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Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by africandollar: 12:23pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
And what if said husband is on Nairaland? you just divulged too much information and might have just put your friend (or yourself) in more trouble. ![]() |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Thinkingfast: 12:24pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Any form of abuse either physical, verbal or emotional that induces fear to the point that one's mental health is at risk prompts urgent attention. Marriage should never be a do or die affair If he is a controlling person I would advise to move miles away from him because you truly never know how he would take the separation. IMHO 1. Contact and consult a lawyer ASAP 2. Seek help from a qualified counsellor regarding your mental health moving forward. 3. Carry your children along 1 Like |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Mindlog: 12:25pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
neonly: So a man providing for his own children after separation/divorce is criminal? ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by TheRealestGuy(m): 12:26pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
ibkayee: What do you mean by "they're technically still his kids" biko? You women are quite funny. They are wholly and fully his kids, there's absolutely no technicality in there miss. Women often have this idea that the kids are theirs mostly simply because they carried and birthed them but forget that without the man's sperm there could be no kids. Please correct that impression immediately. 4 Likes |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Mindlog: 12:32pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Thermodynamics: In your personal estimation, what is the percentage of those husbands who remain only with that wife that was there from the onset? 2 Likes |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Trapnews: 12:34pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
The situation can still.be managed but it is clear that this one has refused to understand what will happen to the kids, she is just concerned about herself, why is it hard for women to consider children when taking their selfish decisions? Because of preeq, you wan leave your children. May God judge you and your cousin, every marriage get. their challenge, una dey look.for perfect marriage, nonsense! 1 Like |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by BluntTheApostle(m): 12:38pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
ColdHunter: A restraining order will protect her against his emotional abuse. To get a restraining order, she needs a lawyer. In fact, the first thing she needs right now is a competent lawyer. 1 Like |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by BluntTheApostle(m): 12:42pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Trapnews: The kids will be fine. In fact, remaining in such a toxic home will harm them more than a divorce would. Emotional abuse is the worst form of abuse. But we underestimate it in Nigeria, while focusing all of our energy on physical abuse. 5 Likes |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by sageb: 12:43pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Thermodynamics: You have said it all, the sad reality. 1 Like |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Mindlog: 12:45pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Trapnews: She is not leaving her children, she wants to separate and co-parent with their father. 4 Likes |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Exceed15: 12:46pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
I m sure this isn't the full story. Why won't he come after her if she runs away with his children. May be she's hardened and the man would not allow her excesses. If she's tired of the marriage she should follow due process and agreement on how her husband will be having access to the children. Women Are fond of denying the father access to the children but want the man to be sending money. U can't eat your cake and have it. |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Shokoloko(f): 12:51pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Exceed15:You did not read or understand and yet you commented. Nigerians! Show me where she wants to deny the father access to the children. 2 Likes |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Originalsly: 1:00pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
I don't know the laws of the State... but having a place unknown to the husband and planning to move out gives the husband the advantage. If it's divorce she wants ... then she needs to have some evidence... photos .. videos ... audio recordings to prove abuse. The reality is as a woman she will have to present a very strong case for the court to rule in her favour against a man ... a rich married man. It will be in the back of their heads that she married him for money ... now that the man has set her up in business ... and she feels she is independent.. she wants to leave.... and this is exactly what the man will present while the abuse will be shoved out of the spotlight. If she moves ...then she abandoned the marriage ... maybe the husband can divorce her on grounds of abandonment and be given full custody of the children. Don't forget .... this is my opinion .... no problem in gathering tit bits from comments... but in the end ... she should seek legal advice not from any lawyer ... but those that specialize in Family Court issues. 2 Likes |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by GboyegaD(m): 1:01pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Mindlog: This is a joke right? If she has a business why will anyone expect the financial bulk to be on the man alone? 1 Like |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Mindlog: 1:08pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
GboyegaD: In the post I quoted where the writer wrote 50/50 contribution gives a woman a chance to have custody and that is not so, thus the text you bolden. In Lagos state, even you are just a baby daddy the court will grant judgement the man pay for child's school fees, medical bills, feeding and clothing, the woman takes care of accommodation of she and the child, which most times is with her family. 1 Like |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by mens83: 1:23pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
