| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by DAENNINGA(m): 12:43pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
OP, your mom wants to manipulate you with that attitude and don't fall for it. There must be limits to privileges people enjoy.
If you fail tomorrow as the head of your home, no one would share it with you. Take responsibility for your actions. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by 2dream(m): 12:43pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
U should count it all lucky it was ur mum and not her,
I understand d nature of ur job
But ur wife need a companions
That's y she always run to ur mum
U know ur mum better
Stop over reacting,
Be a man and reconcile with ur mum 3 Likes |
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| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by GudPpleG8Nation(m): 12:45pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
Destiny4luv, you are not always around. It's better and reasonable your wife is bound with your mom than her mom or outsider.
Please apologize to your mom and don't try to separate the bond between your wife and your mom. Try to discuss what you want with your wife in a calm way but not to discredit your mom. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by NigerianAngelo(m): 12:48pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down? My guy what you did is perfectly right. You should thank God she is not calling you. Go to Church and pray Novena to the Holy Family for your family. |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by usj(m): 12:49pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down? Stand by how you want to run your family but just call her and apologize for the sake of peace. Most mother and daughter in-laws don't get along and I think that is what your wife is trying to avoid by listening to your mum. If she stops listening to her now your mum may start fighting her and you would be caught in between two women you love dearly 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by mrblessed(m): 12:49pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
Her anger will subside with time. I think she oversteps her boundary. She needs to know when, where, and how to interfere in her son's life. I think you should call her just to say "hi." You have already made your point clear. |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by tradepunter: 12:49pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down? Mumu man you are never home and you angry your wife is close to your mom..... If like continue your stupidity nah another man go dy shine her congo.... Rubbish 3 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by promiseland245(m): 12:51pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
What most men are looking for is what you are complaining for. Your wife is close to your mum, your plan is to find a way to manage it to your advantage. Your mum knows what is good for you, your wife I presume also desire what is best for you (I am not disputing the fact that you know what is good for yourself also). Please this combination is to your advantage, it's rare these days and a golden opportunity, use it well. You are an offshore worker, the challenges sposues left at home by offshore workers face are numerous, yours is close to your mother, you should be in church doing Thanksgiving. Make peace with both of them and enjoy what God has blessed your home with because some homes are looking for this friendship between Mum & wide but can't seem to find it. destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down? 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by ambale(m): 12:51pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
Saintmary:
Take some time before you apologize to your mother with gifts.
What you did was right, a man is the leader of his home, Grandma should understand and respect your position
As for your wife, she is very wrong to discuss your private matters with your Mom, a mature woman will know how to balance things, so, give her stern warning before you let the matter go.
You have done no wrong here except for your heated argument with your Mom. The guy is lucky his wife took his mom has her best friend By the time she choose another bestie we go hear the result 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by GerogeI(m): 12:52pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down? You are mostly not around. Your wife choosr your mother as her goto pillar in your absence, and you are annoyed? Careful what you wish for. It vould have been her friend, her mother, her brother, her sister. She choose your mother! Just leave things be, tune your wife to understand when you are over riding whatever your mother said. |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by tradepunter: 12:52pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
Acn8mms8b:
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| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by albert2512: 12:53pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down? U did the right thing but still call and apologize to her. She must have learnt 1 or 2 things from your correction. To add bros, it is better for you for your mum n wife to be at peace than to be quarreling. Also, I hope your wife is not trying to manipulate you against your mother. If that is the case, u might be in a bigger shit than you think. U need serious wisdom as your wife seems to have seen your weakness. She knows what to do exactly to make you angry. |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by ambale(m): 12:54pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
You married a good woman and here you are complaining
If na one small boy for adugbo come be her confidant nko
You better rush to beg your mum and tell her to help you watch over her
You will leave home for three months and you want make she dey folo your idea like mumu
I pray she doesn't find another bestie wey go teach her bad things 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by Ed12(m): 12:55pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
Be glad she consider your mum..your wife try, but still know you will explain to her that she should keep to your words next time. That you will appreciate her even more |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by InfinityFabric: 12:55pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
Man getting tortured by women he pays and struggles for.
Your wife collected your left ball, your mother took the right. They both have emasculated you to the point of asking for help on Nairaland.
May God help u.
What a disgrace! |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by Ladymillion(f): 12:55pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down? Better build your home with your wife before your mum turns you into a SIMPLE MAN, how can she be having a say over ur hime? I blame your immature wife that can't stick to your instructions 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by treatise: 12:57pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down? She's not doing it out of respect for your mum but she must have realized your mum has overwhelming influence over you hence, she'd say " why taking instructions from you when you'd still go to your mum to seek validation" 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by cassyrooy(m): 12:58pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down? While I understand that you should be a bit more angry, take a time off and be grateful that; 1. She rather turn to your mom than hers, or to friends and outsiders. 2. She follows instructions but not as at when you instructed (lacking timing). But be careful how you react, you're more detached from home and may not be feeling the emotional side that makes people waver impulsively. Correct her but respond to her calls whether you're happy or angry with her, else, you lose the marriage completely. Don't follow people who don't know what it takes to build a stable and strong relationship on Nairaland. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by sonjohn994: 12:58pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
Settle with her,Dont disscuss anything about what Happened.Go to her place and start new conversation without talking about what happened .. Stand like a man destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down? |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by destiny4luv(m): 12:58pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
thesicilian:
You should be happy it's your mom and not her own.
