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Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 2:59pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
jagjag:I tend to agree with this. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 3:03pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
bonnyhope:You stay because of kids but what are you teaching these kids? That all life is worth is suffering and smiling and pretending you do it for them? How about you teach them what love is about by first loving yourself enough not to lie to yourself? They would benefit greatly from that than they would from the delusions of using them or society as reason to stay in hellish situation. 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by IamMobisola(f): 3:05pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
KingLennon:See my initial point? Religion!! I am a Christian too but I always make sure I am happy in whatever I do as long as it’s not a crime whether religion favors it or not. People are selfish and will always put their feelings first before others so why get married in the first place if we will always hurt each other’s feelings? Betray each other? Nah, reason I said if one must have a child co-parenting is better than marriage for me, nothing speaking for everyone though. Sorry for the kid reference, I have had an encounter with too many of them on nairaland and it’s annoying 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by bonnyhope: 3:06pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: Like I said all the options is at your disposal You can also decide to quit. All depend on you |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 3:07pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
livinbygrace:1. Don't listen to the lies. Marriage abandonment was high during the time of our ancestors. The reason it was kept low was those who were abandoned had to continue in shame , pretending they were still in marriage so society did not make examples of them. As far back as the 80s that trend was high enough that you had a significant number of your own classmates who you knew were no longer living with or supported by their fathers. 2. Focus on the topic abeg! |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Gospel2Day: 3:09pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
He named a Christian Center after David, NOT after Jesus, despite His many Names revealed in the Bible. This generation of ministers won't stop amazing me. Jesus called every true Christian community "My Church". But you named your own ministry David's Church. Continue... |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 3:09pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
BigYash:Didn't your ancestors choose marriage for that same purpose too? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 3:11pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Gospel2Day:Did Jesus Christ ask anyone to build what you call Christian centers to begin with? Did Jesus Christ ask anyone to attend church services and submit themselves to pastors and mogs to begin with? Did Jesus Christ say you can even use His name for that which is not approved by Him? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Gospel2Day: 3:22pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: Your rash and rushed comment reveals your ignorance of the Bible. There's no need arguing with or replying someone who obviously suffers from the arrogance of ignorance. Read through the New Testament of the Bible three times. After doing that, return here for a civilized and informed discussion. Shalom. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by KingLennon(m): 3:23pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
IamMobisola:I get you. To me Co-parenting has always been the western world kind of thing. In our own culture, it doesn't just play out. But sadly, it's happening here these days. Marriage is for adults, mentally prepared. I don't know for others but to me before getting married you should be prepared for whatever you will see. You should marry someone compatible to you. We should both go in with the mentality that it's for better for worse. That we must make it work no matter what! Why get married when we will be hurting each other's feeling? Yea, I think we weren't ready for marriage. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by BigYash: 3:40pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:If you were wise,you will understand that the days of my ancestors and now are different. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 3:44pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
BigYash:How so, you who pretend to be wise? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Kobojunkiee: 3:45pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Gospel2Day:Again.... ■Did Jesus Christ ask anyone to build what you call Christian centers to begin with? ■Did Jesus Christ ask anyone to attend church services and submit themselves to pastors and mogs to begin with? ■Did Jesus Christ say you can even use His name for that which is not approved by Him? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by FavouredNK: 3:50pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
xristos: This mindset is the reason many of you can't build a good home because it has already collapsed before you even started. As far as I m concerned marriage is a beautiful thing because it's a union between two hearts that supposed to beat as one. You are meant to marry your friend and soulmate believing to build up your heaven in it to dwell together forever. At that point when you first meet and develop a thing for each other, it shouldn't be about what any of you possessed materially or what to gain materially but the beating of your hearts which will be the bedrock on which every other achievement will be built upon. If you genuinely love and care for one another in all circumstances, you will so bond together that it will be difficult for any of you to hurt each other even in secret. I know that many of you will come after me but I m talking from experience and this is the secret of my 23 years of a very blissful marriage. It's not about procreation because we agreed and only had one daughter who gives us so much joy while we still enjoy our marriage as if we just met yesterday. And if it's for sex, how do you enjoy sex with someone that you don't love or can't bond with?So be careful of what you place ahead in getting your life partner before you start generalizing marriage as something bad because for me it's the most beautiful experience. 