Medianna:

I never said what she did was right?
I only corrected that impression of him thinking he can't spend on a woman who is not his wife.
Imagine a lady being with a guy for 2 years and a kobo of the guy has not entered her hand.
What do you think will happen to such woman when she eventually married the guy?

This is a wrong relationship style operating here in Nigeria only.
In other places around the world, the lady is working and catering for herself with her own money she earns.
Or she gets money from her parents for her needs.
Her boyfriend only dashes her any amount of money from time to time anytime he feels like.
You 9ja women operate relationship in a different way here.
There is a reorientation going on sha.
A woman you have not married is not your responsibility.
NO SPENDING ON HER.

Medianna:

Abeg carry your bittered self and go

Dating is not an employment, if you're broke get a job and work

Babara1994:
We met on Facebook, exchanged numbers and few days down the line, she asked for a date.

Fine, I obliged, but she didn't know I'm always on Dutch mode when it comes to dates. LOL

So we got the place. A very expensive eatery. She was well-dressed but was all bleached - a big turn-off. I actually like light-skinned women, but not the bleached ones.

Okay, fine. She ordered a plate of rice, a bottle of champagne, a cup of ice-cream and three pieces of meat-pie. I began to wonder if we came for national eating competition. Anyhow sha, I ordered a plate of rice and a bottle of malt.

When it was time to pay, I paid for mine ONLY and told her to settle her bill. It led to an argument and all eyes were on us. I left the place and insisted she settled her debt.

A big lesson to all women out there. If you come across me, I won't pay a dime until you're my wife. Why should I act like I'm your husband when you aren't my wife?

And if you're a guy reading this: Spend what you're OK with and don't make yourself a fool. If you go broke tomorrow, you'll be forgotten.

PS: I'm not a redpiller and I'm not a feminist; I'm just human. Humans THINK.

You should be sued. You are the entitled one here. Dutch payment dictates you let the other party know prior . Haba. See your mouth like ** I like fair girls* Well let this be a lesson for all girls in the dating pool, take ur cash n order what you can conveniently pay for if he wants to be a dunce. N then move on. See why you all should work abi . Na this kind one go enter marriage and use money as a tool for control.

seanwilliam:


No offense, but for you to say this, It’s either you’re an orphan or ôlosho or handicap or you come from a wretched family. And going by your pics , I’ll go with the bolded. Nonsense!

Mtsw

Fiscus105:



Capital yes ma. God knows I will eat and the appreciation will come from bottom of my heart.

Though, I will eat and drink in moderation and not like hungry lion �

Lol... Wow! That's a surprise
Most guys i know doesn't like that

Amosaloud:
@OP, I just have one question for you. How did she ask you out on a date?
Was it
A) When are you free, let me take you out?

OR

B) Won't you take me out?

They have different meanings o

Baby I'm boring let hang out nah.........

Where?

Sheraton hotel.......

Sheistoopretty:



Wailings of a poor wretched simp turned Redpiller wannabe so ordinary rice and ice cream is what u couldn't pay for and u are here already giving motivational advises

All these BJRAN (Broke and Jobless Redpillers Association of Nairaland) boys sef

I have one thing to tell you. GROW UP!

how many date u don fund

Medianna:

What did i say that is different from what you're saying?

You said a man is irresponsible for not
beginning to take care of his woman before
marriage and that he will become worse when he marries her.
All around the world, that is not how relationship operates.
A South-African lady made a video recently blasting Nigerian ladies
for making love all about money. She said the wrong concept
is noticed in Nigerian guys living there in South Africa.

Medianna:
That 'i can't spend on a woman that's isn't my wife' is very wrong. Lines of an irresponsible man in the making.
Imagine during courtship you don't take care of her. In marriage it will be worse cuz you've subconsciously condition your mind not to meet her needs deliberately.
Though there is limit for everything.

As in ehn very irresponsible men in the making. I just pity his wife with his long mouth, I like fair girls not the bleached ones and yet you can't pay for food bills. He will jam n chow breakfast

Sweetvie:
Lol... Wow! That's a surprise
Most guys i know doesn't like that

You know I'm different from so many naija guys.


