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Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by jimmychang: 12:14pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
CLATHRIN: Even serial killers have excuses same with ritualistic and cannibals.It is not a valid one. You understanding people doesn't mean those people are not damaged or better than society sees them.A prostitute is a prostitute we all have choices simple. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Mindlog: 12:26pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Gloriagee: For covering up for her son, who is also a minor under her care. It is an offense to cover up the sexual abuse of a child. That toddler is scarred for life. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by tensazangetsu20(m): 12:31pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
2 years old child. God have mercy. ![]() ![]() ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Gloriagee(f): 12:33pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Oluwa Sanu wa sha .... Mindlog: 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Princeaniemeka: 12:42pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
VERY SAD!!!! MY BROTHER, I CAN ONLY IMAGINE WHAT IS GOING THROUGH YOUR MIND BUT BE THATAS IT MAY, THE DID HAS BEEN DONE. WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS CREATING UNNECESSARY BAD MEMORY ON THE EXISTING BAD ONE. YOUR WIFE WILL EQUALLY BE SHOCKED, PAINED AND ASHAMED WHEN SHE FOUND OUT, WHICH LEAD HER TO THE POOR JUDGMENT SHE MADE BY NOT TELLING YOU. PLEASE FOR THE SAKE OF THAT LITTLE GIRL FUTURE, LET THE SLEEPING DOG LIE. NEVER DO ANYTHING THAT WILL ALWAYS REMIND THAT GIRL WHAT HAPPENED WHEN SHE WAS TWO YEARS (LIKE DIVORCE). USE THE GOOD SIDE OF YOUR WIFE TO OVERCOME HER FLOW'S. THIS IS A TEXTING PERIOD IN YOUR LIFE, DO NOT GO THE WAY YOUR WIFE DID. RATHER PACKAGE YOUR HOME AND FORGIVE HER AND FORGIVE YOURSELF (VERY VERY IMPORTANT) NOTE.... THE ONLY THING THAT CAN SAVE THAT INNOCENT SOUL IS THE IMPECCABLE LOVE OF BOTH PARENTS AND BELIEVE YOU ME YOUR WIFE WILL NEVER LET ANY HARM BEFALL ON THAT CHILD AGAIN. IF YOU TAKE THE HARDEST DECISION THAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO TAKE, YOU ARE GOING TO CHANGE A LOT OF LIFE. IT'S THE FUTURE OF THAT LITTLE GIRL THAT IS AS TAKE... SHALOM My wife and daughter traveled to her village in August for 3weeks and they were supposed to be back before the school resumption but she changed her mind saying her mother was seriously ill that she has to extend her stay which was fine by me and when they returned back I noticed that she has lost so much weight which I asked her why she said it was due to the stress of caring for her sick mother which is normal she is her only daughter and oldest of 4 her younger ones are boys so they cannot take care of their mother better than her and here is the reason I got her arrested during her stay in the village her 14 years old brother raped my daughter this is one of the reason she overstayed in the village she didn't tell me anything about my daughter being raped she and her mother had decided to give her treatment and cover the idiot that repeatedly raped her and when she came bck she didn't say anything to me but she confided in her prophetess which in her turn has started spreading news until it came to my ears that my own daughter was raped and her own mother has kept quiet and I can imagine if it was a member of my family that did the abominable acts the whole world would have heard it and she would have done everything in her power to put in prison but because it is her own brother she has decided to keep quiet and not knowing the world is small and not secret is hidden forever I took my daughter to the hospital the result has confirmed she was tampered i was devasted she has been the best wife to me and she has helped me and my sisters to reconciled in the past but what she has done to me it is unforgivable and I have arrested her and when I bail her I will divorce her and take custody of my daughter I don't know if I need advice or not but your input and suggestion are welcome I will be reading all your comments [/quote] 16 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Nobody: 12:45pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Fountainofyouth: how old are u...38yers or 41 yers? ![]() |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Hannania(m): 1:01pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
CLATHRIN:You won't do all these things you mentioned if you were in his shoes. Any woman who can not trust me enough to be my first confidant is not worthy to stay with me. Not even for something as grievous as this. It's easy to get all religious with peoples case, but we're not God and there are margins for forgiveness . Your statement shows you don't really know the value of trust or real virtue. And its the disease we spill out in the Christendom 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by NoToPile: 1:01pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
There are situations one pray never to fall into. The problem is lots of families in Nigeria cover up sexual assault cases. The woman is probably more hurt than you are concerning her daughter, fear probably didn't make her tell you, fear of being blamed, fear of your reaction etc. I honestly dont think arresting her is the best step. The boy should be put in juvenile prison. Anyway the family has crashed already by these string of events. There might have been another outcome if handled differently. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by CLATHRIN: 1:04pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
jimmychang: I feel this is deflecting. Our emotion is just one of few things you can pick from my post but if you choose to lay the wreath just on that, so be it. You could have gleaned from my post that perception is affected by life experiences. Too. By the way, who says we don't all act based on emotions. At some level, in so many situations, we don't really extricate emotions from our decisions and actions. 3 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Richy4(m): 1:07pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
