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My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Davizee(m): 8:44am On Jan 06, 2023
My father woke up this morning to start censuring me and my bro.

I ran out of the house yesterday to watch Chelsea match against Man City just to reduce depression. I woke up this morning and my father attacked me saying that we his children are not prayerful enough that is why we are still suffering.

He does not know when we pray or the intensity of our prayer but he made that statement.

He also asked me what I want to do with my life if it's to rewrite jamb or play football. I was very enthusiastic to play football but he couldn't even sponsor it. I used to be very intelligent but now I am an ignoramus in everything due to my poor education background.

Some guys I know that don't even go to church are progressing as their parents are catering for them but my situation is different.

The pressure is becoming too much and I am thinking of carrying out any diabolic act to raise funds. I haven't been into fraud or stealing but now I am anticipating to do it. Is it not better not be born than to come to this world to suffer

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Karleb(m): 8:47am On Jan 06, 2023
That happens when they can't handle their own failures.

Next time just compare him with the richest person in your street.

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by JasonScoolari: 8:50am On Jan 06, 2023
Davizee:
My father woke up this morning to start censuring me and my bro.
I ran out of the house yesterday to watch Chelsea match against Man City just to reduce depression. I woke up this morning and my father attacked me saying that we his children are not prayerful enough that is why we are still suffering. He does not know when we pray or the intensity of our prayer but he made that statement. He also asked me what I want to do with my life if it's to rewrite jamb or play football. I was very enthusiastic to play football but he couldn't even sponsor it . I used to be very intelligent but now I am an ignoramus in everything due to my poor education background. Some guys I know that don't even go to church are progressing as their parents are catering for them but my situation is different. The pressure is becoming too much and I am thinking of carrying out any diabolic act to raise funds. I haven't been into fraud or stealing but now I am anticipating to do it. Is it not better not be born than to come to this world to suffer
You're just like your father.

RIP in Advance.

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Shalommy(f): 8:50am On Jan 06, 2023
Issoriite... You can as well use that old man for money ritual. Chaii

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Davizee(m): 8:51am On Jan 06, 2023
Karleb:
That happens when they can't handle their own failures.

Next time just compare him with the richest person in your street.
I am tired of him
He so much believe that we don't pray enough that is why we are suffering

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Davizee(m): 8:55am On Jan 06, 2023
JasonScoolari:
You're just like your father.

RIP in Advance.
Elaborate

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by JASONjnr(m): 8:58am On Jan 06, 2023
Someone said up there that you're just like your father and he's absolutely correct...


There are many people out there who struggled to change the family story without any support of any kind from their parent...But you're there waiting for your father to give you assistance before you can brighten your future.


Go and struggle or learn a skill.... Work on improving yourself and you will flourish.....

Your father pushing you is to have you sit up and not to make you feel depressed and breed rituals mentality..m

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by dawnomike(m): 8:59am On Jan 06, 2023
Davizee:
My father woke up this morning to start censuring me and my bro.
I ran out of the house yesterday to watch Chelsea match against Man City just to reduce depression. I woke up this morning and my father attacked me saying that we his children are not prayerful enough that is why we are still suffering. He does not know when we pray or the intensity of our prayer but he made that statement. He also asked me what I want to do with my life if it's to rewrite jamb or play football. I was very enthusiastic to play football but he couldn't even sponsor it . I used to be very intelligent but now I am an ignoramus in everything due to my poor education background. Some guys I know that don't even go to church are progressing as their parents are catering for them but my situation is different. The pressure is becoming too much and I am thinking of carrying out any diabolic act to raise funds. I haven't been into fraud or stealing but now I am anticipating to do it. Is it not better not be born than to come to this world to suffer
You do not have to venture into anythung diabolical to make it neither do you have to go the fraudulent way.
So many people with good backgrounds share your experience but you can surmount it.
Do you have a laptop? If yes, you can make money online the right way. It will get to a time when you can no longer blame your parents for who/what you turn out to be.

I guess you are quite young and age is on your side... Start early and see where you'll be in a year frm now.

