How about people that don’t have parents?..

cunny88:
She had a golden opportunity to skul abroad which millions of Nigerian are looking for, she misused it and is looking for an opportunity to apportion blame, ppl like me attended public skuls from primary to university level with very minimal supervision, cos our parents were poor, yet we manage to kip our heads above d water. She is the master or her fate and architect of her misfortune.

Not true.

Many die unsung and unknown abroad. Nobody is completely the master of their fate. We all need some type of community of friends no matter how small.

Sorry that you had a family who did not believe in parenting and caring. Some of them did not have close parenting so assumed that no one needs care.

For your bad story, I personally know many who had wonderful experiences abroad. Most stayed, some came back (especially the 70s, 80s era) as they made more money in Nigeria.

Stay vigilant folks. I was passing a neighbourhood recently in Nigeria. The amount of unashamed ashawo is too much. I have a doctor aunty who has lamented at the increase, in fact, explosion of abortions in the country.

It's not easy o my people. Let's take heed.

Nawttiboi007:
How about people that don’t have parents?..

Most people have parents - they just aren't known as parent. Cults have parents, Gangs do parenting, church and mosque have parents. There is TV parenting, if you play sports, your coach might parent you. Hookers parent their young customers. Heck teenagers even parent each other.

Just pray that whatever type of parents you have - they are knowledgeable and they have your best interests at heart

Nawttiboi007:
How about people that don’t have parents?..

Don't mind the stupid woman.
Giving useless excuses for ashawoism.

cunny88:
all through university I didn't av any1 wit me, in high skul days my parents weren't wit me either, but I knew I had learnt no trade and education was my only route of poverty, u should be asking her were ha skuls mates are now.

please read the age she was sent abroad. At a formative age, one should be with his or her parents not with relatives especially in a country where everyone hussle for honor herself.

She was sent away so the parents could have time for there career or business. You had your parents with you till you were like 17 18 after you had been thoroughly trained. So you could go to university all alone

Yiur cases are different

2016easy2017:
We all got responsibilities to return Nigeria to greatness.

When you buy bottle water, make sure you destroy tha package. Don't give room for refill.
You may be a victim.

Just as I did.

Drink and destroy

Hmmm I have been suspecting they refill bottle water. The last Mr V I took had a changed taste and the sealing wasn't as tight as before...

bukatyne:


Did you read the OP at all?

Even if your parents where poor, were you neglected or treated differently from your siblings?

At least, if you were hungry, you were a hungry together not that all your siblings were eating while you were feeding on air.

Make una dey read to understand.

Thank you. Negligence of parents nor emotional needs of a child had nothing to do with financial status

Familyplug:
A 50-YEAR-OLD NIGERIAN WOMAN SHARES HER REGRETS ABOUT HER PARENTS SENDING HER ABROAD TO SCHOOL AS A TEENAGER.

I came to the UK in the 80s and went to Skinners school for girls in Stamford hill where I failed woefully. I come from a family where going abroad was like going to the market for us. I lived with my sister-in-law who I happened to have appeared to as a burden at the time. I had no one to take me out as a child, didn't enjoy McDonald's treats. I remember being bought KFC once by my mother's younger sister who was in the UK at the time. Most days I had to walk from Pembury estate, Hackney to Stamford hill because I had no transport fee. An uncle got me free school meals from the government so I always had lunch at school but other meals were not guaranteed...

No one ever asked me how I was doing in school even though I was a failure, never disclosed my report sheet because my results were always 'U- Unclassified' worse than F9. I lived at the expense of a few of my brother's friends who were ready to give me £5 in exchange for me seating on their laps whilst they used my nipples as a toy. On a few occasions, my immediate family would give me £5, £10 but NONE EVER TOOK ME ON AS HIS OR HER RESPONSIBILITY. One glorious day, a brother of mine took me on when he noticed that I have been associating with friends that were smoking and sexing at the age of 12 but due to malicious beating every day I had no choice other than to run away from his house. ....

