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Single Father In Search Of Love by Nobody: 6:34pm On Oct 22, 2022
I had to create an account for this because of the bashing that may follow(the internet never forgives or forget and on this forum I have shared my reservations against single mums..lol).

So back in my university days I had a gf. She took in for me in my final year. Being an Igbo boy,especially from a family that love children and do not like their children growing outside home,my parent's urged me to bring the child home. My ex, is married now. We just grew apart.

I thought being a single dad ,that i will easily find a wife since they are not hated as single mom but I guess things are changing & all single parents are now getting to feel the brunt of it all as all the girls I have discussed marriage with keep hinting and telling me that my daughter would not live with us if we get married.


It is really crazy. Most men will run from responsibility but I did the right thing,became a real man and here is what I get?

I am 32,with a flat of three rooms and I earn well with the prospect of venturing into side business. In fact I am doing well for myself and can comfortably take care of my daughter, a wife and the kids that would come from my marriage. So what is the problem?
I am good looking and fit as well(registered in a gym class) so what is the problem here?

My daughter is twelve,she can bathe herself and do house chores and is well behaved. So how is she a burden? If she were a baby or toddler needing motherly attention then it will be justifiable that they don't want her to live with us(in that case I would have hired a nanny for that).

My baby mama isn't in the picture at all, she is focusing on her marriage, so what is the problem?



These ladies dont give me any tangible reason ,aside the usual "if I were a single mom will you allow me to bring my own kid to our matrimonial house?". Is it now a thing of revenge?

The last heartbreak was painful. This Lady literally bonded with my daughter.plaited my daughter hair, assisted me in school runs ,in fact on several occasions I dropped my daughter off at her place when I went for business trip and my daughter called her "mother" only for her to bring up the issue of my daughter not living with us should we get married. Her reason was that they may be sibling rivalry between the kids and the rest. I was really shattered for my daughter sake because my daughter was already attached to her.
Since then I swore never to introduce any woman to my daughter in order to protect her from rejection.

Single parents in the house that got hitched please show me the way.

Insults are welcome but please include advice after the insult.

MariahAngel rozross pocohantas emmaodet crackhaus Capslocked bukatyne pansophist harddon

Mods (mynd44, farano,rocktation) abeg move to the front page.

PS: Some dolts who were dropped on their head as babies are already throwing insults.
But let me add the following,
1.this women I meet are good women and are not the hypergamous girls after my money(they are not demanding and giving is mutual). They are decent girls from god fearing families,as I don't wink at subpar women. They only issue here is their insistence that my daughter would not be brought to the matrimonial home.

2.comments are welcome from single parents who are now successfully married with their kids living with them,and wise monikers(as mentioned above). If you want to chip in advice, do so.if you have insults to give, that is fine,but please include an advice as well else I would report you for an instant ban.Don't spam the comment section.please

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Jeon(f): 6:39pm On Oct 22, 2022
Yes, women should also stand up.

These ladies dont give me any tangible reason ,aside the usual "if I were a single mom will you allow me to bring my own kid to our matrimonial house?"


The girl's mom for dy your house if you good.

My baby mama isn't in the picture at all, she is focusing on her marriage, so what is the problem?

SORRY, NO ROOM FOR AFTER 1 DADDY.



WHY NOT POST WITH YOUR REAL MONIKER IF YOU ARE BOLD ENOUGH .

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Sammy101111(m): 7:11pm On Oct 22, 2022
A time will come a man will need a woman to move and be with steady
Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Prettygirl200(f): 8:02pm On Oct 22, 2022
Well I do not blame them though because if it was the other way round guys here would have been the one advicing you not to marry a single mother bc they are leach, they are this they are that. After taking care of their kids blah blah just Bleep dem and go. This is how single mothers feel too sp enjoy your own portion of rejection. Thanks

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Nobody: 8:07pm On Oct 22, 2022
Prettygirl200:
Well I do not blame them though because if it was the other way round guys here would have been the one advicing you not to marry a single mother bc they are leach, they are this they are that. After taking care of their kids blah blah just Bleep dem and go. This is how single mothers feel too sp enjoy your own portion of rejection. Thanks

At least drop an advice or something. That is the purpose of this thread

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by BirtherOfKings(f): 8:23pm On Oct 22, 2022
Benokonma:
I had to create an account for this because of the bashing that may follow(the internet never forgives or forget and on this forum I have shared my reservations against single mums..lol).

