We met on Facebook, exchanged numbers and few days down the line, she asked for a date.

Fine, I obliged, but she didn't know I'm always on Dutch mode when it comes to dates. LOL

So we got the place. A very expensive eatery. She was well-dressed but was all bleached - a big turn-off. I actually like light-skinned women, but not the bleached ones.

Okay, fine. She ordered a plate of rice, a bottle of champagne, a cup of ice-cream and three pieces of meat-pie. I began to wonder if we came for national eating competition. Anyhow sha, I ordered a plate of rice and a bottle of malt.

When it was time to pay, I paid for mine ONLY and told her to settle her bill. It led to an argument and all eyes were on us. I left the place and insisted she settled her debt.

A big lesson to all women out there. If you come across me, I won't pay a dime until you're my wife. Why should I act like I'm your husband when you aren't my wife?

And if you're a guy reading this: Spend what you're OK with and don't make yourself a fool. If you go broke tomorrow, you'll be forgotten.

PS: I'm not a redpiller and I'm not a feminist; I'm just human. Humans THINK.

Eweeh!

Chairman

What do I say

The rule of splitting the bills dictates you should tell the other person in time before the date. In your case if you both had that discussion before hand and she still chose to act dumb then you did well my young Padawan. And if you invited her out without stating going dutch but pulled this then that's a bitch move, not what a true alpha or RP will do.


NB: I see sense in what many said sha, this particular one has long throat mentality. I had a different scenario in mind

Konjiboii:
The rule of splitting the bills dictates you should tell the other person in time before the date. In your case if you both had that discussion before hand and she still chose to act dumb then you did well my young Padawan. And if you invited her out without stating going dutch but pulled this then that's a bitch move, not what a true alpha or RP will do

On a first date courtesy demands things are done in moderation because it more of holding a conversation than eating

jeff1607:


On a first date courtesy demands things are done in moderation because it more of holding a conversation than eating

Not everyone knows that,most especially Nigerian girls. So to be safe not to make a scene, always ask before the date. It's better she turns it down over the phone than come and squeeze face, a girl who truly enjoy your company will compromise no question asked.

Stop ur clot chasing stories, the lie is becoming stupid.

Babara1994:
We met on Facebook, exchanged numbers and few days down the line, she asked for a date.

Fine, I obliged, but she didn't know I'm always on Dutch mode when it comes to dates. LOL

So we got the place. A very expensive eatery. She was well-dressed but was all bleached - a big turn-off. I actually like light-skinned women, but not the bleached ones.

Okay, fine. She ordered a plate of rice, a bottle of champagne, a cup of ice-cream and three pieces of meat-pie. I began to wonder if we came for national eating competition. Anyhow sha, I ordered a plate of rice and a bottle of malt.

When it was time to pay, I paid for mine ONLY and told her to settle her bill. It led to an argument and all eyes were on us. I left the place and insisted she settled her debt.

A big lesson to all women out there. If you come across me, I won't pay a dime until you're my wife. Why should I act like I'm your husband when you aren't my wife?

And if you're a guy reading this: Spend what you're OK with and don't make yourself a fool. If you go broke tomorrow, you'll be forgotten.

Wailings of a poor wretched simp turned Redpiller wannabe so ordinary rice and ice cream is what u couldn't pay for and u are here already giving motivational advises You see why I don't take these Nairaland Broke Wretched Boys serious?

All these BJRAN (Broke and Jobless Redpillers Association of Nairaland) boys sef

I have one thing to tell you. GROW UP!

To some extend I support ur action but it childish not telling her from the beginning

Cool story from a “guy” named Barbara.

You Must be a disciple of Bobrisky.

Since she asked for a date.

It's important you state it clearly you are going dutch.

Having stated this, it's up to her to decline to come.

A date, like I get it, is supposed to be a time for conservation and getting to know each other, not stuffing the face.

While at it. It's expected that as the man, you pick up the the tab.

She is supposed to be moderate in her consumption.

In any case, you got it wrong.

Women, child and pets gets to be loved and pampered. Men get to earn their keep. What a man truly deserves, any man deserves is respect.

Men don't need love but respect.

In any case, this sad campaign against women is pointless.

It's just juvenile and myopic.

You aren't forced to do relationships.

Just stay in your lane.

I have seen women go through life transformation just to birth a life. I have seen the pains of pregnancy. A mother on her way to birth multiple kids, believe me, it ain't a freaking walk in the park.

I have seen pregnant women lose bone mass, blood, nutrients, get all lots of sicknesses at the time of gestation. How about the kicks from the babies.....

Women birth, nurture the world from the cradle to raising kids to preserving lives from the kitchen.

Men, I mean men 47 and above knows that the position of a mother should be respected.

These kids shooting their mouth about being alpha male and being a redpiller just need to grow up.

