Good morning guys, an incident happened over the weekend which I would love to share with you guys so you can help judge the case because some of my friends are insisting I handled it wrongly.

A couple of my military friends, a navy officer and a soldier came into town last week and proposed to take my girlfriend out so we proceeded to her to pick her up from school. On our way we stopped by a fueling station to get fuel so I gave them a location to go wait for me while I take a bike to pick her up since the queue was a bit much. On our way out of school we came across two guys on the walk way, they exchanged glances and asked each other "what", one of the guys happened to be her coursemate that she already told me about sometime ago.

According to her, the guy used to be an errand boy for a notorious cult guy that used to ask her out during her first year, so the said guy was the one always coming to deliver messages to her. she didn't want to get involved with cultists so she would normally leave the guy hanging around without giving him a response to the messages. After the guy asking her out left the school the guy somehow started nursing a grudge against her.

While we stood at the school gate waiting for a bike the guy showed up again, this time with five guys with him and accosted my babe. He demanded to know why she talked to him rudely, before she could say jack he landed a jaw shattering slap on her cheek that nearly sent her sprawling to the ground. I was embarrassed but had to apply wisdom because the area wasn't my territory coupled with the fact that I was obviously out numbered. I held the guy's hand when he proceeded to slap her again and asked him why he would embarrass me by hitting a lady that was with me. Meanwhile my girlfriend was behind my back hurling insults at the guy saying stuff like he had the gut to hit her because he has started moving with cultists and other stuff I don't recall.

While I was trying to placate the situation, I noticed more guys closing in on us and knew I would be in danger if I didn't leave the place. I somehow managed to get a bike and took her away. My military friends were furious when they heard what happened insisted we go back to the school. I told them to die the matter because even if they are military guys we were still out numbered and we might get seriously injured before their backup comes.

They insisted on going back to the school, we went and as expected didn't meet any of the guys. They made a report to the school security and promised to come back the next day. On our way back they kept making calls and arranging a squad that would pick up the guy the next day while I kept trying to make them see reasons why it was going to be a bad move.

Firstly they can't possibly apprehend all the cultists in the school so arresting the guy will simply make the girl a moving target for the rest of the members and I wasn't willing to take that risk for someone that has just a couple of months to graduate. We might go and display power in the school and go back home while the girl will be all alone in the school without any form of protection, its not like they are going to assign a personal bodyguard to her. What if matters go south and a life or even lives get lost, it would be embarrassing to hear that it was all because of a girl that will move on to the next guy in a matter of weeks if anything happens to me. I was finally able to convince them and make them stand down.

The following day I brokered a peace meeting between my girlfriend and the guy through the cult guy's cousin that was also her friend though I didn't show up at the location. I even asked her to apologize to the guy for insulting him just to massage his ego so the matter could die down. My girlfriend recorded everything while the guy kept threatening her that she wasn't going to graduate for insulting him because she was with a guy. He went on to say that I was the target of the attack because they thought I would react to the assault on her and maybe fight back. They were even laughing at her that she's dating a coward that couldn't defend her in an attack, I just smiled.

My girlfriend was upset that she had to apologize to someone that hit her, but I told her that sometimes we have to choose our fights wisely. You don't go into a fight with someone that doesn't have anything to lose. Some of my friends feel I am a coward but I still feel I handled it the best way. What do you guys think??.....sorry for the epistle or any errors.

women are very sentimental when they think, women date for protection too both financially or otherwise, which you couldn’t provide at the expense of your life. makes me wonder why your woman attracts such kind of guys anyways?

kudos for keeping your composure despite how bad your ego was crushed, so many men have fallen for failing to apply their wisdom.


modified: since this post made it to the frontpage, i want to use this opportunity to urge my fellow responsible nigerians to please go and get your pvc…now we are are begging you, yet some of you can’t sacrifice just one day out of your working days to collect your card.. shey suffer no dey tire you? see how inflation is dealing with us yet naira still scarce ontop.


seun i see you are campaigning for apc, they even advertise on the frontpage, well na businessman you be.. as peter obi said, collect their money and vote for me. hope you never follow sell your conscience too

Wisdom wisdom.
Why did she get involved with a cultist in the first place , there’s a way you carry yourself and you attract flies.
Bye

U did the right thing

Bro you even tried...left for me I would have even left her there to sort out her issues, these kind of issues never end well. You are indeed smart.