So back in my university days I had a gf. She took in for me in my final year. Being an Igbo boy,especially from a family that love children and do not like their children growing outside home,my parent's urged me to bring the child home. My ex, is married now. We just grew apart.

I thought being a single dad ,that i will easily find a wife since they are not hated as single mom but I guess things are changing & all single parents are now getting to feel the brunt of it all as all the girls I have discussed marriage with keep hinting and telling me that my daughter would not live with us if we get married. Some have ghosted me even when I was been honest with them.


It is really crazy. Most men will run from responsibility but I did the right thing,became a real man and here is what I get?

I am 32,with a flat of three rooms and I earn well with the prospect of venturing into side business. In fact I am doing well for myself and can comfortably take care of my daughter, a wife and the kids that would come from my marriage. So what is the problem?
I am good looking and fit as well(registered in a gym class) so what is the problem here?

My daughter is twelve,she can bathe herself and do house chores and is well behaved. So how is she a burden? If she were a baby or toddler needing motherly attention then it will be justifiable that they don't want her to live with us(in that case I would have hired a nanny for that).

My baby mama isn't in the picture at all, she is focusing on her marriage, so what is the problem?



These ladies dont give me any tangible reason ,aside the usual "if I were a single mom will you allow me to bring my own kid to our matrimonial house?". Is it now a thing of revenge?

The last heartbreak was painful. This Lady literally bonded with my daughter.plaited my daughter hair, assisted me in school runs ,in fact on several occasions I dropped my daughter off at her place when I went for business trip and my daughter called her "mother" only for her to bring up the issue of my daughter not living with us should we get married. Her reason was that they may be sibling rivalry between the kids and the rest. I was really shattered for my daughter sake because my daughter was already attached to her.
Since then I swore never to introduce any woman to my daughter in order to protect her from rejection.

Single parents in the house that got hitched please show me the way.

Insults are welcome but please include advice after the insult.

MariahAngel rozross pocohantas emmaodet crackhaus Capslocked bukatyne pansophist harddon

Mods (mynd44) abeg move to the front page.

PS: Some dolts who were dropped on their head as babies are already throwing insults.
But let me add the following,
1.this women I meet are good women and are not the hypergamous girls after my money(they are not demanding and giving is mutual). They are decent girls from god fearing families,as I don't wink at subpar women. They only issue here is their insistence that my daughter would not be brought to the matrimonial home.

2.comments are welcome from single parents who are now successfully married with their kids living with them,and wise monikers(as mentioned above). If you want to chip in advice, do so.if you have insults to give, that is fine,but please include an advice as well else I would report you for an instant ban.Don't spam the comment section.please

U are exactly wat am looking for.. unfortunately am a year older than you. If u have an older friend, let me know

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Bola4boy(m): 8:26pm On Oct 22, 2022
Just keep searching, you will surely see a reasonable lady. Don't ever think of hiding the identity of your daughter. And don't be desperate.

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Nobody: 8:32pm On Oct 22, 2022
Bola4boy:
Just keep searching, you will surely see a reasonable lady. Don't ever think of hiding the identity of your daughter. And don't be desperate.
Never will.

Thanks for the encouragement
Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Nobody: 8:35pm On Oct 22, 2022
Take care of your daughter.

Seems like you wanna destroy your daughter life all because of sex.

No woman you are bringing home will love your daughter like you do.

They will seperate her from you and create hatred especially once they have their own baby.

I will advice you to rethink about your decision, it is not a must you must marry.

Your job right now is your daughter not your dick

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Nobody: 8:43pm On Oct 22, 2022
thebosstrevor1:
Take care of your daughter.

Seems like you wanna destroy your daughter life all because of sex.

No woman you are bringing home will love your daughter like you do.

They will seperate her from you and create hatred especially once you have their own baby.

I will advice you to rethink about your decision, it is not a must you must marry.

Your job right now is your daughter not your dick

Thanks a lot.

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by CAPSLOCKED: 10:29pm On Oct 22, 2022
New Account:
"I had to create an account for this because of the bashing that may follow."
"I'm quite popular on Nairaland I had to create a new account to hide my identity."
"I just created this account to post this so as to remain anonymous."
"I just, new account, pardon me, conceal my identity".

I READ THREADS WITH THIS NEW ACCOUNT MANTRA AND FOREVER STRUGGLE TO UNDERSTAND WHAT THESE POSTERS EXPECTS US TO DO WITH THEIR "ANNOUNCEMENTS" OF CREATING NEW ACCOUNTS FOR EACH IDĮOTIC THREAD THEY ENGINEER.

