Hello everyone,

How do you deal with people seeing you as competitive in a workplace. It’s affecting me, especially as I’m the youngest and people are beginning to give me reactions.

Is it best to go under radar? sometimes you try your best to mingle but people respond with straight faces.

Also the fact that I’m an introvert makes this so hard.

I’m struggling

Thanks for this question. I'm in the same shoe with you. The only difference here is that it doesn't worry me. Rather, I enjoy it.

You said:

I’m struggling

I feel deeply mortified by that line.

It used to worry me this way. But now, no more.

I'll share some ideas here shortly. I'll be right back.

I'm back.

To start with, here are things you need to take note of...

1. You are highly gifted, and/or
2. You are good-looking.

If I'm wrong in any of the above, feel free to say it (although, you may not be self-aware. It happened to me too).

For years, I couldn't understand why people just get angry at me. That was because I wasn't self-aware enough.

I couldn't understand that I'd be helping someone, and all of a sudden this same person turns against me. It has happened to me even on this forum. I'll tell you more on this.

Later, I found out why. And, that's what I'm here to share.

It started one day after I read a passage in the Bible where Jesus was talking about this same issue. I mean that Jesus too had this same issue you have.

And Jesus saw in the Old Testament where it was written, "and they hated me without cause". (I'll find the quotation).

I'm taking time to do this because I feel what you feel. And, I know there are many other people here who have similar issues.

The people giving you attitude can almost always be found in these categories:

1. Less gifted people who envy your gift (I've had very bad experience here. You'll just be going on your own and someone thinks you're showing off when you don't even feel satisfied about your levels in life).

2. Fellow young men who aren't as good looking as you are, and who are jealous of the attention you get from women.

3. Women who want you to pay attention to them, but you are so serious with life that they think you are a snub.

So, how do you respond to them?

I have a lot to say here, but here are some of the key points...

1. Put your own life and welfare first - without being selfish though. I mean still be good to people but only to the extent that you enjoy doing so, not because you want to please them at all cost.

2. Be grateful that you are the one getting envied rather than being in the position of envying others. If you try to be a bit compassionate, you'll realize that these people must be suffering a lot. The way I see it is: If God seems to have given you more, then, let this be one of the prices you pay for it. This is one reason I now enjoy to know that someone is envying me.

3. Make up your mind that someone else cannot determine how you feel.

I have so much more to say on this issue but, typing this is difficult. But, I believe you got my point. Thanks.

Work on your attitude. Everyone can't be wrong.

sometimes you try your best to mingle but people respond with straight faces.

Also the fact that I’m an introvert

An introvert that wants to mingle

What an oxymoronic statement.

SimpleGuy001:
Hello everyone,

How do you deal with people seeing you as competitive in a workplace. It’s affecting me, especially as I’m the youngest and people are beginning to give me reactions.

Is it best to go under radar? sometimes you try your best to mingle but people respond with straight faces.

Also the fact that I’m an introvert makes this so hard.

I’m struggling

If you are not competing with anyone no one will compete with you.

Spy360:

If you are not competing with anyone no one will compete with you.

You don’t get it do you?

Lie low.
Keep quiet during general meetings.

Stop the "I too know" behavior.

Make sure you greet everyone every morning when you get to work. Visit their offices and say "goodmorning sir/ma"

Respond to everyone with sir/ma even when they're your junior ( it's wisdom).

Don't ever try to impress anyone with your dressing. (Die that idea sharp sharp).

SimpleGuy001:
Hello everyone,

How do you deal with people seeing you as competitive in a workplace. It’s affecting me, especially as I’m the youngest and people are beginning to give me reactions.

Is it best to go under radar? sometimes you try your best to mingle but people respond with straight faces.

Also the fact that I’m an introvert makes this so hard.

I’m struggling

Rule no 1: You guys are colleagues not friends.

2. You're there to do your work n go home...no unnecessary familiarity.

3. Don't forget rule 1&2

Richy4:
Maybe it's your young mindset playing a trick on you..

The idea of working is to achieve a common goal for the company that you are working for.... The competitors should be the other companies offering the same services as u ...

If you can use that mindset in terms of working, and see your colleagues as team, u won't go wrong...

Some people are naturally smart and very talented during brainstorming sessions in meetings... But the ability to be humble about your smartness while with colleagues is what will give you the respect and admirations that you deserve...

Nice, I need to keep my introvert at home so people don’t see me as arrogant.

jeromestarks:
Lie low.
Keep quiet during general meetings.

Stop the "I too know" behavior.

Make sure you greet everyone every morning when you get to work. Visit their offices and say "goodmorning sir/ma"

Respond to everyone with sir/ma even when they're your junior ( it's wisdom).

Don't ever try to impress anyone with your dressing. (Die that idea sharp sharp).

Yeah but you know we are in a school. Kind of training us and so you need to be a bit audible for them to see you yeah.

But I get what you are saying.

I need to put that sir thing

I think you made a lot of sense, because I don’t like the fact that they feel threatened by me. Bad for me....

Op how is it going
were you able to rent a cheap selfcon??