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Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Doyou2019: 1:28pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Moniya4Real: Omo Ibadan ![]() E no dey hard or too early for my people to born ![]() ![]() |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Thattallgirl(f): 1:34pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
KingLennon:Not really. Usually when those verses are quoted, they always remove that "unto the Lord". Without them knowing, responsibilities that are supposed to flow as a result of beholding Jesus won't flow. People will begin to struggle and depend on their own efforts to keep a marriage together which will wear them out. But when that last part is quoted, subconsciously, the women will want to submit to their husbands just like they submit to Jesus, and the men will want to love their wives as Jesus loves the church and gave His life for the church. 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Thattallgirl(f): 1:36pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
micxwell:That is true. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by okomile(f): 1:37pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
He is so right!!!! Na packaging we dey package Marriage is a scam It is pity wia we find ourselves at the later stage of life. Wia at youth and working, u r hailed, even in church. Years on and retired, your mother in law labelled you 'ala bo do' - meaning one is being fed for d other room. Make we dey do packaging dey go. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by KingLennon(m): 1:41pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
IamMobisola:I understand your point but left to me, I would choose the older generation marriages. Which would you? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by KingLennon(m): 1:45pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Thattallgirl:So you're saying that it is the 'unto the Lord' part that is causing these problems? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Elidrisy20: 1:45pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
This one na pastor abi na teacher? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Babastrong(m): 1:50pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
I don't fear anything again even death himself.
if it is not working, we cut it. 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Porksupplyib: 1:54pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Whether we like it or not, truth remains that OUR "FREEDOM WILL BE OUR UNDOING." A society that allows anyone to do as they like without hindrance is only heading for disaster. You can blame the past marriages of our parents all you like, but truth remains that it kept the society SANE! This generation wants to have all the freedom to do as they like. They quote "affecting their Mental health" as excuse at the slightest opportunity. That is why we see LGBT and the likes springing up with full force all over the world. FREEDOM is a CURSE! A sane society must keep frowning on divorce, singlehood of adults, sexual immoralities,(sex outside marriage) etc Allowances for divorces should be reduced in other to save the society from crumbling. Unfortunately we are fast at copying the western culture and calling it "enlightment" In years from now we will see the result of that "freedom to do and undo" we so crave for. 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Thattallgirl(f): 2:11pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
KingLennon:Whether a couple marries right or not, as long as they're married, it's Jesus that should be the centre of their marriage. In every christian marriage, these verses are well known but the question is that do they see Jesus in that marriage that in everything the wife/husband is doing, he/she is doing it for Jesus because the wife knows how much Jesus loves her and she's able to submit to Him and also find the strength to submit to her husband, and the husband knows how much Jesus loves Him that He gave His life for him, and as such will find the strength to love his wife the way Christ loves him...or do they just focus on "doing" their part and telling the other person to also do their part which may lead to exhaustion and sometimes bitterness. So yea, the love Jesus has for us isn't preached enough that couples will be able to draw from that love and flow in their responsibilities towards their spouse. That's why that last part in those verses should have more emphasis instead of the "submit to your husband" or the "love your wife" parts. People have been hearing about the first parts of those verses and still marriages are breaking. You and your wife have that strength to be able to hold on to that instruction which is great but not everyone can be like that. Others need to know just how much they're loved by their Abba before they can love or submit to another person. It is God Himself who works in us to do His good pleasure. 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by perdollar(m): 2:17pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Marriage na scam. I am beginning to hate it. 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by everythinggirly(f): 2:17pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Marriage these days na play. 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by IamMobisola(f): 2:19pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
KingLennon:I would choose none actually. Co-parenting is not much better |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by BigBashiru: 2:26pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
