Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land

Ephesians 6:1-3

For anyone who curses his father or his mother shall surely be put to death; he has cursed his father or his mother; his blood is upon him.

Leviticus 20:9

For God commanded, ‘Honor your father and your mother,’ and, ‘Whoever reviles father or mother must surely die.’

Matthew 15:4

I think it's clear what God has to say concerning this matter.
It will cost you next to nothing to continue taking care of her, compared to what you stand to lose if you anger your maker by abandoning your own mother. Remember, you have no duplicate out there.

funkmrflexx:
One thing we don't talk about in nigeria is toxic Parenting, and my family has experienced It from my mom.

So my mom had 7 kids for 4 men, Out of the 7 kids only 5 of our were of 2 fathers( the 2 eldest ones had one father, and the 3 youngest one which is where I belong had one father also)

So after giving birth to 7 of us, the men obviously remarried (my own father had 9 wives) so it was now the responsibility of my mom to look after her kids but she didn't.

None of us went to the university because my mom said she can't send any of her child to the university( I know some people will say why didn't our fathers take responsibility) out of the 4 men, 2 died when I was very young ( my own father died when I was 10 and the guy had like 30 kids so the responsibility fell on my mom)

I'll tell the story child by child of what they went through at the hands of my mom

My elder brother lost his father when he was young and had to live with his step mom, after secondary school, he really wanted to go to the university so went to my aunt and my aunt to him to my mom to take half the school fees but my mom chased them out of her house saying that she doesn't have money to send any child to school that If my aunt wants to train him that's her own problem, that she doesn't have a child that will go to school. So that aunt of mine assisted my brother, and he was also doing menial jobs until he was able to graduate. Today now he's abroad and my mom always call him to send money to her

My elder sister gave birth when she was young, my mom refused to help her with the child to the extent that she had to take the child to someone else so she could hawk and feed the child while my mom was still alive. (there are more of her own story she didn't tell me, I didn't know cus I was just a baby)

Then my immediate elder sister was frustrated by mom, she didn't pay her school fees when she was in secondary school, always chased her out of the house, sometimes she would sleep at her friend's place unfortunately because of the she got pregnant, when she gave birth, my mom threw her out of the house with the baby (she basically threw the baby, my sister was fast enough to catch the baby. That's how my sister left)

Then me. I think I was the lucky one because when I was about 7 years a friend of my mom's took me and I lived with her for the next 15 years. After secondary school I wanted to go to school but the lady said she had tried and couldn't train me. (I understood because she had really tried for me. I won't be where I am today without her) so I went to meet my mom, and she told me she doesn't have money to train any child to school that if I want to go to school I should train myself, that she doesn't have a hand in any school. So I left her and started hustling on my own. ( I got admission 3 times, but there was no one to sponsor me) I started doing laundry to make ends. I had nowhere to stay because my mom won't accept me. So I started sleeping outside. I literally slept outside for almost 2 years, I would bath outside at night, then look for one corner to sleep at night. That's how it went on. Today now I'm married and doing well for myself, my brother and I are the ones taking care of my mom today, we relocated her from the village and now she stays in the city.

Our last born is a girl, my mom would chase her out at every opportunity, burn her clothes. She would sleep outside until she was raped. My also refused to support her education for the same reasons as before. She also frustrated her until she left the house. Fast forward today my mom calls her for money all the time


Sometimes I use to wonder if my mom was really my mom, now she's in her 70's and we are the one taking care of her. My brother called me the other day and told me he was about to cut her off because she hasn't changed. And honestly I plan to do the same because she doesn't care about the well being of her children. As long as you are giving her money she doesn't care.

So does a mother like that deserve to be taken care of after all she did?

funkmrflexx:
One thing we don't talk about in nigeria is toxic Parenting, and my family has experienced It from my mom.

So my mom had 7 kids for 4 men, Out of the 7 kids only 5 of our were of 2 fathers( the 2 eldest ones had one father, and the 3 youngest one which is where I belong had one father also)

So after giving birth to 7 of us, the men obviously remarried (my own father had 9 wives) so it was now the responsibility of my mom to look after her kids but she didn't.

None of us went to the university because my mom said she can't send any of her child to the university( I know some people will say why didn't our fathers take responsibility) out of the 4 men, 2 died when I was very young ( my own father died when I was 10 and the guy had like 30 kids so the responsibility fell on my mom)

I'll tell the story child by child of what they went through at the hands of my mom

My elder brother lost his father when he was young and had to live with his step mom, after secondary school, he really wanted to go to the university so went to my aunt and my aunt to him to my mom to take half the school fees but my mom chased them out of her house saying that she doesn't have money to send any child to school that If my aunt wants to train him that's her own problem, that she doesn't have a child that will go to school. So that aunt of mine assisted my brother, and he was also doing menial jobs until he was able to graduate. Today now he's abroad and my mom always call him to send money to her

My elder sister gave birth when she was young, my mom refused to help her with the child to the extent that she had to take the child to someone else so she could hawk and feed the child while my mom was still alive. (there are more of her own story she didn't tell me, I didn't know cus I was just a baby)

