So I've been dating this lady since early this year and everything has been going on smoothly, in fact I even had to tell my mom about her, the first time I would talk to my mother about a lady, but she sounded not too pleased about the lady. Someone she hasn't even met physically.

I've two younger sisters between aged 17 and 15, I didn't like the way they were dressed the last time I visited home so I always try to send them a token every month end to get new cloths. This Xmas I have a lot on my table and have been brainstorming on how to structure my expenses.

My babe is an only child and a fashion freak so she has loads of cloths in her wardrobe. She offered to give some to my sisters without me even asking. She gave me over 30 different pieces of cloths, and bought an ayaya gown or whatever its called for my mom worth around 15k. This is a student that doesn't even have a reliable means of income and I don't give her much. She opened up that she has been saving to get my mom a gift.

I called my mom this morning to tell her that I would be sending the cloths over with some other stuffs I bought for them and she outrightly rejected the girl's gifts citing spiritual reasons that she cant accept gifts from someone she doesn't know. She even accused the girl of trying to pressure me into marriage by pretending to love my family.

I am 30 years old and have dated countless ladies and none has showed genuine concern towards my family like this particular one. It would be so heart breaking to tell her that my mom rejected her gifts knowing how she enthusiastic she was gathering those items.

Sometimes I get tired of my moms spirituality, she's not considering that my sisters even need those items. Those cloths worth over 50k even as second hand materials. I don't understand why she would dislike someone she hasn't even met before.

How do I handle this situation, I don't know what to do with these items, I can't return it to my girlfriend cos it will really hurt her.

If your mum does not feel comfortable accepting the gift, you can't force her, but then, can she stop your sisters from accepting theirs?

mariahAngel:
If your mum does not feel comfortable accepting the gift, you can't force her, but then, can she stop your sisters from accepting theirs?

Intelligent question abeg answer us my broda

mariahAngel:
If your mum does not feel comfortable accepting the gift, you can't force her, but then, can she stop your sisters from accepting theirs?

She said I shouldn't send for the girls either, that the spiritual warfare of her children is her concern. I still plan to send the cloths to my sisters, I doubt they will forgive her if she stops them from wearing them cos I know all ladies loves cloths and these ones are too fine to be rejected.

Your mum is wiser than you. A student with no means of livelihood that is a fashion freak is nothing but an olosho. Your mum knows but you are blinded by the free pussy she's giving you.

Pastors don too brainwash your mum so now she sees everything as spiritual but that's by the way though, your girl seems very nice and lovely (not the regular leeches that parades around thinking the guy dating her owe her his life) and if she ever gets wind of what your mum just said about her trust me that's the end of her nice behavior towards you and anyone close to you.

Talk to your sisters privately and ask them if they want it and look for a way to send it to them personally (if that's possible) but never you tell her your mum rejected her gifts.

Which one be Ayaya Gown again



What your Mum sees while sitting under a table , if you climb 2 mtn / Glo mast joined together you won’t see it



You mum knows you are like TONY UMEZ , she doesn’t want you to end up crying and shouting DOORLING DOORLING DOORLING

Your mum did well, but she should not bring spirituality into it. It’s not advisable to accept gifts from someone she never meet and interact with. Make your babe chilax, she’s fronting too much.

Justbehave:
Your mum is wiser than you. A student with no means of livelihood that is a fashion freak is nothing but an olosho. Your mum knows but you are blinded by the free pussy she's giving you.

Olosho wey carry her "hard earned" money worth several thousands buy gifts for person should at least be treated with a little respect don't you think

Many dey do the olosho work yet still billing their boyfriends to death

Justbehave:
Your mum is wiser than you. A student with no means of livelihood that is a fashion freak is nothing but an olosho. Your mum knows but you are blinded by the free pussy she's giving you.

op no even care where she get money to buy all those things and he quickly bought her story of saving for it. This op no sharp gaskiya

Justbehave:
Your mum is wiser than you. A student with no means of livelihood that is a fashion freak is nothing but an olosho. Your mum knows but you are blinded by the free pussy she's giving you.

So everyone living a good life is an olosho or yahoo boy.
There are a lot of online trading business that can change one's life for good.

peepydelano:
Your mum did well, but she should not bring spirituality into it. It’s not advisable to accept gifts from someone she never meet and interact with. Make your babe chilax, she’s fronting too much.

No normal person will accept such gifts from a anybody who doesn't have means of livelihood and a student for that matter. You think say op mother no know Wetin the girl dey do?