They need to take a breather

Wine, rice three meatpies and ice cream.. while you took malt?

U no even sabi lie well

jeff1607:


On a first date courtesy demands things are done in moderation because it more of holding a conversation than eating

In as much as I'm not in support of her ordering what she can't afford, I'll advice that in case of next time do the ordering yourself. If. It's rice and malt you want, order for 2 plates, if she isn't cool with you making orders for her, or wants more food after devouring the full plate within minutes, tell her openly that she should get ready to pay for whatever you didn't order for.

That way you can easily stick to your budget. Most of these social media girls are hungrier then a church rat, if you give them the opportunity to choose whatever they want, they'll end up disgracing their family, cos even orphans who have no families don't display their kind of greed and hunger.

Godada:


Since she asked for a date.

It's important you state it clearly you are going dutch.

Having stated this, it's up to her to decline to come.

A date, like I get it, is supposed to be a time for conservation and getting to know each other, not stuffing the face.

While at it. It's expected that as the man, you pick up the the tab.

She is supposed to be moderate in her consumption.

In any case, you got it wrong.

Women, child and pets gets to be loved and pampered. Men get to earn their keep. What a man truly deserves, any man deserves is respect.

Men don't need love but respect.

In any case, this sad campaign against women is pointless.

It's just juvenile and myopic.

You aren't forced to do relationships.

Just stay in your lane.

I have seen women go through life transformation just to birth a life. I have seen the pains of pregnancy. A mother on her way to birth multiple kids, believe me, it ain't a freaking walk in the park.

I have seen pregnant women lose bone mass, blood, nutrients, get all lots of sicknesses at the time of gestation. How about the kicks from the babies.....

Women birth, nurture the world from the cradle to raising kids to preserving lives from the kitchen.

Men, I mean men 47 and above knows that the position of a mother should be respected.

These kids shooting their mouth about being alpha male and being a redpiller just need to grow up.

They need to take a breather.

all this you quoted falls under marriage..what happened to being moderate with your orders..does she have to show case her glutony..such a distatse for a partner..ladies needs to read the room..you cant just lead a man on a date and take lead at the food on the table..

Baba you did excellently well... Personally, gluttonous ladies are big turn off for me, what da fvck is she doing with Rice, Ice cream, pies and champagne at a go?? It is simply because she ain't the one paying for it, it's an avenue to know eachother and not to showcase eating skills...!!

Tho I know this didn't happen but I'm just laying my opinion based on general assumptions, ignore every simps saying otherwise, you are a lady doesn't mean you deserve everything from a man...!!

That 'i can't spend on a woman that's isn't my wife' is very wrong. Lines of an irresponsible man in the making.
Imagine during courtship you don't take care of her. In marriage it will be worse cuz you've subconsciously condition your mind not to meet her needs deliberately.
Though there is limit for everything.

capetownboyz:
all this you quoted falls under marriage..what happened to being moderate with your orders..does she have to show case her glutony..such a distatse for a partner..ladies needs to read the room..you cant just lead a man on a date and take lead at the food on the table..

If you actually read all I wrote, you would see this

Godada:





A date, like I get it, is supposed to be a time for conservation and getting to know each other, not stuffing the face.

While at it. It's expected that as the man, you pick up the the tab.

She is supposed to be moderate in her consumption.

In any case, you got it wrong.

Medianna:
That 'i can't spend on a woman that's isn't my wife' is very wrong. Lines of an irresponsible man in the making.
Imagine during courtship you don't take care of her. In marriage it will be worse cuz you've subconsciously condition your mind not to meet her needs deliberately.
Though there is limit for everything.

responsible men are the type that don't give a damn trying to please a woman that's not your wife. She could leave you anytime and jump into another available client. The irresponsible ones are the one's that will do everything to please a woman forgetting the commitment or cash could be channelled to something reasonable like investment or save enough to grow as a man.

Wotoporiously speaking

That hoe came to eat, know this and know Peace, the bitch have been watching too many romantic Nollywood movies she wanna practice what she's been learning on TV in real life, forgetting that you're the executive commissioner for the Redpill movement..

I salute you, you're a real niggar

Those hoes ain't loyal so they're not worth my time and sweat.

Note; if you're a lady and you wanna come slide with a gee, make sure you keep it real to the bone or risk making a mockery of your sorry ass cuz most of you don't know how to conduct yourselves in public, for goodness sake it's a first date, at least act like the queen of England you pretend to be by your appearance, "Can you imagine she was even arguing because of rice and ice cream" a hungry ass hoe acting like queen Elizabeth, why didn't she pay for it then? Must you cause a scene in public cuz of common food...

Nigeria girls, Tueh!! They're just wired to food and material things... This mofos just be using dates to choose where they wanna eat their next meal, WTF

Y'all should grow the Bleep up, it's late already and we outside.

