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Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by SirJerrie(m): 7:52am On Feb 02, 2023 |
After "falling in love" and getting married, it takes effort, dedication and discipline to stay in love. Nothing good comes easy. It takes commitment and discipline. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by polite2(m): 7:53am On Feb 02, 2023 |
handsomeyitayo:Oga not in all cases..I still find my spouse 100% attractive more than any woman out der. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by micki1: 8:38am On Feb 02, 2023 |
handsomeyitayo: themselves 2 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by Baronthecelebri: 8:47am On Feb 02, 2023 |
It's true |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by Connoisseur(m): 8:52am On Feb 02, 2023 |
handsomeyitayo: One word; see finish 5 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by FalseProphet1(m): 8:55am On Feb 02, 2023 |
Nazgul: I couldn't agree more with this quote above. I read it somewhere and had to go back to lift it and post here. Women read and learn. Marriage is a continuous learning process. This I have seen. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by Nicepoker(m): 9:16am On Feb 02, 2023 |
Marriage is like a football game. You celebrate a goal scored for some moment then get back to business. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by Cricketman: 9:43am On Feb 02, 2023 |
Who tell u that one ?
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Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by Nehyooh(m): 9:55am On Feb 02, 2023 |
siofra:Not all men marry for lust. I think mutual understanding, commitment and sincere love are the basic stuffs needed in marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by EngrKemp: 9:55am On Feb 02, 2023 |
naijapikin2:I tell u brother.. When I tell them,they become paranoid .They don't listen .. They even become worsen 2 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by id4sho(m): 9:59am On Feb 02, 2023 |
EriMma1:I like your conclusion but if the money finishes. Will you still be there? I guess you are rich too 5 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by Nobody: 10:00am On Feb 02, 2023 |
Demented bitch like you talking about dumping a nigga because he ain’t got money but your dad is broke as fvck, why your mama no dump your papa ode EriMma1: 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by GodHimself(m): 10:14am On Feb 02, 2023 |
No more Mystery. handsomeyitayo: 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by MikeofKd(m): 10:35am On Feb 02, 2023 |
After marriage a lot of responsibilities set in on both parties ,these responsibilities makes it hard for most couples to even enjoy themselves ,especially in a country like Nigeria. Most people are probably married for sake of title , some for children , so many factors that has entirely nothing to do with love ,tell me how can that marriage work ? marry someone you really love and loves u back for long lasting marriage ,the love makes every other thing simple and easy. 8 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by Blizzyblazer: 10:44am On Feb 02, 2023 |
Nwodosis: Well spoken. Spot on. 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by Gee001: 11:41am On Feb 02, 2023 |
The thing is, most people tend to marry for the wrong reasons. For the guys, it's mostly because of the physical appearance and then a few years into the marriage when it starts "wearing out", they lose interest. 7 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by seanwilliam(m): 12:50pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Berrityga:honestly speaking , if a woman comes visiting, I get tired after two days and I’ll do anything to discharge her. And if I Dey chase women like this , the moment I yansh her one or two times, the interest no go Dey there again , na she go Dey do the calling and chasing. I fear make this thing no happen to me for marriage 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by agentarcher(m): 12:59pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Marriage has 50% to do with it but age. As one gets older they lose that interest to keep up with trendy things of the time. Then the children factor. As a responsible parent your focus is on your child upbringing and not your upkeep. You can say poor orientation is the major cause. Women should not forget that they are someone's woman and should try and look attractive. As for the men, they say a man's attractiveness is defined by his wallet size. You can have six packs and look sexy, but if you cannot afford baby food and pampers, you will only feel the wrath of your woman. If you can afford the things she wants, the flood gates will forever be open. If not for procreation, many folks won't be married to say the truth. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by Rickmann: 1:15pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
handsomeyitayo: Ur topic contradicts ur post itself. According to ur post, it could only mean that they have perhaps built some sort of trust for each other with time. It doesn't necessarily mean they have fallen out of love or have stopped finding each other attractive. Time is everything . 2 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by adewaleadeyemi8(m): 2:01pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
As you grow older, do you find yourself attractive 5 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by DIVINEEVIDENCE: 2:02pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