Justbehave:
No normal person will accept such gifts from a anybody who doesn't have means of livelihood and a student for that matter. You think say op mother no know Wetin the girl dey do?

Op no smart, e show for him writeup.

Aareakinwunmi:


So everyone living a good life is an olosho or yahoo boy.
There are a lot of online trading business that can change one's life for good.

By the way, Incase you have spare money, this is a good time to buy stocks

Op said she has no means of livelihood. If she was into online trading op will know but in this case,he doesn't. know of any.

peepydelano:
op no even care where she get money to buy all those things and he quickly bought her story of saving for it. This op no sharp gaskiya

I dey tell you. Very dull guy him be.

Eyah, she (your girlfriend) too should have known better.

As a lady, giving gifts to Inlaws potential inlaws etc needs wisdom because a random act of what you think you call kindness can be seen as something else e. g desperation to be accepted. Some would say the gifts were out of line, some would accept it some would reject it. Buying clothes seems out of line for some people.

I know someone who was chastised for spraying her boyfriends mother money while dancing during a party.

Now I doubt your mum would reject a small basket of fruits.

Well you would have to return it to her with style.

Tokskob2008:

Olosho wey carry her "hard earned" money worth several thousands buy gifts for person should at least be treated with a little respect don't you think

Many dey do the olosho work yet still billing their boyfriends to death

I understand. She try but the woman no want to hear say dem shoot bird,him mama fly

pyyxxaro:
Which one be Ayaya Gown again



What your Mum sees while sitting under a table , if you climb 2 mtn / Glo mast joined together you won’t see it



You mum knows you are like TONY UMEZ , she doesn’t want you to end up crying and shouting DOORLING DOORLING DOORLING

Doorling got me

Religion has brainwashed alot of pple., any small thing spirituality.

Let your mum to tell you whatever spiritual stuff behind her reasons., someone she has not met., yet she's already judging her from afar.

No be every lady wey dey make monee be olosho get to know pple before you judge them.

Justbehave:
Your mum is wiser than you. A student with no means of livelihood that is a fashion freak is nothing but an olosho. Your mum knows but you are blinded by the free pussy she's giving you.

Oga there are students that come from well to do homes...I don't know the kind of ladies that you surround yourself with that makes you think every good looking lady is into prostitution.

rezky:
Religion has brainwashed alot of pple., any small thing spirituality.

Let your mum to tell you whatever spiritual stuff behind her reasons., someone she has not met., yet she's already judging her from afar.

No be every lady wey dey make monee be olosho get to know pple before you judge them.

So what does she do for a living since the op said she doesn't work or into trading?

Return it to her and break that relationship up.

When the two of you are ready and fit to settle down, involve all the relevant parties and establish a proper union.

You'll see that, God willing, there'll be less of issues like this after that

pyyxxaro:
Which one be Ayaya Gown again



What your Mum sees while sitting under a table , if you climb 2 mtn / Glo mast joined together you won’t see it



You mum knows you are like TONY UMEZ , she doesn’t want you to end up crying and shouting DOORLING DOORLING DOORLING

you funny abeg, I no be Tony Umez,I am just concerned that she's reading meanings into a little act of kindness

Supreme145:


Oga there are students that come from well to do homes...I don't know the kind of ladies that you surround yourself with that makes you think every good looking lady is into prostitution.

Ode. Did you tell us her parents are well to do?

NoToPile:
Eyah, she (your girlfriend) too should have known better.

As a lady, giving gifts to Inlaws potential inlaws etc needs wisdom because a random act of what you think you call kindness can be seen as something else e. g desperation to be accepted. Some would say the gifts were out of line, some would accept it some would reject it. Buying clothes seems out of line for some people.

I know someone who was chastised for spraying her boyfriends mother money while dancing during a party.

Now I doubt your mum would reject a small basket of fruits.

Well you would have to return it to her with style.

The babe is nice naturally... I cant count how many stuffs she has dashed one single mom and her kids in my compound.

@Supreme145, go and properly introduce her to your mum as the girl you wish to marry, if you have not done that already.

Some of our parents are highly principled

Justbehave:
Ode. Did op told you her parents are well to do? He said it clearly that she has no means of livelihood so where and how was she getting the money to be living large on campus as a fashion freak. Some of you no dey reason well atall. Everything must be written in black and white before you understand issues. So tell us how she dey get the money as she no dey work

Oga chill, una too dey para na me be the OP

Supreme145:


Oga chill, una too dey para na me be the OP

Then your comment about her parents being well to do was an after thought.