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Foodqueen(f): 10:40pm On Oct 22, 2022
Why not leave your daughter with your mom. Thank God she's grown, at least for another 5yrs.

Not every woman want to step in for another.

Most men doesn't even make living together with steps easy.

When they come back, they will be asking the child..... Av u eaten, what happened today. Making the woman feel like she isn't doing enough.

Look for single mother too

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Nobody: 11:17pm On Oct 22, 2022
CAPSLOCKED:


I READ THREADS WITH THIS NEW ACCOUNT MANTRA AND FOREVER STRUGGLE TO UNDERSTAND WHAT THESE POSTERS EXPECTS US TO DO WITH THEM CREATING NEW ACCOUNTS FOR EACH IDĮOTIC THREAD THEY ENGINEER.
You can kindly ignore the mantra and please give an advise.
Like I said the reason for it is because of the reservations I have voiced on this forum in the past about Single Mothers. I do not want being reminded and the rest.

Mosdii and Davash.22(the one who indicated interest in a 5k giveaway) would have been spared themselves a lifelong dragging if an alternate account was created.

I can send a DM with proof that I am not some attention seeking person

Or better still I trim off that mantra from my op as it gives the notion this is just a fiction,huh?
Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Slynation(m): 11:20pm On Oct 22, 2022
The problem with our ladies is that they are everywhere but the moment you decide to settle down, getting a good wife becomes an herculean task...what is good for the goose is also good for the gander!! This is me wanting to be in your position, A place where I already have a child and unlimited pussy to bang without commitment in the name of marriage...

Anyways, since marriage is your problem, your surest bet is to impregnate another cheesy na the family go dey beg you make you come marry her sharp sharp before belle start dey show...it works like magic, keep it secret...!!!

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Nobody: 11:33pm On Oct 22, 2022
Slynation:
The problem with our ladies is that they are everywhere but the moment you decide to settle down, getting a good wife becomes an herculean task.
This is not the case for me. Getting a wife is not my problem, is one who would accept my daughter staying with us that is the issue
.what is good for the goose is also good for the gander!! This is me wanting to be in your position, A place where I already have a child and unlimited pussy to bang without commitment in the name of marriage...

Anyways, since marriage is your problem, your surest bet is to impregnate another cheesy na the family go dey beg you make you come marry her sharp sharp before belle start dey show...it works like magic, keep it secret...!!!
I hope this doesn't backfire in the end
Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by meobizy(f): 5:37am On Oct 23, 2022
I had to open a new account to post this comment because I am quite popular in this forum.

Them blind your eye wey you no dey see single mothers? It is not a must to catch a childless female especially with Nigerian/African women who see courtship/dating as a ruthless competition. With a single mother, both of you start at a score of 1 - 1.

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by okunwaye(m): 5:55am On Oct 23, 2022
Team #singledad4life. grin
Op I pray you see a woman who will accept your daughter.

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by dnawah(m): 6:04am On Oct 23, 2022
Benokonma:
I had to create an account for this because of the bashing that may follow(the internet never forgives or forget and on this forum I have shared my reservations against single mums..lol).

So back in my university days I had a gf. She took in for me in my final year. Being an Igbo boy,especially from a family that love children and do not like their children growing outside home,my parent's urged me to bring the child home. My ex, is married now. We just grew apart.

I thought being a single dad ,that i will easily find a wife since they are not hated as single mom but I guess things are changing & all single parents are now getting to feel the brunt of it all as all the girls I have discussed marriage with keep hinting and telling me that my daughter would not live with us if we get married. Some have ghosted me even when I was been honest with them.


It is really crazy. Most men will run from responsibility but I did the right thing,became a real man and here is what I get?

I am 32,with a flat of three rooms and I earn well with the prospect of venturing into side business. In fact I am doing well for myself and can comfortably take care of my daughter, a wife and the kids that would come from my marriage. So what is the problem?
I am good looking and fit as well(registered in a gym class) so what is the problem here?

My daughter is twelve,she can bathe herself and do house chores and is well behaved. So how is she a burden? If she were a baby or toddler needing motherly attention then it will be justifiable that they don't want her to live with us(in that case I would have hired a nanny for that).

My baby mama isn't in the picture at all, she is focusing on her marriage, so what is the problem?



These ladies dont give me any tangible reason ,aside the usual "if I were a single mom will you allow me to bring my own kid to our matrimonial house?". Is it now a thing of revenge?