This is disheartening honestly especially for a 2 year old who will be told as she grows older that she may have been raped by an uncle.. I can't say if the OP is handling this matter perfectly... Reporting to the police is good but arresting your wife is like dancing a different tune from the music that was being played.. It is heart breaking but what I think would have been for both of you to come together to find a better solution that centered on your kid...She(your wife) should have told you no doubt...She got no excuse whatsoever, If she can confide to a third party, surly she should have told you..... This is a trying time for both of you...You have an equal right to that child as well as the mother buddy... Arresting your wife is not the answer to the problem at hand...No sensible mother will want their kids raped...Arresting her made it look like you loved the child more than the mother and she deliberately put the child in harm's way.... As for the boy, Assuming it was an advanced world, that boy would have gotten all the help he needed considering his age...a counsellor or agencies that sees to this kind of case would have taken him under their wings... But since it's Nigeria, he will be tinted for life...or even commits suicide if care is not taken because of stigma..He is a minor too.. 9 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Hannania(m): 1:11pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
co787:Your move should be around the future and image of your daughter. Your wive don't seem to trust you enough to reveal such to you as the first point of contact. If I can't have a wife who is my confidant, then I can't live under the same roof with her. That boy needs to be prosecuted, even though he's not 18 yet, there are cases for him. For the future of your daughter, please disassociate her now or in future with that family. Else, she will live in shame and low esteem for the rest of her life. If I were in your shoes too, I will outrightly divorce her. She obviously chose her brother over her marriage to even have the guts to tell a prophetess but not you. Save the future of your child man ![]() 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by purehustle101(m): 1:22pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
These life is full of trouble. Some people deserve to be castreted.. nothing will stop me from castrating him, even if it took me 2years to plan. That's the only thing that can give me peace of mind again. Do not forgive, 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Mrkindness: 1:22pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Free your wife please if you like you can divorce her but make sure that her brother enter jail. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by nnamdiosu(m): 1:27pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
co787: Wait, they raped a two years old baby? Pls confirm. 2 years or 20 pls |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by MarketDispatch: 1:32pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
DaInferno: For hiding very critical and vital information from her husband and father of the girl, but rather confiding in a prophetess. 5 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by CLATHRIN: 1:36pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Hannania: I used to be blatantly retributive but my experiences and seeing my own fallibility have made me much more compassionate. From my failure and God's mercy and salvation, I appreciate mercy and forgiveness. I'm sorry if those values don't resonate much with you or maybe, they don't resonate in cases like this with you. Blessings. 5 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by MarketForces: 1:41pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
mens83: She has no right to withhold such information from her husband and confide in an outsider - a so called Prophetess. The arrest part is a worthy example for the wife. What is a family matter without the husband? If she doesn't consider the husband family enough, then, she deserves to go. Why is nobody talking about the other part where he said that the same wife would have brought down the roof if it were to be someone from his own family that did it. Women must learn to detach properly especially when you marry a good man. Same for men. My sister will always warn any of her visitor from her side that they are the strangers in her home and must behave as such. I once had a business deal with her husband and na she even threaten my life until I paid the guy. I'll call my in-law and tell him stories why I couldn't meet up with paying him and he'll tell me it's fine. Once my sister finds out, she report me to every body telling them how I want to wreck her husband and how she'll get me arrested if I don't pay up. I kept malice with her but now I know better. Any woman I'll marry must copy her formula. It's she, her husband and children before any other party. 40 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Kreddy: 1:48pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
co787: This is really frustrating! in my own naive opinion. Your wife did the right thing by not telling you, but telling the prophetess was the biggest mistake. the matter should have been burried within her family. She knows you might get the boy arrested which might aggravated the whole issues. she wanted to protect her daughter image by not arresting her bro. Forgive her and don't divorce her over the matter. Both if you are passing through the same thing, the thought that her own blood brother raped her daughter is enough punishment. 3 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by 196chetachi: 1:51pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
