| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Fearyourcreator: 12:02am On Oct 25, 2022 |
MufasaLion:
You don't need such a stupid, lazy, insensitive and selfish man in your life or your kids'. Move on and continue to provide for yourself and your kids. He abandoned you for months and was trying to manipulate you emotionally when you went to pack things, don't be deceived.
Don't let his family's plead to deceive you. That man can never change. That's his personality and once you go back and deliver that baby, you will be trapped!
You can do well without him! Marriage is not an achievement. There are many successful people in the world raised by single mothers. Don't let the society define your happiness! Lolzzzz |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by bet9ja(m): 12:02am On Oct 25, 2022 |
You are not a submissive wife. Hence you wanted a house of your own. There is nothing bad if a man buys a house in the name of his wife. But when the wife initiate the idea, that is a red flag. You need to forgive him and also work on yourself. If you are submissive, you will surely get more than 200k from him. So why getting angry to the extent that your kid and unborn child will suffer for it. |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Fearyourcreator: 12:04am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Romanoff:
She is not toxic. Her concerns are valid and no two human is the same.
Just cause it will be easy for you to forgive such dishonesty doesn't mean it will be easy for her.
With a husband that can scam you like that, who needs an enemy? A wife that has always supported you and is equally hardworking. What is in common 200k that he still had to scam her for?
They sha both need counselling to get past this, it won't be easy but it's doable.
That trust has been broken already so after this, going forward, please, have your own savings as you contribute to the home and family projects and keep receipts.
Next land or property you'll buy, inform him about it, carry him along but source for your own agent yourself to avoid situations like this.
The trust can't be the same again sha, but na to dey manage the situation and to avoid such in the future. She should find another man if she cant cope again ... |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by penearth(m): 12:04am On Oct 25, 2022 |
U r the course of ur woos. Ask ur husband for forgiveness. I never see a man who will not allow his wife a loint onwer of a property but he did. Ur husband made a business that got him gain u became angry. Do u think u can live well with another man with this character? Plz run and apologize with congid thing to him 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by BENEAMATA: 12:04am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Slynation:
I swear, I read the post and became annoyed, her husband brought a suggestion about a landed property, but she instead hijacked the deal because she has her own money, and even went ahead to leave her marital home for common 200K without considering how much the man spent on her head as a wife...!! What an egocentric attitude from her
She willingly left the house with the notion that the man must come begging and when he disappointed her expectations, she took it a step further by leaving finally, Omo...This aunty just destroyed her family and marriage just because of 200K...
We once supplied goods to a lady, but before them, the husband told us to add extra 100K ontop our original price for him which we did...when the lady (his wife) found out, she just smiled and told the husband "Honey, don't worry, I know how to get my money back from you" and the matter ended like that...
This is a similar case with this OP, I can only imagine OP as a very stingy lady with the mindset of "Your money is our money but my money is for me alone" |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Fearyourcreator: 12:05am On Oct 25, 2022 |
advanceDNA:
Its her money at the end of the day....so she has a right to be angry....but ending her marriage over this is a bit of an overkill
Many of us did it to our parents ....
My babe does it to me irregularly...
She dey over hammer the thing ... The man was very wrong and he don beg ... Family join ... Wetin again 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by leofab(f): 12:05am On Oct 25, 2022 |
MufasaLion:
Imagine the trash you wrote. Stop justifying a breach of trust! woman wey wan go build house for husband house.. any thing she see make she take.. he only took agency fees  1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Nobody: 12:05am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Place the offense side by side with your reaction. Does the offense deserve the reaction?
True he lied to you and spent your money. True, he was foolish and has been arrogant by not trying to reach out to you.
But just as you overreacted to his offence, he has overreacted to your moving out of the house.
You want to end your marriage over 200k. Is that what you are going to tell your children? The reason why they won't grow up with both of their parents.
Nobody can tell you how to forgive.
Perhaps the real issue is that you expect too much of yourself and cannot forgive your own self. So you naturally extend the same attitude to your husband.
