flyinnizam:


how do you transact? I mean how do you purchase things in those country if you want to eat

How many times do you want him to answer this question?

OP, I enjoyed your thread.

Quite interesting & interactive.

ramalot:


No one living like this has two heads. I also dreamed of living this life one day, but I didn't stop at dreaming. I took every step necessary to get to this point. Make goals, break them into very small pieces that you can start today.

So the real question is, what can you do today to move you closer to the life you want to live? Maybe that step is enrolling in a course that teaches you a marketable skill. Maybe that step is watching a YouTube video on programming in Python, for beginners. It's all in your hands.

Thanks for the word of encouragement, I appreciate
Na money de yab man, I want to start a beer parlour business next year if funding comes

uchman:


How many times do you want him to answer this question?

Where did he answer it, I haven't seen it.

Dear op,
I enjoyed your thread. I'm not sure if you'll read this or reply. But just in case you do, I have been looking for a new career in the IT field. With my academic background being industrial design, I’m ideally looking for an entry level IT support role with an employer that offers professional growth. Please, I'll be grateful for anything you believe would be appropriate within your own network. Thank you

Interesting and fascinating

ramalot:


All countries in South America and Central America speak Spanish, except Brazil, where Portuguese is spoken. I already speak Spanish and some Portuguese. I do intend to visit Spain at some point. The pandemic affected those plans, when they were made before.

OK just learn something here now I don't know they do speak Spanish and Portuguese in the south America till now thanks manv

Good day Bro, trust you and your lovely family are enjoying your Christmas celebration season. Am Ted Ukam, I hail from Cross River State. Will want us to business transaction as I promise you will loved to work with me. Thanks. 07030919616 ukamted1984@gmail.com

ALFADOS:


OK just learn something here now I don't know they do speak Spanish and Portuguese in the south America till now thanks manv

Spanish throughout South America except Brazil...(Portuguese)...... Guyana...(English)...... Suriname ...(Dutch) .... and French Guiana (controlled by France... French).

Fearyourcreator:

Are the pictures taken with on phone cameras or professional cameras.. And again are the photos edited or not

I answered this question in the original post.
All pictures posted are taken on my phone, and none of them has been edited in any way. That's how I took them.

The pics with a wider angle and mostly deeper colors were taken on my Samsung s10e. Yes, that's my main phone. I don't chase "latest and greatest." The other pics with a more standard 50mm-type view were taken with a HTC One A9.

Pallium:

just like reading people's experience. I have read everything from the first page up to this page. Honestly, I have learned a lot on this thread more than I could have got from google. It just felt as if I am in a Cross-cultural Psychology lecture. You have been exposed to different culture of the world. I admire the kind of personality you have exuded so far and I like your vibe.
Your writing style is nice.
God bless you always.

I have seen the reply you gave about your fianceé's nationality.
Is she also a nairalander? Do you speak Russian?

What do you like about Nigeria? When was the last time you have been to Nigeria? What part of Nigeria are you from? When you have a dream, what is usually the language you speak in it?

Thanks.

Is she also a nairalander? Do you speak Russian?
No, she doesn't use Nairaland, and no, I don't speak Russian. Other than a few words and phrases, that is. She speaks English. She wants me to learn more Russian, but I'm not doing that now, because I like to focus on 1-2 things at a time. And that focus in the language department is currently on getting my Spanish to a higher level of fluency, and Portuguese (to an extent). I'd rather be really good at one thing than be mediocre at three, because I spread myself thin. We spend more time in Spanish-speaking countries, so my Spanish skills have been very useful for daily life. She can't speak any Spanish.

What do I like about Naija?
I love Naija music, and I was definitely a big advocate for what's now called "Afrobeats," in its early days. I literally had to force my friends in naija, back in the day, to listen to Nigerian music. Remember when people thought it wasn't cool to listen to it? And only Tupac, Biggie, R. Kelly, Mase and the likes were cool.

I was very busy introducing people to music from Remedies, Plantashun Boiz, Ruff Rugged & Raw etc, as a kid in the late 90s. To 6ft+, Modenine, Terry tha Rapman, Ruleclean and the whole Swat Root. Trybesmen and The Tribe, and everyone who was putting out good music. Too many people dismissed them back then, as "jobless youths," but not me.

