Handsomejok:

I expected us to start afresh again but she is still dwelling in the past and I don't know how to make her forget about the past so we can enjoy our marriage. What should I do to change her mind so she will be in love me again and stop seeing me as a monster that caused her so much pain in the past?

Handsomejok:
We had a lot issues in the past we separated and later reconciled but every slightl mistake she will remind me about what I have done to her and our daughter she has said that when our daughter grows up she will tells her everything. I am not happy with her anymore because I have apologised to her from the bottom of my heart and I expected us to start afresh again but she is still dwelling in the past and I don't know how to make her forget about the past so we can enjoy our marriage. What should I do to change her mind so she will be in love me again and stop seeing me as a monster that caused her so much pain in the past?

thesicilian:
She probably enjoys seeing you in this miserable state of grovelling for affection. The only advice I can give is for you to stop apologizing. Be a man, take care of yourself and your family in the best possible way you can

superCleanworks:


this is the ENTITLEMENT problem with CALCULATIVELY OFFENSIVE humans. they just walk back into your life with their dirty feet and START HAVING EXPECTATIONS about how you should become BRAINDEAD and automatically forget the bullshit they did to you in the first place. And if you just can not easily forget it, you have become a demon.

Minus your wife. Not everyone forgets easily and forgiveness is not cheap if at all it is available.

What makes you think you are entitled to her forgiveness? do you evendeserve what you are asking for?

Richy4:
Maybe You should google guilt trip in a relationship and see if you can find what experts said about it and how to manage it in a relationship...She is guilt tripping you using the past to get her way....and it's not healthy..

yrhuhfy113:


YOU DON'T NEED HER FORGIVENESS AS LONG AS YOU HER GENIUNELY SORRY, START ACTING BETTER, DOING BETTER FOR HER AND YOUR DAUGHTER, START TAKING RESPONSIBILITY AND BE ACCOUNTABLE...... DON'T APPOLOGIZE ANYMORE, JUST BE THE CHANGED PERSON YOU PROMISED YOU WILL BE...... AND BE HAPPY WITH THAT.... IT MAY TAKE MONTHS, BUT SHE WILL LOVE YOU AGAIN

Handsomejok:
We had a lot issues in the past we separated and later reconciled but every slightl mistake she will remind me about what I have done to her and our daughter she has said that when our daughter grows up she will tells her everything. I am not happy with her anymore because I have apologised to her from the bottom of my heart and I expected us to start afresh again but she is still dwelling in the past and I don't know how to make her forget about the past so we can enjoy our marriage. What should I do to change her mind so she will be in love me again and stop seeing me as a monster that caused her so much pain in the past?

Handsomejok:


If I am not entitled to her forgiveness but why did she accept to come back to me?

Handsomejok:
If I am not entitled to her forgiveness but why did she accept to come back to me?

Oluneutral:
https://www.nairaland.com/5705389/think-wife-witch



https://www.nairaland.com/6787206/1-years-old-witch

Were you not the one that opened the above threads?
You accused your wife of witchcraft and behind every ills that befell you. As if that was not enough, you also accused your daughter of 1+ of witchcraft and that both of them have connived and conspired to finish you financially, emotionally and even health-wise. So you ridiculously and embarrassingly sent them out. Causing them a lot of trauma and emotional torture. Insults and embarrassment from your far and near folks. After a year, you came back to your senses and apologized, she accepted to come back. Do you think those embarrassing moments she and her daughter suffered could be erased in a jiffy? Do you think accusing someone of witchcraft is something that can be easily forgiven? What if you're in a barbaric environment and she had been stoned to death when you accused her and her daughter of witchcraft, would you still be entitled to her forgiveness? What if she had committed suicide for not being able to stand the false accusations, would you still be saying this?
You're delusional, yes, you are.

May God heal your wife and daughter of those trauma and torture you caused them to suffer.

As for you, I really don't know the advice to give you but I pray not to have someone like you around me.

superCleanworks:


So you feel entitled? I was right. You are so full of yourself, low wisdom.

That I choose to sit on the same table with you AFTER YOU STAB ME does not mean you are entitled to my forgiveness.

A) for me, it might mean I am luring you to your PAYBACK.
B) for her, it might mean she is IN THE PROCESS of healing.

none of these two options is good to rush.

onumadu:


This marriage is damaged beyond repair, unless you are prepared to pay in your old age.
Emotion and sentiment has nothing to do with it.
If I were you, I would start marking SERIOUS plans to replace the woman. Start all over with another woman if you must.
Get yourself together, and move on.
Unforgiveness is a deadly sin; but a lot of women do it.
It is their nature.

Handsomejok:



If I am not entitled to her forgiveness but why did she accept to come back to me?

Handsomejok:
We had a lot issues in the past we separated and later reconciled but every slightl mistake she will remind me about what I have done to her and our daughter she has said that when our daughter grows up she will tells her everything. I am not happy with her anymore because I have apologised to her from the bottom of my heart and I expected us to start afresh again but she is still dwelling in the past and I don't know how to make her forget about the past so we can enjoy our marriage. What should I do to change her mind so she will be in love me again and stop seeing me as a monster that caused her so much pain in the past?

Handsomejok:



I am a victim of fake pastors

Klass99:


This made me laugh and I thought to myself, a whole logical gender person! Meaning no offence though I'm just thinking out loud.

With the things I'm reading about what you did to your wife and daughter, you really need to give her time. Agreeing to a reconciliation and returning to you was a giant step to begin with, not every woman would have taken you back.

Quit trying to make her forget, that is humanly impossible. She may be able to forgive you but to forget! Ahn ahn na, can you yourself forget what you did? Human memory is a very powerful thing o.

Klass99:


This is doable and not impossible. But you sef what on earth possesed you to believe the witchcraft stories?

I browsed through one of your previous threads and I couldn't stop laughing when you said your daughter was commissioned by her mother to finish the work of killing you.

You see ehn, your situation is one of the reasons I don't tolerate people with a mindset of, the spiritual controls the physical. Every little thing with a logical explanation to it, usually means something spiritual to them and it is never good in their point of view.

The spiritual for them is always of a demonic nature, they never think in terms of the spiritual being God's good spirit or His angels.

Klass99:


Lol, kpele o. But I thought you said it was the fake pastors, now it is your mother?