But on a more serious note, from your own explanation it seems you're overreacting Like seriously, so should we call her to apologize? |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by destiny4luv(m): 12:59pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
VeryWickedMan:
OP stand in front of a mirror.
See?
You look like a weakling. U be small pikin, u never see anything for life. Rest |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by BRATISLAVA: 12:59pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
Isn't this the Nigerian mens dream? A good submissive wife, one who knows that your mother was there for you more than she will ever be for you?
Do and be damned. Don't do and be damned. There's no winning with patriarchal men. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by Geovanni412(m): 1:00pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down? Op, I know you love your mum and you meant well Do you want to know the bitter truth? The truth is that you are the cause of this problem in your marriage The moment you marry, it is your job to draw the line as to what your mum or any other member of your family is allowed to do Example: In my family, my grandmother never entered the kitchen from the moment we moved into our new house in 1997 till her death in 2017. My dad has 8 siblings but none of them dare enter the kitchen or go to his wardrobe to touch anything. Why is that so? Because he set boundaries from the beginning. He understood that meddling by the extended family is a major reason why a lot of marriages collapse. How many times have we heard of quarrel amongst in-laws? How many times do we hear kids talk about how they were molested by one family member or another? Unless you expressed your thoughts in a vile and rude way, you have no reason to apologise What you need to do is to stand your ground. You are not married to your mother. If she gives a bad advice and there is a problem, who do you think the blame will fall back on? 2 Likes |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by VIKTO83(m): 1:00pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
If she no do like that she go get mother-in-law issue and na him bad pass |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by Amatrillion: 1:00pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
OP, you should be happy that your mom and wife have good relationship in your family.
Many wives and their mother-in-laws are not in good terms, and will never be till Jesus comes.
In this generation of modern and social media worldly children, wives hardly agrees with their mother-in-laws.
I repeat again, you should be happy that you have a wife that is not engaged in a serious vawulence with your mother.
Two female adults from different family background easily indulge in vawulence, but in your own case they (your wife and your mother) are friends.
Before I count 1...2....3....you have gone to buy a gift for your mother and use that opportunity to constructively, deliberately, objectively and psychologically speak to her to understand your role in your own nuclear family.
But make sure you clearly emphasize on the need to get back to you first before they (both of them) counters your instructions. |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by destiny4luv(m): 1:01pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
Beremx:
You reconciled with your wife and left your mum angry. Now she's angry with both of you.
Your mum shouldn't be interfering in your marriage though. Try and reconcile with her Thanks, I love ur response 💕 1 Like |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by bigcasava1(m): 1:01pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
Na you Sabi! You want reset her brain |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by Amatrillion: 1:02pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
God bless you.2dream:
U should count it all lucky it was ur mum and not her,
I understand d nature of ur job
But ur wife need a companions
That's y she always run to ur mum
U know ur mum better
Stop over reacting,
Be a man and reconcile with ur mum |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by destiny4luv(m): 1:02pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
gasparpisciotta:
Bros you should understand that your wife needs someone close by to run things through before she can her decide on what to do.
The bottom line is she carried out your instructions but earlier than you planned.
On the other hand, tell your wife to inform you if she plans to amend any part of your instructions that seem unclear, instead of running it through a third party in this case your mum.
Would you have preferred she runs it through her own Mum, or somebody else?
Lesson: stop leaving your wife to live alone...if your mum no dey to be her company, neighbour go take over, your friend sef fit take over.
Loneliness is the enemy of a married woman
Thanks |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by felixtare(m): 1:03pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
Goodlady:
Your mom loves you and it's good she's bonding well with your wife.
Try and be a real man by visiting your mom n talk to her Sorry are you married? Am totally convince that you will make a good wife |
| Re: My Wife Takes More Instructions From My Mom Than Me by Itzlinda(f): 1:03pm On Feb 07, 2023 |
destiny4luv:
Good day Nairalanders.l; let me go straight to the point. I work off-shore so most of the times I am not always around, some times I can be at work for three months and be given one or two weeks time- off that's just the nature of my job.
But they is something troubling me seriously, when I give my wife instructions regarding anything at all she will first of all ask my Mom before she carries out the instruction I give her, that's if my Mom is in support of the instruction. Recently I gave her an instruction regarding a particular matter while I was on time-off, only for my wife to call me fee weeks later that she has carried out the instruction when the time I told her to carry out that instruction is not yet. I was so mad at her I asked her why can't she wait till the time I told her to do it; she said my Mom came over to the house and told her to do it so she did it. At that point I cut the call.
Later that day my Mom called me and was asking why I cut the call on my wife and refused to pick her call even why she was calling back, I told her she was the course, and she said how, and I told her why will I give my wife instruction and u will come to counter that instruction without the both of u letting me know not after the did has been done. My Mom was angry that can't she have say in my home, I told her to an extent not to the point of countering my instructions. She was very angry we both had some argument on the phone before I told her am late for work I want to cut and she hang up, she knows I was seriously angry with her. Since that day she hasn't called me and I haven't called her too.
My wife called me and apologized that it won't happen again. I forgive her and we both made amend. Now my Mom is not talking to me and my wife at the moment. Please what I did was it wrong or did I over reacted?
I love and respect my Mom likewise my wife, but I won't want her to control my home for me. Should I call her and apologize to her or just let her be till her mind comes down? You are overreacting. You are following all these useless advise you see online. You have no one like your mum, if you feel she's wrong. Find a way to tell her in a respectul manner. |
