I don't know the young lady that needs to hear this, but really stop. The 30+ single women ended up that way because they kept dating and dating and now they're begging their boyfriends to marry them. This won't have happened if they kept themselves open to options. Don't date. When you're ready to marry, you can do a courtship of six months or less

A man sees a young single girl of about 18 years and above. The selfish being knows he is not ready to marry. Instead of focusing on his life and making money and becoming successful, he will decide to string the naïve girl with promises of marriage. That's how the girl will start hoping year after year, waiting for the man to bend a knee and ask the question. Year after year she gets older, time is passing her by. It's worse for the loyal ones, those who don't cheat because they're ultimately stuck with the time waster. Very soon, with persistent cries from her parents, mothers especially, she begins to pester the man, asking him when he is coming to see her parents. The man starts to see her as desperate, someone he promised marriage. She becomes the topic of discussion with his friends. "Girls no dey reason o, how she expect say we go marry, me wey still dey struggle." They didn't remember they're struggling when they were pestering your life to accept the miserable relationship where they were widening your down below for nothing.

Stop dating! If a man asks for a relationship, refuse. If he promises you marriage, ask when and ensure no sexual relationship exists within that time so no one gets hurt. Be assertive. Let him know nothing is happening until after the wedding. Men will want to cajole you, force you to shift your stance. When you think of compromising, also think of how you'll be 30+ begging for a marriage that may never happen. Don't let this men take you for a fool. Use your youth wisely.

JoeRusson:

Stop dating! If a man asks for a relationship, refuse. If he promises you marriage, ask when and ensure no sexual relationship exists within that time so no one gets hurt. Be assertive. Let him know nothing is happening until after the wedding. Men will want to cajole you, force you to shift your stance. When you think of compromising, also think of how you'll be 30+ begging for a marriage that may never happen. Don't let this men take you for a fool. Use your youth wisely.

PoliteActivist:


Human beings need fucking and also love where possible. These feelings don't wait till you get married.
How will you be getting these while waiting?
Please give a detailed answer as I really want to know

PoliteActivist:


Human beings need fucking and also love where possible. These feelings don't wait till you get married.
How will you be getting these while waiting?
Please give a detailed answer as I really want to know

JoeRusson:


Human beings or men? If you need fucking, double your hustle and go and marry. Don't keep a girl as a sex machine with promises of marriage. It's that simple!

Reminderz:

we are humans not animals... we think before we act. that's where self control comes in. you don't go sleeping around just because you have "feelings". do the needful.

PoliteActivist:


Especially girls infact, including you! If a girl is in love with someone they'll end up seducing him. It's that simple!

PoliteActivist:


Exactly! We are animals (albeit human animals) with a certain NATURE, NOT machines! If two people love each other, they'll have an irresistible urge to be inside each other, and eventually that'll happen. That's HUMAN NATURE, while marriage is just a societal construct!

JoeRusson:


Stop dating! If a man asks for a relationship, refuse. If he promises you marriage, ask when and ensure no sexual relationship exists within that time so no one gets hurt. Be assertive. Let him know nothing is happening until after the wedding. Men will want to cajole you, force you to shift your stance. When you think of compromising, also think of how you'll be 30+ begging for a marriage that may never happen. Don't let this men take you for a fool. Use your youth wisely.

JoeRusson:


A girl can only be attracted to a handsome man, that six pack, fair or dark, 6 ft and above with red lips man. If she has dated strings of ugly men, she might want to use the guy and balance equation so that if there's any reason her past dating history comes up, she will have at least a handsome man in her books. Not because she is in love or that bullshit you wrote.

That being said, the topic is to encourage girls to stop dating men. If they think they're in love now with a man with no future bearing yet, they should also think of how gloomy their life will be when they are approaching 30 still clinging on to love with a man that can't afford his rent. No lady wants to be in that situation. So, now is the time to lay their bed right. Forget the so-called love that won't lead them to anywhere else than being called, 'Old, angry, bitter feminist with no feminine appeal.'

How you lay your bed determines how you will lie ladies!

PoliteActivist:


Human beings need fucking and also love where possible. These feelings don't wait till you get married.
How will you be getting these while waiting?
Please give a detailed answer as I really want to know

advanceDNA:


Lack of sexual discipline, Greed for expensive phones, wigs and money will not let them take ur advice...... they fvck their youths away with as many dicķs as possible and come back to nairaland to insult men for the decisions they made...

Everyone should take responsibility for their actions......

PoliteActivist:


Women are attracted to a man's circumstances, what surrounds him, his accomplishments, societal standing, much less all those things you mentioned.
That's why people like you can't get any cool women , while that Oba and Ned Nwoko marry 10 each!
It's so also in the animal world, women flock to the alpha males while the rest get nothing!

That being said, what's wrong with your assumptions is that in real life girls who date many men marry first, while the "good girl" you describe finish last!

JoeRusson:


Don't wake up love until it's time. Go and earn your love. Don't be a lazy man, doing nothing but developing sweet mouth to deceive a lady to become his sex machine in the name of love.

JoeRusson:


From love to money. Stay one place.

PoliteActivist:


You have it all mixed up. Love happens, not something you wake up as you wish. Also nobody is anybody's sex machine. If you look closely you may find the girl enjoys and craves the sex more, never mind their games!

PoliteActivist:


I never mentioned money, though money can be a key part of the equation. There are circumstances women are attracted to. That you already have other women is one of them. Money well deployed (not just money) is another!

JoeRusson:



You mentioned oba and ned. What were you implying?

JoeRusson:


Women can control themselves. They can choose when to wake the love up and they can do that by saying no to dating. They will benefit more. Men are the ones pestering ladies day and night to sleep with them. The only time ladies begin to crave sex is if they started having it from a very young age, say 12 years. It's like training a child soldier. That's conditioning their mind.

PoliteActivist:


They already have other women, they have a certain pedigree, certain things surround them. Those are the kind of things women are attracted to, but losers like you are focused on six pack and mind games

PoliteActivist:


Wrong! If a girl loves a guy (and they always end up loving a guy - usually someone who doesn't want her) they'll "mistakenly" end up sleeping with him. Even in places like Iran or old Israel where punishment for such sex is very severe!

Reminderz:
the problem is that men don't have problem waiting, men can wait as long as the girl is a virgin and she possess the characteristics they want in a her... a girl who's a hoe shouldn't expect commitment because she belongs to the street.

JoeRusson:


Not love, attraction, which can be squashed the minute the remember they're going to spend their mid-30s feeding a man - the purpose of this post.

JoeRusson:


You wrote about love, I wrote about how women only deal with attraction and the things that can attract them which doesn't include love. Then from your sorry ass theory of love, you ran to money, because deep in your heart, you know that's the only way to a woman's heart and not your pathetic quote about two people loving each other. Now you want to enter having other women, certain pedigree and certain things. Man, you're spinning like a ball, stop being silly. Let's take for example, men already having other women, does this include a poor man?

PoliteActivist:


You are not dealing with real life. In the real world people's emotions (including girls) don't operate on basis of what will be happening in 15 years!

PoliteActivist:


You are the one spinning like a top and misreading what I wrote. There are many men much richer than Oba and Ned. I mentioned them specifically to show you that women are attracted to certain conditions not just money. Yet you misread it.
There was a man with 86 wives. Was he rich? Another had 50 - a struggling native doctor. It's not jusr about money. Read with comprehension

JoeRusson:



They have a problem waiting. If not the only disvirgined girls we will see are those that were raped, which is not the case. It's women who are strong on their stance, that can resist including caressing of breasts and let me put just the tip.