jagjag: Very interesting and thought provoking view point. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by GeneralPula: 2:28pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Moniya4Real:You don’t have to re-marry brother. Your boys are your assets and they’re enough. Be taking care of them yourself. Kids are very easy to take care of as a man. Then Instead of marriage again, what I’ll advice you to do is to; Observe a lady. Initiate a FWB with her. Tell her you have kids and don’t tell her anything regarding taking care of your kids. Whenever the girl is around, try to always do 1 or 2 things for her face to signal her senses that you’re really taking care of your kids.. No worry. Leave the rest. She’ll be standing up herself to help you take care of them. Women loves taking care of kids, either theirs or not. The instinct is in them naturally.. Just for your peace. Make it 1 girl at a time. If she bleeps up, free her and get another.. Forget about that you’re a Christain for now and start thinking what’s best for yourself and kids.. God didn’t tell anybody to marry. Nah man sit down write it all for papers.. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by BigBashiru: 2:35pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
ednut1: And I guess it's the man sacrificing for the woman....men don suffer..... |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 2:36pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
ednut1:That one na lie! ![]() |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 2:38pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
KingLennon:Pastor just told you the reason 3y divorce rate appeared less then and why many of them continue to hold on while their kids won't ![]() |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by KingLennon(m): 2:40pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
IamMobisola:Co-parenting? Damn Funny! Now I know your background. Let's end the convo |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 2:40pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Meandmycrew:So long as marriage involves at least one human being expect change to happen at some point and that change could mean the person is no longer in love with you. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by maestro299: 2:43pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
jagjag:You get better sense... 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by IamMobisola(f): 2:45pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
KingLennon:You know absolutely nothing about my background. My parents are still happily married, 35 years and counting. Now I know you are one of those immature kids on nairaland. Let’s end the convo 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Lemmy123(m): 2:46pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
maasoap:I agree with you 100% 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by KingLennon(m): 2:46pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Thattallgirl:Everyone out here loves Jesus, even witches will admit they do! I think what should be preached should be love. What love is? Attributes of love. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by ednut1(m): 2:46pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
BigBashiru:both sacrificing |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 2:48pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Godfullsam:More and more the younger couples are refusing to bow to the same old lies that their parents did ..... that is simply what is happening. Their parent's in the "suffering-&-marriage" type marriages couldn't teach them what love is in marriage since they too have no clue but one thing the kids learnt is they it is not worth anything to endure "suffering-&'smiling" sentence. ![]() |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Bobbiee: 2:49pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
I think Marriage is supposed to either end up to a year after it starts or ten years after. But no in between. If you don't find your marriage palatable, you'd know after a year of being in that marriage. By then, you won't have too many obligations. Maybe just a kid, if you're lucky. But people who persevere deserve to be in that marriage for at least the next ten years. It won't be fair to the kids if you ended the marriage while they're still very young. Give it ten years. Then end the marriage. Finally, there's no other option. Once all your kids are adults, there really is no reason why you're sticking around. Please note that still, there are certain actions that are unforgivable and the marriage has to be terminated immediately. 1. Repeated physical abuse and threat of bodily harm to spouse. 2. Repeated physical abuse and threat of bodily harm to kids. 3. Sexual abuse or misconduct of any kind to either spouse or kids. 4. Criminality and threat to public (should also be reported to police). 5. Homicide, murder, sexual abuse to anyone |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by KingLennon(m): 2:51pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
IamMobisola:I thought we were christians? Co-parenting is a NO to me. Am a victim of it! U now see it? It's like living all through your life in a lie. Both couples can do whatever they like, no that's not a home dear! And the kid aspect? I'll forgive you (◔‿◔) |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 2:54pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Porksupplyib:1. Stop lying! It only kept women shackled while men we allowed to abandon them and even their kids after using them. Same trend you see even today. ![]() 2. This generation is a product of the mistakes of your ancestors. Think carefully of it all that way and you may begin to realize that the fire you see today was kindled from smoke raised by your ancestors. ![]() 3. So you want to pretty much return to days of marriage as a prison sentence for women , and let me guess, not for men, like your ancestors had it?.LOL... ![]() |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Thattallgirl(f): 2:56pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
KingLennon:Oh I wasn't talking about our love for Jesus. I was talking about His love for us. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by KingLennon(m): 2:57pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Thattallgirl:Ok better |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 2:58pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
perdollar:Marriage has never been a scam. Instead, it is an agreement one has to enter into with eyes wide open not a brain filled with love chemicals and body high on sex hormones. ![]() |
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