If you don't get over this issue, you will struggle with it in the future.
You don't forgive him because he deserves it. You forgive him because you must learn to let go of offense. The anger had poisoned you more than it has hurt anyone else
Let it go. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Fearyourcreator: 12:05am On Oct 25, 2022 |
MufasaLion:
Imagine the trash you wrote. Stop justifying a breach of trust! Make she leave the man na |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by HitRun(m): 12:06am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Registeredguest:
Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that we should buy it together, I told him no, I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it, (just want to have something tangible for myself alone) Right here is the problem. As long as you still think “alone”, “my own”, that marriage won’t work. Have you asked yourself, why? Why did he keep the 200k? Apologizing is not as important as knowing why he did what he did. More likely than not, I think it is tied to your insistence on having ‘your’ land. In his mind, it becomes a business as he is no longer emotionally attached to the acquisition. Plus he may have decided to take the money out of resentment. Either ways, your problem is not really that he took your money; it is the underlying issues that really matter and must be resolved if you must save your marriage. Sorry sis. It is what it is. 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Jaisman26(m): 12:06am On Oct 25, 2022 |
MufasaLion:
You don't need such a stupid, lazy, insensitive and selfish man in your life or your kids'. Move on and continue to provide for yourself and your kids. He abandoned you for months and was trying to manipulate you emotionally when you went to pack things, don't be deceived.
Don't let his family's plead to deceive you. That man can never change. That's his personality and once you go back and deliver that baby, you will be trapped!
You can do well without him! Marriage is not an achievement. There are many successful people in the world raised by single mothers. Don't let the society define your happiness! See yeye advice you the advice person here. Marriage is not always a bed of roses. Just be mentally ready for such things..... Thank God is not infidelity. Money issues in marriage is normal especially if you as a woman earn reasonable more than the man. Please madam forgive your husband and go back to his house simple and learn how to forgive before he offend you the next time and that's the true definition of marriage. |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by emorse(m): 12:06am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Revolution2022:
If woman use her money buy Maggi cook soup the whole neighbourhood go hear.If na she chop her husband 200k nobody go hear am.No be say the husband dupe her.Na the husband be middleman and he got his cut from the deal. If you see how women dey inflate school fees ehn, you go run! Yet nobody dey talk about am 2 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Fearyourcreator: 12:08am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Fahvvy:
How do you forgive him?
By forgiving him na ...
Marriage is not relationship o that you can brezz in and out as you wish  ...
Marriage will test and stretch you farther than anything else will ..
On a more serious note...
It's clear and glaring that you don't consider yourself as a team? ...
Let's look at your write up ...
I have always helped him in his house projects,might not be much 100k,50k,20k when need be,I never siphoned my money to myself,as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head,(3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)
Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that "we" should buy it together,I told him no,I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it,( just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller."we" did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.
So even when "two have become one" you still act as if you guys are not a team ...
The only time the word "we" appeared there, it was because it was suggested by your hubby ...
So while he sees you guys as a team, you see yourself as competitors ...
Until you change your mindset, it's best you don't go back ...
I'm not trying to excuse your hubby's actions, however, if you intend to go back with this mindset of unforgiveness, disunity and distrust, just be prepared for everyday quarrel ...
And that too will affect your kids ... 100 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by rattlesnake(m): 12:11am On Oct 25, 2022 |
useless woman |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by TrumpDonald2: 12:11am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Registeredguest:
I'm a lady in my mid- twenties, I got married aged 22, (always wanted to marry early) on the second year of our marriage we were blessed with a baby, parked to our house and things were rosy. I have always been a workaholic due to that I have never lack as a young lady in terms of finance.
I have always helped him in his house projects, might not be much 100k, 50k, 20k when need be. I never siphoned my money to myself, as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head, (3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)
Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that we should buy it together, I told him no, I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it, (just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller.we did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.
