Klass99:


There's nothing wrong with your list, all your expectations are valid especially the last two (i.e. 4 & 5) May you find what you seek.

frozen70:


I think your concern and interest now is to focus on how to look after your children and their future

Since their mum is no longer living with you guys, you have to play double roles

Searching for a financial stable woman shows that you can't even take care of those children needs

You really painted yourself as a good looking man, if that's what you are, then you don't need to advertise yourself

Forget about being in a hurry to get another woman

Go and arrange your self properly because you may have a bigger issue when another woman comes in, to fit into the shoes of trying to be there mother

Piptocoin:


Reality tastes like Alomo Bitters. I am not in the way of the Op seeking his heart's desires, but when he has sailed too far from the shores of truth he risks being lost in his imagination. Whoever attempts to fill the vacuum of his desires must by no means have a heart of leather knowing that mothering three step kids will drain such lady empty of her emotional reservoir and make her feel like an "upgraded nanny" rather than a wife. TheGoodAmerican has a point in his suggestion but that is not a constant. The Op is asking far too much and I'm sure he has not thought this through. You have also expressed the less admirable but significant aspects of his search. That notwithstanding, I wish him luck in his endeavour.

SerikiFulani:
OP

A distant relative of mine,a divorcee with 5 kids got married to a single, virtuous, resourceful and super gorgeous nigerian woman.

Don't let anyone discourage you on here.

oakson:


Thank you for this...


They are all fools, I am ready for their airheads

Klass99:


Hmm......Kelechi, odiegwu! Why do you people assume the worse and always believe this will be the case in every situation?

My friend told me she prefers her step mother to her own mother and she has a better relationship with her step mother than her biological one.

If her step mother maltreated her she won't say that na. There are exceptions to the rule.

oakson:


I am struggling to believe you've chosen to rather be a prisoner of your vain and vague thoughts on others reality.... Let me help your perceived ignorance, and it's a favour from me to you, I rarely do!

Before, I untie the fetters of your ignorance, which obviously is the monster amongst your little idiosyncrasies... can you in plain terms highlight my expectations vis a vis the ones you are playing the role of a butt licker to, who in their lack of simple comprehension, has decided to run with it like a rottweiler!(apparently you're all under the same diagnosis).

You must be living in a stone age not to know that parenting has evolved from the prolonged slavery you've submerged your wife into(If you have one). Hence, your thoughts of me doing same to another man's daughter! Oh, what a pathetic soul you are!

I don't know the offense of your lineage, that has made God to curse them from having expectations. Simply put, you are doomed never to embrace change and hope for something good or better in life.

Obviously, I'm exempted from such garbage!


Lastly, I don't need your wishes, ok?

Piptocoin:


Why are you pugnacious over the innocuous sentiment of a faceless man in the street? You seem to relish the exercise of punching the air. I am not your enemy; you are. Peace.

oakson:
I am in my early thirties. Dark and handsome, average height, witty, sporty, spontaneous, resourceful and lover of good dreams. Based in Lagos, a Christian from the southwest(tribe is not an issue to me),Father of 3 and comfortably doing ok above an average Nigerian. Need a working class or financially stable , educated lady that knows what it means to love and be loved!


N.B.: This is not a recent divorce!

Piptocoin:


Reality tastes like Alomo Bitters. I am not in the way of the Op seeking his heart's desires, but when he has sailed too far from the shores of truth he risks being lost in his imagination. Whoever attempts to fill the vacuum of his desires must by no means have a heart of leather knowing that mothering three step kids will drain such lady empty of her emotional reservoir and make her feel like an "upgraded nanny" rather than a wife. TheGoodAmerican has a point in his suggestion but that is not a constant. The Op is asking far too much and I'm sure he has not thought this through. You have also expressed the less admirable but significant aspects of his search. That notwithstanding, I wish him luck in his endeavour.

Dimples2022:
The man came looking for a wife but you people are offering what was never asked of you!!! Why are you guys (dickblockers) blocking his attempts

He never asked for advice but he asked for a wife ready to accept his faults and marry him! What’s with all these 2 cents everybody wants to drop

oakson:


My sister I tire o

Dimples2022:


I’m not going to lie, I’m enjoying your roast but some people are taking it too far. You deserve what you want and can’t no miserable people take that from you. You could meet your someone but these bitter people don’t want that LOL!?

oakson:


I am struggling to believe you've chosen to rather be a prisoner of your vain and vague thoughts on others reality.... Let me help your perceived ignorance, and it's a favour from me to you, I rarely do!

Before, I untie the fetters of your ignorance, which obviously is the monster amongst your little idiosyncrasies... can you in plain terms highlight my expectations vis a vis the ones you are playing the role of a butt licker to, who in their lack of simple comprehension, has decided to run with it like a rottweiler!(apparently you're all under the same diagnosis).

You must be living in a stone age not to know that parenting has evolved from the prolonged slavery you've submerged your wife into(If you have one). Hence, your thoughts of me doing same to another man's daughter! Oh, what a pathetic soul you are!

I don't know the offense of your lineage, that has made God to curse them from having expectations. Simply put, you are doomed never to embrace change and hope for something good or better in life.