These days, I walk around in malls, beaches, airports, clubs and the most random places around the world, and hear Naija music being played loud. I'm proud how far it has come, from the days I was forcing people in naija to listen to cassette tapes of naija songs I recorded from random FM radio shows. And music video clips I'd dub from AIT Primetime .

When was the last time you have been to Nigeria?

4ish years ago.

When you have a dream, what is usually the language you speak in it?

English is the only language I've spoken primarily, all my life, so English.

Hotty321:

Brother which tech can you advise Young men to do for someone that doesn't have any science related background before....
Looking to hear from you soonest sir.

Thanks in anticipation.

You don't really need a "science" background to get into tech. You just need average to above average IQ. Meaning, you need to have a problem-solving mental capacity.

Look into Data Analysis, Cybersecurity, UI/UX Design. If you want to challenge yourself more, look into learning programming languages, depending on what you want to use your skills to do.

tellsblinks:


You're a great man bro. I wish you the very best in future endeavours

If you're to advice your younger self with the same future (most of which you now enjoy)

What would it be?

Thanks.

It would be to focus all energy and resources in fewer things. I've owned so many businesses, many of which didn't do well, because I was trying to simultaneously run too many things. When that happens, time, funds and resources become insufficient for each project, and some wither and die.

So I've come to learn it's better to go full-ass on one or two things, than to half-ass a bunch of things.

Heroicvic:


How do you have acess to USA passport for travels, are you a us Citizen?

Only Nigerian citizens have access to a Nigerian passport. Same thing with every other country. So, yes.

I relocated from Nigeria with a green card in hand. So I didn't have to go through the trouble of "getting papers" when I got to the US, or anything. FYI, a green card holder is not a US citizen. You become eligible for citizenship after living there and having that green card for 5 years.

Originalsly:


Pallium.... no disrespect .... you ask very good questions... but Ramalot .. I beg you please.... don't answer that particular question .... tribalists are outside the gates in large numbers... chomping at the bit ... a clue of your tribe will trigger an invasion and the thread will turn into a tribal battlefield. History has a way of repeating itself.

Haha, I know better than to take the bait

Love800:
Well done sir.

How did u learn these languages?

Are there places in nigeria one can learn it?

I started learning both Spanish and Portuguese on an app called Duolingo. It's free and it's great.
You can learn the basics there. You can learn many languages on the app.

NNEVERAGAINN:
Alright, a nice thread indeed.

Please I have a design on drones. Can you linked me or mention some few drone producing industry in the US or Canada. Either military drones or commercial! Thanks in anticipation!

Sorry, can't help with this.

topsquino:


Hello

Thanks for sharing your experience.

I'm a freelancer who works remotely here in Nigeria, and I've been flirting with the idea of mimicking what you do, traveling around Africa in my case.

My decision stems from the fact that I love this beautiful continent (our weather and our culture are priceless). But I earn something decent (middle class income based on Nigerian standard ), so I don't I have the wherewithal to spend quality time in Europe or Latin America like you do.

That said.

Now, my question.

1. What good qualities are Nigerians (or blacks) known for in all the countries you visited. Do they consider us smart or dumb

2. Apart from being perceived as fraudsters, what other bad qualities do foreigners perceive Nigerians (blacks) as? Do they see us like lazy people?

3. Tangential to the information about my background, which African countries would you advise me to experiment with considering my income? Please factor the fact that I'm single and I will probably being going alone. Or do you think getting a partner along with make things interesting rather than risking going alone and hopefully finding a partner in my travel destination?

4. To put it simply, did you had more fun in those countries prior to having a girlfriend (or fiancé)? I'm asking you indirectly to state the pros and cons of traveling as (1) a single person while being receptive of finding a partner in the travel destinations or (2) bringing a partner alone here from Nigeria.

Please note.. I intend to be working remotely like you while staying in the travel destination.

This will be long.

I saw your question earlier, and see you removed the income figures. Good idea to do so. With that income, you'll be fine as a single guy, in LatAm. In Western Europe, you might struggle, but places like Lisbon can work. I also think you might be underestimating the cost of living a decent life in African countries.

