Justbehave:
Lol. You are wondering if that thread is real because a woman is involved but you want us to see yours as real? I just dey look Una. Continue.

If you do not understand me, I don't waste my time repeating myself. You may think whatever you want

Aduke23:

If you do not understand me, I don't waste my time repeating myself. You may think whatever you want

Bleep you with your made up story.

Aduke23:

I don't know that, and if truly the thread is real, the mother is indirectly laying curse on her children.
My mum do tell me all the thing she tolerates from my dad is solely because of her children

Logically if your mum tolerates your dad's attitudes because of the children, that means the marriage would have ended long ago if it were childless.

Logically your mum doesn't love your dad
Or vise versa

Logically the marriage was built on a wrong intention

prof0fficial111:



Logically if your mum tolerates your dad's attitudes because of the children, that means the marriage would have ended long ago if it were childless.

Logically your mum doesn't love your dad
Or vise versa

Logically the marriage was built on a wrong intention

1) The mum is tolerating the irresponsible man because she doesn't want to break her home and the single mother tag on her and her kids

2) How do you expect the mum to continue to love an irresponsible man?

3) The marriage was not built on a wrong intention, instead, the continuous existence of the marriage is built on a wrong intention, it should have ended a long time ago.

Therefore, your logic is senseless.

Look for him. Just the two of you, ask him what exactly is wrong and why his nonchalant behavior. He will open a lot to you. From there you will know what to do.

prof0fficial111:



Logically if your mum tolerates your dad's attitudes because of the children, that means the marriage would have ended long ago if it were childless.

Logically your mum doesn't love your dad
Or vise versa

Logically the marriage was built on a wrong intention

What she meant is, if she treat him exactly the way he treats her, it may affect her children's future. Hence, that's why she's been careful about her behavior towards him

Jovialjune1:




1) The mum is tolerating the irresponsible man because she doesn't want to break her home and the single mother tag on her and her kids

2) How do you expect the mum to continue to love an irresponsible man?

3) The marriage was not built on a wrong intention, instead, the continuous existence of the marriage is built on a wrong intention, it should have ended a long time ago.

Therefore, your logic is senseless.

I wonder o

Nicepoker:
Look for him. Just the two of you, ask him what exactly is wrong and why his nonchalant behavior. He will open a lot to you. From there you will know what to do.

Lol...
It's part of him. Countlessly, I've spoken to as daughter to father. That's the way he has chosen to live his life

nicerod:
There must be a reason he's not showing concerned about his children.


Please don't take sides


I pray God provides for ur needs

What stupid reason would a father has not to take cares of his own children? He he abandoned his wife no problems.moreover he must take care of her for nursing his children for him since they leave under the same roof

Aduke23:
I shouldn't say this but my dad doesn't care. He doesn't give a hoot about us. My mum, despite the little she has, she shoulders 99% of the responsibility at home. This is not something told by my mum, but something we the children witness with our own eyes. In the course of fulfilling this responsibility, it has drained her shop.
My dad, at times when he has money he hides it in hidden parts of his wallets which my mum sees ( although she doesn't take form the money).
My dad just doesn't give a hoot. Whenever we're sick, my dad doesn't even ask how we're feeling let alone taking care of us, and when he's sick, he acts like baby wanting attention which we reluctantly give for the sake of God coz in all sincerity, he doesn't deserve it.
Whenever I'm at sch, I can call my dad for weeks and he would be comfortable not picking, ignoring my calls. He has never for once call me to check up on me at sch except once in a while when he has something to ask.
I'm fed up of his nonchalant ways.
So, him and my mum had little argue today, and he decided to leave home, because my mum rented our apartment ( a room self) my mum has been pushed to wall and she had to just speak her mind today, and he decided to leave.
I didn't make any attempt to stop him because I'm pained.
Everyone, have I done something wrong by not stopping him?

Do you look like your dad?

Foodqueen:
Someone dash him plenty money for Xmas, that's why he look for smaii excuse to leave,

He will be back when he has finish the money on him.

I feel this is the real reason y he left.
Lol
He will be back after enjoying himself.

I know how you feel.

I guess his business is not fine (correct me) and poverty is the reason he doesn't care (I'm sorry if my words hurt you).

