My wife says– No family planning, No sex.
for the past four months, my wife has been mounting series of pressures on me concerning family planning and I kept on ignoring her, but these past weeks, she has shown me what shege really looks like.

Up to three weeks, my wife has denied me access to her sacred part, insisting on her "No family planning, No sex" rule, anytime a tried to make love to her.

I've Three(3) beautiful Angels with her and my last child clocked 4 Years old. She said, she's not ready for another child despite our last child who's our only daughter being 4yrs old and my second son is 6, while my eldest child is 10years( that's 4 years gap). she said she's done with giving birth.

I got the shock of my life this night, that she asked me to go and get c*ndoms, if I want to have my way to her sacred part or otherwise we visit the doctor for counseling or do the family planning, reason why I picked up my phone to write this. I'm fed up because I don't subscribe to this idea of family planning or anything related to it, due to it's several after effects.

But it seems like she's winning, but either ways, I would sincerely like to see some opinions from here before going to see the doctor whether to give in to her request or not.

Please assist me for wider audience.

Oya send her back to her papa house.
na joke i dey oh

Now on a serious note.
go for planning. or retire from football. Your wife obviously doesn't need another baby.

it is VERY IMPORTANT to note that she is not denying you access to her SACRED PART. She says you can chop as you like but she has to be sure that she can do it to the fullest without getting preggy. She even offered to do it with a condom, which 99% of married women will kill you if you ever bring a condom near them. This means she also wants to bang but you dey dull her. The implication of this is that you are also starving your wife of sex but you are here thinking about only yourself.
You have male and female but you still want to send her on another 9 months I.T in this beautiful economy. Abi Buhari dey pay you per child?

Oga things are hard in Nigeria now.. financially can u comfortably welcome another child now? Secondly there are many family planning methods now like implants... It allows u to go raw on your woman. Google about different types of family planning... Decide with your wife and health care providers for the one best fit for u guys. Try and be understanding... Women go through alot during child birth. Everything no be by power and Authority , be human and let love lead,. All the best.

Haba you self check am na. With this harsh buhari economy you still wan drop another seed given the high cost of everything even preg care. Abeg use gold circle which is still the best for couples avoiding pregnancy.
Agree with you on your fears with family planning, but if your tradition is not against it allow her to go get it done so that you can cum add you like. Which is actually a win win for both you and her and the 3 angels.

DamnnNiggarr:
My wife says– No family planning, No sex.
for the past four months, my wife has been mounting series of pressures on me concerning family planning and I kept on ignoring her, but these past weeks, she has shown me what shege really looks like.

Up to three weeks, my wife has denied me access to her sacred part, insisting on her "No family planning, No sex" rule, anytime a tried to make love to her.

I've Three(3) beautiful Angels with her and my last child clocked 4 Years old. She said, she's not ready for another child despite our last child who's our only daughter being 4yrs old and my second son is 6, while my eldest child is 10years( that's 4 years gap). she said she's done with giving birth.

I got the shock of my life this night, that she asked me to go and get c*ndoms, if I want to have my way to her sacred part or otherwise we visit the doctor for counseling or do the family planning, reason why I picked up my phone to write this. I'm fed up because I don't subscribe to this idea of family planning or anything related to it, due to it's several after effects.

But it seems like she's winning, but either ways, I would sincerely like to see some opinions from here before going to see the doctor whether to give in to her request or not.

RoyalRoy
lalasticlala
Mynd44
seun
nlfpmod
Please assist me for wider audience.

you issue is very simple to me and most africans it seems like wife is crazy due to macho world of african attitudes toward family planning methods for women and their side effects in our beloved women

1st go with your wife to her family planning clinic and get the knowledge on effects of most contraceptives

2 let your wife explain the effects she is getting from any current or previous contraceptive she used

3 Understand all contraceptives and ask if wife had used all or ask her to try the ones she has not used. African women have this idea of sharing bad information, if one woman tried eg the loop method and did go down with her, the whole village would be told that the loop is not good whereas it can be an individual exprience

For example on men, some men or even women react to lytex made condoms, but it doesnt mean every men is like that

DamnnNiggarr:

But it seems like she's winning, but either ways, I would sincerely like to see some opinions from here before going to see the doctor whether to give in to her request or not.