After some weeks, I decided to dig around his phone then I discovered that the account I sent the 600k to, refunded 200k back to my husband, woke him up instantly I demanded for an explanation.he story no make sense. I was heartbroken, for months I was hurt...the two families got involved and settled the issue.money I no see...
Ever since this issue happened,the home has not been peaceful, fighting everyday. I find it so difficult to forgive him. I insult him, he insults me, he broke my phone, I break his door...I was demanded for an apology he says
"I'm his wife, no be today man dey collect him wife money, he say woman go build house for him husband no ear no go hear" those things hurt me more... everyday was fight, I parked out,I went to my sister's place,he didn't call, he didn't reach out.
3 weeks after I parked I discovered I was pregnant,and informed him immediately through text.i stayed at my sister's place for 2 months no word from him... I decide to rent my own place,I rented a place and went to his house to park my remaining stuff,I meet him home,as soon as he sees I came with a truck to park my things he knelt down and started begging me...I was like,na today I commot for your house why now? He say he think say I dey play, he no think say I serious like this,for good two months you didn't say anything why now...with enough dragging I parked my things to my new rented apartment... since the day I park till now this man has not allowed me rest,his family members has been calling me to come back home, his dad came from the village to plead on his behalf.
My dad is insisting I should not go back...I'm now 6 months pregnant ,I need a father in my children's life.im finding it difficult to forgive him,I'm struggling within myself to forgive and trust this man again.
How can I let go of the past and move back with him...I decided to pay him a visit on Friday,he was happy I came,he did everything possible to show me he has changed but that feeling of betrayal and hurt is there.i left there this morning with querrell,I know I started the querrell,but I can't just seem to forgive him.please I need your help and advice on this pressing issue of mine.
No insult please, I have cried enough. Sincerely speaking, I think you caused this problem. It's obvious you are richer than he is and you just rubbed it in his face. How can he find a land and ask that you both buy it together only for you to tell him you want to buy it all by yourself? How could you? And now he decides to make some money from you and you are angry about that? Really? Do you know how he felt when you told him you want to buy it all by yourself? From the look of things, you both were in good terms before this. I'll advice you to bring down your ego, and let this go. This is not much an issue that should tear your marriage unless maybe you are no longer interested in him. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by shegoon: 12:12am On Oct 25, 2022 |
It's obvious she's doing better than the husband, ladies mentality of "my own its mine, my husband's own is ours" few of them wil behave otherwise. I remember when my wife and I were attending a marriage course in a church and issue of joint account came up, all most all the ladies disagreed including my wife to be, to have a joint account with the husband . This is the person that is still in school and dont have a source of income yet. I pay all the bills, even bought her a car, i was highly disappointed uvie66:
you self, your mind Strong oooo, you break up all because of 200k, can you put your hand on your chest and say that you are a saint. 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by cutedharmee: 12:12am On Oct 25, 2022 |
If I happen to be d one eeehn, I'll get angry wit him but won't let it lead to d extent of packing out of his house. He must pay back d money thou either directly or indirectly. |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by ufuosman(m): 12:13am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Go back to your husband, u over reacted. No marriage without one or two, dis issue is something dat don't lead to u going out... |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by culf: 12:13am On Oct 25, 2022 |
akanbiaa:
No one will pay agency fee of 200k over land of 400k it's pure scam and dishonesty , he should have begged his wife for money or borrowed from her, with this his attitude it means if she dies before him the children will suffer and be deprived of what legitimately is hers under his watch. @Registeredguest you started very well but spoilt it later. Who is he working for? the money he is making is for who and who? Common sense is very important. Most supportive wives scam their hubby but they don't mind, after all, they usually help when he is cashtrap so why bother, that is common sense. I don't support the man and i'm not in support of the wife's behaviours too, she is not ready for marriage 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by romenna: 12:13am On Oct 25, 2022 |
MufasaLion:
You don't need such a stupid, lazy, insensitive and selfish man in your life or your kids'. Move on and continue to provide for yourself and your kids. He abandoned you for months and was trying to manipulate you emotionally when you went to pack things, don't be deceived.