4 Likes |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by BigYash: 3:56pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:Even a teenager can easily tell the difference between the marriages of those days and the ones full of deceit we have everywhere theses says. And that's where your foolishness comes in.. I hope you get it now? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Porksupplyib: 4:04pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: You are so interested in creating another type of "marriage" to suit your defination of what it should be like. That is why you are having your almost 40% (and soaring)divorce rate. Well goodluck to you. Enjoy ur multiple marriages and multiple divorces in your lifetime |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by HezAdeagbo(m): 4:05pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
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Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by perdollar(m): 4:06pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:u mentioned the two things that matters as irrelevant and d one that doesn't matter as as relevant. R u high on sth? |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Tunagee(m): 4:09pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Baddosqqi:This comment deserves a billion 'likes'. I think its same reason most marriages fail in Nigeria. 2 Likes |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by xristos(m): 4:11pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
FavouredNK:show me the scripture that supports your belief..and I'll show mine all what u wrote above are reasonable and necessary but are classified as OTHERS.. it's not the aim |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Tunagee(m): 4:22pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
infogenius: Maybe the woman committed a very open adultery |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Tunagee(m): 4:26pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Righteousness2: True. Nice one. But pastor so you recognise what big back is |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Leilami: 4:35pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
It is well. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by djon78(m): 4:36pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Lemmy123: As a married man: Marriage is not a bed of roses If you are looking to give up on it There are many things that will make you give up Even minor things But it requires resilience to stay on Sometimes you feel lovey dovey Sometimes you ask why did I marry this person But it's that resilience that keeps it going Grass on the other side may look greener But truly it's not Sex in marriage is different from sex outside marriage Marriage sex mostly requires sacrifice and unselfishness Putting your partners pleasure before yours But it's all good with time and better Marriage is good It so much teaches you patience How to live with another person If you are married to a partner that has empathy and human feelings You will definitely make it 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Xcelinteriors(f): 4:40pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
The key point is love your wife wholeheartedly and watch her respect and submit to you. You don't beg for respect, you earn it 3 Likes |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by FavouredNK: 4:43pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
xristos: 1 Peter 4:8, Songs of Solomon 8:6-7, 1 Thes 5:11, Hebrews 10: 24-25. Yes procreation is one of the reasons but centering marriage on procreation is the reason a lot of marriages are failing today, God gives us children and it's a good thing but if it doesn't come marriage will still be beautiful because husband and wife are the only initial and primarypartners with God in that arrangement. Children are secondary so shouldn't be the determining factor of the level of joy in that marriage. And even when we want to have them, we should be reasonable about the number because even having more than you can cater for is a sin of its own. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by prophetfire: 4:47pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
opalu:. That's how your teaching made Osinachi the gospel musician to continue to forgive till she went down six feet. Yes one can forgive, but you must not always remain in a marriage even after forgiving. It depends on the issues at play. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Tunagee(m): 4:57pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Porksupplyib: No mind them na so dem dey do, dem go say god of Adeboye, Olukoya, kumuyi and so on. 1 Like |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Tunagee(m): 5:00pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
IamMobisola: Where you with the lady Osinachi in her home to know she suffered domestic violence!!! |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by infogenius(m): 5:12pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Tunagee: It's not connected to cheating, according to him one of his reasons was that his denied him sex several times because she didn't want to add more to the 7 children she had bore already. The denial got him bitter. Others include lack of respect and some other issues he feels cannot be reconciled. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by FavouredNK: 5:22pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
prophetfire: Yet majority of these taking the back door could have also been avoided if God and genuine love was a part of that decision from the onset. If these two were allowed to take preference from the beginning before the union was consummated, forgiveness wouldn't be so difficult and maybe just maybe occasions that demand forgiveness may not have even arisen in the first place because like I said earlier. If two people genuinely and sincerely care for each other, hurting the other will be like hurting urself even if it's in secret. |
Re: Many Nigerian Marriages Have Ended Long Ago – Pastor Kinsgley Okonkwo by Nobody: 5:24pm On Jan 05, 2023 |
Tunagee: Yes it is please. You can't picture your self in the dream and give up on your love. Look for that movie called "Acrimony". You will understand my views better. |
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