Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.

But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.

Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.

My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?

I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down?

You should be happy it's your mom and not her own.

But on a more serious note, from your own explanation it seems you're overreacting

OP stand in front of a mirror.
See?

You look like a weakling.

destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.

But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.

Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.

My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?

I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down?

Take some time before you apologize to your mother with gifts.


What you did was right, a man is the leader of his home, Grandma should understand and respect your position


As for your wife, she is very wrong to discuss your private matters with your Mom, a mature woman will know how to balance things, so, give her stern warning before you let the matter go.


You have done no wrong here except for your heated argument with your Mom.

You reconciled with your wife and left your mum angry. Now she's angry with both of you.
Your mum shouldn't be interfering in your marriage though. Try and reconcile with her

Summary.

Your mum married your wife. Making her the husband
U were just a witness who appends signature of the marriage form.

Bros you should understand that your wife needs someone close by to run things through before she can her decide on what to do.

The bottom line is she carried out your instructions but earlier than you planned.

On the other hand, tell your wife to inform you if she plans to amend any part of your instructions that seem unclear, instead of running it through a third party in this case your mum.

Would you have preferred she runs it through her own Mum, or somebody else?

Lesson: stop leaving your wife to live alone...if your mum no dey to be her company, neighbour go take over, your friend sef fit take over.

Loneliness is the enemy of a married woman

your mother is angry she is no longer in charge, make she go rest one side joor

Did you know??



The worst prison in the world is a home without peace, be careful who you marry.

If you like ignore this.

destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.

But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.

Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.

My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?

I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down?

Working offshore has its own challenges. Your wife cannot always call you concerning decisions because you're not always going to be reachable. She has to adapt to a certain level of decision making that includes change of plans without prior consultation. She might see it that it's better to execute the said instruction earlier.

You didn't say if her decision caused any negative consequences so I assume it didn't. Since nobody died, I suggest you let it slide.

U

What a SIMPle thing to ask.

Your wife and mum are happily collaboing and you are complaining. Definitely another redpiller making up a story.

Chai

You should be glad it's your mom, not hers or even outsiders.

Learn to take charge of your home anyway

You mean your mum hijacked your marriage?


Maybe wife figured you're still a boy. Don't worry mami will release your wife to you when you become a man.

I can see Jezebel's hand here.

I think is fear....your wife doesn't want to hurt your mum.....so you checkmate your mum and make sure she doesn't cross her boundaries..... Make peace with her and reaffirm your stand.

gasparpisciotta:
Bros you should understand that your wife needs someone close by to run things through before she can her decide on what to do.

The bottom line is she carried out your instructions but earlier than you planned.

On the other hand, tell your wife to inform you if she plans to amend any part of your instructions that seem unclear, instead of running it through a third party in this case your mum.

Would you have preferred she runs it through her own Mum, or somebody else?

Lesson: stop leaving your wife to live alone...if your mum no dey to be her company, neighbour go take over, your friend sef fit take over.

Loneliness is the enemy of a married woman

Oga stop all these sermon.



His wife is still a kid, and the only advice she needs is to GROW UP.
Op, tell your wife to GROW UP

Hmmm

Op calm down, by the way you are better than Tinubu that can not think for him sef,

Op you did the right thing. They will both respect you for it later on

You are not yet well positioned to be married.
1. Folks in your line of work do the job for a set number of years and then they get married. It is not ideal for married people.
2. Who does your type of job and gets married must be willing to manage the home front by proxy.
3. It would appear that your mum has stepped into your role as a husband to your wife when it comes to decision making. Clearly unavoidable in all the circumstances.
4. Best for you to play along until you are done with offshore career that has made an absentee husband of you!

Your mom wife na lesbians? 😂

destiny4luv:


My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?

I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down?

Your mom loves you and it's good she's bonding well with your wife.
Try and be a real man by visiting your mom n talk to her

It's better cos you are not responsible and your wife knows that.

Shouldn't you be Happy about that ?