Don't let his family's plead to deceive you. That man can never change. That's his personality and once you go back and deliver that baby, you will be trapped!
You can do well without him! Marriage is not an achievement. There are many successful people in the world raised by single mothers. Don't let the society define your happiness! Haba! All this because of 200k? She neva chop d man money too? I blame d guy for apologising. I can chop my wife money n she can chop mine n we will both forgive n forget. We are one But on a second thought, dis woman is self centred and not a home builder. She wants to use the husband to amass wealth and worldly things to herself alone and forbids the husband for doing same? Where una dey see such mumu men marry? He fucck up for apologising. U want to build ur own house abi? Him no vex ,then he acted as an agent n collected his fees, why u dey vex? U r a big enemy of dat man's progress If na me u marry, I for beat u for insulting me for rendering services to u cos u crossed d line wen u started having selfish ambitions 2 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by leofab(f): 12:13am On Oct 25, 2022 |
bestdudes:
Someone's trust is broken and you think she is toxic. You don't know that there are people who don't joke with their trust. I don't forgive people who break my trust, even if it is 10 years time... i will always remember what u did any moment i see your face or name.
which trust.. it’s business.. the 200k us agency fees; since she want build her own house. |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Parachoko: 12:14am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Registeredguest:
I'm a lady in my mid- twenties, I got married aged 22, (always wanted to marry early) on the second year of our marriage we were blessed with a baby, parked to our house and things were rosy. I have always been a workaholic due to that I have never lack as a young lady in terms of finance.
I have always helped him in his house projects, might not be much 100k, 50k, 20k when need be. I never siphoned my money to myself, as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head, (3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)
Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that we should buy it together, I told him no, I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it, (just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller.we did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.
After some weeks, I decided to dig around his phone then I discovered that the account I sent the 600k to, refunded 200k back to my husband, woke him up instantly I demanded for an explanation.he story no make sense. I was heartbroken, for months I was hurt...the two families got involved and settled the issue.money I no see...
Ever since this issue happened,the home has not been peaceful, fighting everyday. I find it so difficult to forgive him. I insult him, he insults me, he broke my phone, I break his door...I was demanded for an apology he says
"I'm his wife, no be today man dey collect him wife money, he say woman go build house for him husband no ear no go hear" those things hurt me more... everyday was fight, I parked out,I went to my sister's place,he didn't call, he didn't reach out.
3 weeks after I parked I discovered I was pregnant,and informed him immediately through text.i stayed at my sister's place for 2 months no word from him... I decide to rent my own place,I rented a place and went to his house to park my remaining stuff,I meet him home,as soon as he sees I came with a truck to park my things he knelt down and started begging me...I was like,na today I commot for your house why now? He say he think say I dey play, he no think say I serious like this,for good two months you didn't say anything why now...with enough dragging I parked my things to my new rented apartment... since the day I park till now this man has not allowed me rest,his family members has been calling me to come back home, his dad came from the village to plead on his behalf.
My dad is insisting I should not go back...I'm now 6 months pregnant ,I need a father in my children's life.im finding it difficult to forgive him,I'm struggling within myself to forgive and trust this man again.
How can I let go of the past and move back with him...I decided to pay him a visit on Friday,he was happy I came,he did everything possible to show me he has changed but that feeling of betrayal and hurt is there.i left there this morning with querrell,I know I started the querrell,but I can't just seem to forgive him.please I need your help and advice on this pressing issue of mine.
No insult please, I have cried enough. Small pikin dey do you |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Fearyourcreator: 12:14am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Helpout12345:
I pity you. You think there's something outside with 2 children.
Yes. He wronged you by inflating the price of the land. So what? Women do this everywhere to their husbands and heaven don't fall.
Everybody has begged you and you refused to reason well.