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Kingpin1000: 8:59am On Jan 06, 2023
Sorry to say this, your Dad is a failure and can't handle his own failures in life less He shift the blame to someone else.
You are not even upto 20 yes and you're already trying to avoid depression. Your father must really be a pain in the ass, I just wish you don't end up being like your father.
My advice for you is to take responsibility in everything you do. If you fail jamb accept your failure and know what you did wrong that made you fail try again with another patern.
Young man if anybody tells you this life is not hard that person is doing you a great lot of bad. People like us who have no one as a spring board to success have to work harder, learn from our mistakes and failures and then try again.
The bible even said " faith without work is dead".
Don't let anyone make you feel like a failure, you are too young to be battling depression.
Be happy, if Jamb bleep you, use that year to learn a skill, then try again. If you don't have connections forget about football, you don't gamble with your future.
I wanted to be a musician but one day I had to advice myself because na only me know how much I don spend without result.

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by JasonScoolari: 9:00am On Jan 06, 2023
Davizee:

Elaborate
RIP is an abbreviation for Rest In Peace.

No further elaboration.

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by AntiWailer: 9:01am On Jan 06, 2023
Just like your father,

You blamed everybody for your misfortune except you.

Oya go diabolical and raise funds.

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Nawttiboi007(m): 9:21am On Jan 06, 2023
Firstly bro never at any point deviate from God, cos every other thing is vanity. Secondly be contented and not Covetous. Associate ursef with people a bit older than you (That are legitimate and responsible in all ramifications)with loyalty and respect but not stupid. Take advantage of ur young age to run errands for them but during that process learn critically well and build ur contacts smartly. Contacts goes a very long way in life. Never u see you parents as failures. They’re ur god on earth and God created us all in his own image. Don’t indirectly refer to God as a failure. Look ahead bro look ahead discreetly then the picture will be clearer cos there’s no present like the future

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Sheistoopretty(f): 9:28am On Jan 06, 2023
Davizee:
My father woke up this morning to start censuring me and my bro.
I ran out of the house yesterday to watch Chelsea match against Man City just to reduce depression. I woke up this morning and my father attacked me saying that we his children are not prayerful enough that is why we are still suffering. He does not know when we pray or the intensity of our prayer but he made that statement. He also asked me what I want to do with my life if it's to rewrite jamb or play football. I was very enthusiastic to play football but he couldn't even sponsor it . I used to be very intelligent but now I am an ignoramus in everything due to my poor education background. Some guys I know that don't even go to church are progressing as their parents are catering for them but my situation is different. The pressure is becoming too much and I am thinking of carrying out any diabolic act to raise funds. I haven't been into fraud or stealing but now I am anticipating to do it. Is it not better not be born than to come to this world to suffer


Ur father shifting the family's poverty to u and ur younger/older siblings is not only wicked, but also heartless undecided undecided undecided undecided

I'm sorry to say this, but ur father is shameless undecided undecided he must be one of those people who have been brainwashed by their so called Fraudsters Daddy In the lord undecided undecided undecided

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by PerfectStranger(m): 9:33am On Jan 06, 2023
Use him for the ritual.

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Davizee(m): 9:34am On Jan 06, 2023
AntiWailer:
Just like your father,

You blamed everybody for your misfortune except you.

Oya go diabolical and raise funds.
I am blaming nobody for my misfortune
But the pressure is too much
Apart from feeding what else do I depend on them from? Nothing. When I was 16 I already was feeding myself.
I just need time to work things out

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Davizee(m): 9:35am On Jan 06, 2023
Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Davizee(m): 9:36am On Jan 06, 2023
Nawttiboi007:
Firstly bro never at any point deviate from God, cos every other thing is vanity. Secondly be contented and not Covetous. Associate ursef with people a bit older than you (That are legitimate and responsible in all ramifications)with loyalty and respect but not stupid. Take advantage of ur young age to run errands for them but during that process learn critically well and build ur contacts smartly. Contacts goes a very long way in life.
I wish I can see any

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Davizee(m): 9:36am On Jan 06, 2023
JasonScoolari:
RIP is an abbreviation for Rest In Peace.

