Sapiosexuality:
These criminals called pastors have destroyed many homes that I think the government should get involve.

Someone very close to me today can no longer see because one of these fools told him a health problem was actually spiritual.

The foundation of one's mind has a lot to do here. If your mind has been tempered by religious nonsense it will be easy for your mind to plant, harvest and eat the garbage these madmen vormit.

You really think if they want you dead you stand a chance. As an average Nigerian, anybody that wants you dead can kill you. They don't even need any spiritual connections to do that. Imagine someone that, possibly, cooks for you wants to use spiritual powers to kill you. Nonsense!

Give her time. You broke her psychologically and mentally and it will take a lot of time for that to heal. That's if you don't fall for another clown whenever you are down.

Handsomejok:
We had a lot issues in the past we separated and later reconciled but every slightl mistake she will remind me about what I have done to her and our daughter she has said that when our daughter grows up she will tells her everything. I am not happy with her anymore because I have apologised to her from the bottom of my heart and I expected us to start afresh again but she is still dwelling in the past and I don't know how to make her forget about the past so we can enjoy our marriage. What should I do to change her mind so she will be in love me again and stop seeing me as a monster that caused her so much pain in the past?

Handsomejok:
I am a victim of fake pastors

onumadu:


This marriage is damaged beyond repair, unless you are prepared to pay in your old age.
Emotion and sentiment has nothing to do with it.
If I were you, I would start marking SERIOUS plans to replace the woman. Start all over with another woman if you must.
Get yourself together, and move on.
Unforgiveness is a deadly sin; but a lot of women do it.
It is their nature.

Handsomejok:



If I am not entitled to her forgiveness but why did she accept to come back to me?

Oluneutral:
https://www.nairaland.com/5705389/think-wife-witch



https://www.nairaland.com/6787206/1-years-old-witch

Were you not the one that opened the above threads?
You accused your wife of witchcraft and behind every ills that befell you. As if that was not enough, you also accused your daughter of 1+ of witchcraft and that both of them have connived and conspired to finish you financially, emotionally and even health-wise. So you ridiculously and embarrassingly sent them out. Causing them a lot of trauma and emotional torture. Insults and embarrassment from your far and near folks. After a year, you came back to your senses and apologized, she accepted to come back. Do you think those embarrassing moments she and her daughter suffered could be erased in a jiffy? Do you think accusing someone of witchcraft is something that can be easily forgiven? What if you're in a barbaric environment and she had been stoned to death when you accused her and her daughter of witchcraft, would you still be entitled to her forgiveness? What if she had committed suicide for not being able to stand the false accusations, would you still be saying this?
You're delusional, yes, you are.

May God heal your wife and daughter of those trauma and torture you caused them to suffer.

As for you, I really don't know the advice to give you but I pray not to have someone like you around me.

Adaisback:
What? That man must be a monster. If na me, am not coming back at all. Na wah o. Some men are devil's incarnate indeed

Handsomejok:
We had a lot issues in the past we separated and later reconciled but every slightl mistake she will remind me about what I have done to her and our daughter she has said that when our daughter grows up she will tells her everything. I am not happy with her anymore because I have apologised to her from the bottom of my heart and I expected us to start afresh again but she is still dwelling in the past and I don't know how to make her forget about the past so we can enjoy our marriage. What should I do to change her mind so she will be in love me again and stop seeing me as a monster that caused her so much pain in the past?

worriedhubby:


Op, while it is good for any man or woman to retain a good level of self-esteem in marriage, you are at the mercy of your wife on this matter. I have been in your wife's position. The only difference is my spouse hasn't stopped running around all these fake pastors/prophets.

Accusations of infidelity, financial recklessness etc are easily settled and forgiven. But you see accusation of "witchcraft " from a spouse? It is the highest level of psychological and emotional abuse. If that woman get mind to continue living with you, be grateful. Pray, that God will help her to forgive you. Only God can delete that pain from her heart. After that, maybe, when you see all these pastopreneurs and pulpit bandits you will look twice.

Handsomejok:



I know forgiving doesn't mean forgetting but she should stop reminding me about what I have done to her and daughter because it is not helping our relationship

Handsomejok:



But I thought you said it was the fake pastors, now it is your mother?


You asked me what made me to believe witchcraft stories I said my mother because she introduced me to those fake pastors and I believed all their lies because I trusted my mother

Handsomejok:



But I thought you said it was the fake pastors, now it is your mother?


