CrateofBeer:



If she's starving she won't be making full bottle of champagne orders and ice cream. She would have ordered what will fill her stomach alone and a bottle of carbonated drink. But no! Here's an avenue to eat deep into somebody else's pocket. Definitely that's her normal behavior.

And there's nothing childish about what the guy did by telling her to pay for what she ordered. Because she definitely make the orders without using her brain. Next time she's going on a date with someone she's meeting for the first time she will learn to be civil. He didn't disgrace her, he only ask her to pay for her reckless orders.

Men need to stop enabling this kind of gutter behavior

Wo
I don rest
You guys win lol but ain't gonna applause the op he is clearly childish
And the girl is just plain stupid... Trying to form classic. Anyhoo, both the girl and the guy is balderdash

Godada:



Since she asked for a date.

It's important you state it clearly you are going dutch.

Having stated this, it's up to her to decline to come.

A date, like I get it, is supposed to be a time for conservation and getting to know each other, not stuffing the face.

While at it. It's expected that as the man, you pick up the the tab.

She is supposed to be moderate in her consumption.

In any case, you got it wrong.

Women, child and pets gets to be loved and pampered. Men get to earn their keep. What a man truly deserves, any man deserves is respect.

Men don't need love but respect.

In any case, this sad campaign against women is pointless.

It's just juvenile and myopic.

You aren't forced to do relationships.

Just stay in your lane.

I have seen women go through life transformation just to birth a life. I have seen the pains of pregnancy. A mother on her way to birth multiple kids, believe me, it ain't a freaking walk in the park.

I have seen pregnant women lose bone mass, blood, nutrients, get all lots of sicknesses at the time of gestation. How about the kicks from the babies.....

Women birth, nurture the world from the cradle to raising kids to preserving lives from the kitchen.

Men, I mean men 47 and above knows that the position of a mother should be respected.

These kids shooting their mouth about being alpha male and being a redpiller just need to grow up.

They need to take a breather

What utter moronic nonsense.

Why are you not saying "since she asked for a date, she should have paid for the date"? Is that not the lame arguments these selfish feminist try to latch on when they want it to be a duty that men pay for dates and continue treating them special, while they hate on men? They will say "who ever asked for a date/to go out should pay"; not like if these fuckers pay for their girlfriends they asked to come out.

It is lapdogs like you that turned these women to be maximally selfish and think they should have zero accountability.

You let them think all they are entitled to in life are privileges, security and rights; while the man should be entitled to and solely get to bare the sacrifices, risks and accountabilities of the engagement.

Now, you lapdogs all in the desperation to be labelled "Real Man" have created modern women that want the powers of men, the privileges of women and the accountabilities of children!

Yes, as a man, it might be traditionally expected and be nice to pick up the bill, but the woman should not assume it is her right and should ensure the date was worth your time with her decorum, manners, considerate and conversations (aka good company at the date). If she cannot bring that to the table, and/or she is a feminist, let her gaddam pay for herself.

"Real Men" like you are the people that have turned the women we have today into mostly trash:

https://www.nairaland.com/1063074/some-girls-such-bore/1#12487265

Motherfuckers will come for date and expect the guy to create conversation and pay; while she sits her silly ass there taking pictures for instagram and be boring as fck.

As for what she goes through giving birth, what the fck is a guy's business with that moronic point?

That is her problem with whomever the fck she lets impregnate her; not a guy taking her out on a date. Why did you bring that moronic lapdog point up ffs?

Irrespective of age, men should respect women who respect themselves and the man. Don't be advocating automatic privileges, security and rights. Let it be fcking earned!

Modern women need to fcking up their game and stop this selfishness and sense of entitlement.

Konjiboii:
The rule of splitting the bills dictates you should tell the other person in time before the date. In your case if you both had that discussion before hand and she still chose to act dumb then you did well my young Padawan. And if you invited her out without stating going dutch but pulled this then that's a bitch move, not what a true alpha or RP will do.


NB: I see sense in what many said sha, this particular one has long throat mentality. I had a different scenario in mind

See all wetin she order, on her own would she order such thing? what is she doing ordering 3 meat pie after a plate of rice?.Nah Hunger dey catch her.

Sweetvie:
Wo
I don rest
You guys win lol but ain't gonna applause the op he is clearly childish
And the girl is just plain stupid... Trying to form classic. Anyhoo, both the girl and the guy is balderdash

nah that's not being childish ,that's teaching a person a lesson and sending a very strong message, next time that woman will think well b4 ordering on a date. In the Caribbean they say as a woman you must go to a date with VEX Money.

jeff1607:


On a first date courtesy demands things are done in moderation because it more of holding a conversation than eating

If she took permission from you and you gave her the nod to order those stuff, you have no biz complaining about courtsey.

That's immature of you.
My chic and I always discuss how we want the bills to be paid each time we go on a date.