Continue oooo. Body go tell you. Make she dey go na... Sebi them dey beg her now she dey do like akamu... Na she go later get blame... |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Slynation(m): 12:14am On Oct 25, 2022 |
BENEAMATA:
Your husband see beta land , say make una buy , you say no , you want am for yourself and he duly obliged you .
So now you don't see 200 k as reasonable " agent fee " for a piece of land that he sourced around for with the family in mind that you wanted for yourself only ? A land you acquired with genuine papers ? With no omo onile wahala ? Why does your hubby even think 200,000 is enough compensation for the hurt and bruised ego that'll come with the feeling of knowing he was side stepped by his own wife in years to come ?
A man builds a house with his sweat , " OUR HOUSE "
A man acquires a car , "OUR CAR " , now look at what you did with the tables turned .You should have opted not to buy that particular parcel of land at all instead of saying you want it for you alone .I might not be making my point clear enough here , but the home belongs to the woman . You can either keep your home or let it go the way it's heading . Your move . Thank you bro...above all, it's even a land that might likely worth #10million in 5years to come...Na e this OP destroy her family because of common ordinary 200K, so it's better for a total stranger to chop her 200K as agent fee than for her loving husband to chop her money... One thing I like about business is that, once I get a good deal, it doesn't matter whether I overpaid, the most important thing was that I got a good deal within my budget... 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by culf: 12:14am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Geoabeeys:
God will bless you for this....she felt betrayed because you saw alert of so so amount, so what? I will not be part of conspiracy that will put you into confusion and I can say it very loud and clear that someone is giving you bad advise. Listen to me op, you need to grow up. What happen is just one of the things men overlook and smile..... thank you my brother |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Nobody: 12:15am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Registeredguest:
I'm a lady in my mid- twenties, I got married aged 22, (always wanted to marry early) on the second year of our marriage we were blessed with a baby, parked to our house and things were rosy. I have always been a workaholic due to that I have never lack as a young lady in terms of finance.
I have always helped him in his house projects, might not be much 100k, 50k, 20k when need be. I never siphoned my money to myself, as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head, (3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)
Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that we should buy it together, I told him no, I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it, (just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller.we did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.
After some weeks, I decided to dig around his phone then I discovered that the account I sent the 600k to, refunded 200k back to my husband, woke him up instantly I demanded for an explanation.he story no make sense. I was heartbroken, for months I was hurt...the two families got involved and settled the issue.money I no see...
Ever since this issue happened,the home has not been peaceful, fighting everyday. I find it so difficult to forgive him. I insult him, he insults me, he broke my phone, I break his door...I was demanded for an apology he says
"I'm his wife, no be today man dey collect him wife money, he say woman go build house for him husband no ear no go hear" those things hurt me more... everyday was fight, I parked out,I went to my sister's place,he didn't call, he didn't reach out.
3 weeks after I parked I discovered I was pregnant,and informed him immediately through text.i stayed at my sister's place for 2 months no word from him... I decide to rent my own place,I rented a place and went to his house to park my remaining stuff,I meet him home,as soon as he sees I came with a truck to park my things he knelt down and started begging me...I was like,na today I commot for your house why now? He say he think say I dey play, he no think say I serious like this,for good two months you didn't say anything why now...with enough dragging I parked my things to my new rented apartment... since the day I park till now this man has not allowed me rest,his family members has been calling me to come back home, his dad came from the village to plead on his behalf.
My dad is insisting I should not go back...I'm now 6 months pregnant ,I need a father in my children's life.im finding it difficult to forgive him,I'm struggling within myself to forgive and trust this man again.
How can I let go of the past and move back with him...I decided to pay him a visit on Friday,he was happy I came,he did everything possible to show me he has changed but that feeling of betrayal and hurt is there.i left there this morning with querrell,I know I started the querrell,but I can't just seem to forgive him.please I need your help and advice on this pressing issue of mine.
No insult please, I have cried enough. If you can't him, leave the marriage. Shikena! |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Billygee2u: 12:16am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Righteousness2:
My Sister, you have a right to be angry. Yes your husband has offended you.