It's often more expensive than Asia or LatAm, to live the same quality of life. Airbnb apartments in Abuja and Addis Ababa are more expensive than those across SE Asia and LatAm, on average. I guess the main problem then becomes getting visas, since I assume you're traveling on a Nigerian passport. To your questions:


1. Honestly, I don't know of any good qualities Nigerians are known for in places I've been. It's all been negative.

The only significant positive of Nigerians in the US is that, Nigerian-Americans are the most educated sub-group of people in the US. So the stock of Nigerians you find in the US are generally more educated than the general American population. I don't know if any other group has recently displaced Nigerians, but it's been this way for many years, in the US. So Nigerians in the US are considered relatively smart.

2. Nigerians are certainly known as fraudsters around the world (rightly so, if we're being honest). In South East Asia, a lot of Nigerians are also into drug dealing, so that becomes a problem for any other black person. Sometimes random people come up to me in Asia and ask if I know where they can get drugs. Simply because they assume most blacks know at least one drug dealer, if they're not a drug dealer themselves

3. If you're single, don't just grab any ol' random girl and start traveling with her. I'd say set out on your own, and see what the world holds for you. If you're an outgoing person with good social skills, you'll have so much fun and the freedom of being single.

4. This is a multi-layered question, and I can write a whole book about it. However, everyone is different. Some people thrive best by operating solo. Some are pack animals. Are you the kind of person who desperately needs to be in a relationship to feel validated? If you are, then seeing couples holding hands and kissing on the beach, while you're sitting alone on the sand might make you feel inadequate.

If you're like me, and these things have nearly zero impact on you, then you'll go out and enjoy the world. You'll meet so many people and develop so many friendships. On the other hand, if you set out from the very start with a partner, this has pros and cons.

For context, I traveled solo for about 2 years, before I met my now fiancee. We've been traveling together, for nearly 4 years.


Pros of traveling solo:

a. I think the biggest pro of being a single (and outgoing) person traveling solo is that you get to meet so much more people.

When you're a couple, you're both wrapped in your own bubble, and operate mostly in isolation of those around you. There will be quick interactions and stuff, but you're generally not going to leave your partner to go hang out with random strangers. When you're single, going to hang out with random strangers who then become acquaintances and friends is the routine.

b. Less expensive: Obviously it costs less to travel solo, vs a partner you're financially responsible for.

In my case, this doesn't apply much, for different reasons. My lady cooks like 90% of our meals, and even before her, I used to cook most of my meals myself. I prefer home-cooked meals to eating out. I always have. So this saves a considerable amount of money.

Also, my lady makes decent money from her business. So even though, as a more traditional man, I prefer to handle most things, she can take care of herself. She's not a liability and doesn't have a liability mindset. This is the kind of girl I don't mind spending on. The only thing I let her pay for are her main flight tickets. I made it that way from the start, because at the beginning, I had to make sure she wasn't just there to freeload on my travel lifestyle and resources.

Cons of traveling solo:

a. Like I said before, quiet and shy people might deal with loneliness and sometimes even depression.

b. If you're a guy, you might find yourself constantly trying to get the next girl on a date, or something. Especially if you're someone who struggles to get girls in general. This leads to frustration, for some.


So, in a nutshell, my advice is to travel for a while by yourself. After some time, consider getting a girl for a long-term thing. I don't know how old you are, but whatever you do, do not go traveling with a liability mindset partner. Ask yourself, if you were broke, would she spend her own money on you, until you got back on your feet? If you can't answer that with a confident yes, then don't travel with a partner like that.

This applies to both men and women. It goes both ways.

pak:

I am really enjoying your thread.

I love traveling but have some limitations.

Aside the south east, I have spent at least a day in all the states of Nigeria except Yobe and Kebbi.

And I have visited most of our near neighbors, Cameroon, Ghana, Benin, Togo.

But I have had difficulty visiting outside the country - declined visas twice.

Money isn't much of a problem for me, I run a successful startup but time certainly is, I am not always in Lagos and Abuja where most embassies are based and can't follow thru the onerous visa processes.

What advice do you give for me to push my adventures beyond the shores of Nigeria and Africa?

I think what you're dealing with is more of a priority issue than a lack of time. People make time for things that truly matter to them.

It's simple. If you want to "push your adventures beyond the shores of Nigeria and Africa," you need a visa. To get a visa, you need to make time. So the only question left to ask yourself is, is it worth your time? If it is, you'll make time.

Otherwise, feel free to hop on a plane to visa-free locations like Maldives. Although places like this offer nothing but high-cost, low-immersion beach resort type of experiences.