He doesn't have a high EQ and his best way to cure depression is to be nonchalant. Instead of him to be closer to you guys (especially your mum).

May I ask how does he relate with you guys when he got a few money??

JoyousFurnitire:
I know how you feel.

I guess his business is not fine (correct me) and poverty is the reason he doesn't care (I'm sorry if my words hurt you).

He doesn't have a high EQ and his best way to cure depression is to be nonchalant. Instead of him to be closer to you guys (especially your mum).

May I ask how does he relate with you guys when he got a few money??

Hardly

jimmychang:



Do you look like your dad?

Yes
Height ( they are so tall in their family which is not in my mum's), he's dark, I'm. Even with other features which people have commented on severally

Aduke23:

Hardly

Okay, not like he doesn't right?

Well at least he was helpful those times. You could use that as a point for your mum. Who knows when next he could helpful. At the most critical time?? No one knows (even though he hardly spend). He's still part of the family. Infact the head.

Try to talk to your mom. Call your dad too. Tell him how sad you are.

To cap it, make sure you work hard. Be successful. If you will marry, look before you do. Marry a good man.

Good luck

JoyousFurnitire:


Okay, not like he doesn't right?

Well at least he was helpful those times. You could use that as a point for your mum. Who knows when next he could helpful. At the most critical time?? No one knows (even though he hardly spend). He's still part of the family. Infact the head.

Try to talk to your mom. Call your dad too. Tell him how sad you are.

To cap it, make sure you work hard. Be successful. If you will marry, look before you do. Marry a good man.

Good luck

Thank you. I appreciate your advise

Let him go.when you need him.you would look for him.

Aduke23:

Pls, don't insult him... He's still my father. I don't just like his nonchalant behavior

emotions aside the man gives no Bleep about you or your good mother. You think you are normal and balanced right now? Sorry but you cannot understand the emotional, mental abuse and damage he is inflicting on you and your mother until something happens. he will easily use you guys for miney ritual should the opportunity present and so i calld him evil.

Jovialjune1:




1) The mum is tolerating the irresponsible man because she doesn't want to break her home and the single mother tag on her and her kids

2) How do you expect the mum to continue to love an irresponsible man?

3) The marriage was not built on a wrong intention, instead, the continuous existence of the marriage is built on a wrong intention, it should have ended a long time ago.

Therefore, your logic is senseless.

Now logic aside...

let's review your point 2.

Love is not to be reciprocated, any human deserves love. That's why Jesus teaches us in the Bible thus:

Mathew 5:44

(King James Bible version)
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

zeuss:

emotions aside the man gives no Bleep about you or your good mother. You think you are normal and balanced right now? Sorry but you cannot understand the emotional, mental abuse and damage he is inflicting on you and your mother until something happens. he will easily use you guys for miney ritual should the opportunity present and so i calld him evil.

God forbid..... Abeg

Aduke23:
I shouldn't say this but my dad doesn't care. He doesn't give a hoot about us. My mum, despite the little she has, she shoulders 99% of the responsibility at home. This is not something told by my mum, but something we the children witness with our own eyes. In the course of fulfilling this responsibility, it has drained her shop.
My dad, at times when he has money he hides it in hidden parts of his wallets which my mum sees ( although she doesn't take form the money).
My dad just doesn't give a hoot. Whenever we're sick, my dad doesn't even ask how we're feeling let alone taking care of us, and when he's sick, he acts like baby wanting attention which we reluctantly give for the sake of God coz in all sincerity, he doesn't deserve it.
Whenever I'm at sch, I can call my dad for weeks and he would be comfortable not picking, ignoring my calls. He has never for once call me to check up on me at sch except once in a while when he has something to ask.
I'm fed up of his nonchalant ways.
So, him and my mum had little argue today, and he decided to leave home, because my mum rented our apartment ( a room self) my mum has been pushed to wall and she had to just speak her mind today, and he decided to leave.
I didn't make any attempt to stop him because I'm pained.
Everyone, have I done something wrong by not stopping him?

Let him be. It is good u didn't stop him. I would advice that u and ur siblings should support ur mum financially also learn skills. Ur dad will come back. However, i would have love to hear his side of story. Something must have prompted him to do these things.