I became streetwise, smoking heavily at the age of 11/12, and did my first abortion at the age of 14/15. I was unable to contact my mother because I had no access to the telephone moreover I didn't know how to use the phones then. I lived with a Jamaican friend who was a few years older than me and we had a man friend aged 50t who was impotent but would pay our rent whenever we allowed him to lick/suck us. Hhhhmmmm I'm sobbing as I'm writing this; I don't know why my spirit has led me to share this horrific and pathetic story but I am sure it is to bless someone out there so I am not ashamed of letting it out because someone outthere will think twice before making the mistake my family made.

I and friends began to find it easy to befriend men for money at night clubs (Gullivers, Petter Stringfellows, etc) at a very young age which I found disgusting, they molested my body orally. I can't even carry on expressing my bitter past experiences because I have learnt to see them as the strengths that made me who I am today...

The Koko of this post is this... Now in the UK, we see Nigerian children killing, shooting, stabbing, selling drugs, raping, etc and we wonder why they are ridiculing our darling country's name... Hhhhmmmm it is not the kids' fault it is the fault of the parents that weren't ready to prioritize their priorities.

I can't blame my mother and neither can I blame my father because they thought sending me abroad to school was the best for me. They also trusted my siblings and didn’t like to get involved in the way they were raising us. They believed when you give a goat to someone, you let go of the rope. They didn't know their darling daughter had become something else.....

You may be boosting that your child lives in London, America, etc but do you ever ask yourself how life is treating them where they are??

So many parents in Nigeria believe the field is greener on the other side forgetting that NO ONE CAN TRAIN YOUR KIDS THE WAY YOU CAN EXCEPT LOVING & GOD-FEARING PEOPLE.

In the UK so many Nigerian parents have misplaced their priorities, they rather work 24/7 and make all their monies to build mansions in Nigeria at the expense of their children's lives.

So many Nigerian parents in the UK don't even attend parents' evenings at their kid's school, some can't even help their kids with homework. Some believe their kids are at home and they are safe not knowing who is there with them. Some would rather spoil their kids with money & expensive outfits instead of investing quality time in them.

Sending your kids abroad to be looked after by someone else is a pure waste of time and bringing your kids from 9ja without giving them all the time needed is an irresponsible move and to be working all God-sent hours, making sterling, dollars, and euros, naira, etc without spending quality time with your kids is a disgrace to parenthood.

This is one of our bad irresponsible cultures even back home ….most children in Nigeria were brought up by housemaids/gatemen/next door/grandmothers/neighbors etc. Some Nigerians don't believe in family planning rather they will have so many children and start using them to hawk sweets, bread, etc after school...

Having a child is not by force, God did not say YOU MUST HAVE CHILDREN, YES HE STATED 'MULTIPLY' but he didn't mean we should do it to suffer for them. Having children does not mean you will live your life joyfully and it doesn't give you a place in heaven either, instead, your children may make you miss heaven if care is not taken.

I am a product of a neglected, nonchalant, cultural upbringing and I WILL NEVER WISH IT ON MY GREATEST ENEMY BECAUSE I HAD IT ROUGH AND IN SADNESS.

Let us stop being selfish and stop pushing our problems/burdens on others. Your child should be with you no matter how poor or rich you are and you must teach them in the ways of God.

Some parents in Nigeria, have children in Diaspora and know nothing about their life , only the fact that their child is abroad.

The parents didn't count the cost before sending her there, all in the guise of "I want to belong in that class that sends children abroad".
How will a parent send their children even outside their state, not to talk of abroad, without considering finance for accommodation, feeding and upkeep? How would a parent send a minor abroad without putting them under the care or tutelage of a guardian?
Honestly, the parent of the lady failed her.
You sent a child abroad, and you don't check up on them or visit them? Who does that?

If traveling abroad is like going to the market for your family, then we know who your family is: our greedy politicians. I guess this is retribution. We who came from poor background will always dream of travelers outside, do you know why? We have seen hell and fire here so, going over there scares us not because we must survive and return stronger and a light to our family.

cunny88:
She had a golden opportunity to skul abroad which millions of Nigerian are looking for, she misused it and is looking for an opportunity to apportion blame, ppl like me attended public skuls from primary to university level with very minimal supervision, cos our parents were poor, yet we manage to kip our heads above d water. She is the master or her fate and architect of her misfortune.