I really don't understand the reason for this here thread.

You mean you don't even get the reason why family planning is the best thing to do in your case?

If you are done having kids, get your tubes tied. Vasectomy.

What is the effect of family planning? I guess you should go with her for counseling as she suggested because you truly need it.

She is on strike. Negotiate with her or sue her to National Industrial Court

Vision101:
She is on strike. Negotiate with her or sue her to National Industrial Court

This one don become ASUU vs FG matter

I love your wife already


Say hi to her for me.

I think we are both married and I equally have three children like u.
Two girls and a boy. But to be honest with u,I am done with child birth. I respect my wife's opinion on that and we have agreed to stop birthing more.

On the issue of family planning and its numerous side effects on women,I told my wife,I will not subscribe to it because of its effect and because,I would not tolerate such a thing on my body,therefore I will not allow such a thing in her body also.

Now,what we both do is a careful withdrawal method,no long story. No condom, no wahala.

Being pregnant is not easy and I can tell u,in all honesty, that,I respect women alot. Any time my wife was pregnant,I don't usually sleep nor rest because of her kind of job.

In summary,respect her opinion and work along with whatever she proposes because of the economy,her health and other important factors relating to pregnancy and its conditions. Remember say,plenty pikin no mean plenty wealth.

DamnnNiggarr:
My wife says– No family planning, No sex.
for the past four months, my wife has been mounting series of pressures on me concerning family planning and I kept on ignoring her, but these past weeks, she has shown me what shege really looks like.

Up to three weeks, my wife has denied me access to her sacred part, insisting on her "No family planning, No sex" rule, anytime a tried to make love to her.

I've Three(3) beautiful Angels with her and my last child clocked 4 Years old. She said, she's not ready for another child despite our last child who's our only daughter being 4yrs old and my second son is 6, while my eldest child is 10years( that's 4 years gap). she said she's done with giving birth.

I got the shock of my life this night, that she asked me to go and get c*ndoms, if I want to have my way to her sacred part or otherwise we visit the doctor for counseling or do the family planning, reason why I picked up my phone to write this. I'm fed up because I don't subscribe to this idea of family planning or anything related to it, due to it's several after effects.

But it seems like she's winning, but either ways, I would sincerely like to see some opinions from here before going to see the doctor whether to give in to her request or not.

RoyalRoy
lalasticlala
Mynd44
seun
nlfpmod
Please assist me for wider audience.

my man na you go born the pikin this time around

In as much as I hate ultimatums, I TOTALLY agree with your wife on this...

Go for family planning sir...
Unless you intend to have another child ...


But before you do so, use this opportunity to negotiate a fair term sir ...

Tell her that, if you go for family planning just as she suggested, she must agree to n.acking whenever you want it ...

Chei!!!
Sense wee nor kee me ...

Ur wife na sharp woman

Use condoms or consult a doctor for the family planning. There are many types of family planning

9=

Hmmmmmn,

Marriage is Compromise!

Which kind talk be this

I think her request though fair enough, was not properly addressed. Please reason with her and consider family planning

You married a wise woman.

Family planning is good but the side effects on women can be scary. The most safest ways of preventing unwanted pregnancy is by watching the menstrual cycle and using condom.

My brother if to born dey hungry you, there are women looking for husband outside.

Please don't kill that wise woman because of your selfish interest

What are looking for after 3 children

You as a man should be the one insisting on family planning but it seems your wife is smarter than you

You already have two sons and a daughter and even if you're above average, check the richest men out there, they have three kids or less

Do the family planning and focus on giving the best to the children God has blessed your family with

Your woman is very smart.....na u wan carry the belle for 9 months

This buhari regime, person wan dey born upandan

You wan use many children collect money ni

What do I know, maybe u get the money to take care of many pikin

She is not denying u of ur conjugal right, she is just saying enjoy responsibily

Information on family planning full every where, but laziness to read just dey make some of us the generalize say all family planning methods dey 100 percent bad

There are two major categories

Natural and artificial.....

On a second thought,

I won't tell you.....go and do ur research or go see to a family planning centre

By the way, help me buy ur wife a bottle of chilled coke. Na better woman u marry

Firstly, let me ask about the side effects of the family planning from you...