You asked me what made me to believe witchcraft stories I said my mother because she introduced me to those fake pastors and I believed all their lies because I trusted my mother

Davidave:
It's not easy for a man to own up to his mistakes,and I commend u for that.At least,u kn where the problem is coming from.
Oga,set Ur alarm for 4:am.Make sure u wake up by that time.Just boil some water,Make some tea and bread(I bet u never did that for her).Carry it in a clean tray,with quality bread,to her into the bedroom.Tell her that u have come with a peace offering,that u just want Ur wife back.Tell her how sorry u are again,and that u need her to forgive u.
I didn't say u should cry,but be soft spoken and honest with every word coming out of Ur mouth.
Women love those little bribes.So,try it.

onumadu:


This marriage is damaged beyond repair, unless you are prepared to pay in your old age.
Emotion and sentiment has nothing to do with it.
If I were you, I would start marking SERIOUS plans to replace the woman. Start all over with another woman if you must.
Get yourself together, and move on.
Unforgiveness is a deadly sin; but a lot of women do it.
It is their nature.

Handsomejok:


Thanks

Handsomejok:



Thanks

Saintmary:
My heart breaks for the woman who was dragged in the mud in such a horrible way.


She should not even return to this man but she did for her own reasons, now this husband is expecting her to just forget like that?


So sad.


Mr man, it will take many years before she can truly forgive you, like more than 5 years. If you can't wait, let her go.

Handsomejok:



But I thought you said it was the fake pastors, now it is your mother?


You asked me what made me to believe witchcraft stories I said my mother because she introduced me to those fake pastors and I believed all their lies because I trusted my mother

ferhyntorlah:


This is the issue with some men. They trust their mother to the point of absurdity. They don't have a mind of their own.

Mummy says: jump!
They ask: how high, mum?

worriedhubby:


Don't say some men. Say, some people. Women do it too. I have been married for 9+ years. Everything my wife does must be sanctioned by the mother or brother. If you have any discussion with her, she to confirm from the mom if she should do what you said.

Some humans are just ridiculous. This OP just allowed his mother with assistance of fake prophets to mess his life for him.

Handsomejok:
This OP just allowed his mother with assistance of fake prophets to mess his life for him.
My mother never knew that they were fake ,we were both victims

worriedhubby:


Don't say some men. Say, some people. Women do it too. I have been married for 9+ years. Everything my wife does must be sanctioned by the mother or brother. If you have any discussion with her, she to confirm from the mom if she should do what you said.

Some humans are just ridiculous. This OP just allowed his mother with assistance of fake prophets to mess his life for him.

NwaMamaIwota:
but you'll come back to me soon.
😘😘😘

Handsomejok:
We had a lot issues in the past we separated and later reconciled but every slightl mistake she will remind me about what I have done to her and our daughter she has said that when our daughter grows up she will tells her everything. I am not happy with her anymore because I have apologised to her from the bottom of my heart and I expected us to start afresh again but she is still dwelling in the past and I don't know how to make her forget about the past so we can enjoy our marriage. What should I do to change her mind so she will be in love me again and stop seeing me as a monster that caused her so much pain in the past?

NwaMamaIwota:
but you'll come back to me soon.
😘😘😘

Handsomejok:
We had a lot issues in the past we separated and later reconciled but every slightl mistake she will remind me about what I have done to her and our daughter she has said that when our daughter grows up she will tells her everything. I am not happy with her anymore because I have apologised to her from the bottom of my heart and I expected us to start afresh again but she is still dwelling in the past and I don't know how to make her forget about the past so we can enjoy our marriage. What should I do to change her mind so she will be in love me again and stop seeing me as a monster that caused her so much pain in the past?

Adaisback:
hi dear, hope you are fine? Just checking on you.

Handsomejok:



Thanks

Richy4:

You are welcome... so you know, You might be apologizing for the rest of your life for that singular act...You might remain like that forever if u don't set boundaries....

You offended her, BIG DEAL!!... But learn to set boundaries between what is happening presently and her using the present situation to judge the past...

Do not expect her to forget but set a strict boundary between past and present situations... Fight tooth and nail to overcome her using the past to guilt trip... If not she might ask you to walk across the highway one day, and because of what u did to her, u might just do it..