Exactly she blew it. She’s just giving excuses. At the end we are all responsible for our actions.

Hmmmm This is the most expressive, revealing, illuminating and educative piece I have read in recent times. God bless you ma.

Shalommy:
Lemme guess, that woman parents are our greedy politicians. That's God punishment on them. Chaiii

Not really, I never understood the depth of what she is saying till I moved to the southwest.
Growing up in the north, I only had friends and knew people that travel abroad on vacation (often) and return back to Nigeria, I did not have/know a single person that "japa" while I was growing up in the north.
Not until I moved to the southwest after one of the series of religious riots in the north. That was when I noticed that almost every family on my street alone had a child abroad.
These are poor to middle class or average families ooo, traders, farmers, artisans, etc. It is just a believe that they have that the only way they can ever make it is if they have a child or children abroad.
And fortunately or unfortunately most beautiful houses in most communities in the southwest are built by people staying abroad, just like most beautiful houses in the north are built by people in government

olaeffect:


Not really, I never understood the depth of what she is saying till I moved to the southwest.
Growing up in the north, I only had friends and knew people that travel abroad on vacation (often) and return back to Nigeria, I did not have/know a single person that "japa" while I was growing up in the north.
Not until I moved to the southwest after one of the series of religious riots in the north. That was when I noticed that almost every family on my street alone had a child abroad.
These are poor to middle class or average families ooo, traders, farmers, artisans, etc. It is just a believe that they have that the only way they can ever make it is if they have a child or children abroad.
And fortunately or unfortunately most beautiful houses in most communities in the southwest are built by people staying abroad, just like most beautiful houses in the north are built by people in government

Copy!

cunny88:
She had a golden opportunity to skul abroad which millions of Nigerian are looking for, she misused it and is looking for an opportunity to apportion blame, ppl like me attended public skuls from primary to university level with very minimal supervision, cos our parents were poor, yet we manage to kip our heads above d water. She is the master or her fate and architect of her misfortune.

You right bro, 100%,,,,I wish I can like this comment 1000000x

Kobojunkie:
You can't blame your own parents but you want us to believe parents are to blame? Your parents did pretty much all of that which the other parents did, so why exempt them from blame?

Not very clear brother! Who then is to blame? The parents, the nation, the children themselves , the environment they live or peers pressure. I was a kid when l left my parents to fend for my self and seek for greener pastures. Every man is the architect of his/her own future. From your write up,you seems to be part of the evils that be fell you.I guessed you have been over pampered and exposed. Nonetheless, parents have their lion shares too.some parents would be proud to say, 'my daughter/son are in abroad' As a teen ager,l would hustle from Aachen to luplow.West Germany to east,the home of neo skin heads.Many times they planned to burn our resident in Wittenberge and Wismar. Tell me which part of Germany l don't know? Yet,l was never spoiled. I remained discipline and kampe.Today,even though lam not a millionaire, l bless God.My parents never crossed the shore of Nigeria.

cunny88:
She had a golden opportunity to skul abroad which millions of Nigerian are looking for, she misused it and is looking for an opportunity to apportion blame, ppl like me attended public skuls from primary to university level with very minimal supervision, cos our parents were poor, yet we manage to kip our heads above d water. She is the master or her fate and architect of her misfortune.

God bless you earnestly for this.

cunny88:
She had a golden opportunity to skul abroad which millions of Nigerian are looking for, she misused it and is looking for an opportunity to apportion blame, ppl like me attended public skuls from primary to university level with very minimal supervision, cos our parents were poor, yet we manage to kip our heads above d water. She is the master or her fate and architect of her misfortune.

Shut the Bleep up.....yen yen yen.Always about me and how I turned out fine.It was not the school my dear,it was her upbringing and no parental figure in her life ti give her direction.Such children end up as miscreants.

At least your parents were poor,they never abandoned you.They still guide you and correct you.You are not better than her still.

Kobojunkie:
Golden opportunity for whom? Obviously, not her.

2. A very unfair comparison you make there. Schools are there to teach, not make you brilliant. .

You reason like a swinnnn.e bro no offense, she's a spoilt brat,

jimmychang:



Shut the Bleep up.....yen yen yen.Always about me and how I turned out fine.It was not the school my dear,it was her upbringing and no parental figure in her life ti give her direction.Such children end up as miscreants.