Most like to impress even beyond their means and most melt beyond irripearable at sight of skirts.

GoooodHardDick:


Dating is not an employment, if you're broke get a job and work

Now that you've started talking like an intellectual someone lemme respond.
If you check well my comment has nothing to do with him paying the bills or not.
I only said he should be able to take care of a woman before marriage not after marriage.
Cuz he may get used to not doing anything for her, even after marriage he will not do anything.
And men that can't take care of their family are irresponsible.
Please read again oga!

Medianna:

What did i say that is different from what you're saying?

STFU. A boyfriend isn't supposed to be giving his girlfriend any amount at all. Like why on earth must he give you money? Are you his mother or sister?

What is wrong with you Nigeria girls? If you're expecting him to pay for for the sex you even enjoyed more then you're a prostitute and a runz girl.

Dating is not an employment. You should not be maintained by the guy you are dating. If you're broke. Get a job, not a boyfriend. Stop being a liability and a parasite

CheapHomes1:


you obviously didnt read the story. who invited who out? why didnt the lady tell the guy that shes hungry and that she is going to eat like a glutton?

You obviously didn't read what I responded to nor did you read what I actually wrote. When you've had your breakfast read them again.

ExudeLoveToAll:



It was the other way round, she invited the dude.

Am sorry then for what I wrote earlier. She must be stupid then.

Babara1994:
We met on Facebook, exchanged numbers and few days down the line, she asked for a date.

Fine, I obliged, but she didn't know I'm always on Dutch mode when it comes to dates. LOL

So we got the place. A very expensive eatery. She was well-dressed but was all bleached - a big turn-off. I actually like light-skinned women, but not the bleached ones.

Okay, fine. She ordered a plate of rice, a bottle of champagne, a cup of ice-cream and three pieces of meat-pie. I began to wonder if we came for national eating competition. Anyhow sha, I ordered a plate of rice and a bottle of malt.

When it was time to pay, I paid for mine ONLY and told her to settle her bill. It led to an argument and all eyes were on us. I left the place and insisted she settled her debt.

A big lesson to all women out there. If you come across me, I won't pay a dime until you're my wife. Why should I act like I'm your husband when you aren't my wife?

And if you're a guy reading this: Spend what you're OK with and don't make yourself a fool. If you go broke tomorrow, you'll be forgotten.

PS: I'm not a redpiller and I'm not a feminist; I'm just human. Humans THINK.

Only if I had this kind of mentality from d beginning....

Medianna:
That 'i can't spend on a woman that's isn't my wife' is very wrong. Lines of an irresponsible man in the making.
Imagine during courtship you don't take care of her. In marriage it will be worse cuz you've subconsciously condition your mind not to meet her needs deliberately.
Though there is limit for everything.

I would agree with you.

But would you also agree with me that she has to come to my house to cook and clean as well?

Wow!

Don't know what to tell you...

She also see you as a rich guy on Facebook, reaching physical you come fall her hands, well me I would behave gentle and pay then cut whatever we had together

Gandrova:
Must you invite a lady if you don't have the Benjamin little kid ?

common to read hard you and you calling me a kid? The hungry hoelowsho initiated the move for a date and started ordering food like the starved Ho she is..
Little twatt . No be Benjamin Na dead president

MNDY:


You said a man is irresponsible for not
beginning to take care of his woman before
marriage and that he will become worse when he marries her.
All around the world, that is not how relationship operates.
A South-African lady made a video recently blasting Nigerian ladies
for making love all about money. She said the wrong concept
is noticed in Nigerian guys living there in South Africa.

Baba.
No. I said any man that has the mentality of 'i can't spend on a woman who is not my wife' will be an irresponsible husband because he will not spend on her when he married her.
Spending doesn't mean he should go and take care of her generational problems.

Sweetvie:
Lemme ask you... If a lady take you out on a date... Like first meeting, first date and she said she is paying... You gonna allow her?

Why won't I allow her

Once she's the one who asked me out for a date, it means she is in love with me and should put her money where her heart is. Men have been doing that since time immemorial, so in this era of gender equality, we want to change the game.