And congrats on running a profitable startup.

bepositive11:


Then how do you get clients?

I'm not sure if this is a real question, as it would suggest Linkedin is the primary source of clients, for a business.
It's just one of the numerous faucets attached to the river. Personally, I choose not to turn that one.

We have many direct and indirect, front end and back end project-acquisition channels, so we're fine.

flyinnizam:
how do you transact? I mean how do you purchase things in those country if you want to eat

Not too sure what you mean, but I believe anywhere in the world, transactions are done by the exchange of legal tender for goods and services.

If you mean a language barrier, English is often spoken in many places in the world. In Spanish-speaking places, I speak Spanish. In Portuguese-speaking ones, I speak Portuguese. In places like South East Asia, it's more challenging, but it's generally not rocket science to transact, even with zero language understanding.

ramalot:


This will be long.

I saw your question earlier, and see you removed the income figures. Good idea to do so. With that income, you'll be fine as a single guy, in LatAm. In Western Europe, you might struggle, but places like Lisbon can work. I also think you might be underestimating the cost of living a decent life in African countries.

It's often more expensive than Asia or LatAm, to live the same quality of life. Airbnb apartments in Abuja and Addis Ababa are more expensive than those across SE Asia and LatAm, on average. I guess the main problem then becomes getting visas, since I assume you're traveling on a Nigerian passport. To your questions:


1. Honestly, I don't know of any good qualities Nigerians are known for in places I've been. It's all been negative.

The only significant positive of Nigerians in the US is that, Nigerian-Americans are the most educated sub-group of people in the US. So the stock of Nigerians you find in the US are generally more educated than the general American population. I don't know if any other group has recently displaced Nigerians, but it's been this way for many years, in the US. So Nigerians in the US are considered relatively smart.

2. Nigerians are certainly known as fraudsters around the world (rightly so, if we're being honest). In South East Asia, a lot of Nigerians are also into drug dealing, so that becomes a problem for any other black person. Sometimes random people come up to me in Asia and ask if I know where they can get drugs. Simply because they assume most blacks know at least one drug dealer, if they're not a drug dealer themselves

3. If you're single, don't just grab any ol' random girl and start traveling with her. I'd say set out on your own, and see what the world holds for you. If you're an outgoing person with good social skills, you'll have so much fun and the freedom of being single.

4. This is a multi-layered question, and I can write a whole book about it. However, everyone is different. Some people thrive best by operating solo. Some are pack animals. Are you the kind of person who desperately needs to be in a relationship to feel validated? If you are, then seeing couples holding hands and kissing on the beach, while you're sitting alone on the sand might make you feel inadequate.

If you're like me, and these things have nearly zero impact on you, then you'll go out and enjoy the world. You'll meet so many people and develop so many friendships. On the other hand, if you set out from the very start with a partner, this has pros and cons.

For context, I traveled solo for about 2 years, before I met my now fiancee. We've been traveling together, for nearly 4 years.


Pros of traveling solo:

a. I think the biggest pro of being a single (and outgoing) person traveling solo is that you get to meet so much more people.

When you're a couple, you're both wrapped in your own bubble, and operate mostly in isolation of those around you. There will be quick interactions and stuff, but you're generally not going to leave your partner to go hang out with random strangers. When you're single, going to hang out with random strangers who then become acquaintances and friends is the routine.

b. Less expensive: Obviously it costs less to travel solo, vs a partner you're financially responsible for.

In my case, this doesn't apply much, for different reasons. My lady cooks like 90% of our meals, and even before her, I used to cook most of my meals myself. I prefer home-cooked meals to eating out. I always have. So this saves a considerable amount of money.

Also, my lady makes decent money from her business. So even though, as a more traditional man, I prefer to handle most things, she can take care of herself. She's not a liability and doesn't have a liability mindset. This is the kind of girl I don't mind spending on. The only thing I let her pay for are her main flight tickets. I made it that way from the start, because at the beginning, I had to make sure she wasn't just there to freeload on my travel lifestyle and resources.

Cons of traveling solo:

a. Like I said before, quiet and shy people might deal with loneliness and sometimes even depression.

b. If you're a guy, you might find yourself constantly trying to get the next girl on a date, or something. Especially if you're someone who struggles to get girls in general. This leads to frustration, for some.