You have said it all, you didn't go into a fight with someone who has nothing to loose. Thank God you applied wisdom.

You did well.Your brain dey over work sef.

ur wisdom is on another level bro,those soldiers will just cause more yawa and leave u and ur bae at deadly risk...av witness a guy lost his life in this kind scenario.it was even with area boys self,LIVE TO FIGHT ANOTHER DAY....

guy for a military man' like you you are smarter than most of your friends in fact with that kind of an idea you win my respect, sometimes you ignore some fight when you know you will go at the loss

Cultist have nothing to lose....you have everything to lose.

Very wise of u

Go and ask your village king

This is what the bible call wisdom! You did the best hardest solution of this situation. Your girlfriend should be lucky to have a matured wise guy on her side. Bro ! You just save lives and especially that of your girlfriend including her education because if you didn't apply this senses on this sensitive issues any of the outcome must surly end in regret or sorrow. Even if you want to do anything wait till your girlfriend have nothing to do with the school.

Some men would have sacrificed there lives, but you're wise.

You didn't handle the matter well.

There is a security/military unit in every school. You should have reported the case there.

Trust me, these guys would have been the one begging by now.

I know this because I was involved in a case like this and the cultists ended up buying for everything they damaged and apologizing.

You cheated that girl by making her apologizing. Honestly!

You did the right thing and applied wisdom I lack in similar situation.

Just let it be like that. Cultists are the scum of society and not worth getting into a fight with. It's like belittling yourself in a very shameful way.

People that have so much low self esteem, they always move as a pack and are nothing by themselves.

freemanq:
Go and ask your village king

Oga to slap you dey hungry me

guy you did well, incase if ur wife is involved in this kind matter, use ur soldier friend to pick all of them, take then to school authority let them sign undertaking incase anything happen to ur woman, shud they defer sch authority and harm ur wife, sch authority will provide them.

DonOG:
Good morning guys, an incident happened over the weekend which I would love to share with you guys so you can help judge the case because some of my friends are insisting I handled it wrongly.

A couple of my military friends, a navy officer and a soldier came into town last week and proposed to take my girlfriend out so we proceeded to her to pick her up from school. On our way we stopped by a fueling station to get fuel so I gave them a location to go wait for me while I take a bike to pick her up since the queue was a bit much. On our way out of school we came across two guys on the walk way, they exchanged glances and asked each other "what", one of the guys happened to be her coursemate that she already told me about sometime ago.

According to her, the guy used to be an errand boy for a notorious cult guy that used to ask her out during her first year, so the said guy was the one always coming to deliver messages to her. she didn't want to get involved with cultists so she would normally leave the guy hanging around without giving him a response to the messages. After the guy asking her out left the school the guy somehow started nursing a grudge against her.

While we stood at the school gate waiting for a bike the guy showed up again, this time with five guys with him and accosted my babe. He demanded to know why she talked to him rudely, before she could say jack he landed a jaw shattering slap on her cheek that nearly sent her sprawling to the ground. I was embarrassed but had to apply wisdom because the area wasn't my territory coupled with the fact that I was obviously out numbered. I held the guy's hand when he proceeded to slap her again and asked him why he would embarrass me by hitting a lady that was with me. Meanwhile my girlfriend was behind my back hurling insults at the guy saying stuff like he had the gut to hit her because he has started moving with cultists and other stuff I don't recall.

While I was trying to placate the situation, I noticed more guys closing in on us and knew I would be in danger if I didn't leave the place. I somehow managed to get a bike and took her away. My military friends were furious when they heard what happened insisted we go back to the school. I told them to die the matter because even if they are military guys we were still out numbered and we might get seriously injured before their backup comes.

They insisted on going back to the school, we went and as expected didn't meet any of the guys. They made a report to the school security and promised to come back the next day. On our way back they kept making calls and arranging a squad that would pick up the guy the next day while I kept trying to make them see reasons why it was going to be a bad move.

Firstly they can't possibly apprehend all the cultists in the school so arresting the guy will simply make the girl a moving target for the rest of the members and I wasn't willing to take that risk for someone that has just a couple of months to graduate. We might go and display power in the school and go back home while the girl will be all alone in the school without any form of protection, its not like they are going to assign a personal bodyguard to her. What if matters go south and a life or even lives get lost, it would be embarrassing to hear that it was all because of a girl that will move on to the next guy in a matter of weeks if anything happens to me. I was finally able to convince them and make them stand down.