Since the female gender have gained equal economic opportunities with their male counterparts, it is only fair for the rules of sexual relationship to change. If we fail to change the rules, we'll be creating a chaotic society where men would have to indulge in all kinds of illegal deals to meet up, including killing their girlfriends for money rituals. I'm sure you wouldn't want such a situation.

Medianna:

Baba.
No. I said any man that has the mentality of 'i can't spend on a woman who is not my wife' will be an irresponsible husband because he will not spend on her when he married her.
Spending doesn't mean he should go and take care of her generational problems.

Dating is not employment. You should not be maintained by the guy you are dating. If you're broke, get a job, not a boyfriend. If you say "love is caring", why must it be your boyfriend that must care financially for you? If you really believe that, why can't you financially care for him too? Do you hate him? Stop this Jezebelic manipulations. It is called entitlement mentality!

Fiscus105:




You know I'm different from so many naija guys.


Most like to impress even beyond their means and most melt beyond irripearable at sight of skirts.

This is not abt impressing anyone, you know. I don't know how you feel comfortable eating but I won't

LordReed:


You obviously didn't read what I responded to nor did you read what I actually wrote. When you've had your breakfast read them again.

since you have had your breakfast, am surprised you cant answer the questions i asked.

you obviously didnt read the story. who invited who out? why didnt the lady tell the guy that shes hungry and that she is going to eat like a glutton?

Sweetnesstwins:
This reminds me of a true life story...
This happens in yenagoa, a church...during the bible school break, a guy who took interest in a lady decided to take her out during the break, she now tag her friend along...beside the church, there's a eatery, and they do barbeque also, they went to get a barbeque, the babe the guy was interested in was now pointing the big fish there, and the friend was like tapping her, no na what if he didn't have money on him for that, the lady was like I don't care, he is the one that took us out...to cut the long story short, he dished the one he was interested in, and married her friend.

Na so!
You didn't complete your "true life story",by telling us he married the friend the next week and the original lady he ditched found out the guy was highly loaded and was just testing her.
Just because one was telling the other one she should be careful with her ordering now makes her wife material and be married,from your cock and bull story?

Jman06:
Why won't I allow her

Once she's the one who asked me out for a date, it means she is in love with me and should put her money where her heart is. Men have been doing that since time immemorial, so in this era of gender equality, we want to change the game.

Since the female gender have gained equal economic opportunities with their male counterparts, it is only fair for the rules of sexual relationship to change. If we fail to change the rules, they'll be creating a chaotic society where men would have to indulge in all kinds of illegal deals to meet up, including killing their girlfriends for money rituals. I'm sure you wouldn't want such a situation.

Lol... What happened to being a gentleman?
But op case is different
He intentionally disgrace her

StrongAlphMale:


Dating is not employment. You should not be maintained by the guy you are dating. If you're broke, get a job, not a boyfriend. If you say "love is caring", why must it be your boyfriend that must care financially for you? If you really believe that, why can't you financially care for him too? Do you hate him? Stop this Jezebelic manipulations. It is called entitlement mentality!

You're the one tryna twist my words oo
What does a husband do?
Is it to be dashing wife money?
Its just like a cheating before marriage. Do you expect faithfulness after marriage?

Medianna:

I never said what she did was right?
I only corrected that impression of him thinking he can't spend on a woman who is not his wife.
Imagine a lady being with a guy for 2 years and a kobo of the guy has not entered her hand.
What do you think will happen to such woman when she eventually married the guy?

Why do you all always think of collecting than giving?

In your illustration if you set an example of giving will it be bad?

Relationship is partnership and not sole proprietorship. It is symbiotic and not parasitic.

vislabraye:


If I take a lady to date, I insist on paying for our meals.
It's a normal thing to do. What you should have done is to tell her where you want to go.

as a lady, its also the normal thing not to eat like a glutton or someone who is experiencing famine just because you arent the one picking up the bills

Sweetvie:
Lol... What happened to being a gentleman?
But op case is different
He intentionally disgrace her

It is not bad if you become the "gentlewoman"


Op didn't disgrace her, she was the one who asks to take him out on a date and so, she should bear the cost.

Dtygz:


You kuku dun blind, show us where he invited her.

so u bliv d op saying she asked for a date