MufasaLion:
If you're not financially buoyant, you will regret it.

especially if the wife is an 1diot.

frozen70:
Finance is not the major problem of marriage, the main problem is the attitude of the person you are married to

you are correct. That's why it is very important to date before getting married. If she can truly put up with you knowing you are broke during dating (dating is different from courtship) , she can manage with you also in marriage.

IyaTola:
It’s boring. Ish gets real and you see true colors. It’s a test to see if you can deal with a persons negative energy. Nobody is perfect but can you deal with THAT person’s negative seasons? Can you forgive easily? Or will you eventually get tired of the bs??

You don marry?

1Alex:
you are correct. That's why it is very important to date before getting married. If she can truly put up with you knowing you are broke during dating (dating is different from courtship) , she can manage with you also in marriage.

let's look out for respect and not using suffering to test women. What if she also disrespects you when you are rich too?

Satazaa:
boy o boy this is super hilarious, hahaha

Na so na...

Desusi:

You have a long way to go.These amazing characters of yours baffled me!
There's no way you can avoid these in your relationship with opposite sex.pray hard brother!

Baba, I swear I gree
I get many flaws tbh.
I get angry easily on little thing and if I Dey vex, I sabi tongue lash women so tey she go almost cry blood . But funnily enough it works 95% of time for me as she’ll always want to satisfy me.



But I’m working on myself and beginning to lose guard a bit, reason being, I want my prospective family to be free around me. Don’t really want to raise them in a harsh environment.

SMJay:
What is the brutal truth about life after marriage?

There is no brutal truth about life after marriage if you’re determined to keep the fire burning.
It all depends on the 2 parties whether they want to make the best out of it.
Marriage is like a plant; you have to water it, nurture it and apply fertilizer from time to time.

Love and Respect each other… try not to stop what brings you guys together. Go on vacations, spend time together and enjoy each other as much as possible… laugh together.
Instead of talking at each other, trying to have a constructive discussions.
Marriage is not as bad as folks make it to be…It is actually a magnificent bond between 2 entities.

1Alex:
you are correct. That's why it is very important to date before getting married. If she can truly put up with you knowing you are broke during dating (dating is different from courtship) , she can manage with you also in marriage.

Exactly my point

Fearyourcreator:

You dey mind them ... Some wealthy people can't keep marriage... Even the wealthiests ...

Only few my dear

knowhowk:
You are Wrong...

Which Kain attitudes... Seen people with Amazing attitudes ,Angelic.. When Poverty was not seems to be leaving this Couple Na so wife former good attitudes changes immediately.

Then she has been pretending all the while

Tayorshd2:
Am planning on getting married soon but d few problem is I DONT REALLY LOVE HER
but she loved me 100 % with her life and have tested her in many ways infact she told her elder sister secretly Abt it too and her friend on her chat which she didn't know i saw all of this proclaiming the love she have for me ....

With ur idea can I still marry such a lady

If she truly love you, its very good to wife her. You may not really be in love with her. You don't need to fall in love.. Falling in love is feminine..it is designed for women, not men. As long as you find her attractive and believe you won't be bored with her soon, you are good. She will treat you like a king if she truly love you. But don't take it for granted and treat her bad. I am one that loves to return every good gesture in double fold. Her love for you should motive you to work hard and be the best man you can be and make her proud for choosing you.

If you are not attracted to her..then bail out. If I am not attracted to a woman sexually, even with the best of good morals, I no do...I'm not interested in breaking any ones heart.

Be sure she doesn't have any one on the corner though. Women dey confuse me these days. They will love you and still be getting humped by some unserious folks. Guess its the Badboy thrill.

They are easily influenced and swayed too. So the love you see today may dissappear tomorrow. You should hope for the best but always expect the worst so you dont get knocked out by the worst surprise.

I wish you luck.

Shadysen:
finance will her/ his best attitude

Dont be flashing money on a woman let's see if she came for the money or for the love

Same thing with men, some men marry a woman because of her status and when he couldn't get control of the money he starts making her life unbearable

For this no 10…

Please send me your acc number let me buy you beer and pepper soup for today World Cup abeg ! Only married men will understand this .

CaveAdullam:
1. The chances of achieving your goal become impossible or ultra slim.

2. As a father you will hardly have time for yourself because you are bothered about family bills.

3. Your only joy as a father is that your kids are healthy, intelligent, and becoming responsible.

4. As a father, the love your family has for you is predicated on the magnitude of your food storage and the depth of your pocket.

5. As a father when things go sour, the respect from nuclear and extended family plummets.

6. As a mother, you must serve your husband and children. You don't have time for vacations or rest.

7. As a father you will have at least one child that will behave in such a manner that it is as if he/she hates the family and wants to ruin the family name intentionally.

8. As a father only loyalty to your vows will keep you from infidelity because your wife will become boring by the day. Ditto for the mother.