But because of the Blood JESUS Christ shed on the cross of Calvary for your sins and my sins, Despite all our evil and wicked lives, Forgive him. Forget about the past.
You both should together go before GOD in Prayers. Forgive yourself and Build your Home on GOD and GOD'S Principles for the Home.
I Pray for you, the Peace of GOD that passed all human Understanding take over your life and your Home in JESUS Name.
Amen |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by femo86(m): 12:16am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Registeredguest:
I'm a lady in my mid- twenties, I got married aged 22, (always wanted to marry early) on the second year of our marriage we were blessed with a baby, parked to our house and things were rosy. I have always been a workaholic due to that I have never lack as a young lady in terms of finance.
I have always helped him in his house projects, might not be much 100k, 50k, 20k when need be. I never siphoned my money to myself, as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head, (3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)
Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that we should buy it together, I told him no, I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it, (just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller.we did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.
After some weeks, I decided to dig around his phone then I discovered that the account I sent the 600k to, refunded 200k back to my husband, woke him up instantly I demanded for an explanation.he story no make sense. I was heartbroken, for months I was hurt...the two families got involved and settled the issue.money I no see...
Ever since this issue happened,the home has not been peaceful, fighting everyday. I find it so difficult to forgive him. I insult him, he insults me, he broke my phone, I break his door...I was demanded for an apology he says
"I'm his wife, no be today man dey collect him wife money, he say woman go build house for him husband no ear no go hear" those things hurt me more... everyday was fight, I parked out,I went to my sister's place,he didn't call, he didn't reach out.
3 weeks after I parked I discovered I was pregnant,and informed him immediately through text.i stayed at my sister's place for 2 months no word from him... I decide to rent my own place,I rented a place and went to his house to park my remaining stuff,I meet him home,as soon as he sees I came with a truck to park my things he knelt down and started begging me...I was like,na today I commot for your house why now? He say he think say I dey play, he no think say I serious like this,for good two months you didn't say anything why now...with enough dragging I parked my things to my new rented apartment... since the day I park till now this man has not allowed me rest,his family members has been calling me to come back home, his dad came from the village to plead on his behalf.
My dad is insisting I should not go back...I'm now 6 months pregnant ,I need a father in my children's life.im finding it difficult to forgive him,I'm struggling within myself to forgive and trust this man again.
How can I let go of the past and move back with him...I decided to pay him a visit on Friday,he was happy I came,he did everything possible to show me he has changed but that feeling of betrayal and hurt is there.i left there this morning with querrell,I know I started the querrell,but I can't just seem to forgive him.please I need your help and advice on this pressing issue of mine.
No insult please, I have cried enough. My sister, find peace and forgive him. Go back to your home and live in peace with your children.... This part your dad is insisting.....hmmmmmmmmmmmm 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by OgatheTop: 12:17am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Registeredguest:
I'm a lady in my mid- twenties, I got married aged 22, (always wanted to marry early) on the second year of our marriage we were blessed with a baby, parked to our house and things were rosy. I have always been a workaholic due to that I have never lack as a young lady in terms of finance.
I have always helped him in his house projects, might not be much 100k, 50k, 20k when need be. I never siphoned my money to myself, as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head, (3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)
Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that we should buy it together, I told him no, I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it, (just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller.we did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.
After some weeks, I decided to dig around his phone then I discovered that the account I sent the 600k to, refunded 200k back to my husband, woke him up instantly I demanded for an explanation.he story no make sense. I was heartbroken, for months I was hurt...the two families got involved and settled the issue.money I no see...
Ever since this issue happened,the home has not been peaceful, fighting everyday. I find it so difficult to forgive him. I insult him, he insults me, he broke my phone, I break his door...I was demanded for an apology he says
"I'm his wife, no be today man dey collect him wife money, he say woman go build house for him husband no ear no go hear" those things hurt me more... everyday was fight, I parked out,I went to my sister's place,he didn't call, he didn't reach out.