Sweetvie:
Wo
I don rest
You guys win lol but ain't gonna applause the op he is clearly childish
And the girl is just plain stupid... Trying to form classic. Anyhoo, both the girl and the guy is balderdash

Exactly, OP is childish. The intent to do evil was obvious

erico2k2:

nah that's not being childish ,that's teaching a person a lesson and sending a very strong message, next time that woman will think well b4 ordering on a date. In the Caribbean they say as a woman you must go to a date with VEX Money.

well, I guess so
Am sure she have learnt her lesson.

phemmyfour:
Exactly, OP is childish. The intent to do evil was obvious

Finally, someone get my point
He clearly did it intentionally

Kenneth10110:



responsible men are the type that don't give a damn trying to please a woman that's not your wife. She could leave you anytime and jump into another available client. The irresponsible ones are the one's that will do everything to please a woman forgetting the commitment or cash could be channelled to something reasonable like investment or save enough to grow as a man.

Very well said!

FashionCookie:

Please don't let me laugh...Men don't enjoy sex you say? I'll leave that matter 4 another day.
But you see that spending aspect? Just forget it bros...it's here to stay.
Na normal thing. Man no dey wise(let me not use sense)for where women dey.

If men no dey wise where women dey, why una dey vex if we cheat?

dontrulee:
As for me, if you're insisting on a date with me, I'll tell you the bills are on you!

Interestingly, I only say this jokingly but in my experience, more than ten girls have agreed and they paid my bills but surely I pay them back times two after we leave.

Summary: ladies can pay bills for the man they love, don't be a fool and waste money on a lady that will dump you without thinking twice when the chips are down!

Damn right!

Most women would for guys they like.

It is the ones they don't like they create rules and expectations for; and would discard if he falls out of the boundaries. These are mainly the lapdogs who like women to call them "Real Men".

Konjiboii:


Not everyone knows that,most especially Nigerian girls. So to be safe not to make a scene, always ask before the date. It's better she turns it down over the phone than come and squeeze face, a girl who truly enjoy your company will compromise no question asked.

So guys should now be held accountable for the ignorance of Nigerian ladies ?

You don’t have any reason to blame the guy in the first place. Even on a free table, eat what you can afford.

Sheistoopretty:



Wailings of a poor wretched simp turned Redpiller wannabe so ordinary rice and ice cream is what u couldn't pay for and u are here already giving motivational advises You see why I don't take these Nairaland Broke Wretched Boys serious?

All these BJRAN (Broke and Jobless Redpillers Association of Nairaland) boys sef

I have one thing to tell you. GROW UP!

A typical Low life speaking…..I bet you will do the same like the girl in question. How could any reasonable girl order 3 meat pie plus a plate of rice on a first date?


By their comments we shall know them

MadarasBlade:


If men no dey wise where women dey, why una dey vex if we cheat?

You no go fit wise pass woman.
Are you happy if your wife/girlfriend cheats?
Why am I even asking? We see them coming here to create topics and cry every now and then.
No forget say na wetin woman do man dey pain pass...

CheapHomes1:


[b]as a lady, its also the normal thing not to eat like a glutton [/b]or someone who is experiencing famine just because you arent the one picking up the bills

Absolutely!!

Such gluttonous behaviours are a turn off for me. Some ladies don't just respect themselves. They even bring their friends on the date as well.
But that aside, by default i'm usually the one to pay for the date. That's why I choose where to go.

3 questions for you
1. Was she able to consume all those things?
2. Why did not watch her order for all of that? you should have said something or ask a question to help her manage her order/appetite
3. For real? no hospitality until you put a ring? - lol, how achievable?

Medianna:
That 'i can't spend on a woman that's isn't my wife' is very wrong. Lines of an irresponsible man in the making.
Imagine during courtship you don't take care of her. In marriage it will be worse cuz you've subconsciously condition your mind not to meet her needs deliberately.
Though there is limit for everything.

Why do you make me love you everyday?

Sheistoopretty:



Wailings of a poor wretched simp turned Redpiller wannabe so ordinary rice and ice cream is what u couldn't pay for and u are here already giving motivational advises You see why I don't take these Nairaland Broke Wretched Boys serious?

All these BJRAN (Broke and Jobless Redpillers Association of Nairaland) boys sef

I have one thing to tell you. GROW UP!

Spermatozoa don block this mumu brain

Bro I support what you did 100% ..it's not about been a broke guy,it's about self respect and modesty.
The lady acted like and I never chop babe..and where is it written that a man should be responsible for everything while dating or marrying a woman?..come and take me out this that..how many ladies have taken their men out to spoil him? This nonsense only happen in Africa where they believe men should shoulder all the responsibilities..that is one of the reasons they die untimely...thinking of this or that..
How can you be having a date with a guy for the first time requesting for all that?are we in eating competition.?.nonsense.even if as a man I have the money..I won't pay..she is grade one stupid lady.

Poor ass bitch. I support you bro with my full kidney. Damnn the devil

AfroKnight:
Cool story from a “guy” named Barbara.

You Must be a disciple of Bobrisky.