The following day I brokered a peace meeting between my girlfriend and the guy through the cult guy's cousin that was also her friend though I didn't show up at the location. I even asked her to apologize to the guy for insulting him just to massage his ego so the matter could die down. My girlfriend recorded everything while the guy kept threatening her that she wasn't going to graduate for insulting him because she was with a guy. He went on to say that I was the target of the attack because they thought I would react to the assault on her and maybe fight back. They were even laughing at her that she's dating a coward that couldn't defend her in an attack, I just smiled.

My girlfriend was upset that she had to apologize to someone that hit her, but I told her that sometimes we have to choose our fights wisely. You don't go into a fight with someone that doesn't have anything to lose. Some of my friends feel I am a coward but I still feel I handled it the best way. What do you guys think??.....sorry for the epistle or any errors.

i see great future being a military in you weldone boss,you handled it the best way,but if they tried such next time show them the devil inside you

Nice one but dont end it there.
Why not hit back at those bastards after a couple of months, they wont suspect you after all.

Just ask your military guys to pick up some of them and deal with them ruthlessly so as to get back your own pound of flesh.

it would be embarrassing to hear that it was all because of a girl that will move on to the next guy in a matter of weeks if anything happens to me.

This is the part i love so much. You're truly the son of your father. You're destined to live long.

phorget:
Nice one but dont end it there.
Why not hit back at those bastards after a couple of months, they wont suspect you after all.

Just ask your military guys to pick up some of them and deal with them ruthlessly so as to get back your own pound of flesh.

Not worth it. The battle is not his own.

Karleb:
You didn't handle the matter well.

There is a security/military unit in every school. You should have reported the case there.

Trust me, these guys would have been the one begging by now.

I know this because I was involved in a case like this and the cultists ended up buying for everything they damaged and apologizing.

You cheated that girl by making her apologizing. Honestly!

Bro I handled it the way I did with her best interest at heart, if you read it well I mentioned that my guys reported it to the security department that night. It was the same security guys the guy was bragging about in the recording that they were begging him to forgive her. How are you certain that the CSO in the school is not his frat member??, It took that guy just few hours to get the location that her mom lives and does her business in another town that he hasnt even been to before

DonOG:
Good morning guys, an incident happened over the weekend which I would love to share with you guys so you can help judge the case because some of my friends are insisting I handled it wrongly.

A couple of my military friends, a navy officer and a soldier came into town last week and proposed to take my girlfriend out so we proceeded to her to pick her up from school. On our way we stopped by a fueling station to get fuel so I gave them a location to go wait for me while I take a bike to pick her up since the queue was a bit much. On our way out of school we came across two guys on the walk way, they exchanged glances and asked each other "what", one of the guys happened to be her coursemate that she already told me about sometime ago.

According to her, the guy used to be an errand boy for a notorious cult guy that used to ask her out during her first year, so the said guy was the one always coming to deliver messages to her. she didn't want to get involved with cultists so she would normally leave the guy hanging around without giving him a response to the messages. After the guy asking her out left the school the guy somehow started nursing a grudge against her.

While we stood at the school gate waiting for a bike the guy showed up again, this time with five guys with him and accosted my babe. He demanded to know why she talked to him rudely, before she could say jack he landed a jaw shattering slap on her cheek that nearly sent her sprawling to the ground. I was embarrassed but had to apply wisdom because the area wasn't my territory coupled with the fact that I was obviously out numbered. I held the guy's hand when he proceeded to slap her again and asked him why he would embarrass me by hitting a lady that was with me. Meanwhile my girlfriend was behind my back hurling insults at the guy saying stuff like he had the gut to hit her because he has started moving with cultists and other stuff I don't recall.

While I was trying to placate the situation, I noticed more guys closing in on us and knew I would be in danger if I didn't leave the place. I somehow managed to get a bike and took her away. My military friends were furious when they heard what happened insisted we go back to the school. I told them to die the matter because even if they are military guys we were still out numbered and we might get seriously injured before their backup comes.

They insisted on going back to the school, we went and as expected didn't meet any of the guys. They made a report to the school security and promised to come back the next day. On our way back they kept making calls and arranging a squad that would pick up the guy the next day while I kept trying to make them see reasons why it was going to be a bad move.