Truvelisback:
Let him be. It is good u didn't stop him. I would advice that u and ur siblings should support ur mum financially also learn skills. Ur dad will come back. However, i would have love to hear his side of story. Something must have prompted him to do these things.

Nothing prompted him...at least not from us. He just wasn't trained to know his responsibilities as a man

Aduke23:

Nothing prompted him...at least not from us. He just wasn't trained to know his responsibilities as a man

Was he this way when he newly got married to ur mum?

Aduke23:
I shouldn't say this but my dad doesn't care. He doesn't give a hoot about us. My mum, despite the little she has, she shoulders 99% of the responsibility at home. This is not something told by my mum, but something we the children witness with our own eyes. In the course of fulfilling this responsibility, it has drained her shop.
My dad, at times when he has money he hides it in hidden parts of his wallets which my mum sees ( although she doesn't take form the money).
My dad just doesn't give a hoot. Whenever we're sick, my dad doesn't even ask how we're feeling let alone taking care of us, and when he's sick, he acts like baby wanting attention which we reluctantly give for the sake of God coz in all sincerity, he doesn't deserve it.
Whenever I'm at sch, I can call my dad for weeks and he would be comfortable not picking, ignoring my calls. He has never for once call me to check up on me at sch except once in a while when he has something to ask.
I'm fed up of his nonchalant ways.
So, him and my mum had little argue today, and he decided to leave home, because my mum rented our apartment ( a room self) my mum has been pushed to wall and she had to just speak her mind today, and he decided to leave.
I didn't make any attempt to stop him because I'm pained.
Everyone, have I done something wrong by not stopping him?

Speak to your dad. I am certain there is a reason.

When I was teaching at a school in North Central, there was a man who was working in Abuja, but had family in the community where I was teaching.

The two children were always sent out of school every time instructions go to we teachers to drive school fees defaulters out of the school compound.

These children didn't look hungry. So I was moved to ask the elder one (a girl) why they were always defaulting. She said their mother said their father does not have money. But somehow I found out that their father was comfortable and that their mother is a fashionista (a tailor by profession).


In summary, kasala burst one day. The man came to school and caused a scene. Apparently, he had always sent school fees on time, but the mother was using it to buy wrappers. She was always present in every gathering of tailors in the city. Yet, her children were already associated with school fees debt.

Speak to your father. Are you sure he doesn't give your mother money for your upkeeps? Are you also sure he doesn't give a damn when you are sick or he is just not the type of man.

Try and speak to him. I am not saying your mother is bad. But you, the children, may be misinterpreting body languages.

Nicepoker:
Look for him. Just the two of you, ask him what exactly is wrong and why his nonchalant behavior. He will open a lot to you. From there you will know what to do.

Sense no go kill you.

The only wise response on this thread.

I am afraid the OP is a female. Pretty bad lot of them think with their heart instead of their head.

If she is 23yrs, she should answer the question if her dad was like this during her adolescent years. What went wrong and where did things began going south?

What kind of business or source of money does her pop has? What was his relationship like with her mum before now?

If she really need answers, she needs to cool down and ask him personally. But wetin our women got. Nag

prof0fficial111:




Now logic aside...

let's review your point 2.

Love is not to be reciprocated, any human deserves love. That's why Jesus teaches us in the Bible thus:

Mathew 5:44

(King James Bible version)
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

What is this one saying?

Can you love everyone same way you love your wife?

BluntTheApostle:


Speak to your dad. I am certain there is a reason.

When I was teaching at a school in North Central, there was a man who was working in Abuja, but had family in the community where I was teaching.

The two children were always sent out of school every time instructions go to we teachers to drive school fees defaulters out of the school compound.

These children didn't look hungry. So I was moved to ask the elder one (a girl) why they were always defaulting. She said their mother said their father does not have money. But somehow I found out that their father was comfortable and that their mother is a fashionista (a tailor by profession).


In summary, kasala burst one day. The man came to school and caused a scene. Apparently, he had always sent school fees on time, but the mother was using it to buy wrappers. She was always present in every gathering of tailors in the city. Yet, her children were already associated with school fees debt.

Speak to your father. Are you sure he doesn't give your mother money for your upkeeps? Are you also sure he doesn't give a damn when you are sick or he is just not the type of man.

