Candidlady:

Klass99:


You are such a jackass. There's nothing complicated here, let's flip this for a minute and assume you are the one in this situation, what would you do?

Gudfadah:
Good evening nairaland.

I am a married man and I have six children. When I met with my first wife she was a single mother of 1 girl she was a years 6 months we got married when she was 5 years old.
We had 3 children together making them 4 unfortunately we lost her in 2016 during the birth of our twins.

Before she passed on she asks me to promise her that if anything happened to her I should never send her daughter back to her family to experience the same thing she went through in there hands.
I have promised her that the child is mine and she will never go anywhere the day she will leave my house will be on her wedding day.
I have also promised her that nothing will happen to her and we will grow old together. Unfortunately we lost her and I have continued being a father to all four children and I have never treated my step daughter differently.

I have since remarried and we are blessed with twins. When I met with my current wife I didn't tell her that my step daughter is not my biological child she knew she was my first child.
She has been a part of me ever since she was 1 plus and I didn't think it was necessary telling my wife she was not my child.

She was treating all four children good until my wicked aunty has spill the beans which I have apologised for not telling her in the first and I have asked her to continue being a good mother she was before knowing the truth.
But she refused saying I didn't tell the truth and the child should go and leave with her mom family. I have explained to her the reason why she cannot stay with them to no avail and I ask her not to tell the child the truth but she has told her.

It wasn't easy for her knowing the truth she asks me if I will take her back to her mom people I said no. She is still my child and she will not go anywhere and I will resolve the problem very soon.

Unfortunately my wife has totally changed so much toward the child and I hate coming home seeing her crying all the time. She feel insecure in the house knowing that she is not the biological child of the house.

Talking to my wife was to no avail she has insist that the child must go back to her mother family or they will be not peace.

I reported the problem to her people nothing was done and we are still dealing with the same thing everyday.

Honestly speaking I hate being in such a messy situation but I will not send her back to her mom family she is my first child and I have made a promise to my late wife that the day the child will leave my house it will be the day she will get married.
Since my wife want her to leave and the child is already depresses.
I have come to conclusion I will not divorce her but I will rent a 2 bedroom apartment for her to be staying with the twins while I continue staying with the four children in my house I owe the house.

I haven't told her anything about my decision yet and I want to know if getting her own house will help the situation. This is where I need your advice nairalanders what do I do in this situation?

Gudfadah:
Honestly speaking I hate being in such a messy situation but I will not send her back to her mom family she is my first child and I have made a promise to my late wife that the day the child will leave my house it will be the day she will get married.
Since my wife want her to leave and the child is already depresses.
I have come to conclusion I will not divorce her but I will rent a 2 bedroom apartment for her to be staying with the twins while I continue staying with the four children in my house I owe the house.

I haven't told her anything about my decision yet and I want to know if getting her own house will help the situation. This is where I need your advice nairalanders what do I do in this situation?

Ulunne777:
Your wife should go live with the gossip aunty.

Ppl who will never mind their business.Tueh

ahnie:
Your wives just showed u her true colors.
What's her problem seff?
Oga pray she doesn't poison the child.

This's what I would do....she never dey ready to marry,it's either she calms down and act reasonable it better still oga pls kick her out of the house.


Pls no body should quote me

Foodqueen:
She will soon start maltreating your own biological children too.

Wickedness is in her dna

Eseries:
Do everything you can to protect that child.
Divinity has entrusted her into your hands.
You owe it to her to be her father even more that you do owe the other ones because she has no one else but you.

I see you are a good man, Do what is good…
Do not compromise to pressures from your current wife or someone else.

Gudfadah:
Good evening nairaland.

I am a married man and I have six children. When I met with my first wife she was a single mother of 1 girl she was a years 6 months we got married when she was 5 years old.
We had 3 children together making them 4 unfortunately we lost her in 2016 during the birth of our twins.

Before she passed on she asks me to promise her that if anything happened to her I should never send her daughter back to her family to experience the same thing she went through in there hands.
I have promised her that the child is mine and she will never go anywhere the day she will leave my house will be on her wedding day.
I have also promised her that nothing will happen to her and we will grow old together. Unfortunately we lost her and I have continued being a father to all four children and I have never treated my step daughter differently.

I have since remarried and we are blessed with twins. When I met with my current wife I didn't tell her that my step daughter is not my biological child she knew she was my first child.
She has been a part of me ever since she was 1 plus and I didn't think it was necessary telling my wife she was not my child.