No further elaboration.
I mean when u said I am like my father

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Dyfynezz12(m): 9:39am On Jan 06, 2023
Why can't ur father pray and liberate himself from poverty

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Davizee(m): 9:40am On Jan 06, 2023
Kingpin1000:
Sorry to say this, your Dad is a failure and can't handle his own failures in life less He shift the blame to someone else.
You are not even upto 20 yes and you're already trying to avoid depression. Your father must really be a pain in the ass, I just wish you don't end up being like your father.
My advice for you is to take responsibility in everything you do. If you fail jamb accept your failure and know what you did wrong that made you fail try again with another patern.
Young man if anybody tells you this life is not hard that person is doing you a great lot of bad. People like us who have no one as a spring board to success have to work harder, learn from our mistakes and failures and then try again.
The bible even said " faith without work is dead".
Don't let anyone make you feel like a failure, you are too young to be battling depression.
Be happy, if Jamb bleep you, use that year to learn a skill, then try again. If you don't have connections forget about football, you don't gamble with your future.
I wanted to be a musician but one day I had to advice myself because na only me know how much I don spend without result.
I didn't even fail jamb
I got the admission but there was no money to further it
I know life is hard and I even wish to take care of myself at this early age.
Once I get to school I don't want to depend on them for anything not even my school fees. I am working towards it
But he should do the little he can do for us like giving a roof over our head

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by JasonScoolari: 9:40am On Jan 06, 2023
Davizee:

I mean when u said I am like my father
What other elaboration do you need again? Isn't it obvious?
Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by imagrg(m): 11:08am On Jan 06, 2023
God will find a way for you my dear. Don't go diabolical please.

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Nobody: 11:12am On Jan 06, 2023
Davizee:
My father woke up this morning to start censuring me and my bro.
I ran out of the house yesterday to watch Chelsea match against Man City just to reduce depression. I woke up this morning and my father attacked me saying that we his children are not prayerful enough that is why we are still suffering. He does not know when we pray or the intensity of our prayer but he made that statement. He also asked me what I want to do with my life if it's to rewrite jamb or play football. I was very enthusiastic to play football but he couldn't even sponsor it . I used to be very intelligent but now I am an ignoramus in everything due to my poor education background. Some guys I know that don't even go to church are progressing as their parents are catering for them but my situation is different. The pressure is becoming too much and I am thinking of carrying out any diabolic act to raise funds. I haven't been into fraud or stealing but now I am anticipating to do it. Is it not better not be born than to come to this world to suffer

1......bro...if u no my story, u will cry

2......if i can make it, anybody can

3.....all is well.....have faith......pray!!! smiley

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Kingpin1000: 1:07pm On Jan 06, 2023
Davizee:

I didn't even fail jamb
I got the admission but there was no money to further it
I know life is hard and I even wish to take care of myself at this early age.
Once I get to school I don't want to depend on them for anything not even my school fees. I am working towards it
But he should do the little he can do for us like giving a roof over our head
Be strong man, I dropped out of school because I was over depended on my parents. Today am a graduate and I can tell you, I footed all my Bill's with no hiccups because I depended only on God an myself. My Dad respects me today because at the heat of everything I told him I will drop out if He said He will not assist me in school but I will go back and today I fulfilled that dream. Sometimes He feels bad. When I got admission to another school, He did not even know till I was in my 3rd year. He tried to assist, He even offered to refund me every dime I spent. It was during my project that He came to school, I was in the lab when I was told my father was looking for me. It was mixed with anger and pride, I went and met me and He gave me 50k that was the only money I accepted From him.

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by ZINNYBANKS: 1:15pm On Jan 06, 2023
Honestly I regret being born in Africa . African parent will ask their son/daughter why they haven't make it and yet they their self are no where near success.
Just imagine African parents giving birth to 5-6 children with the believe that when they grow up they will take care of their self . what happen to giving birth to what u can cater for . before poverty can be eradicated from africa it will take a while . op just stay strong and stick to something that brings money everything will normalize one day...

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by RZArecta(m): 1:49pm On Jan 06, 2023
Forget your father now.

How old are you and what plans do you actually have for yourself ? No parent would be happy seeing their kids gallivanting around the area like chickens or goats so you have to ask yourself the hard questions.
See, money is sweet and all the good things of life cost some money including the first 1k suya you buy for yourself so ask yourself what you have to offer the world that they'll pay for so you can afford those little luxuries. Even if you have a girlfriend, she'll get tired of excuses when you can't even take her to a nice place to relax or get her a nice gift. You need sober reflection and it might cost you cutting off some of your friends who aren't allowing you think straight

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Nobody: 1:57pm On Jan 06, 2023
Karleb:
That happens when they can't handle their own failures.