Try and speak to him. I am not saying your mother is bad. But you, the children, may be misinterpreting body languages.

Nothing. Absolutely nothing is hidden to me. U won't understand

FOLYKAZE:


Sense no go kill you.

The only wise response on this thread.

I am afraid the OP is a female. Pretty bad lot of them think with their heart instead of their head.

If she is 23yrs, she should answer the question if her dad was like this during her adolescent years. What went wrong and where did things began going south?

What kind of business or source of money does her pop has? What was his relationship like with her mum before now?

If she really need answers, she needs to cool down and ask him personally. But wetin our women got. Nag

He has always been like this since I was kid. In fact, he only just started living with us around 2018.
All of my childhood, he only comes home once in 4months. Not because he does any job that requires that.
The matter is complicated.
I'm done explaining

Aduke23:
I'm fed up of his nonchalant ways. So, him and my mum had little argue today, and he decided to leave home, because my mum rented our apartment ( a room self) my mum has been pushed to wall and she had to just speak her mind today, and he decided to leave.
I didn't make any attempt to stop him because I'm pained. Everyone, have I done something wrong by not stopping him?

You have done nothing wrong! It seems the man has already abandoned his responsibilities a long time before this move, so what exactly could you have done to make him stay? Nothing!. However, do inform your mother that she can now take legal measures to ensure the man is forced to own up to his responsibilities both as her spouse and also as father to his kids.

https://www.nairaland.com/7492801/abandon-spouse-go-jail-three

Aduke23:
I shouldn't say this but my dad doesn't care. He doesn't give a hoot about us. My mum, despite the little she has, she shoulders 99% of the responsibility at home. This is not something told by my mum, but something we the children witness with our own eyes. In the course of fulfilling this responsibility, it has drained her shop.
My dad, at times when he has money he hides it in hidden parts of his wallets which my mum sees ( although she doesn't take form the money).
My dad just doesn't give a hoot. Whenever we're sick, my dad doesn't even ask how we're feeling let alone taking care of us, and when he's sick, he acts like baby wanting attention which we reluctantly give for the sake of God coz in all sincerity, he doesn't deserve it.
Whenever I'm at sch, I can call my dad for weeks and he would be comfortable not picking, ignoring my calls. He has never for once call me to check up on me at sch except once in a while when he has something to ask.
I'm fed up of his nonchalant ways.
So, him and my mum had little argue today, and he decided to leave home, because my mum rented our apartment ( a room self) my mum has been pushed to wall and she had to just speak her mind today, and he decided to leave.
I didn't make any attempt to stop him because I'm pained.
Everyone, have I done something wrong by not stopping him?

Don't take sides yet.
Start by asking your mom if your DAD is actually your Dad and if not so, try and verify when your mom had you and others?

DNA TEST has proven a lot.
I have seen Mothers lie
I have seen Mothers in Law lie about their daughters virginity and maternity status.
Don't conclude yet. Women give surprises a lot
Verify and take your decision
My humble take.

LIFE STORY
I have attended to a middle aged woman who went about assassinating the character of her husband, claiming her hubby gave her HIV. Female NURSES on duty joined to hurl insults on this man. We now invited the man for blood screening since we had earlier told him he would be donating to his child (which he obliged without hesitation ). Lo & Behold, his HIV came out NEGATIVE and same Nurses who hurled insults at the man swiftly turned around to finish this woman. They devoured her.

At some point the man was confused at the sudden hatred towards his wife. Ethically, we didn't inform him of his wife's status. Rather we compelled his wife to do so and failure to comply will ignite the wrath of the management board and legal unit.

So, I have a whole lot of stories from personal experiences. I don't rush to believe women.
Not that we don't have stupid men, we do too.

prof0fficial111:
Logically if your mum tolerates your dad's attitudes because of the children, that means the marriage would have ended long ago if it were childless.

Logically your mum doesn't love your dad
Or vise versa. Logically the marriage was built on a wrong intention

Logically, these assertions of yours are born of bullsheet!

nicerod:
There must be a reason he's not showing concerned about his children.
Please don't take sides
I pray God provides for ur needs

What does it matter what the reasons are though? He has a family which he is meant to be responsible for but refused to. Or do you think it is OK to refuse to care for kids who are under your care just because you think they are not yours or something?