She was treating all four children good until my wicked aunty has spill the beans which I have apologised for not telling her in the first and I have asked her to continue being a good mother she was before knowing the truth.
But she refused saying I didn't tell the truth and the child should go and leave with her mom family. I have explained to her the reason why she cannot stay with them to no avail and I ask her not to tell the child the truth but she has told her.

It wasn't easy for her knowing the truth she asks me if I will take her back to her mom people I said no. She is still my child and she will not go anywhere and I will resolve the problem very soon.

Unfortunately my wife has totally changed so much toward the child and I hate coming home seeing her crying all the time. She feel insecure in the house knowing that she is not the biological child of the house.

Talking to my wife was to no avail she has insist that the child must go back to her mother family or they will be not peace.

I reported the problem to her people nothing was done and we are still dealing with the same thing everyday.

Honestly speaking I hate being in such a messy situation but I will not send her back to her mom family she is my first child and I have made a promise to my late wife that the day the child will leave my house it will be the day she will get married.
Since my wife want her to leave and the child is already depresses.
I have come to conclusion I will not divorce her but I will rent a 2 bedroom apartment for her to be staying with the twins while I continue staying with the four children in my house I owe the house.

I haven't told her anything about my decision yet and I want to know if getting her own house will help the situation. This is where I need your advice nairalanders what do I do in this situation?

Gudfadah:
Good evening nairaland.

I am a married man and I have six children. When I met with my first wife she was a single mother of 1 girl she was a years 6 months we got married when she was 5 years old.
We had 3 children together making them 4 unfortunately we lost her in 2016 during the birth of our twins.

Before she passed on she asks me to promise her that if anything happened to her I should never send her daughter back to her family to experience the same thing she went through in there hands.
I have promised her that the child is mine and she will never go anywhere the day she will leave my house will be on her wedding day.
I have also promised her that nothing will happen to her and we will grow old together. Unfortunately we lost her and I have continued being a father to all four children and I have never treated my step daughter differently.

I have since remarried and we are blessed with twins. When I met with my current wife I didn't tell her that my step daughter is not my biological child she knew she was my first child.
She has been a part of me ever since she was 1 plus and I didn't think it was necessary telling my wife she was not my child.

She was treating all four children good until my wicked aunty has spill the beans which I have apologised for not telling her in the first and I have asked her to continue being a good mother she was before knowing the truth.
But she refused saying I didn't tell the truth and the child should go and leave with her mom family. I have explained to her the reason why she cannot stay with them to no avail and I ask her not to tell the child the truth but she has told her.

It wasn't easy for her knowing the truth she asks me if I will take her back to her mom people I said no. She is still my child and she will not go anywhere and I will resolve the problem very soon.

Unfortunately my wife has totally changed so much toward the child and I hate coming home seeing her crying all the time. She feel insecure in the house knowing that she is not the biological child of the house.

Talking to my wife was to no avail she has insist that the child must go back to her mother family or they will be not peace.

I reported the problem to her people nothing was done and we are still dealing with the same thing everyday.

Honestly speaking I hate being in such a messy situation but I will not send her back to her mom family she is my first child and I have made a promise to my late wife that the day the child will leave my house it will be the day she will get married.
Since my wife want her to leave and the child is already depresses.
I have come to conclusion I will not divorce her but I will rent a 2 bedroom apartment for her to be staying with the twins while I continue staying with the four children in my house I owe the house.

I haven't told her anything about my decision yet and I want to know if getting her own house will help the situation. This is where I need your advice nairalanders what do I do in this situation?

Klass99:


If I were him that woman will drop my two kids and leave or she can take the two kids she gave birth to and bounce, if she doesn't quit her BS immediately.

Some women think they can hold you to ransom with their nonsense and stupidity because they've given birth to a child or children for you. She met that girl on ground before marrying him, now she wants the child gone because he is not the biological father, she dey ment?

I hate it how people claim to love children so much, when in reality, what they really mean is that they love children who are theirs but not other people's children. Because most people who claim this are incapable of accepting or caring for other people's children (this applies to both men & women)

I don't think he was insanely or maliciously deceitful by not telling her about the girl's birth circumstances. He has claimed the girl as his child and she knew that from the start, new intel shouldn't change anything. This 2nd wife has issues abeg.

I agree with you that 6 kids is a lot and he needs to stop procreating asap. Re-marrying for companionship and sex is not a bad idea, I would have re-married for those reasons alone and I would not have added more children to the equation.

