TheGoodAmerican:
This is a public forum, which I'm sure you're aware of. The same way you opened this thread is the same way people can reply to it. With the way you're attacking people, it's no wonder your wife left you. I can only pity the woman you want to dump your three kids on.

oakson:


My wife left me you say? You would have me spew things, but i won't be that childish to( ain't saying I'm perfect). Now, that's a dart on your shitty and villainous heart to deal with.

Your choice of words show how much of a bunch, life has left you to deal with.

Are you done pitying yourself?

love and light!

Oluneutral:



Yes. Why will a single man with no kids get entangled with single mom of 3?

Let single man with no kids go for single woman with no kids.
A single mom is on the same page with a single dad.

What is good for the goose is also good for the gander.

Dimples2022:


Who gave you this authority??! LOL! NL!

oakson:



I smell bullshit from far... hence, my replies.

This post is meant for ladies to respond to, not men with seemingly overbloated ego and megalomaniacs who chose to cocoon their personal struggles and shortcomings, then, come online as dinosaurs to prey on those who were bold enough to come out. You don't sit behind your keypad and type out how someone else should or should not live.

That, I can't and won't accept... you called what that 'americawhatever' said a 'suggestion'? Read it again. He spoke like he's the father and default mind of all ladies; even Father Abraham wouldn't be that absolute in authority over someone else's wishes.

Lastly, it is always worthwhile to read out loud one's comments to one's self and feel it before writing it out to someone else(no pun intended).

TheGoodAmerican:


No wonder. Get help and go look after your kids instead if arguing with a stranger on the internet. Loser.

TheGoodAmerican:
It's my opinion, and I'm entitled to it. Clearly, you're a single mother. There's no need to be pained over my comment.


No wonder. Get help and go look after your kids instead of arguing with a stranger on the internet. Loser.

Meandmycrew:
@Op with this your attitude you dont need a wife, i would advise you get a nanny and a side chick, who knows after 3 more kids from the new wife you seek, she might even run away again leaving you with 6 kids to cater for. Think about it and work on yourself!

oakson:
I am in my early thirties. Dark and handsome, average height, witty, sporty, spontaneous, resourceful and lover of good dreams. Based in Lagos, a Christian from the southwest(tribe is not an issue to me),Father of 3 and comfortably doing ok above an average Nigerian. Need a working class or financially stable , educated lady that knows what it means to love and be loved!

bigjackass:
I can already see some of the reasons why your marriage didn't work out . Marriage is not for you guy. Nanny and casual flings is better

frozen70:


I think your concern and interest now is to focus on how to look after your children and their future

Since their mum is no longer living with you guys, you have to play double roles

Searching for a financial stable woman shows that you can't even take care of those children needs

You really painted yourself as a good looking man, if that's what you are, then you don't need to advertise yourself

Forget about being in a hurry to get another woman

Go and arrange your self properly because you may have a bigger issue when another woman comes in, to fit into the shoes of trying to be there mother

Dogalmighty17:


This attitude may be one of the underlying causes of the divorce. You put a post on a public forum and yet you tell people to mind business?

Windscribe:

99% of comments here are laced with negativity, bad energy and all, and you expect him not to get mad?

Is he Jesus Christ or what?
Even Jesus Is going to get mad at the destructive criticism on this thread.

Facebook pages and groups is a nice place to find a partner.

oakson:


This exactly is my grouse with him and his jackals.

God bless you!

Kelechi009:


You have 3 kids, why should a single lady marry you? Do you think it's fair bringing a lady to take care of 3 kids that aren't hers?

If you're muslim, then that might make sense but you aren't. The lady will just maltreat your kids

oakson:


Any personal issue with that? Is it your singleness? Are you interested? If I were a celeb... wouldn't you jump at me?

Let's wait till then....
Teinku

Kelechi009:


Yes I will jump at you but not because I love you, my aim would be to take every single penny you have and leave probably after few years just like what every celeb on IG is doing.

So better give yourself some sense.

oakson:


Meaning?

oakson:
I am in my early thirties. Dark and handsome, average height, witty, sporty, spontaneous, resourceful and lover of good dreams. Based in Lagos, a Christian from the southwest(tribe is not an issue to me),Father of 3 and comfortably doing ok above an average Nigerian. Need a working class or financially stable , educated lady that knows what it means to love and be loved!


N.B.: This is not a recent divorce!

efficiencie:


What if she meets all the criteria above but she is also a divorcee like you?

Kelechi009:


Meaning you don't have sense with your expectations, you need to lower it to find true love & not a leech.

My major concern is that he is with all the kids. When a Nigerian man is with all the kids, it means he twisted the arms of his ex-wife to get them and that puts him off as a man that would fck you up badly when issues arise. The only exception would be if the e-wife tells me herself that she willingly left them .

pocohantas:
There is nothing to say OP can’t have or shouldn’t desire a single woman. From his opening post, he didn’t even specify, so why are you guys assuming and attacking him? Uche Ogbodo just remarried and I saw ladies hailing her husband as a real man. Let’s extend the same grace to men too.



I wish you the best OP. It takes a lot of strength to try again…and I pray you get to be loved the way you desire this time.

oakson:



I have come to realize that this forum is predominantly a cluster of people that conclusively paint their thoughts into someone else's life.

I and my ex are good, as in very good(even better than some fake marriages that hasn't kissed the truth because of stigmatizations and social constructs, apparently in their quest to seek the goodwill of the society). Needless I say more?

Thanks for your goodwishes, i will always come here because of balanced minds like yours and several others who has adorned this thread with their goodwills!

oakson:



I smell bullshit from far... hence, my replies.

This post is meant for ladies to respond to, not men with seemingly overbloated ego and megalomaniacs who chose to cocoon their personal struggles and shortcomings, then, come online as dinosaurs to prey on those who were bold enough to come out. You don't sit behind your keypad and type out how someone else should or should not live.

That, I can't and won't accept... you called what that 'americawhatever' said a 'suggestion'? Read it again. He spoke like he's the father and default mind of all ladies; even Father Abraham wouldn't be that absolute in authority over someone else's wishes.

Lastly, it is always worthwhile to read out loud one's comments to one's self and feel it before writing it out to someone else(no pun intended).

Then, and then, would social media be a safe, if not safer place for all!

Abi you get wife for me