Afodot0022:
Good day naira landers and happy holiday. I am writing this base on the challenge am having in my marriage. Some of you might have known little about the issue i had previously cos i brought it to the forum.

It happened that my wife was having emotional affairs with another man which i knew through her chat.

Though family and pastor were involved and have tried everything to resolve the issue between us. I have decided to forgive and forget and also give her a second chance even though it was a difficult situation for me, I decided to let go cos of my two daughters and don't want them to share from a broken home.

Now the issue am still having is that my wife has promise to change and be a better person and also promise to cut any emotional tile with the man. But I wasn't confident with that, so i told her to block this guy on all social media and also delete his number so there wont be any communication between them cos i sense if they both keep in touch, they might go back to what they were doing before. She got angry when i told her this and she said she can't block the guy cos they have been friends for many years even before she got married to me.

She started dating the guy last year under my roof and her reason was that i pushed her to do such act cos i wasn't giving her enough attention and love which is totally a lie.

So house, pls just let me know if i did wrong by telling her to block the guy or i over did it. I just felt blocking him will be best for us cos i noticed my wife is not fully detached from this guy emotionally.

Pls if you are in my shoes, what will you do house. If you want to get more insight about what transpired, you can go to my details nairaland.

Pls mod, help me by doing the needful.

Chaiii, nnna Dem don run you streetz, can't fully blame her Sha cause you let your guard down, women always shit tests your frame before they decide to misbehave. Problem is you were too engrossed with your duties as a husband to notice.

I have a friend whose dad always shake the house thoroughly and everyone thought he was mad, but the good thing was no one wanted a mad man to focus his attention on them so everyone and anyone with an idea to misbehave or rebel in any form quietly behaved accordingly.

haphizz57:
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What’s the need for all this private investigation.
That’s like wasting time on what he already knows he will hear.Listening to her conversations will only break his heart and lead to depression as he seems to be a sensitive man to be able to put up with this thus far.

Reinamaria:
Why do some men stop giving their wives attention after they marry them?
One foolish one once typed "Do politicians still campaign after winning elections?"
That foolish comment got over 2k likes as at when I saw it.

Dear men (husbands), you need to do better.
Women (your wives) love attention and you owe them that attention.
You need to give them as much attention as they need, so that no other man would matter to them.
Not everything is achieved with force and order.
You all need to do better.

You asked a very valid question that needs an answer in a most sincere manner.
Whether we like it or not, a family needs to be provided for and it can only be done when the man is involved in working to provide. When he works to provide, he sure will definitely have a divided mind and not like when he's courting. Responsibilities becomes so enormous and overwhelming to bare especially when he doesn't have enough or no helping hand.
He can give you that full attention as long as he will sit at home and not work and that itself, is a recipe for disaster on its own.
So, I'll put it to you to choose
He works and provide with a divided attention or He sits at home with you and love you.
Which will you prefer?
I know you will say what about other men, but have you cared to ask how they got to where they are today? It's a phase that will pass with a bit of support and encouragement from you as a woman. At the end, the marriage starts getting sweeter again. We need to work our ass out daily to provide and attend to people outside and as such, he barely focuses completely.
I do not support infidelity.

If not both children

Optmus:
The guy is the father of one or two of your kids.

Afodot0022:
Good day naira landers and happy holiday. I am writing this base on the challenge am having in my marriage. Some of you might have known little about the issue i had previously cos i brought it to the forum.

It happened that my wife was having emotional affairs with another man which i knew through her chat.

Though family and pastor were involved and have tried everything to resolve the issue between us. I have decided to forgive and forget and also give her a second chance even though it was a difficult situation for me, I decided to let go cos of my two daughters and don't want them to share from a broken home.

Now the issue am still having is that my wife has promise to change and be a better person and also promise to cut any emotional tile with the man. But I wasn't confident with that, so i told her to block this guy on all social media and also delete his number so there wont be any communication between them cos i sense if they both keep in touch, they might go back to what they were doing before. She got angry when i told her this and she said she can't block the guy cos they have been friends for many years even before she got married to me.

She started dating the guy last year under my roof and her reason was that i pushed her to do such act cos i wasn't giving her enough attention and love which is totally a lie.

So house, pls just let me know if i did wrong by telling her to block the guy or i over did it. I just felt blocking him will be best for us cos i noticed my wife is not fully detached from this guy emotionally.

Pls if you are in my shoes, what will you do house. If you want to get more insight about what transpired, you can go to my details nairaland.

Pls mod, help me by doing the needful.

Well ,firstly may God not allow me see this situation bkos somebody go die put or collect wound.


See bro,
She blocking that person is non negotiable and what the Bleep haven't U called the person for?


If you buy land and person dey try build foundation ontop the land....will you just report to who you bought the land from and go and sit down


Wouldn't U dig up the foundation



Cut the bastard warning


Put some strict restrictions


Collect the phone



Monitor details


And drop some life-threatening warnings


Or just simply walk the Bleep away

purples25:
Guy said emotional cheating.
Everyone is talking about physical cheating and DNA, especially guys. Once they saw cheating, they didn't bother with the details.

People really don't read, that's my own. That is why some fail exams. When you won't read line by line.

hey purple24 where have u been, it's been ages

Scavvy:
hey purple24 where have u been, it's been ages

Hello! Well, let's just say 'life happened'. Its been work and other things. What's been up with you?

purples25:


Hello! Well, let's just say 'life happened'. Its been work and other things. What's been up with you?

I'm alright, haven't seen you online for a while now, do just thought to hills, always loved reading your diaries..

Scavvy:
I'm alright, haven't seen you online for a while now, do just thought to hills, always loved reading your diaries..

That's really nice, thanks.

stanvesco:



Well ,firstly may God not allow me see this situation bkos somebody go die put or collect wound.


See bro,
She blocking that person is non negotiable and what the Bleep haven't U called the person for?


If you buy land and person dey try build foundation ontop the land....will you just report to who you bought the land from and go and sit down


Wouldn't U dig up the foundation



Cut the bastard warning


Put some strict restrictions


Collect the phone



Monitor details


And drop some life-threatening warnings


Or just simply walk the Bleep away

His business is with his wife not who she has cheated with.Contacting the guy will only make him feel self important and make the matter worse i fear.

Tutu82:


His business is with his wife not who she has cheated with.Contacting the guy will only make him feel self important and make the matter worse i fear.

Lol....
You may not understand.
A man who cheats with your woman or girlfriend doesn't either regard you or fear you.

A certified Mumu is asking for advice.

britbuz:
First of all, learn to paragraph your write-ups.

Secondly, what sort of advice do you need from the community when the obvious is glaring.

Self control and marital vows can be difficult to keep especially when your demons points to you reasons to cheat on your spouse.

Sir, I believe you know what to do if your complain is real.

I don't even know what to tell you. Go and get some ice cream and think what to do to, or for her.

I'm learning how not to comment like a typical.

hi, I have a friend who is need of job. He's a graduate. I want to know if he can apply for the record keeper role

Hmm ! what if it was the man ?
Would he block the lady contact too ?
Because I know men will not block those contacts that has caused issues before.

Mecka:
hi, I have a friend who is need of job. He's a graduate. I want to know if he can apply for the record keeper role

This role is solely for SSCE or OND holders. The remuneration won't be encouraging for him. trust me!

britbuz:


This role is solely for SSCE or OND holders. The remuneration won't be encouraging for him. trust me!

how much