Firstly they can't possibly apprehend all the cultists in the school so arresting the guy will simply make the girl a moving target for the rest of the members and I wasn't willing to take that risk for someone that has just a couple of months to graduate. We might go and display power in the school and go back home while the girl will be all alone in the school without any form of protection, its not like they are going to assign a personal bodyguard to her. What if matters go south and a life or even lives get lost, it would be embarrassing to hear that it was all because of a girl that will move on to the next guy in a matter of weeks if anything happens to me. I was finally able to convince them and make them stand down.

The following day I brokered a peace meeting between my girlfriend and the guy through the cult guy's cousin that was also her friend though I didn't show up at the location. I even asked her to apologize to the guy for insulting him just to massage his ego so the matter could die down. My girlfriend recorded everything while the guy kept threatening her that she wasn't going to graduate for insulting him because she was with a guy. He went on to say that I was the target of the attack because they thought I would react to the assault on her and maybe fight back. They were even laughing at her that she's dating a coward that couldn't defend her in an attack, I just smiled.

My girlfriend was upset that she had to apologize to someone that hit her, but I told her that sometimes we have to choose our fights wisely. You don't go into a fight with someone that doesn't have anything to lose. Some of my friends feel I am a coward but I still feel I handled it the best way. What do you guys think??.....sorry for the epistle or any errors.

Bro,you're definitely a smart guy...I personally respect you for your wisdom in handling the situation calmly..I would have done the same thing...Just imagine the idiot saying you were the target! Cos of woman....Anyway, its not the cultists fault ,I honestly blame his friends that followed him.Cos I dey try imagine how my friend will call me to help him fight someone cos of woman!!....The kind yab I go give am ehn, he'll never forget

phorget:
Nice one but dont end it there.
Why not hit back at those bastards after a couple of months, they wont suspect you after all.

Just ask your military guys to pick up some of them and deal with them ruthlessly so as to get back your own pound of flesh.

Not necessarily bro...just yesterday evening, my former coursemate that I hecho small small bar once in a while came around and I narrated the stuff to him since he stays in that area, he just asked for a picture which got from a simple facebook search with the guys name, only one call the guy was identified as an Aye and the top three guy in the school and like showing himself, he asked me for just 5k for fuel and the guy would be eliminated but I just laughed and waved it off, its not worth it abeg

It's better to be a living coward than to be a dead giant.

Op,na sensible guyman you be abeg........The definition of a strong man doesn't mean he must die carelessly while trying to prove a point....

Meanwhile, just like someone asked above,why would she get in touch with cultists in the first place? I personally thank God for your life op, because na you be their real target........Make dem carry their wahala go......

There was a time a guy fronted me with their cult stuff. I left him after all his gingering. Went straight to the police station. Gave the police officer some stuffs and they bundled the guy to their station

Bro yu are indeed a wise man and welldone

Bro, you handled it like a genius would.

Every fight is not worth fighting.


Sometimes, our biggest enemy is our own Ego.

You did the right thing. I once had a similar experience some years back in school. A lady I was dating happened to have been involved with a cultist before we met. The guy always disturbs her and even threatens her. One day while we were hanging out at a bar, the guy came with his friends and wanted to show off. He told my babe to stand up and come and sit with him and even tried dragging her. That was when I stepped in and told the guy to leave her alone if she doesn't want to go with him. He started ranting trash and threatening fire.

To cut the long story short, my guys who were around the bar started coming to the scene and not long later, the guy respected himself and left. When we got home that night, I told my babe that I will not take that kind of embarrassment again. If she wants to date a cow or goat, it;s her choice but let her also know how to pack her shit.

DonOG:


Bro I handled it the way I did with her best interest at heart, if you read it well I mentioned that my guys reported it to the security department that night. It was the same security guys the guy was bragging about in the recording that they were begging him to forgive her. How are you certain that the CSO in the school is not his frat member??, It took that guy just few hours to get the location that her mom lives and does her business in another town that he hasnt even been to before

hmmmm.,.. Bro, it seems like the guy want to start a war with ur gf. For him to make enquiry about where your gf's mum lives and does her business show that he is ready to go into war with your gf so that you will to defend her in the war and by doing that, the war will be shift to you. Be careful in other not to loose your life.