ColdHunter: Your story is not heavy enough to seek divorce or separation as you desired. What effort have you made to resolve your issues internally. Have you spoken to your spouse and letting him know how hurtful his action are on you emotionally and otherwise? Have you involved your families- his and yours? Are there no one he listens to you can talk to. You seem to be in a haste to quit your marriage without finding ways to seek peaceful co-habition. Meanwhile when pointing finger to others error be such to be free of error yourself. Are you bad tempered, unruly, and non-submissive? Do you engage him in aggressive arguments? Do you feel you have arrived and can do without him? Rather calmly rethink. No woman can give those your children attention as you would. And what guarantee do you have your man won't hesitate to get a fresh sweet 18. Find out where the missing link is and all shall be well 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Konjiboi: 1:26pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Tell her to meet a lawyer. |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by BarrElChapo(m): 1:35pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
ColdHunter: She should lawyer up. |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by vickydevoka(m): 2:00pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
ColdHunter:What do ladie want self. Them say it's better to cry in a Benz now en don de affect mental health 1 Like |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by vickydevoka(m): 2:04pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
ColdHunter:Who opened the business for her? |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by vickydevoka(m): 2:05pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
okeke6969:If you hear the man's story u fit start to the cry for aam 1 Like |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by onoja12: 2:06pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
She done use him money set up business,done dey nack small boy ,now she won form independent woman. If its me ,just drop my children ,because no way in hell will I allow a single woman raise my children.after all they are teenagers,she want the children,so she still has atm if all goes bad. ColdHunter: 1 Like |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Mindlog: 2:23pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
onoja12: The children belong to you the father and her, the mother. If the marriage ends she becomes a single mother, you become a single father and you both co-parent. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Omoawoke: 2:52pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
ColdHunter:Wicked woman. You are just greedy and want freedom to fvk small yahoo boys. I pity that your husband. From what I can deduce; you are the terrorist in the union. First , your topic says violent spouse, in what way was he violent to you? You come dey change mouth say he dey insult you. Liar!!!! We know how sharp your mouth could be 2. You are just after his money and nothing more. Your topic clearly says rich 3. You are after his money, you want him to keep the children so you can be free to carry his money and spend on your new found lover. You are a scammer that married him for money 1 Like |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Omoawoke: 2:54pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
onoja12: Fear this women. Exactly what is happening. She said the man dey violent but could not explain how he was violent. Na just money she want |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Omoawoke: 2:55pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
vickydevoka: The husband of course. This woman is a wicked woman the type that your parents warned you about. I pray her sons marry the kind of monster she is |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Omoawoke: 3:00pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Shokoloko: The lady is a greedy insatiable thief that married for money and want to divorce to be enjoying the man’s money while fvking around in freedom. This is the mistake of the man for marrying a hoe that belongs to the street. It is not by marrying fine girl. I can bet the man is an older man and she is planing to return to her younger ex. Let he come and deny this and let thunder strike her greedy big mouth. |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Omoawoke: 3:09pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
ColdHunter:Thief !!! Na the money dey enter your eyes. |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Isabi4lov: 3:40pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
africandollar:His family is not the only one going through this crisis , I wish her all the best . |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by Thermodynamics(m): 4:25pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
Mindlog: 90%, that's a natural human instinct, good is not easily paid with bad, in 90% of the cases, if you're good to people they'll be good to you as well. I'm not saying bad and ungrateful men does not exist but most men(90%) will be there for the women who supported them during their struggling days, that's just the fact. I'm not saying women should date a stupid and lazy man, I'm taking about a man that has a future, but pouncing on an already made man and claiming to love him is just a joke, the rich man is not a fool, he knows why you came and he will treat you accordingly. |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by A4alpha: 4:33pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
God bless you.. you hit it point blank.. case closed and I urge you OP to heed to this comment. Again this op sound like a troublesome person, I hope you don't deny this man sex and I also hope you are not a lesbian or have divorcees as friends. By the time your eyes will clear you will see what your foolishness has done to you. mens83: |
Re: Separation From A Rich And Violent Spouse by emmyN(m): 5:26pm On Jan 16, 2023 |
ColdHunter: Never been physical violent but she scared he's going to come after her? She better be scared then. |
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