Obviously, I'm exempted from such garbage!


Lastly, I don't need your wishes, ok?

Ishilove:

Guy...guy... This your English! If I was still single i for DM you just for the sake of the English alone. See as you just dey finger my brain

Who are your favourite writers (African and non-African)?

oakson:



Harmless, you say? Who were you referring to as someone trying to prey on unsuspecting folks online? I ignored your first(now reported) post, only to see the second repugnant vomit of yours again.

Since, you've thrown caution to the wind in all your posts on my thread.... I think it's all good you chew your gravel in peace!

oakson:



no mind me, pikin wey say hin mama no go sleep, him sef go kukuma hear am...


In no particular order, I USED to like the works of

1. George Eliot
2. leo Tolstoy
3. James Hardley Chase
4. Charles Dicken


But, now I do more of motivational/inspirational

1. Myles Munroe
2. James Dobson
3. Rick Warren
4. Bruce Wilkinson

and some great home (African)writers!

Presently reading Why Nations Fail By Daron Acemoglu and James A. Robinson

Piptocoin:


Now I see the comment of mine that has galvanized your irrational volcanic eruption. Since the meaning of my first post has been unable to penetrate your mind like water on the back of a duck it is needless to offer you clarity. Furthermore, your vituperation has lost its purpose on me. Unlike you, I am not chockfull of acrimonious bile waiting to slip at the slightest hint of antagonism. Nah, I won't smear you with dirt because I have none to give.

Ishilove:

I was thinking I'll see Achebe, Soyinka et al I'm your African list, but Tolstoy and Eliot are not bad. In hindsight, Hadley Chase has very good stories but his prose, not very strong. They are uncomplicated, except for a few that went deep like Malory and There's a Hippie on The Highway, which ironically was one of his early stories.

I'm not one for motivational books. Their prose is often too bland to hold my attention. I'm all about the style of the prose, which is why Stephen King is one of my all time favorites. I'm currently on Thinner and boy, am i on a journey!

I see your interests shifted, and you are now more about the actual intricacies of society rather than their fictionalisation. Life does that to ya.

Sorry I'm derailing your thread o. Ma bi nu

oakson:
Very miserable people, it's obvious many of them are going through stuffs in real life. But, they won't just admit it. They derive orgasms from being trolls... and you know what? Trolls are pests. We have dominion over them!

They can't stop me... I will surely get my dream woman!

Hope your sabbath was great?

pocohantas:
There is nothing to say OP can’t have or shouldn’t desire a single woman. From his opening post, he didn’t even specify, so why are you guys assuming and attacking him? Uche Ogbodo just remarried and I saw ladies hailing her husband as a real man. Let’s extend the same grace to men too.

Magnoliaa:


Lmao, men have always gotten that grace, by the way. Always. Classic one is the Malignant dude or whatever.

They can be hypocritical to any levels they wanted, and their fellow men will still find excuses for that.

I am sure the number of women that hailed Uche's husband pales in comparison to the men that dragged her.

Just a few people are dragging this OP, and that itself is even an exception where threads of these kind are concerned.

Magnoliaa:


I hope ( NOTE; "I hope" ) you are certainly not one of these guys here, but in other skins.

This is certainly not the first time I'll be seeing something like this here, after all...one just came, some months ago, ohhh, and he has a daughter too. I remember now. And he was looking for a woman or something like that, but he was supposedly ashamed, or so he said, because he has posted nonsense about women many times and trolled them.

If that's not the same with your case, then I wish you goodluck...

Magnoliaa:


Lmao, men have always gotten that grace, by the way. Always. Classic one is the Malignant dude or whatever.

They can be hypocritical to any levels they wanted, and their fellow men will still find excuses for that.

I am sure the number of women that hailed Uche's husband pales in comparison to the men that dragged her.

Just a few people are dragging this OP, and that itself is even an exception where threads of these kind are concerned.

Magnoliaa:


Lmao, men have always gotten that grace, by the way. Always. Classic one is the Malignant dude or whatever.

They can be hypocritical to any levels they wanted, and their fellow men will still find excuses for that.

I am sure the number of women that hailed Uche's husband pales in comparison to the men that dragged her.

Just a few people are dragging this OP, and that itself is even an exception where threads of these kind are concerned.

oakson:


does it really cost a fortune to mind your business and get busier if need be?

oakson:
Grace is available to all(male and female), not even now that the society has awoken to a paradigm shift in ideologies! Printed everywhere are stories of men and women who got their lives interpreted by grace beyond their disgraces!

I believe hypocrisy is not gender based. We should stop at nothing in being a staunch expression of our convictions. Should we also shy away from the fact that people should be free to express their fears, worries, dreams and aspirations online, without the fear of being bashed?

I support a social media that is pristine and soothing to the soul, not the one riddled with bile and bitterness!

As a matter of fact, it's been long I posted on this forum, but I frequently visit(kinda addicted).
I still have friends in my circle I met here for over a decade now(My old account is not accessible), I mean people we've dined and wined together. Still showed all the bitter comments going on here to one yesterday... and we shrugged it off!

...the fact is some NL oldies don't come here anymore(atleast the ones I know)!