AfroKnight:
Cool story from a “guy” named Barbara.

You Must be a disciple of Bobrisky.

danietohbadt:
Eweeh!

Hahaha

Sheistoopretty:



Wailing soft a poor wretched simp turned Redpiller wannabe so ordinary rice and ice cream is what u couldn't pay for and u are here already giving motivational advises

All these BJRAN (Broke and Jobless Redpillers Association of Nairaland) boys sef

I have one thing to tell you. GROW UP!

It really pain you why?

I don't know why as a Nigerian man you Will be taking a Nigeria girl to date to them , they are not interested in your convo ,they are only there for food, nothing else

Konjiboii:
The rule of splitting the bills dictates you should tell the other person in time before the date. In your case if you both had that discussion before hand and she still chose to act dumb then you did well my young Padawan. And if you invited her out without stating going dutch but pulled this then that's a bitch move, not what a true alpha or RP will do

Why would anybody go to a restaurant assuming the next person will pay for wateva they eat.....

Thats how a man carried a lady to restaurant bab ordered one pie and malt..u order 25k spaghetti.....some women think they are wise..

once there's no prior agreement from both ends.....both parties should give each other brain and moderately order what they can afford....

AfroKnight:
Cool story from a “guy” named Barbara.

You Must be a disciple of Bobrisky.

Na Babara....

Babara na yoruba name naaa.......full name is oluwaseunbabara....God has done something wondrous

Medianna:
That 'i can't spend on a woman that's isn't my wife' is very wrong. Lines of an irresponsible man in the making.
Imagine during courtship you don't take care of her. In marriage it will be worse cuz you've subconsciously condition your mind not to meet her needs deliberately.
Though there is limit for everything.

Lemme get this...
According to you, a man who refuses to spend on a woman that is not his wife is irresponsible? ...

What a load of crap! ...
So because there's a woman in my life, I'll start spending upandan ba? Wehdone o ....

This is a very cheap form of emotional blackmail ...
If thats the case, i would rather be seen as irresponsible by YOUR DEFINITION, than "responsibly" take care of a woman that's not my wife ...


You're of the opinion that if he can't spend on her during courtship, he'll be worse during marriage right?

Lemme borrow your logic for a second ...
If she can't wash his clothes during courtship, she'll be worse during marriage...

If she can't clean the house during courtship, she'll be worse during marriage...

If she can't cook his meals during courtship, then she'll be worse during marriage...

I hope we can agree that this is fair, unless you're one of those hypocrite running around with an entitled mentality ....

@OP...
This matter get as e be o...
But that girl is 100% legit on the wrong ...

First and foremost...
I've always known that the one who invites a person on a date is the one who clears the bills unless agreed otherwise....

The girl invited you, and thus courtesy demands that she pays for it...

Secondly...
A date (especially the first date) is a time where you get to know a person, not a time to showcase your greed...

If she was the one paying for them, then it's alright (it's her cash), but she placing such orders without any consideration of your financial prowess is not only insensitive, but it's disgusting, yikes ....

And what's even more disgusting is that females are coming up here to support such behavior, chei!!! Cheap folks, those lot supporting her are ...

A word of advice to the ladies...
Please before you come on a date EAT WELL!!
Don't come and be acting like a gluttonous orphan who hasn't eaten for 2weeks, it's disgusting!!

Konjiboii:
The rule of splitting the bills dictates you should tell the other person in time before the date. In your case if you both had that discussion before hand and she still chose to act dumb then you did well my young Padawan. And if you invited her out without stating going dutch but pulled this then that's a bitch move, not what a true alpha or RP will do

Ose!

jeff1607:


On a first date courtesy demands things are done in moderation because it more of holding a conversation than eating

Na moderate eating she eat naaaa
She never begin eat naaa
Na appetizer she just eat.
Gluttons everywhere.

Sheistoopretty:



Wailing soft a poor wretched simp turned Redpiller wannabe so ordinary rice and ice cream is what u couldn't pay for and u are here already giving motivational advises

All these BJRAN (Broke and Jobless Redpillers Association of Nairaland) boys sef

I have one thing to tell you. GROW UP!

If her dad took her out will she take those things without his permission.
See how Dj cuppy was crying the other day how she asked for something her father didn't mind her but on her birthday the father gave her 3 million pounds.
When you want something from someone you have to be patient because you may not get it that time maybe later.
You will do all these things yet they will still cheat on you and go on to the next guy.
It is not about being broke.

Medianna:
That 'i can't spend on a woman that's isn't my wife' is very wrong. Lines of an irresponsible man in the making.
Imagine during courtship you don't take care of her. In marriage it will be worse cuz you've subconsciously condition your mind not to meet her needs deliberately.
Though there is limit for everything.

Someone he met first day, you're not serious you are just a hungry girl.

lolzzzz...
person order what she can't pay for