At least your parents were poor,they never abandoned you.They still guide you and correct you.You are not better than her still.

You should be the one to shut the fucck up, the guy is right

Desusi:

Not very clear brother! Who then is to blame? The parents, the nation, the children themselves , the environment they live or peers pressure. I was a kid when l left my parents to fend for my self and seek for greener pastures. Every man is the architect of his/her own future. From your write up,you seems to be part of the evils that be fell you.I guessed you have been over pampered and exposed. Nonetheless, parents have their lion shares too.some parents would be proud to say, 'my daughter/son are in abroad' As a teen ager,l would hustle from Aachen to luplow.West Germany to east,the home of neo skin heads.Many times they planned to burn our resident in Wittenberge and Wismar. Tell me which part of Germany l don't know? Yet,l was never spoiled. I remained discipline and kampe.Today,even though lam not a millionaire, l bless God.My parents never crossed the shore of Nigeria.

Bro don't mind the junkie,,, you right,,, she choosed the life she wanted,,,, if the was with her in the same UK, she'll still turnout worst, I know what I'm saying, talking from experience, come to the US and see what black kids are doing, they're living in the same roof with the parents,,,, person weh no go wayward go wayward

So touching, please let us interchange location

Familyplug:
A 50-YEAR-OLD NIGERIAN WOMAN SHARES HER REGRETS ABOUT HER PARENTS SENDING HER ABROAD TO SCHOOL AS A TEENAGER.

I came to the UK in the 80s and went to Skinners school for girls in Stamford hill where I failed woefully. I come from a family where going abroad was like going to the market for us. I lived with my sister-in-law who I happened to have appeared to as a burden at the time. I had no one to take me out as a child, didn't enjoy McDonald's treats. I remember being bought KFC once by my mother's younger sister who was in the UK at the time. Most days I had to walk from Pembury estate, Hackney to Stamford hill because I had no transport fee. An uncle got me free school meals from the government so I always had lunch at school but other meals were not guaranteed...

No one ever asked me how I was doing in school even though I was a failure, never disclosed my report sheet because my results were always 'U- Unclassified' worse than F9. I lived at the expense of a few of my brother's friends who were ready to give me £5 in exchange for me seating on their laps whilst they used my nipples as a toy. On a few occasions, my immediate family would give me £5, £10 but NONE EVER TOOK ME ON AS HIS OR HER RESPONSIBILITY. One glorious day, a brother of mine took me on when he noticed that I have been associating with friends that were smoking and sexing at the age of 12 but due to malicious beating every day I had no choice other than to run away from his house. ....

I became streetwise, smoking heavily at the age of 11/12, and did my first abortion at the age of 14/15. I was unable to contact my mother because I had no access to the telephone moreover I didn't know how to use the phones then. I lived with a Jamaican friend who was a few years older than me and we had a man friend aged 50t who was impotent but would pay our rent whenever we allowed him to lick/suck us. Hhhhmmmm I'm sobbing as I'm writing this; I don't know why my spirit has led me to share this horrific and pathetic story but I am sure it is to bless someone out there so I am not ashamed of letting it out because someone outthere will think twice before making the mistake my family made.

I and friends began to find it easy to befriend men for money at night clubs (Gullivers, Petter Stringfellows, etc) at a very young age which I found disgusting, they molested my body orally. I can't even carry on expressing my bitter past experiences because I have learnt to see them as the strengths that made me who I am today...

The Koko of this post is this... Now in the UK, we see Nigerian children killing, shooting, stabbing, selling drugs, raping, etc and we wonder why they are ridiculing our darling country's name... Hhhhmmmm it is not the kids' fault it is the fault of the parents that weren't ready to prioritize their priorities.

I can't blame my mother and neither can I blame my father because they thought sending me abroad to school was the best for me. They also trusted my siblings and didn’t like to get involved in the way they were raising us. They believed when you give a goat to someone, you let go of the rope. They didn't know their darling daughter had become something else.....

You may be boosting that your child lives in London, America, etc but do you ever ask yourself how life is treating them where they are??