So, in a nutshell, my advice is to travel for a while by yourself. After some time, consider getting a girl for a long-term thing. I don't know how old you are, but whatever you do, do not go traveling with a liability mindset partner. Ask yourself, if you were broke, would she spend her own money on you, until you got back on your feet? If you can't answer that with a confident yes, then don't travel with a partner like that.

This applies to both men and women. It goes both ways.

Thanks for your insights. I am highly appreciative. With that income I put early, what African countries do you recommend I start with. Please note that I'm not planning to stay in the places where wealthy people stay. I feel my natural habitat is where the middle class stays considering my income and considering the fact that I want to get a real feel of a different African culture

ramalot:


I'm not sure if this is a real question, as it would suggest Linkedin is the primary source of clients, for a business.
It's just one of the numerous faucets attached to the river. Personally, I choose not to turn that one.

We have many direct and indirect, front end and back end project-acquisition channels, so we're fine.

LinkedIn is usually a major source of clients for businesses that work with other businesses, especially in IT. It's interesting to know that you've found success with no presence on LinkedIn.

I would like to know what your acquisition channels are, but it's not related to your purpose of this thread. So I'll leave it up to you to decide whether to answer. You don't have to.

topsquino:


Thanks for your insights. I am highly appreciative. With that income I put early, what African countries do you recommend I start with. Please note that I'm not planning to stay in the places where wealthy people stay. I feel my natural habitat is where the middle class stays considering my income and considering the fact that I want to get a real feel of a different African culture

I haven't done extensive traveling in Africa, but I do know getting an identical standard of things cost more in Africa than SE Asia and LatAm.
So a decent $800-$1000/month 1-BR airbnb apartment in Bogota, Colombia or Buenos Aires, Argentina might cost $1,500-$2500/month in Abuja or Addis Ababa.

Keep in mind, you'll be getting lower value for your money in both Abuja and Addis, because you're in a less developed location. Power outages, unreliable internet and more things that rarely happen in most of SE Asia and LatAm.

If this is your first time venturing out of Nigeria and you're the type who thrives on familiar environments, then maybe visit Accra, Ghana for a bit. It should be familiar territory. You could switch it up to nearby places like Cotonou, for a different language culture.

Outside West Africa, South Africa is a good option. Sure, people will have their reservations about xenophobia and all in SA, but if you go to cities with fewer Nigerians, you might be better off.

Addis Ababa is also a nice place, if you like Ethiopian women (who wouldn't? ). The city is decent, but as I said before, the airbnb apartment costs are highly inflated. This is a problem in many parts of Africa. Since safety is often a problem in Africa, you don't want to put yourself in unnecessary danger by trying to stay in a bad neighborhood. You don't need to stay at the best, but as you said, a nice middle-class place.

I wouldn't really recommend North Africa, but some people I know, like Morocco.

bepositive11:


LinkedIn is usually a major source of clients for businesses that work with other businesses, especially in IT. It's interesting to know that you've found success with no presence on LinkedIn.

I would like to know what your acquisition channels are, but it's not related to your purpose of this thread. So I'll leave it up to you to decide whether to answer. You don't have to.

You're correct. However, as I said, I have my personal reasons for not using Linkedin. It goes beyond its effectiveness, or lack thereof, but more of a platform culture incongruence. And yes, I'd rather not get into the weeds of these things on this thread.

ramalot:


I haven't done extensive traveling in Africa, but I do know getting an identical standard of things cost more in Africa than SE Asia and LatAm.
So a decent $800-$1000/month 1-BR apartment in Bogota, Colombia or Buenos Aires, Argentina might cost $1,500-$2500/month in Abuja or Addis Ababa. Keep in mind, you'll be getting lower value for your money in both Abuja and Addis, because you're in a less developed location.
Power outages, unreliable internet and more things that rarely happen in most of SE Asia and LatAm.

If this is your first time venturing out of Nigeria and you're the type who thrives on familiar environments, then maybe visit Accra, Ghana for a bit. It should be familiar territory. You could switch it up to nearby places like Cotonou, for a different language culture.

Outside West Africa, South Africa is a good option. Sure, people will have their reservations about xenophobia and all in SA, but if you go to cities with fewer Nigerians, you might be better off.