Babara is not the same thing as Barbara.
Learn how to read carefully and stop showing how much of Buhari’s lazy youths syndrome you have.

bonnyhope:

You disgraced that lady
In African culture, men pay the bills
Let us always stick to the tradition

Is tradition static?
When did this particular tradition start, by who

Medianna:
That 'i can't spend on a woman that's isn't my wife' is very wrong. Lines of an irresponsible man in the making.
Imagine during courtship you don't take care of her. In marriage it will be worse cuz you've subconsciously condition your mind not to meet her needs deliberately.
Though there is limit for everything.

You are actually wrong, it is an irresponsible men that spends excessively on frivolous things which includes ordinary girl on a date, those are the type of men that will spend outside while people at home suffers.
Unfortunately this are the type of men todays women run after and complain about how financially irresponsible their husband is.

In as much as I blame the lady for ordering too much, I don't like it when guys invite a lady out on a date and when it's time to pay, you pay for yours and insist she pays for hers. It doesn't make you dumb or smarter. As a man, there are some things you just do and comot face even if the babe do pass herself. You go just know say there won't be a next time. But not leaving her out to dry. It's not cool. We need to do better guys. And also as a man, you should be the one to pick the venue for dates that you know you can afford their meals.

phemmyfour:
If she took permission from you and you gave her the nod to order those stuff, you have no biz complaining about courtsey.

That's immature of you.
My chic and I always discuss how we want the bills to be paid each time we go on a date.

Bro if you understand what class is , you won’t be saying this, same as the word “courtesy “ this is a first date , a properly raised lady who isn’t coming from a hungry home don’t do so even when allowed to on a first date .

They are trying to know each other, it is more of a conversation than eating, but one can’t converse on an empty stomach doesn’t mean she should order the whole world. This is the reason some kids tend to disgrace parents when on outings, even if you are allowed to order the whole world , courtesy demands you do so in moderation. when you go for a business buffet on the bill of another firm will you go about making orders like one’s life depends on it?

When a lady or man behaves like this in public one would just know where the person is from.

jeff1607:


Bro if you understand what class is , you won’t be saying this, same as the word “courtesy “ this is a first date , a properly raised lady who isn’t coming from a hungry home don’t do so even when allowed to on a first date .

They are trying to know each other, it is more of a conversation than eating, but one can’t converse on an empty stomach doesn’t mean she should order the whole world. This is the reason some kids tend to disgrace parents when on outings, even if you are allowed to order the whole world , courtesy demands you do so in moderation. when you go for a business buffet on the bill of another firm will you go about making orders like one’s life depends on it?

When a lady or man behaves like this in public one would just know where the person is from.

If you can communicate about date , time and venue, nothing stops you from communicating about how you think the bills should be shared. Only mischievous and immature guys behave that way.

There is no law anywhere that determines what should be order on a date whether first time or not. In fact it's deception and not courtesy if you didn't order what you like cos it's the first date

How can someone drink garri at home just to get on a date and start drinking champagne she knows she can't buy for herself

phemmyfour:
If you can communicate about date , time and venue, nothing stops you from communicating about how you think the bills should be shared. Only mischievous and immature guys behave that way.

There is no law anywhere that determines what should be order on a date whether first time or not. In fact it's deception and not courtesy if you didn't order what you like cos it's the first date

It is normal for a man to pick up the bills but if you start discussing about what you stated in your first paragraph then it’s no longer a conversation for romance it is now a business.

You still don’t get it sir , no one is limiting a lady in choosing what she wants to eat and it is not like the man won’t pay but it leaves a bad taste and shows character when someone orders for what they originally can’t afford, say for instance on a first date a lady eats a whole serving, orders for some to be eaten and still wants more take home package ;what kind of impression does this sort of lady gives you?

Before romance you need to know your partner(those saying it was a man who brought her out of her home) dating is part of a process , there are steps , the man needs it just the same as the lady needs it unless she’s betrothed to another.

phemmyfour:
Exactly, OP is childish. The intent to do evil was obvious

Experience is harsh teacher. I guess you'al also have learnt something!


Behave yourself moderately in public places, Simple!

Eyanbahose:
This is great. Love it.

Anyway, when last did you use an oraimo ear buds?

How much is the oriamo earbud?

incandescentena:


Experience is harsh teacher. I guess you'al also have learnt something!


Behave yourself moderately in public places, Simple!

Learn to grow up....you ain't better than the girl

jeff1607:


It is normal for a man to pick up the bills but if you start discussing about what you stated in your first paragraph then it’s no longer a conversation for romance it is now a business.

You still don’t get it sir , no one is limiting a lady in choosing what she wants to eat and it is not like the man won’t pay but it leaves a bad taste and shows character when someone orders for what they originally can’t afford, say for instance on a first date a lady eats a whole serving, orders for some to be eaten and still wants more take home package ;what kind of impression does this sort of lady gives you?

Before romance you need to know your partner(those saying it was a man who brought her out of her home) dating is part of a process , there are steps , the man needs it just the same as the lady needs it unless she’s betrothed to another.

It is better you check the meaning of a DATE from the dictionary. Knowing each other better is the reason for hanging out not romance. You should be discussing anything and everything. You don't know anything about her, she doesn't know anything about you..... that's what DATE addresses not romance