1. Marriage is hard work. Loving your spouse above any other person out there, correcting their mistakes, overlooking their faults, covering up their behavioural flaws and seeing the beauty in them rather than their present annoying stance are hard psychological decisions. Unfortunately, most of us are mentally lazy and would rather pass over issues than address them. Same way we'll rather binge than fast, put off assignments till deadlines and so on. 2. See Finish: The first time you fell in love with them, there was an aura of mystery around their personality. But once you get married and the reality sets in that they're exclusively yours and going no where, a feeling of contempt sets in. This is a purely natural feeling which you must strive to outgrow to respect that special person who decided to forgo all else and merge their destiny with yours. Also, seeing someone naked and eventually having sex with them takes away the aura of mystery. As such, strive to make your sex in marriage fulfilling, rewarding and satisfying. This way, both of you naturally look forward to coming together again and your unclothedness would always stimulate, rather than nauseate, each other. 3. Skipping the friendship stage. Immediately after your wedding, you should spend at least four days or more interacting with each other before having sex. This is the first time you both will be together in such close proximity, with the liberty to explore each other in a lawful manner. You should spend some time enjoying and exploring this phase of your life before crowning it with sex. You'll be having sex for the next seventy years or more, why must you do it on your wedding night? After all the stress of the ceremony coupled with the awkwardness of your first time being together as a family, sex should be the last thing on your mind. Otherwise, you risk laying a faulty foundation that might never get fixed in marriage. For the men, delay sex if you can, until your wife openly asks for it, which she would only do after she's exhausted her patience. If you roundly satisfy her the first time, she would be the one initiating sex and you will find it easier getting her in the mood and to cloud nine. (EVERY woman is a sex freak, capable of squirting, creaming and ejaculation. Let the right man handle your passive wife (God forbid) and you'll ask your ancestors why they never let you realise the kind of person you wifed.) 4. Flaws: When a woman consistently cooks rubbish, for example and refuses to learn or improve. Some men would jejely eat outside and gradually lose interest in coming home. 5. Passivity. Lack of love expression: hugs, kisses, cuddling and innovative ness in the bedroom. 6. Money issues and unforseen circumstances as illness, congenital abnormalities etc. 7. Dark past kept hidden which the other partner uncovers through a third party. 8. Unmet Expectations such as a man finding out the church lead soloist he married was a dual carriage expressway with an odometer clocking in miles. 9. Juju: Some people fit swear for your marriage o, especially if you follow for the ones wen dey pepper others for social media. 10. Running to Seed. Developing potbelly, tying wrapper around the house, roaming the house topless (as a woman) or entirely naked, etc may make your partner tired. As a rule, women should understand that less is always better. A man will be more aroused with a fully clothed woman who is sitting carelessly with a part of her inner wear showing than one who is entirely naked. Once you're out of bed, dress sexy. Cover your boobs and vijeh so he doesn't get used to them. Better be half-naked at home than fully naked. Talk choke, but sha lemme stop here. 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by ibechris(m): 2:03pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
handsomeyitayo: The only thing that should scare u in marriage is; if u marry ur enemy and still lacks money. U see these two agents,can u kill u before anyone would know. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by Xpol: 2:03pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Na see finish, when you newly buy new shoe or cloth na so e go dey shack you. In this life, nothing can be compared to being independent but until you get married b4 you'll appreciate that especially when no much understanding involve in the marriage. 6 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by GloriousGbola: 2:04pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
handsomeyitayo: So a man has matured and is no longer jealous and overly possessive and has more important things to think about. And that is what you have a problem with? Grow up. I thought you would have something coherent to discuss. Not this silly childish policing of your spouse. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by gbolswag(m): 2:04pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
I guess it because they no longer value the love they had for each other.....alot happened along the line 1 Like |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by themanderon: 2:05pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
handsomeyitayo: That is because they married themselves for the wrong reasons( money, beauty, front and back etc) so see finish has set in. In marriage you are marrying the personality because that is all that remains when all else fades away. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by PointZerom: 2:05pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
naijapikin2: Bum shorts and makeups are abomination where I dey, I hate ladies that wear trousers. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by handsomeyitayo(m): 2:06pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
micki1:thanks for the correction God bless you 2 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by jaxxy(m): 2:07pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Cos they let themselves go as individuals and become sm1else either in appearance or values or some other characteristics they used to have. People don't remain totally themselves bt they should improve in some areas as the grow. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by YourNextLevel(m): 2:07pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
Because some have the mindset of entitlement without nothing to the table 2 Likes |
Re: Why Is It That After Marriage Couples No Longer Find Themselves Attractive? by judedwriter(m): 2:07pm On Feb 02, 2023 |
90% of men marry for physical reasons. 90% of women marry for financial reasons. That's why marriage today has become an endangered institution. 4 Likes |
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