The last heartbreak was painful. This Lady literally bonded with my daughter.plaited my daughter hair, assisted me in school runs ,in fact on several occasions I dropped my daughter off at her place when I went for business trip and my daughter called her "mother" only for her to bring up the issue of my daughter not living with us should we get married. Her reason was that they may be sibling rivalry between the kids and the rest. I was really shattered for my daughter sake because my daughter was already attached to her.
Since then I swore never to introduce any woman to my daughter in order to protect her from rejection.

Single parents in the house that got hitched please show me the way.

Insults are welcome but please include advice after the insult.

MariahAngel rozross pocohantas emmaodet crackhaus Capslocked bukatyne pansophist harddon

Mods (mynd44, farano,rocktation) abeg move to the front page.

PS: Some dolts who were dropped on their head as babies are already throwing insults.
But let me add the following,
1.this women I meet are good women and are not the hypergamous girls after my money(they are not demanding and giving is mutual). They are decent girls from god fearing families,as I don't wink at subpar women. They only issue here is their insistence that my daughter would not be brought to the matrimonial home.

2.comments are welcome from single parents who are now successfully married with their kids living with them,and wise monikers(as mentioned above). If you want to chip in advice, do so.if you have insults to give, that is fine,but please include an advice as well else I would report you for an instant ban.Don't spam the comment section.please
but them no get sense,them forget say very soon ur sweet daughter will get married.na them go chop mama shares and na them go go omugu.
Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by blinking001(m): 7:11am On Oct 23, 2022
A woman does not understand the basic principles of properly loving a man. Women only know how to respect the men they reverend and adore. I'm afraid your priorities in women are misplaced.
Men look for serious qualities like submissiveness, obedience and respect from women, not love. Your priorities are misplaced.

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Mindlog: 8:04am On Oct 23, 2022
dnawah:
but them no get sense,them forget say very soon ur sweet daughter will get married.na them go chop mama shares and na them go go omugu.

Which omugwo? Should the daughter get married, who can stop the biological mother from being part of the wedding arrangements? That the daughter lives with the father, does not mean she has no or will have no relationship with her biological mother.

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Okoroawusa: 8:18am On Oct 23, 2022
I will advise you to be like me. A single father of two girls and not in a hurry to marry any woman.
My first daughter is already a grown woman and lives in London while my second girl lives with her mom.
Live your life and go for relationships without marriage on your mind since you want your daughter to live with you.
The woman that will love you and your daughter will come but don't go out of your way to search for her.
Wetin dey this life wey we dey stress ourselves?

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Nobody: 10:17am On Oct 23, 2022
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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Enny2013(f): 10:51am On Oct 23, 2022
U ar 32 with a child of 12?
That means u got a lady pregnant at 20 in yr final year.
Bros eeh! U gained admission at 16. Yr Education was so fast men!

Bro, abeg, include yr real age to make it faster and easier for some Nairaland ladies who could b interested....
Thanks.
Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Nobody: 10:55am On Oct 23, 2022
Enny2013:
U ar 32 with a child of 12?
That means u got a lady pregnant at 20 in yr final year.
Bros eeh! U gained admission at 16. Yr Education was so fast men!

Bro, abeg, include yr real age to make it faster and easier for some Nairaland ladies who could b interested....
Thanks.
Would be 33 on November 17. Yes I got admission early.

Now please kindly drop your advice. Thanks

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Sweetvie: 10:57am On Oct 23, 2022
Hmm
From my own view...
Marrying a single dad is not the problem but how they react if you're trying to discipline the kid will be like you're doing that bcoz she is not urs or family member coming to ask her if she have eaten as if you're starving her or asking her to do chores and they'll think you hate her and turn her into a maid etc
Single dad alws have a connection to the ex (Always) or feelings
All, No guys want to marry single mom coz they believe she has done rubbish in her youth that's y the ex leave her.They will also want the kid to live outside their marriage so I don't think you should expect single lady to marry you.
My advise is for you to look for single mom to marry. smiley

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Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Enny2013(f): 11:05am On Oct 23, 2022
Benokonma:

Would be 33 on November 17. Yes I got admission early.

Now please kindly drop your advice. Thanks
To me,u shud hv included yr 'contacts' for any lady who might b interested here. some persons met their soulmates on Nairaland.
Re: Single Father In Search Of Love by Nobody: 11:27am On Oct 23, 2022
There's a woman for every man out there and vice versa, so look for your woman who will accept your daughter as hers . I'm also glad you are getting same treatment you wished for single mothers, such is life.

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