tepes:
Good morning redpillers. I've been a follower of this thread from the early days. Thanks for all your inputs.

I want to share my current experience that happened to me with you all so you can observe one or two things. It will be lengthy


Cheers

OffsahBoye:

Quite a long read
since your mind is made that you aren't going to wife her
Why not just play along,get the coochie then you bounce
Staying all that long with her(7yrs) without getting the coochie is like a loss to me because another man will just come and get it
Play her game with her,your advantage is you know where it'll end But she doesn't

He go pain me if you no deflower that girl,that's your receipt for the 7yrs transaction
Then bounce

tepes:
Good morning redpillers. I've been a follower of this thread from the early days. Thanks for all your inputs.

I want to share my current experience that happened to me with you all so you can observe one or two things. It will be lengthy

I had a girlfriend who was a friend during my school days. From friendship, we grew into something else over the span of 7 years. We started dating this time last year. This lady chose me not because I did anything special or have lots of money to spend on her. She barely demands a thing from me. I was at my lowest financially but she was there to encourage me. In my heart, I prayed to God to ease things for me so I can settle down with her though I know there's nothing in for a man when it comes to marriage but I'm not a fan of baby mama stuffs.

My girl is not the usual type you find around. She's a strong believer in God and she's quite the modest type. Beautiful, tolerant, understanding and to some extent thinks things from logical perspective. Above all things, she's a virgin which I've confirmed myself.

Now before she met me, I've been in several relationships where I've been sexually active even with virgins and all that. I got the looks you could easily rate me over 9. From a young age, women has never been my problem. They flock around me even the married ones but I'm not the type of guy to go after everything in skirt. We are in crazy times and the statistics of HIV in this country is quite crazy. One has to be wise.

My girl lives in another state and works in a bank so there's practically no time for her to come over. At one point she was with me and things happened she had to relocate back home. I opened a business with the intention of her managing it while I focus on my fx journey with the possibility of travelling out if she could handle things without me.

Recently she said she would relocate back next year but she won't be staying with me because she's not too comfortable with it. I felt a lil bit embarrassed by that statement cux for me I'm trying to fix things so she won't have to over stress herself because she's not the physical strong type. Well whatever works so far she's comfortable in her crib then there's no big deal.

It's been a year we saw eachother. My business wouldn't permit me to move an inch cux of terrible staffs and her banking job won't let her due to lots of restrictions. Our sexual life is zero. The last time we tried to even have sex, it took alot of talking . I'm not the guy used to such cux my belief is if a woman is into/chose you, she won't stress you. The sex didn't happen so I left her virginity intact cux I'm not the one to pressure.

So she made a statement yesterday while we were chatting about how she likes hugging others but she finds it weird and hard doing it around me. So I asked her why it so then she was like she has these bad stuffs in her head and she's a child of God. She pulled the religious card on me and trust me I'm not a fan of over religious people. It's a huge turn off for me. There should be a balance. I told her since she's a child of God, I am of the devil. Light and darkness cannot meet so why even bother been with me?. How long I'll stay in this sexual hibernation?. I told her blank that on the long run this won't work cux I'll go outside to satisfy my sexual side which is basically cheating.

Now if she was not selfish and tried to put herself first, she would have asked what we could do to remedy the situation since relationships is all about understanding. She didn't even make any efforts or such. She just said its okay, she won't get in the way of my happiness so our relationship became over. I didn't initiate that conversation to end the relationship, but from her reaction, it looked like the relationship didn't mean anything to her though she was saying emotional things but for her to just accept things like that shows the level of her commitment and how much she desired me.

The moral lessons I got from this relationship that ended is quite intoned with the redpill we all preach here daily.

1. Sex before anything else.

2. Her actions will always speak louder than any emotions

3. She can choose you and still put herself first.

4. A woman doesn't really love you.

5. As a man, always show that sexual side. If they don't want or accept that, then move on to the next. It's not ideal to keep her around if she doesn't please or satisfy you. Always make sure you are getting something from her.

6. Value should begets value. Avoid a one sided relationship.

7. Never be afraid to walk away no matter the bond or history if your needs as a man is been neglected.

8. Get them to commit thier sexual side. That's basically their trump card. A woman that has been with you sexually can't easily walk away. To her, she has invested in you.

9. Avoid the over religious. That "holy than thou attitude". It never ends well.

10. Any sex that's withheld is not worth it. Life's full of uncertainty. You dont want to be that guy that builds women for others to wife. If she's saving herself and wants you to still play the role of a provider all in the promise of a union someday before you get to lay with her, then you are walking into a trap. I find these type of ladies with this mindset highly manipulative and unreliable.

11. She will never fully give you authority in the union. She tried to sell that no sex crap to me in hopes that I'll commit to her. I wonder what would the future would look like cux majority of the times I'm certain she would want to control the sex in the home because I would have actually given her that power during dating. I actually wanted to wife her up but the logical side of me can't look past these things. My sister would always say that a failed relationship is better than a failed marriage. So in all, I thank God for the outcome.