So many parents in Nigeria believe the field is greener on the other side forgetting that NO ONE CAN TRAIN YOUR KIDS THE WAY YOU CAN EXCEPT LOVING & GOD-FEARING PEOPLE.

In the UK so many Nigerian parents have misplaced their priorities, they rather work 24/7 and make all their monies to build mansions in Nigeria at the expense of their children's lives.

So many Nigerian parents in the UK don't even attend parents' evenings at their kid's school, some can't even help their kids with homework. Some believe their kids are at home and they are safe not knowing who is there with them. Some would rather spoil their kids with money & expensive outfits instead of investing quality time in them.

Sending your kids abroad to be looked after by someone else is a pure waste of time and bringing your kids from 9ja without giving them all the time needed is an irresponsible move and to be working all God-sent hours, making sterling, dollars, and euros, naira, etc without spending quality time with your kids is a disgrace to parenthood.

This is one of our bad irresponsible cultures even back home ….most children in Nigeria were brought up by housemaids/gatemen/next door/grandmothers/neighbors etc. Some Nigerians don't believe in family planning rather they will have so many children and start using them to hawk sweets, bread, etc after school...

Having a child is not by force, God did not say YOU MUST HAVE CHILDREN, YES HE STATED 'MULTIPLY' but he didn't mean we should do it to suffer for them. Having children does not mean you will live your life joyfully and it doesn't give you a place in heaven either, instead, your children may make you miss heaven if care is not taken.

I am a product of a neglected, nonchalant, cultural upbringing and I WILL NEVER WISH IT ON MY GREATEST ENEMY BECAUSE I HAD IT ROUGH AND IN SADNESS.

Let us stop being selfish and stop pushing our problems/burdens on others. Your child should be with you no matter how poor or rich you are and you must teach them in the ways of God.

Some parents in Nigeria, have children in Diaspora and know nothing about their life , only the fact that their child is abroad.

Familyplug:
A 50-YEAR-OLD NIGERIAN WOMAN SHARES HER REGRETS ABOUT HER PARENTS SENDING HER ABROAD TO SCHOOL AS A TEENAGER.

I came to the UK in the 80s and went to Skinners school for girls in Stamford hill where I failed woefully. I come from a family where going abroad was like going to the market for us. I lived with my sister-in-law who I happened to have appeared to as a burden at the time. I had no one to take me out as a child, didn't enjoy McDonald's treats. I remember being bought KFC once by my mother's younger sister who was in the UK at the time. Most days I had to walk from Pembury estate, Hackney to Stamford hill because I had no transport fee. An uncle got me free school meals from the government so I always had lunch at school but other meals were not guaranteed...

No one ever asked me how I was doing in school even though I was a failure, never disclosed my report sheet because my results were always 'U- Unclassified' worse than F9. I lived at the expense of a few of my brother's friends who were ready to give me £5 in exchange for me seating on their laps whilst they used my nipples as a toy. On a few occasions, my immediate family would give me £5, £10 but NONE EVER TOOK ME ON AS HIS OR HER RESPONSIBILITY. One glorious day, a brother of mine took me on when he noticed that I have been associating with friends that were smoking and sexing at the age of 12 but due to malicious beating every day I had no choice other than to run away from his house. ....

I became streetwise, smoking heavily at the age of 11/12, and did my first abortion at the age of 14/15. I was unable to contact my mother because I had no access to the telephone moreover I didn't know how to use the phones then. I lived with a Jamaican friend who was a few years older than me and we had a man friend aged 50t who was impotent but would pay our rent whenever we allowed him to lick/suck us. Hhhhmmmm I'm sobbing as I'm writing this; I don't know why my spirit has led me to share this horrific and pathetic story but I am sure it is to bless someone out there so I am not ashamed of letting it out because someone outthere will think twice before making the mistake my family made.

I and friends began to find it easy to befriend men for money at night clubs (Gullivers, Petter Stringfellows, etc) at a very young age which I found disgusting, they molested my body orally. I can't even carry on expressing my bitter past experiences because I have learnt to see them as the strengths that made me who I am today...