Then my immediate elder sister was frustrated by mom, she didn't pay her school fees when she was in secondary school, always chased her out of the house, sometimes she would sleep at her friend's place unfortunately because of the she got pregnant, when she gave birth, my mom threw her out of the house with the baby (she basically threw the baby, my sister was fast enough to catch the baby. That's how my sister left)

Then me. I think I was the lucky one because when I was about 7 years a friend of my mom's took me and I lived with her for the next 15 years. After secondary school I wanted to go to school but the lady said she had tried and couldn't train me. (I understood because she had really tried for me. I won't be where I am today without her) so I went to meet my mom, and she told me she doesn't have money to train any child to school that if I want to go to school I should train myself, that she doesn't have a hand in any school. So I left her and started hustling on my own. ( I got admission 3 times, but there was no one to sponsor me) I started doing laundry to make ends. I had nowhere to stay because my mom won't accept me. So I started sleeping outside. I literally slept outside for almost 2 years, I would bath outside at night, then look for one corner to sleep at night. That's how it went on. Today now I'm married and doing well for myself, my brother and I are the ones taking care of my mom today, we relocated her from the village and now she stays in the city.

Our last born is a girl, my mom would chase her out at every opportunity, burn her clothes. She would sleep outside until she was raped. My also refused to support her education for the same reasons as before. She also frustrated her until she left the house. Fast forward today my mom calls her for money all the time


Sometimes I use to wonder if my mom was really my mom, now she's in her 70's and we are the one taking care of her. My brother called me the other day and told me he was about to cut her off because she hasn't changed. And honestly I plan to do the same because she doesn't care about the well being of her children. As long as you are giving her money she doesn't care.

So does a mother like that deserve to be taken care of after all she did?

grossintel:
This is a really sad story, a deep one at that. One thing you must know is not all parents deserve to be parents. Some parents are very irresponsible, that is why developed countries have childcare programs. So if a child is not properly taken care of or the parents are irresponsible they take the child away from you.

I’m sorry but your mother failed to provide the support and care she needed to as a mother. And does not deserve to be taken care of by her children. What goes around comes around, am sure she knows she doesn’t deserve her children’s love.

grossintel:
This is a really sad story, a deep one at that. One thing you must know is not all parents deserve to be parents. Some parents are very irresponsible, that is why developed countries have childcare programs. So if a child is not properly taken care of or the parents are irresponsible they take the child away from you.

I’m sorry but your mother failed to provide the support and care she needed to as a mother. And does not deserve to be taken care of by her children. What goes around comes around, am sure she knows she doesn’t deserve her children’s love.

Medianna:

From his little story you can deduce that the woman has never been normal since from onset.
So what she need more than children in the first place was counseling, but you cannot tell a madman he is mad
It has nothing to do with karma

GoldenJAT:
Owner MAMA na WITCH!! Personally for me! You won't reap where you didn't SOW!!
Parents or no parents! Nobody has monopoly over anything!!
She was/still is a bad woman! She is quite conscious of everything she did!! At the end of the day!! Do wetin de ur mind!
I have always been a very realistic Person! All those talks of na ur parent! NA WASH!!

Justbehave:
Abeg shut up your mouth. Will you say the same if it was a man involved?

Medianna:

I can see that you have issues too
Go and deal it first before advising another person.
Cuz the blind cannot lead the blind.
Cheers!

Justbehave:
Is this all you can come up with? All you hypochrites are being exposed gradually.

Sheistoopretty:



I didn't bother to read all dis, I don't have such time but ur mother deserves to be taken care of no matter what had happened in the past

Although some mothers are something else but nothing can ever be compared to a mother's love...

Bye

ChybuzzDD:


Would you have said this(even without bothering to read the story) if the write up was about his father
You guys are fucking hypocrites

Sheistoopretty:



I didn't bother to read all dis, I don't have such time but ur mother deserves to be taken care of no matter what had happened in the past

Although some mothers are something else but nothing can ever be compared to a mother's love...

Bye

JovialRPiller:

Sheistoopretty:



I didn't bother to read all dis, I don't have such time but ur mother deserves to be taken care of no matter what had happened in the past

Although some mothers are something else but nothing can ever be compared to a mother's love...

Bye

Divoc19:
You as kids would have reported her to the government for her bad parenting when you were younger and she would have been in old peoples home in her old age.
We all know that Nigeria failed us

Give her whatever you can, she's still your mum no matter what
There is a reason why you came through her and why y'all had to go through those things with her.

Imagine those with good mums that can't boost of living a comfortable life today. One of you even relocated abroad, that's how you will know that it's not by your doing

Qatar2022:

Who give him such sense at that age, Before you comment ask yourself a question

Divoc19:
You may not know this but if Nigeria had not failed us. Every child would have known theirs from as early as 4 years of age.

Qatar2022:

You having a good mother does not mean other have, it's not about bad government it's in the character