this case weak me, I can't just imagine the rapist sef is 14 and your kid 2.. na to beat the life out of that boy cos I doubt he can be jailed due to his agethis case weak me, I can't just imagine the rapist sef is 14 and your kid 2.. na to beat the life out of that boy cos I doubt he can be jailed due to his age... 5 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Kreddy: 1:52pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
co787: I'm quite sure the rapist will still be at range of 3-7 years,if it's forget about the matter and settle it amicably |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Thebadpolitican(m): 1:58pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
co787: Cracking my head on what I would do in such situation I would advise you leave the little boy alone even if you have to arrest, the it should be the boy parents that should go in for not training their child properly Send you wife parking to her father's house till you cool off and take your children during those time.... Arresting you wife would be way to far please Wahala |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by HornyTave: 2:05pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Kreddy: congratulations,you've won the Award for the most stupid idiot on the internet today 2 awards would be presented to you, one for being stupid the other for being an idiot. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by HornyTave: 2:08pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
As an Esan man, I congratulate you for all the steps you took, all are in accord with a principled man who's not only LOGICAL but understand, that STREET SMART is all about LOYALTY. If I were you, I would divorce her, ask for the bride price I paid, take my kids, she's unfit to raise them and lastly cut away from them. eh eh that boy when rape, you need to arrest him too.more important. they will come to beg you o, if you accept, start counting your days on earth 19 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Mercury12(m): 2:13pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Women shaa ![]() She ought to have told you 2 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by jimmychang: 2:17pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Kreddy: Watin be this 3 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Spy360(m): 2:21pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
I am sorry to hear what you have to go through. But your harsh reaction informed why your wife hid the information from you. You need to cool down first. Release her immediately, apologize to her, accept her own apology. Then both of you must join forces to get that spoilt brat thoroughly dealt with. He must be severely punished within the confines of the law. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Kaycee54321(m): 2:22pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
A 14 year old boy raped a 2 year old baby...The mother of the 2 year old baby is a sister to the rapist. She decides to hide this grievous crime from her husband but confides in a random "prophetess" who decides to help her spread the news... What manner of fuckery is this? OP has a rapist brother-in-law. OP has a wife who should be convicted for aiding & abetting a rapist. OP has a mother-in-law who should be convicted for aiding & abetting a rapist. OP has an innocent baby who has been defiled at such a tender age. What manner of fuckery is this ![]() 25 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Mercury12(m): 2:31pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
CLATHRIN:Hmm So for short. Op should rethink his decision. Good one |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Mercury12(m): 2:35pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
tensazangetsu20: Quite pathetic. Honestly. I can't just imagine it. Tough situation and decisions 1 Like |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by LordIsaac(m): 2:39pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Women always think about the now...how to escape the moment's problem. Your wife didn't know what to do. I'm so sorry on her behalf. Please forgive her and take her back. She's the bone of your bone, meaning, you locked yourself in prison. If it were a case of infidelity, divorce is permitted. But this is a case of negligence. The deed has been done. Treat your baby and heal your home. This is all I can say, however difficult it sounds. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Bignuell(m): 2:52pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
If possible, do not allow her have custody of your daughter again. What fuckery is this 3 Likes |
Re: I Have Arrested My Wife by Jozilinn: 2:53pm On Dec 07, 2022 |
Abeg oga don't vex but please go ahead with your decision, because your wife was just being plain stupid like which mother would tolerate that shit on her child, initially I thought your kid was mature not until I saw 2 years old... like seriously guys have haven't you all seen a 2 year old child before, some are still learning how to talk self. I hate your wife already, including that mother of hers that didn't train her son well... please don't marry her again and make the arrest of her brother a secret to her least they help him escape. He should suffer for it now that he's of this age least he ends up even sleeping with his mother or sister self... don't forget that your wife might give birth to another child and the chance of this incidence happening again is very high...apart from that your daughter right now might just be a target for some sickos too. Your wife action towards this would encourage others to do the same... though I would have loved to give her another chance but I can't think of any right now, your daughter needs to depart from the family of your wife,her brother won't stop there if you continue the marriage... please pray well for your wife and your daughter too. God bless you 2 Likes |
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