Men out there please be wise. These ladies will always put themselves at an advantage. I'm thankful I didn't overdo things financially due to my redpill exposure. It would have been a mess. No matter how much you love her, open your eyes to the truth standing in front of you and never fail to vet her. Always have options so you dont fall for their manipulations. Keep focusing on you kings.

Cheers

tepes:


I meant we have been friends for 7 years before attempting relationship last year. I have no intentions of playing along with her just because of sex cux I really had good plans for her..I've been with ladies bro..it's not much of big deal..it's just that I actually wanted to do everything with one person but she was not in for that so it's better it ended that way..atleast I won't get that "you used me" tag

HARDESTNIGGAINT:


YOU SHOULD HAVE DEAD THE RELATIONSHIP FROM THE BEGINNING

Uptheante:

Bro, the fact is that women don't regard men like you with any form of respect.
You being nice & considerate towards her is actually a turn off to her though she'll deny it.
It may shock you to know that another guy or even guys have been fuccking her silly throughout the 7yrs + while you were being nice & considerate with her.
When dealing with a girl, especially a Nigerian girl, your aim should be to put yourself first & be able to counter any form of manipulation from her.

You should bang her pusssy silly with zero emotions attached & also have other girls around you as a constant reminder to her that she can be easily replaced, & never be afraid to call out her bullshit whenever she misbehaves.
Do this & watch her respect you & always trying to please you

tepes:



Based on her religious beliefs, she wants to keep herself till wedding night..I've let her be..I can't play myself..there are lots of ladies around and she knows..even marriage doesn't guarantee anything

tepes:



Based on her religious beliefs, she wants to keep herself till wedding night..I've let her be..I can't play myself..there are lots of ladies around and she knows..[b]even marriage doesn't guarantee anything

tepes:



Based on her religious beliefs, she wants to keep herself till wedding night..I've let her be..I can't play myself..there are lots of ladies around and she knows..even marriage doesn't guarantee anything

Uptheante:

Is she really a virgin or she's deceiving you while getting fuccked by someone else?

tepes:


She is..the turn off is the fact that she's holding onto that..life is unpredictable..even in marriage people change. Withholding sex is actually not worth it..After deflowering then what next? What can you use to keep me if I don't want to stay with just you? Women don't think

akwesenana:

Why do I feel she's being straffed silly where she lives.
She now wants to use religiousness to pose as a wife material so you'll fall.
But you didn't.

tepes:


She is..the turn off is the fact that she's holding onto that..life is unpredictable..even in marriage people change. Withholding sex is actually not worth it..After deflowering then what next? What can you use to keep me if I don't want to stay with just you? Women don't think

Pukkalolo:


You are fucking right: Women love too "Accumulate male numbers"

This is why the worse thing to happen to any man is to become emotionally attached to a woman to soon.

Girls would easily manipilate and exploit a guy that become serious and attached WAY TOO QUICKLY.

Ladies, especially the attractive ones, most times takes few months to get very attached to a guy. This is probably because she have plenty of options and are really selective about the guy she choose to call "My Man"

Lack of experience is most times the reason a guy become emotionally attached to a new girl he just met. The less experience a guy have with women the more easily he become attached to a girl; and the more easily he lose the girl.

This is kinda like the "catch-22" situation where all jobs require you to have some years of experience to be considered, but you have no work experience because the only way to get the work experience is through getting the job.

But how can a guy stop becoming emotionally attached?

Although becoming Emotional attached to a girl isn't really the problem, the problem is becoming attached when the girl doesn't feel the same way yet.

One way to stop becoming emotionally attached to girls quickly is to have more female options.

For the most part, emotional attachment generally comes from lack of options.

There's nothing more sexy than a man with options.

Even if you don't currently have more female options, you can build options in other areas of your life.

The guy that get emotionally attached to girls quickly generally don't have stuffs going on his life. He rarely have cool and exciting experiences.

So when a cute girl comes around and show him little green light - it's usually the testimony of the year; he gets attached immediately, trying hard to make things work; girl sense neediness, then she get bored, and loses interest.

You need to direct your emotional attachment to something more worthwhile: that thing can be your goal, job, ambition, education or whatever... basically you should have something productive in your life that means more to you than any lady that you just met.

VERTEX1:
This is the most valuable thread for me since I found it because every life aspect is discussed in disguise.
Please I've better problem, I'm very thin not slim. I've tried doing gym but would always result to body pain, making me not to concentrate on money ventures following days after the gym.
I'm not that short atleast 5.8 ft. but I'm very skinny like It's hard wearing shorts and polo in order to cover my bones *lol. One girl I've bedmatics plan for just told me that I don't look like I've strength, that in short I'm not strong. How do i manage my situation o.

kumbhuru:
Igbo women are the worst.

I think Hausa and a Northern women are the best

IwasNeverGone:

You re a tribalist, shame on you

tepes:


I meant we have been friends for 7 years before attempting relationship last year. I have no intentions of playing along with her just because of sex cux I really had good plans for her. I've been with ladies bro..it's not much of big deal..it's just that I actually wanted to do everything with one person but she was not in for that so it's better it ended that way..atleast I won't get that "you used me" tag

kumbhuru:

Not tribalism. Open to debate