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Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Jkoro29: 1:45pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Hi nairalanders. This is the first time that I will be creating an account on Nairaland. I have been a guest for many years and I love this forum. I am not the type of person to share my issues with people, but this issue is very pressing and I don't seem to have found any answers from researching online. Please I would appreciate if one of the moderators sends this thread to the front page so I can get more responses. I am 29 years old. I have a job, my own house and a car, and I am ready to settle down. I want to get married this year, unfailingly. The problem is that I only attract bad girls into my life. My definition of bad girls are those girls that club almost every night, girls that care so much about material things and about how they look, girls that wear skimpy outfits and show off their bodies at every chance. Girls that live on tiktok and instagram. These are the type of girls I attract. What prompted me to create this account and post this is the experience I had today in church. There is the beautiful, quiet, modest looking usher that I have feelings for. I I have listened to her speak in our youth sunday school and she sound intelligent. She is also god-fearing and devoted in church. I admire these qualities in a wife. Today I walked up to her to introduce myself but the way she responded killed me on the inside. She didn't even smile. Just kept a straight face and didn't even care to respond to some of my questions. I felt defeated. I don't believe in forcing a friendship. I believe that when I approach a girl and she behaves like that, it is a sign that she doesn't like me at all and I would only be wasting time trying to get her to like me. Meanwhile in the same church, there is one slay queen that has been giving me green light and always smiles when we lock eyes. I don't even know why girls like this come to church. There is another girl that twerks all the time on her whatsapp that is angry that I have been ignoring her. There are countless others i have slept with in the past that have all fit this profile. But not once have I had a relationship with a good girl. It is almost like a curse was placed on me. When ever i meet good girls, they always seem to not like me. Maybe I am bad at reading people, but the way they behave is the direct opposite of the way the bad girls behave when I meet them. The bad ones are always smiling, always attentive and always eager to know more about me. I don't want to get married to a girl that doesn't have the fear of god, or a girl that smokes shisha and parties all night every weekday. I want to get married to a girl that has the qualities of the usher girl. I am a good looking, responsible young man. I do not dress, look or act like a yahoo boy, in case you are wondering. I am well educated, I speak well and interact with people in a mature way. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Zonefree(m): 1:46pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
That your Usher girl may even be worse than those ones you called Bad girls. Don't be deceived by her looks or mere Church actions. Besides, there are no more good girls again in this country. They're all damaged beyond repair. Get yourself a less damaged one and manage her like that. 20 Likes |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Qtrpst4: 1:48pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
You attract whom you are |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Blakjewelry(m): 1:50pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Jkoro29:You do not attract them rather you choose to go after those types of girls maybe you love bad girl vibe. Plus because she acted that way doesn't mean she dislikes you, I have heard from ladies who said when they like a guy they form hard face so people differs. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Jeon(f): 1:52pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
When ever i meet good girls, they always seem to not like me.why would they like a public penis?. Do you want to corrupt their holy Garment /destroying one of the 10 commandments for them? responsible young man.Indeed you are! There are countless others i have slept with in the past that have all fit this profile. they are usually physically attractive and know how to show it. Follow your likes. 6 Likes |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Jkoro29: 1:54pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Blakjewelry: I don't love bad girl vibes. Most girls like this are shallow and empty upstairs. The only reason I went after them in the past is because they are usually physically attractive and know how to show it. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Romanoff(f): 1:54pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Y |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Romanoff(f): 1:56pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
You attract what you are. That Usher girl done see say she no fit dey unequally yoked with you, that's probably why she doesn't even want to attempt any friendship. It's your type that won't agree to a Christian relationship but you dey find wife for inside church. Just stick to your bad girl type and be using prayer to manage her. 5 Likes |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by spencekat(m): 1:58pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Qtrpst4:Not always |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Jkoro29: 1:59pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Zonefree: I don't believe that there are no more good girls in this country. There will always be a balance of good and bad in the world. I've been observing the usher girl for a while. Even during weekday activities when she isn't doing her usher work, she always dresses moderately and carries herself well. From what I have seen, she is a responsible woman. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by ednut1(m): 1:59pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