The Koko of this post is this... Now in the UK, we see Nigerian children killing, shooting, stabbing, selling drugs, raping, etc and we wonder why they are ridiculing our darling country's name... Hhhhmmmm it is not the kids' fault it is the fault of the parents that weren't ready to prioritize their priorities.

I can't blame my mother and neither can I blame my father because they thought sending me abroad to school was the best for me. They also trusted my siblings and didn’t like to get involved in the way they were raising us. They believed when you give a goat to someone, you let go of the rope. They didn't know their darling daughter had become something else.....

You may be boosting that your child lives in London, America, etc but do you ever ask yourself how life is treating them where they are??

So many parents in Nigeria believe the field is greener on the other side forgetting that NO ONE CAN TRAIN YOUR KIDS THE WAY YOU CAN EXCEPT LOVING & GOD-FEARING PEOPLE.

In the UK so many Nigerian parents have misplaced their priorities, they rather work 24/7 and make all their monies to build mansions in Nigeria at the expense of their children's lives.

So many Nigerian parents in the UK don't even attend parents' evenings at their kid's school, some can't even help their kids with homework. Some believe their kids are at home and they are safe not knowing who is there with them. Some would rather spoil their kids with money & expensive outfits instead of investing quality time in them.

Sending your kids abroad to be looked after by someone else is a pure waste of time and bringing your kids from 9ja without giving them all the time needed is an irresponsible move and to be working all God-sent hours, making sterling, dollars, and euros, naira, etc without spending quality time with your kids is a disgrace to parenthood.

This is one of our bad irresponsible cultures even back home ….most children in Nigeria were brought up by housemaids/gatemen/next door/grandmothers/neighbors etc. Some Nigerians don't believe in family planning rather they will have so many children and start using them to hawk sweets, bread, etc after school...

Having a child is not by force, God did not say YOU MUST HAVE CHILDREN, YES HE STATED 'MULTIPLY' but he didn't mean we should do it to suffer for them. Having children does not mean you will live your life joyfully and it doesn't give you a place in heaven either, instead, your children may make you miss heaven if care is not taken.

I am a product of a neglected, nonchalant, cultural upbringing and I WILL NEVER WISH IT ON MY GREATEST ENEMY BECAUSE I HAD IT ROUGH AND IN SADNESS.

Let us stop being selfish and stop pushing our problems/burdens on others. Your child should be with you no matter how poor or rich you are and you must teach them in the ways of God.

Some parents in Nigeria, have children in Diaspora and know nothing about their life , only the fact that their child is abroad.

wot the heck is the 50 year old cargo talkin about...am a londonder (living in rich area of Pekam near City airport) & THERE are pleanty of women here: lightskin women, half cast women, india women, chinesese, africa women, nigeria women & suplus women........juss becuz she cant find man, she sayin London is rubbbbish.. The old cargo need to go find man coz she a disgrace to our great Nigeria!!!!(no oofeinse)

complexBoss12:
Why do I get the feeling that kids in Africa, nay Nigeria, are the strongest in the world. In most Nigerian homes nobody cares about your mental state, none of all these spoon feeding. infact, your parents insult, beat and abuse the living day light out you, but most still turn out okay.


This is not to trivialize her experience, just the other side of it, I would never mock her pain.

The reality behind that most that are okay is better left unimagined, because somehow somehow they are replicating it either over their children or on people who are beneath them, and if they truthfully tell you the struggle they battle with away from them having that money and comfortability and you think they are all okay. It's the reason behind most of the unexplainable random acts or attitudes of some people..

cunny88:
She had a golden opportunity to skul abroad which millions of Nigerian are looking for, she misused it and is looking for an opportunity to apportion blame, ppl like me attended public skuls from primary to university level with very minimal supervision, cos our parents were poor, yet we manage to kip our heads above d water. She is the master or her fate and architect of her misfortune.

Somehow I really don’t feel her. Then again in life, irrespective of the circumstance some may turn out good in the wort of circumstance, other go bunkers in the best of condition. Some of us in Nigeria went through worse circumstance than she did but we didn’t come out bad. Six years in boarding school at one remote village in FCT no be beans. Another 4 years in one awful university living on meager 101. SAPA was our companion... yet we came out good. We didn’t prostitute, though many girls at delta were hawking every evening.