3 weeks after I parked I discovered I was pregnant,and informed him immediately through text.i stayed at my sister's place for 2 months no word from him... I decide to rent my own place,I rented a place and went to his house to park my remaining stuff,I meet him home,as soon as he sees I came with a truck to park my things he knelt down and started begging me...I was like,na today I commot for your house why now? He say he think say I dey play, he no think say I serious like this,for good two months you didn't say anything why now...with enough dragging I parked my things to my new rented apartment... since the day I park till now this man has not allowed me rest,his family members has been calling me to come back home, his dad came from the village to plead on his behalf.
My dad is insisting I should not go back...I'm now 6 months pregnant ,I need a father in my children's life.im finding it difficult to forgive him,I'm struggling within myself to forgive and trust this man again.
How can I let go of the past and move back with him...I decided to pay him a visit on Friday,he was happy I came,he did everything possible to show me he has changed but that feeling of betrayal and hurt is there.i left there this morning with querrell,I know I started the querrell,but I can't just seem to forgive him.please I need your help and advice on this pressing issue of mine.
No insult please, I have cried enough. No insult huh? Ok. But you acted very foolishly. With your unforgiving, rebellious, proud, stubborn and ungodly mindset, you'll never make a good home. Your dad is a bad dad. I'm really not intending to hurt you but this is the truth. Kiss it child... 4 Likes |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Jaisman26(m): 12:18am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Registeredguest:
I'm a lady in my mid- twenties, I got married aged 22, (always wanted to marry early) on the second year of our marriage we were blessed with a baby, parked to our house and things were rosy. I have always been a workaholic due to that I have never lack as a young lady in terms of finance.
I have always helped him in his house projects, might not be much 100k, 50k, 20k when need be. I never siphoned my money to myself, as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head, (3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)
Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that we should buy it together, I told him no, I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it, (just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller.we did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.
After some weeks, I decided to dig around his phone then I discovered that the account I sent the 600k to, refunded 200k back to my husband, woke him up instantly I demanded for an explanation.he story no make sense. I was heartbroken, for months I was hurt...the two families got involved and settled the issue.money I no see...
Ever since this issue happened,the home has not been peaceful, fighting everyday. I find it so difficult to forgive him. I insult him, he insults me, he broke my phone, I break his door...I was demanded for an apology he says
"I'm his wife, no be today man dey collect him wife money, he say woman go build house for him husband no ear no go hear" those things hurt me more... everyday was fight, I parked out,I went to my sister's place,he didn't call, he didn't reach out.
3 weeks after I parked I discovered I was pregnant,and informed him immediately through text.i stayed at my sister's place for 2 months no word from him... I decide to rent my own place,I rented a place and went to his house to park my remaining stuff,I meet him home,as soon as he sees I came with a truck to park my things he knelt down and started begging me...I was like,na today I commot for your house why now? He say he think say I dey play, he no think say I serious like this,for good two months you didn't say anything why now...with enough dragging I parked my things to my new rented apartment... since the day I park till now this man has not allowed me rest,his family members has been calling me to come back home, his dad came from the village to plead on his behalf.
My dad is insisting I should not go back...I'm now 6 months pregnant ,I need a father in my children's life.im finding it difficult to forgive him,I'm struggling within myself to forgive and trust this man again.
How can I let go of the past and move back with him...I decided to pay him a visit on Friday,he was happy I came,he did everything possible to show me he has changed but that feeling of betrayal and hurt is there.i left there this morning with querrell,I know I started the querrell,but I can't just seem to forgive him.please I need your help and advice on this pressing issue of mine.