9. The flames that run the marriage don't burn on their own. To keep the marriage fresh and the union alive the husband and wife must fan the flames.

10. As a father you'll one day be shocked and remain long-standing with mouth wide open, eyes gazing far when you are being asked "what have you done for me that you are using to boast".

11. As a mother you'll be expected to lead and provide even though it is not within your jurisdiction.

Marriage is a dreadful but enjoyable journey and must only be engaged by men and women who will be accountable and deliberate enough to hold to their specific marriage vows. Because marriage is the building block of civilization. The man and woman must be buoyant in the financial, physical, and spiritual angles (not religious) with no emotional baggage.

Thanks.

If you didn't disvirgin your wife,prepare for a lifetime of regret.

Hmmmm.... The elders have spoken well.

frozen70:


Dont be flashing money on a woman let's see if she came for the money or for the love

Same thing with men, some men marry a woman because of her status and when he couldn't get control of the money he starts making her life unbearable

i believed, there is no love without money.

seanwilliam:


Baba, I swear I gree
I get many flaws tbh.
I get angry easily on little thing and if I Dey vex, I sabi tongue lash women so tey she go almost cry blood . But funnily enough it works 95% of time for me as she’ll always want to satisfy me.



But I’m working on myself and beginning to lose guard a bit, reason being, I want my prospective family to be free around me. Don’t really want to raise them in a harsh environment.

Honestly, you need to work on yourself if you must have enduring marital life. I guess there other things you didn't tell me about yourself..Are you from Ajegunle.?

theophorus:
1. Your Wife is always right.

2. You will be the one to always apologize.

3. Sex reduces as Children comes in.

4. Outside you are a Lion but inside you are a Cat.

5. Money is good and important

6. Beauty without brain is a Curse.

7. Fine boy without Work is Endemic

8. You will sometimes feel you should never have married.

9. She seems not to want peace.

10. Verbal abuse is a norm

But still on still being married is Bae

Guy, you married a diabolic woman. . God will help you. I know most Nigeria ladies of now adays are like that. . But not all.

It is well.

Tradepunter2:


I think what the writer meant was that there should be honest feeling...

Take for example I knew a girl, she was seeing someone that guy was just managing...

I tried winning her over cuz I have what it takes to take care of her and she said she's sorry that she loves the guy and is willing to stick with him and help him achieve his goals...

I was Soo moved because I never knew girls like her still exist.... I ended up giving her some funds to help support her man...

So my standard now for a girl is there must be true love, I know how to bring out the pretense from women

When I say true love... Lady that will show some side to her and she will be like fk it, let's do it....

Because if she japa then she wasn't the one

Good morning. Forgive me I’m diverting from the topic. But pls I had to quote you because I need a source of livelihood. I graduated last month from Kwara state uni. (Health information management). I’ll be glad if you reply me sir.

Excelxpress:
For this no 10…

Please send me your acc number let me buy you beer and pepper soup for today World Cup abeg ! Only married men will understand this .

"Oya naw send me the address."

"Make I naka you DM"

Thanks.

Good morning,
The topic should be "life in marriage" not "after marriage"...

Chinny024:
You owe yourself the obligation to be happy..
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Desusi:

Honestly, you need to work on yourself if you must have enduring marital life. I guess there other things you didn't tell me about yourself..Are you from Ajegunle.?

I agree and I’m honestly working on it especially anger management.


Apart from getting angry easily and having issues opening up to people , I’m the nicest person you can think of. I can sacrifice anything for people especially the ones I love.


Note that when I’m angry, I don’t resort violence, but verbal abuse.
I’m from Ibadan , ilu ogunmola olodogbon keri keri loju ogun, owo kembe rebi’ja.

Desusi:

If that be the case,what would you do where no kids available after years of marriage?

He will likely jump ship since it's about the children for him.

Ugosample:

Very good response!

Boss long time I come across ur response. Please I would like to ask u something outside here, something more private, that u have more knowledge and experience in, I have been following u q long time here

Desusi:

You have a long way to go.These amazing characters of yours baffled me!
There's no way you can avoid these in your relationship with opposite sex.pray hard brother!

Marriage isn't compulsory for everyone. Anyone who feels he can't stand the heat should stay away from the kitchen. Shikena!

I'm enjoying this as single guy without girlfriend even, though some pple here is scaring me the more

My uncle married a second lady when the first one started showing a lot of sense to their everyday activities.

Even after 5 kids. So, marriage is submissiveness. It is understanding, it is respect, it is sincerity. It is money. And money.

ibkayee:
Not being able to sleep diagonally on the bed anymore

Lol, funny but true.


Ain't married yet but whenever my baby is with me I don't always sleep the usual way.

frozen70:


Only few my dear

Marriage is not only finance ... It requires a lot more than other institutions...