Addis Ababa is also a nice place, if you like Ethiopian women (who wouldn't? ). The city is decent, but as I said before, the airbnb apartment costs are highly inflated. This is a problem in many parts of Africa. Since safety is often a problem in Africa, you don't want to put yourself in unnecessary danger by trying to stay in a bad neighborhood. You don't need to stay at the best, but as you said, a nice middle-class place.

I wouldn't really recommend North Africa, but some people I know, like Morocco.

.

Well said, thanks for taking some time out of the little time you have to answer all my questions.

Nice thread you’ve done here Ramalot. I hope to be like you someday, I’m a healthcare professional but I’m switching to tech in order to be able to get that freedom to travel. Business analytics and cloud computing are on my mind for now. I’ve been to SA twice and I received a good welcome from their women( you understand). From your thread, Brazil would be the next place on my list. Once again, nice thread you’ve got here. I wish I could connect with you someday.

ramalot:


I haven't done extensive traveling in Africa, but I do know getting an identical standard of things cost more in Africa than SE Asia and LatAm.co.

ramalot:


I started learning both Spanish and Portuguese on an app called Duolingo. It's free and it's great.
You can learn the basics there. You can learn many languages on the app.

.

Blurpy:
Nice thread you’ve done here Ramalot. I hope to be like you someday, I’m a healthcare professional but I’m switching to tech in order to be able to get that freedom to travel. Business analytics and cloud computing are on my mind for now. I’ve been to SA twice and I received a good welcome from their women( you understand). From your thread, Brazil would be the next place on my list. Once again, nice thread you’ve got here. I wish I could connect with you someday.

Brazil is great, you should check it out.

My fiancee is also a healthcare professional, but in order to get the freedom to remain traveling with me indefinitely, she made the transition.

She didn't move into tech though. I had her learn Social Media Management, so she could start a digital agency. Managing the online presence of healthcare businesses, and businesses in other fields.

She's intelligent, and learned what she needed to and launched the business quickly. Within 6 months, she was already making as much as what her full time healthcare job paid. Fast forward a few years, and she has a few employees doing most of the grunt work, and she's making about 5x what her 9-5 salary used to be. Plus the freedom of not having to go back to Russia, to work.

The difference between people who receive advice and succeed and those who don't, is action. Great business ideas and great advice are completely useless without taking true action on them.

iamL:



What africa countries, been to any?

I have friends who are inviting me to Kenya and a tech company is offering me a job in zambia but I am still skeptical due to my business in Nigeria.

Truth is am tired of staying in Nigeria honesty.

I haven't been to Kenya or Zambia, so I don't know. However, Kenya has a vibrant capital city and an active startup scene.

So you'll have to do your own research, to see what works for you, or not. If you're tired of living in Nigeria, then make an exit plan and make the first move toward it today. It could be as simple as filling out a passport application, if you don't have one. It's one step in the direction you want to go.

ramalot:


You don't really need a "science" background to get into tech. You just need average to above average IQ. Meaning, you need to have a problem-solving mental capacity.

Look into Data Analysis, Cybersecurity, UI/UX Design. If you want to challenge yourself more, look into learning programming languages, depending on what you want to use your skills to do.

Thanks for the response. Is programming more advanced than Data analysis? I just want to know

ramalot:


Brazil is great, you should check it out.

My fiancee is also a healthcare professional, but in order to get the freedom to remain traveling with me indefinitely, she made the transition.

She didn't move into tech though. I had her learn Social Media Management, so she could start a digital agency. Managing the online presence of healthcare businesses, and businesses in other fields.

She's intelligent, and learned what she needed to and launched the business quickly. Within 6 months, she was already making as much as what her full time healthcare job paid. Fast forward a few years, and she has a few employees doing most of the grunt work, and she's making about 5x what her 9-5 salary used to be. Plus the freedom of not having to go back to Russia, to work.

The difference between people who receive advice and succeed and those who don't, is action. Great business ideas and great advice are completely useless without taking true action on them.

You are absolutely right, l agree with your last paragraph, l spent close to one year advising a Doctorate Degree holder, he has the potential to be a billionaire in his country of residence, what he wants to get into, l am already in it and he has seen and heard from different people of the success of my own, l gave him several tips on the steps to take but till l post this message, he has not taken any step, l now ignored him completely since November 2022, he has sent me over 19 messages on whatsapp but l ignored him as well, l don't have time to waste for people who are not serious about taking steps to succeed in life, it is risky not to take a risk