No insult please, I have cried enough. I believe your husband has learnt his lesson already because this is the first time such things happened. Please once you have married a man then learn not to dwell on the fallacies of my father or my mother says this or that. What do you want as a person!? . You only told us about your husband eating your 200k and for that you cannot forgive him as what? Tell him that act bring distrust and forgive him simple. Money has can cause a lots of troubles at between man and woman at home but believe me the communications between you and your husband has solutions to them both. That same 200k or more than that he can give you tomorrow once that same table turns around. So please forgive your husband and go back home and please don't listen to your father on this as long as your husband is not beating or leaving you for other women. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Okhuadams(m): 12:19am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Registeredguest:
I'm a lady in my mid- twenties, I got married aged 22, (always wanted to marry early) on the second year of our marriage we were blessed with a baby, parked to our house and things were rosy. I have always been a workaholic due to that I have never lack as a young lady in terms of finance.
I have always helped him in his house projects, might not be much 100k, 50k, 20k when need be. I never siphoned my money to myself, as a young lady I envisioned my pretty little family on my head, (3 children, handsome husband and pretty wife with a fine car living happily)
Now to the main problem,I think it all started when he told me he has seen a genuine plot of land that we should buy it together, I told him no, I want the land all by myself I have money to pay for it, (just want to have something tangible for myself alone) he said no problem.He sent me an account number of the seller I sent 600k to the seller.we did the necessary documents and everyone was happy.
After some weeks, I decided to dig around his phone then I discovered that the account I sent the 600k to, refunded 200k back to my husband, woke him up instantly I demanded for an explanation.he story no make sense. I was heartbroken, for months I was hurt...the two families got involved and settled the issue.money I no see...
Ever since this issue happened,the home has not been peaceful, fighting everyday. I find it so difficult to forgive him. I insult him, he insults me, he broke my phone, I break his door...I was demanded for an apology he says
"I'm his wife, no be today man dey collect him wife money, he say woman go build house for him husband no ear no go hear" those things hurt me more... everyday was fight, I parked out,I went to my sister's place,he didn't call, he didn't reach out.
3 weeks after I parked I discovered I was pregnant,and informed him immediately through text.i stayed at my sister's place for 2 months no word from him... I decide to rent my own place,I rented a place and went to his house to park my remaining stuff,I meet him home,as soon as he sees I came with a truck to park my things he knelt down and started begging me...I was like,na today I commot for your house why now? He say he think say I dey play, he no think say I serious like this,for good two months you didn't say anything why now...with enough dragging I parked my things to my new rented apartment... since the day I park till now this man has not allowed me rest,his family members has been calling me to come back home, his dad came from the village to plead on his behalf.
My dad is insisting I should not go back...I'm now 6 months pregnant ,I need a father in my children's life.im finding it difficult to forgive him,I'm struggling within myself to forgive and trust this man again.
How can I let go of the past and move back with him...I decided to pay him a visit on Friday,he was happy I came,he did everything possible to show me he has changed but that feeling of betrayal and hurt is there.i left there this morning with querrell,I know I started the querrell,but I can't just seem to forgive him.please I need your help and advice on this pressing issue of mine.
No insult please, I have cried enough. At least he didn't not cheat on you with another woman then while the self pride. Drop ur pride and go back to your husband and let him promise you it won't happen again. Father in-law beg yet you you refuse and you say I shouldn't insult you sense no dey your brain cos if sense dey your brain with all this begging you still dey make yanga and your dad is charging you up for your info ur dad don't Love you at all. And how am I sure you don't have eyes for another man already. As long as he is not abusive and a womanizer go back no come dey claim the victim. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do I Forgive Him? by Billygee2u: 12:19am On Oct 25, 2022 |
Rozross:
You readily forgive those you love without a doubting spirit. You are kind of toxic, even me that like trouble dont know how to keep grudges, before the next day as e long reach, i've forgotten that we even had issues. Marriage isnt relationship, learn to accept your partner's flaws and weaknesses and forgive them each time their weaknesses is taking it's toll on them. This one isn't even a big issue sef, its you who has been complicating things. He's sorry and begging you for forgiveness and you still dont want to forgive him, what else do you want? His head? Abeg work on your unforgiven spirit. 1 Like |