The so called church gal may even be a retired olosho 4 Likes |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Blakjewelry(m): 2:00pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Jkoro29:I attract both the good and the bad but I decides which go for. Also that one you said doesn't like you might just be forming hard to get plus she might also be having a lot of approach from different guys in the church who sees her like you do so she might just be careful. You said you wants to love somebody and you are this easily defeat, as for me the harder she is the more I chase as in never give up I easily lose interest when a girl is too easy. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Zonefree(m): 2:00pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Jkoro29:Guy, most oloshos dress moderately when they're off duty. Don't be deceived by what you're seeing. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by LoveOLagos1: 2:21pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Jkoro29: Hi. You guys need to join our FB page if you're looking for true love and options. See you guys over there. ππ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100086788028870&mibextid=ZbWKwL |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Holybaddo: 2:43pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Continue eating the bad girls When the exact time comes for you to marry GOD will help you to get a wife |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Holybaddo: 2:44pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Comrade after chopping bad bad girls You na want to leave them and marry a GOD fearing woman Comrade it sha not work 4 Likes |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Silentgroper(m): 2:52pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Zonefree:. True ... Once upon a time, my cousin's dad and an usher be having an affair in secret... Even after knowing this man has his wife and kids attending the same church... The said usher seemed so holy and gentle, no one would ever believe she'd do something like that ... Whenever I go to their house and I see her, I'd just smh and be like YOU DON'T REALLY JUDGE A BOOK BT ITS COVER.. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Goodlady(f): 3:05pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Did this op really need an advise? 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by marlow1962(m): 3:18pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Just choose ur demon and settle down, maybe after 6months come online tell us how e dy go. One advice= if your so called wife to be family knack u traditional right billing wer pass 1m and your wife they jobless, my bro run ( cus thatβs extortion). Abi you wn marry finish cun go hungry? 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Autobot05: 3:37pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Dont take marriage too seriously. Maybe one day you'll find a good woman. But it's very hard Even in the church ... scantily dressed girls everywhere I don tire for these girls 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Qatar2022: 4:16pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
You attract the kind of woman you're 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Boogyman557: 4:54pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
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Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by faceLAGOS: 4:58pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Jkoro29: Guy, face your wahala squarely. Why are you guys always having woman problems here & there. Is this some ego boost or something? β I am 29 years old. I have a job, my own house and a car, bla bla bla. I donβt know why your story just turn my stomach. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by GoodCane: 5:00pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Na church girls dey bang pass. Whether she's in choir, usher etc, they're all runz girls and usually collects Dick around on a low-key. Getting married to a Nigerian girl is a complete waste of time, energy and resources. I'll urge to bang her pussy, dump her and move on. When it's time for marriage, travel to Australian or Russian, marry their girls and enjoy massive peace of mind. |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Medianna(f): 5:01pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
All these people saying you attract who you are, I dey vex. I don't think that statement is true about love relationship. If that analysis is true then i don't understand why a good man will end up with a bad wife. Or a good woman will end up with a devilish man |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Nobody: 5:46pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Just relax yourself, OP. You simply haven't met the right person and that's okay. It's nothing to fret over. I would suggest not limiting your search to only the church, since that hasn't yielded any results. Attend events where respectable people are and see how that goes. In any case, relax and keep living your life. Sometimes it's when you're not looking for love that you'll find it. |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by christianjoy(m): 5:51pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Well it is easy to know who is good and bad You just not seeing it hanging with you |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Lucrativress(f): 5:53pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Jkoro29:Go back to your contact list and check the girls you once tagged plain. Then for real what kind of girl do you want? Submissive, moderate dressing or responsible? There are still many good girls in Nigeria. A good place to start from if you're lost are the ones into business... Follow up on their adverts, businesses can at times give you a peep into its owners, contents can be deceiving, there are many good girls in Nigeria.π |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by Lucrativress(f): 5:56pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
G00DHardDick: Sebi every virgin girl use to write it on their heads that "I AM A VIRGIN O"π 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by KdpMaster: 6:01pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Jkoro29:Let give u a hint Let assume you want to marry a nurse Then go to biggest hospital in your location and stay at their gate you will see nurses pass make your choice and follow her closely to know the Department she will enter.then ask people around about her.later approach her. π 1 Like |
Re: Please Help!! I Want To Get Married But I Only Attract Bad Girls by GoodCane: 6:04pm On Jan 22, 2023 |
Lucrativress: I'm not a fan of relationships dating nor marriage. U Nigeria girls were created to be banged, so it's advisable to bang a Nigerian girl, dump her and move on. However, apart from your over used damaged kpekpus, what else can you offer a man in a relationship apart from your over used damaged pussy |
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