Supreme145:
So I've been dating this lady since early this year and everything has been going on smoothly, in fact I even had to tell my mom about her, the first time I would talk to my mother about a lady, but she sounded not too pleased about the lady. Someone she hasn't even met physically.

I've two younger sisters between aged 17 and 15, I didn't like the way they were dressed the last time I visited home so I always try to send them a token every month end to get new cloths. This Xmas I have a lot on my table and have been brainstorming on how to structure my expenses.

My babe is an only child and a fashion freak so she has loads of cloths in her wardrobe. She offered to give some to my sisters without me even asking. She gave me over 30 different pieces of cloths, and bought an ayaya gown or whatever its called for my mom worth around 15k. This is a student that doesn't even have a reliable means of income and I don't give her much. She opened up that she has been saving to get my mom a gift.

I called my mom this morning to tell her that I would be sending the cloths over with some other stuffs I bought for them and she outrightly rejected the girl's gifts citing spiritual reasons that she cant accept gifts from someone she doesn't know. She even accused the girl of trying to pressure me into marriage by pretending to love my family.

I am 30 years old and have dated countless ladies and none has showed genuine concern towards my family like this particular one. It would be so heart breaking to tell her that my mom rejected her gifts knowing how she enthusiastic she was gathering those items.

Sometimes I get tired of my moms spirituality, she's not considering that my sisters even need those items. Those cloths worth over 50k even as second hand materials. I don't understand why she would dislike someone she hasn't even met before.

How do I handle this situation, I don't know what to do with these items, I can't return it to my girlfriend cos it will really hurt her.

You cannever understand a woman, more than her fellow woman...Let's keep you aside, as love is blind they say..

Get to know the reason behind this outright rejection..Some mothers are spiritual.

You see mothers, as they age, they fade away from sexual life with fathers to a more spiritual life and closeness to God..They see beyond atimes...In addition to experience.

I remember my mom seeing my big cousin's wife for the first time, her exact words to my Aunt was" I too like this girl" my Aunt was like for real?
She said yes.

And trust me The lady is just perfect if We can say..My cousin is lucky.

Some people frown when they see danger..There spirit rejects such immediately..Though they can succumb under pressure..But will tell you, I told you when issues starts pouring in.

Just get to find out your mom's reason.

My mother will do same if she doesn't know this girl down to her root..In the best interest, suspend the gift and take her home for a proper introduction..So they can interact..Before gifts can come in.

There is a communication gap you need to work on.

Supreme145:
So I've been dating this lady since early this year and everything has been going on smoothly, in fact I even had to tell my mom about her, the first time I would talk to my mother about a lady, but she sounded not too pleased about the lady. Someone she hasn't even met physically.

I've two younger sisters between aged 17 and 15, I didn't like the way they were dressed the last time I visited home so I always try to send them a token every month end to get new cloths. This Xmas I have a lot on my table and have been brainstorming on how to structure my expenses.

My babe is an only child and a fashion freak so she has loads of cloths in her wardrobe. She offered to give some to my sisters without me even asking. She gave me over 30 different pieces of cloths, and bought an ayaya gown or whatever its called for my mom worth around 15k. This is a student that doesn't even have a reliable means of income and I don't give her much. She opened up that she has been saving to get my mom a gift.

I called my mom this morning to tell her that I would be sending the cloths over with some other stuffs I bought for them and she outrightly rejected the girl's gifts citing spiritual reasons that she cant accept gifts from someone she doesn't know. She even accused the girl of trying to pressure me into marriage by pretending to love my family.

I am 30 years old and have dated countless ladies and none has showed genuine concern towards my family like this particular one. It would be so heart breaking to tell her that my mom rejected her gifts knowing how she enthusiastic she was gathering those items.

Sometimes I get tired of my moms spirituality, she's not considering that my sisters even need those items. Those cloths worth over 50k even as second hand materials. I don't understand why she would dislike someone she hasn't even met before.

How do I handle this situation, I don't know what to do with these items, I can't return it to my girlfriend cos it will really hurt her.

peepydelano:
op no even care where she get money to buy all those things and he quickly bought her story of saving for it. This op no sharp gaskiya

Una too get wahala for here...if girls bill you call them leeches, the few ones that are considerate and show concern you tag them pretenders. Someone that her dad stays abroad and sends her monthly allowance cant save 15k again.

Justbehave:
Then your comment about her parents being well to do was an after thought.

So I come here to detail her autobiography for you, I only added it when you pointed it out