anything and from her not to reconcile with the husband since someone is footing her bills without her having a need to lift a finger. Make efforts, it encourages people to help other than just sitting around. Those working are not your slaves

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

Only her knows her plans

Both you and your brother, start saving some money

As soon as she packs her children inside the house , you guys will quickly get accommodation and pack out

Remember to carry your dad along

Let her live there and enjoy her single life since that's what she wants

gluttony is actually a sin. Lol

on the solution,

1st thing is to get to the facts as to why she left her home and kids and if she is wrong make her know she is the one at fault and she should bring her shoulders down, accept correction and go back to her husbands house.

2. Also let her know u can't keep feeding her after a certain time unless she gets a job or contributes to the house running like others since she left her home because of her pride(assuming she is at fault)

3, whether she agrees or not cut her off for some days and see if she comes back to her senses. Also call ur elder ones to address her nuisance or issues as the case may be.

A woman with 5 kids won’t just run out to start eating like a glutton. 5!! Not 1, not 2. 5 whole kids.

Your sister and her husband are yet to say what happened. Or your sister is stressed and it is affecting her mentally.

Sad
But I guess if you had the opportunity to meet a prudent woman ,you would have rejected her so carry your cross Oga.

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Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

see wetin poverty d do you

And leave her sick father for who

DaniWhizbang:
This is clear case of ego at play here and it seems to me that whatever happened between her and the husband can be easily fixed by communication but she choose vawulence.

There isn't much you can do as you can't simply chase her out of her father's house. If you can, find her a job and minimize what you spend on food. Your next plan should be how to leave that house asap

Samir2467u:
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How do you guys fix the game?

shege45:
How do people even give birth to 5 kids in recent times. It’s annoying

Because she is jobless

Biiznesman:
glutton.

Can your father still express himself... If he is still able to talk, he is in the right position to ask your sister to go back to her husband's house...if only you are sure your sister's husband is not given to domestic violence.

Be on your Sister to go find work... A woman who is lazy would always be wasteful and unappreciative.

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

God will bless you for taking care of it father. Your children will do even more for you.
About your sister. Short her ration gradually
Sometimes go don't eat at home. If that is expensive then skip meals. Since she is a glutton hunger will deal with her more than you guys. If you apply this method three times she will start thinking of way out for herself .

Poverty meaning what, a married woman that don't want to help herself do u expect her siblings to be serving her when her legs and hands are okay.

DevilSignature:
see wetin poverty d do you

Some women dey oh,make eba with derica of gari

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

u made the ground very soft for her.make her understand that if she leaves her husband there won't be a space for her.

Jennylove21:


She's really a Borden
She's married,she has a family,she shouldn't rely on her younger ones

You are a writer for hire?

ahnie:
Lolz@she eats like a glutton.




A wise woman once told me.....Eden mind your business.
Funny story Sha.

Birthing 5 kids is as crazy as fuvk....with no source of income mehn e go hard.

You mean hatching children?

Biiznesman:
Hi I come from a family of 4 the last. I and my single brother stay with my aged father. 4 months ago my married sister left her home and came home promising to stay a few days that she has an argument with her husband.

She had been having issues with her husband. But upon hearing her husbands side of the story it was different from what she told us, he claimed she threatened to walk out of him and her 5 children and she won't suffer. She claimed she works as a middleman sales person.

Fast forward to today, she doesn't do anything, just sit around and eat food we prepared. My income is barely enough to keep up with me, as a teacher so is my elder brother, we both contribute money to take care of our aged father. But taking care of an additional mouth seem to be expensive as she eats like a glutton.

My Senior ones who don't stay with us has stopped sending her money, and she is planning to fight for custody of her 5 children and bring them home for us to feed them. I plan to save up and move to a new apartment, but of late, I find out that I have not been saving since she came.

We have explained all to her and talked to her but she seemed not to understand. What should I do? I need advice from the house.

Not matter what, home is where we run to and we are accepted under no condition. You push her away, she becomes shit with her husband

In my opinion, she is family. You guys are her last bus stop. What if something happens to her in her husband's house? Surely there may be things she cannot reveal to you that makes her uncomfortable there for personal or embarrassing reasons. No woman will leave 5 kids without genuine reasons.
As per you. Do as you wish to move out if you have made up your mind, contribute to the home upkeep as you can. Encourage her to find something doing also.
The bright side of this is that when you guys move out, you will have your sister available to take care of your father while you face your hustle, also have grandchildren around him to keep him company and lively.

Cheasystickylov:
Not matter what, home is where we run to and we are accepted under no condition. You push her away, she becomes shit with her husband

Well said.

Octopusssy:

You are a writer for hire?

Yes I am

The way some people bring family matters/fiction here makes one wonder what they want readers to do—insult the person they are reporting?

Cheasystickylov:
Not matter what, home is where we run to and we are accepted under no condition. You push her away, she becomes shit with her husband

Assuming the story is true, because the only response one can tell he expects is his response: angry kickbacks and insults for the sister. Hence his choice of words "glutton(y)", marked off in bold, seals it.

pocohantas:
A woman with 5 kids won’t just run out to start eating like a glutton. 5!! Not 1, not 2. 5 whole kids.

Your sister and her husband are yet to say what happened. Or your sister is stressed and it is affecting her mentally.

He's a man, so don't expect him to dig deep into his brother-in-law's claims.

Starve the ugly imp

Jennylove21:


She's really a Borden
She's married,she has a family,she shouldn't rely on her younger ones

Simple , she can't rely on me if i were you

Jennylove21:


She's really a Borden
She's married,she has a family,she shouldn't rely on her younger ones

Simple , she can't rely on me if i were you op

So can you paint a picture of how she eats?

Can she eat a whole turkey or half?

One olodo of rice or DeRica

Like how many yams in one one sitting

shege45:
How do people even give birth to 5 kids in recent times. It’s annoying

They may be catholics that I hear don't believe in contraception.
Besides, with the economic situation of the country, the stress, both phisical and financial, most poor folks, the only consolation they have is to go home and "nack". They cannot afford olosho, girlfriends, nightlife etc. The normal luxuries we take for granted. Eg, when you are bored, enter your car and take a drive. Them no fit.
Abi why you think the poorer folks mave more kids?