Next time just compare him with the richest person in your street.
You want his dad to just curse him and disrupt his future totally.
Davizee, move out of your father's home and start living like a man.
If you stay with him, you ll disrespect him due to his numerous confrontations.
Also, remember him in your prayers.
Nigeria is hard for everybody both male and female.
The upbringing my parents could give me is what I m enjoying today. And presently, some of my friends are married or became surgeon, hair hostess etc. I v a close friend who's working with world bank presently cos her dad had connections. I m grateful to my parent but if I m now comparing, I ll be sinning cos some families can't give what my parent gave to me.
Your dad is taking his frustrations on you unfairly. Realistically in this present age, the betterment of a child's life in this present age rest on trainings given by parents.
If you parents are poor or irresponsible, you v been cheated with less than 30% chance of success especially if you are in a developing country like Nigeria.

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Karleb(m): 2:03pm On Jan 06, 2023
Sweetplum:

You want his dad to just curse him and disrupt his future totally.
Davizee, move out of your father's home and start living like a man.
If you stay with him, you ll disrespect him due to his numerous confrontations.
Also, remember him in your prayers.
Nigeria is hard for everybody both male and female.
The upbringing my parents could give me is what I m enjoying today. And presently, some of my friends are married or became surgeon, hair hostess etc. I v a close friend who's working with world bank presently cos her dad had connections. I m grateful to my parent nut if I m now comparing, I ll be sinning cos some families can't give what my parent gave to me.
Your dad is taking his frustrations on you unfairly.

Where do you expect him to afford the life of a man?

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Truvelisback(m): 2:17pm On Jan 06, 2023
Davizee:
My father woke up this morning to start censuring me and my bro.
I ran out of the house yesterday to watch Chelsea match against Man City just to reduce depression. I woke up this morning and my father attacked me saying that we his children are not prayerful enough that is why we are still suffering. He does not know when we pray or the intensity of our prayer but he made that statement. He also asked me what I want to do with my life if it's to rewrite jamb or play football. I was very enthusiastic to play football but he couldn't even sponsor it . I used to be very intelligent but now I am an ignoramus in everything due to my poor education background. Some guys I know that don't even go to church are progressing as their parents are catering for them but my situation is different. The pressure is becoming too much and I am thinking of carrying out any diabolic act to raise funds. I haven't been into fraud or stealing but now I am anticipating to do it. Is it not better not be born than to come to this world to suffer
Tell him that he also failed as a father, for not being able to play his fatherly role. U should compare him to his age mates who are successful men and doing well. Incase wetin u tell am pain am, and him wan beat u, make u run sha! grin Anyway, my advice for u is that u should learn Skill. Men life hard sha.

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by diogo23: 2:20pm On Jan 06, 2023
Davizee:
My father woke up this morning to start censuring me and my bro.
I ran out of the house yesterday to watch Chelsea match against Man City just to reduce depression. I woke up this morning and my father attacked me saying that we his children are not prayerful enough that is why we are still suffering. He does not know when we pray or the intensity of our prayer but he made that statement. He also asked me what I want to do with my life if it's to rewrite jamb or play football. I was very enthusiastic to play football but he couldn't even sponsor it . I used to be very intelligent but now I am an ignoramus in everything due to my poor education background. Some guys I know that don't even go to church are progressing as their parents are catering for them but my situation is different. The pressure is becoming too much and I am thinking of carrying out any diabolic act to raise funds. I haven't been into fraud or stealing but now I am anticipating to do it. Is it not better not be born than to come to this world to suffer
Don't fall into depression because of his failure

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by diogo23: 2:21pm On Jan 06, 2023
JASONjnr:
Someone said up there that you're just like your father and he's absolutely correct...


There are many people out there who struggled to change the family story without any support of any kind from their parent...But you're there waiting for your father to give you assistance before you can brighten your future.


Go and struggle or learn a skill.... Work on improving yourself and you will flourish.....

Your father pushing you is to have you sit up and not to make you feel depressed and breed rituals mentality..m
How can he do it with the kind of pressure that's coming from his father that supposed to support him

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Re: My Father Is Blaming Me For Our Suffering by Nobody: 2:30pm On Jan 06, 2023
Karleb:


Where do you expect him to afford the life of a man?
From the street. Begging isn't a sin. Taking up menial jobs isn't a sin. And if he can't, he should stick to his dad and endure anything.

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