It is not a messy situation from where I stand, it's one of those situations where you take a stance as the boss and let others fall in line or bounce. There's no room for compromise or negotiation here, the OP shouldn't even be online asking questions.

Gudfadah:
Good evening nairaland.

I am a married man and I have six children. When I met with my first wife she was a single mother of 1 girl she was a years 6 months we got married when she was 5 years old.
We had 3 children together making them 4 unfortunately we lost her in 2016 during the birth of our twins.

Before she passed on she asks me to promise her that if anything happened to her I should never send her daughter back to her family to experience the same thing she went through in there hands.
I have promised her that the child is mine and she will never go anywhere the day she will leave my house will be on her wedding day.
I have also promised her that nothing will happen to her and we will grow old together. Unfortunately we lost her and I have continued being a father to all four children and I have never treated my step daughter differently.

I have since remarried and we are blessed with twins. When I met with my current wife I didn't tell her that my step daughter is not my biological child she knew she was my first child.
She has been a part of me ever since she was 1 plus and I didn't think it was necessary telling my wife she was not my child.

She was treating all four children good until my wicked aunty has spill the beans which I have apologised for not telling her in the first and I have asked her to continue being a good mother she was before knowing the truth.
But she refused saying I didn't tell the truth and the child should go and leave with her mom family. I have explained to her the reason why she cannot stay with them to no avail and I ask her not to tell the child the truth but she has told her.

It wasn't easy for her knowing the truth she asks me if I will take her back to her mom people I said no. She is still my child and she will not go anywhere and I will resolve the problem very soon.

Unfortunately my wife has totally changed so much toward the child and I hate coming home seeing her crying all the time. She feel insecure in the house knowing that she is not the biological child of the house.

Talking to my wife was to no avail she has insist that the child must go back to her mother family or they will be not peace.

I reported the problem to her people nothing was done and we are still dealing with the same thing everyday.

Honestly speaking I hate being in such a messy situation but I will not send her back to her mom family she is my first child and I have made a promise to my late wife that the day the child will leave my house it will be the day she will get married.
Since my wife want her to leave and the child is already depresses.
I have come to conclusion I will not divorce her but I will rent a 2 bedroom apartment for her to be staying with the twins while I continue staying with the four children in my house I owe the house.

I haven't told her anything about my decision yet and I want to know if getting her own house will help the situation. This is where I need your advice nairalanders what do I do in this situation?

fuckingAyaya:
Spiritual hand never touch ur wife face before, she go soon run when she begin see things lemme stop here

Nothing go happen to her.. that kin human being dey live forever... She will even outlive the good ones...U know the world is not fair

Klass99:


If I were him that woman will drop my two kids and leave or she can take the two kids she gave birth to and bounce, if she doesn't quit her BS immediately.

Some women think they can hold you to ransom with their nonsense and stupidity because they've given birth to a child or children for you. She met that girl on ground before marrying him, now she wants the child gone because he is not the biological father, she dey ment?

I hate it how people claim to love children so much, when in reality, what they really mean is that they love children who are theirs but not other people's children. Because most people who claim this are incapable of accepting or caring for other people's children (this applies to both men & women)

I don't think he was insanely or maliciously deceitful by not telling her about the girl's birth circumstances. He has claimed the girl as his child and she knew that from the start, new intel shouldn't change anything. This 2nd wife has issues abeg.

I agree with you that 6 kids is a lot and he needs to stop procreating asap. Re-marrying for companionship and sex is not a bad idea, I would have re-married for those reasons alone and I would not have added more children to the equation.

It is not a messy situation from where I stand, it's one of those situations where you take a stance as the boss and let others fall in line or bounce. There's no room for compromise or negotiation here, the OP shouldn't even be online asking questions.

ahnie:
Your wives just showed u her true colors.
What's her problem seff?
Oga pray she doesn't poison the child.

This's what I would do....she never dey ready to marry,it's either she calms down and act reasonable it better still oga pls kick her out of the house.


Pls no body should quote me

TheboyGhost:


Lastly do well to marry another wife Asap....(the unifier)


If you fail to marry again then your family is wrecked...

Na so una wan kill this guy with marriage?
He hasn't survived the one he's in and u want him to marry another one.?..
Assuming the woman you were proposing now also wants to procreate, what will become of this dude?Haba!!!

Richy4:


Nothing go happen to her.. that kin human being dey live forever... She will even outlive the good ones...U know the world is not fair

Zonefree:

If she can treat that child that way, imagine how she'll be treating strangers outside. I'd rather remain and die single than to entangle my delicate heart to a woman like that. Tueh!