She had a good chance.. a chance many would fast and pray, tug God.

Do we all have a fixed destiny irrespective of our circumstance? Are some destined to fail?

This is nothing but stupid virtue signalling. You enjoyed being a slut because of the pleasure and power it gave you. By your own words, you even rebelled against a brother of yours who took you in to protect you from streets, because you thought his mode of correcting you were vicious. How ironical that you are craving parental control and at the same time rebelling against a figure of authority. What makes you think you would have listened to your parents if they had tried to instill discipline in you? If you didn't like what was hapening out there in the streets, why did you keep going back to it?

This is why our world is so paradoxically getting more and more slutty, degenrate, full of STDs.... and at the same time more and more prude and puritan. As soon as a young lady learns she has any ability to manipulate men and milk them for sexual favours, she goes in full swing tr to the detriment of her mental development, only to turn around and blame parents or being sent abroad.

After stunting your mental development to enjoy a life of partying, smoking, drinking sexing high status men and access to free money, you now want us to believe all these happened because your parents werent there to guide you. This is as laughable as it is hilariously delusional.

So many posts recently from people in the United Kingdom about the same topic, but none of them is mentioning their intention of coming back to nigeria due to life treating them so badly over there lol

cunny88:
She had a golden opportunity to skul abroad which millions of Nigerian are looking for, she misused it and is looking for an opportunity to apportion blame, ppl like me attended public skuls from primary to university level with very minimal supervision, cos our parents were poor, yet we manage to kip our heads above d water. She is the master or her fate and architect of her misfortune.

I somewhat agree with you but disagree with the golden opportunity. My story is a bit similar to hers coming to the UK when I was 17, when Shagari was president and exchange rate £ 1.00 to #1.20. Was able to attend a nice independent school but when the Naira started falling then your status changed from Nigerian middle class to UK working class. You have to attend schools every Tom, Dick and Harry . Back then it was still ok but now those just coming in, you will move your kids from private schools in Nigeria to schooling with kids who's dad is a Jamaica drug dealer, Somalian warlord, to Albania gang member. It is a different world. There is no encouragement in to do well in these schools.

The TV idea of black success is gangster rappers and sport personalities and all the black boys what to emulate them. You ask them what do you want to be when you grow up and they they ask which one pays the most. Their counterpart in Nigeria want to be Doctors, lawyers, engineers, they have access to programme like Cowbellpedia and are encouraged to work harder. There is something about the UK which I call "drifting", which is you wake up, eat and sleep before you know it, the years pass you by and you have not achieved anything!

I came to the UK to do my O-levels but 2 years later still struggling with it. By chance my dad send me a ticket to come home for holiday. (Thank God). I went looking for some of my friends and found they were about to start their second year University. This knocked some serious sense into me. I was really disturb and I couldn't wait to get back to London and just do something. Seven years later, I graduated at age 26 years and felt like an old man. I had admission to study a Master's degree but couldn't raise the funds. If my parents were with me in the UK and working in factory, I am pretty sure they would have help raising the funds.

I think my parent wanted the best for me and did their best, so I can not fault them in anyway. I wouldn't say it is a golden opportunity. It is very difficult if you are not rich. If parents were around they will constantly be on your case to do something useful with your life but having said that not all parents. The new Japa crew have no time for that, and most just constantly working and less time for their kids.

As said in a previous post, my success in the UK has got nothing to do with the UK but with Nigeria! If you lose your Nigeria values then most likely you will be a drifter like the Nigerian woman. In my son school, when it was exam time one of the oyinbo parent withdrew their son saying it will be too stressful for him. Welcome to the UK

GboyegaD:
Reminds me of a friend's cousin. You don't send a child abroad because you have the means. If a child isn't matured, let him grow up first. The street here is full of all kinds of ravaging beast and it takes a matured and strong willed child to survive as the exposure is alarming and one can miss it with ease.

I was looking out for your comment to blame Nigeria for this woman's predicament. Nigerians will only read the headline and will quickly think shes discouraging them from coming abroad. That is why I was expecting to see comments like "Come back to Nigeria na" "Stop discouraging us from relocation" as if most of them even have money for relocation.