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My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Zikonna: 5:05pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
I need serious advice. I grew up an only child, raised by a single mum. My dad abandoned us as when I was a kid and few years later he died in an accident. My mum is the most important person in my life and I love and respect her. She is also a very religious woman and raised me so. I am settled and ready to get married and I have met the woman I am sure is the one for me. My mum has met her once and although she had her reservations she wasn't opposed to it. But yesterday while going through my fiance's whatsapp status(bacause she has her number), she came across the picture below and because of it, she is now opposed to the marriage. According to her, she can't let her only child get married to a girl that wears bum shorts in public. She says "this sort of dressing is from the devil" I have tried to explain to her that my girl isn't like that and she only wears clothes like that once in a while. My mum is still adamant. She wants me to end our relationship and find a "responsible woman" I am currently torn between my mum and the woman I have decided to spend the rest of my life with. I am afraid that if I disobey my mother's instructions, it would lead to serious circumstances as she is also my spiritual mother. I do not know what to do. Look at the picture below. I really don't see anything wrong. I cropped her face to maintain anonymity. 24 Likes 8 Shares
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Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Nobody: 5:11pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Your mum is right , she doesn’t want you to bring whores into her home. 737 Likes 63 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Evergreen12345(f): 5:15pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
your father abandoned you according to your mother have you tried your best as a man to hear his own part of story from people that knows the storyline or did you just believe that ur father left you guys just like that! secondly if ur mother is rejecting this girl which is ur choice of girl just because of this photo then you owe ur late father ab apology for believing the shit ur mother said to you about him .if care is notajen it might be NDI IMO STATE! IF THAT GIRL IS UR CHOICE GO AHEAD AND MARRY HER BUT TRY AND DO MORE FINDINGS ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED BTW UR FATHER AND UR MOM IT WILL HELP YOU SOMUCH IN LIFE ABD ALSO IN DECISION MAKING THANKS 🙏 RIP TO HIM! 257 Likes 19 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Zikonna: 5:17pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
peepydelano: Watch your words please. Don't use that word to describe my girl. 287 Likes 20 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Greatness09: 5:19pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
![]() Evergreen12345: Wetin concern ndi IMO state and the post Unknown Gunmen 38 Likes |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Nonexisting1: 5:22pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Your mother saw more than the bum short, she is only using it as an excuse. Listen to the advice of your mother, she can never go wrong on this one because she is of the same gender. It's true that the world is changing but a Nigerian girl that wears that bum short comfortably in public is likely a coded runsgirl. If she is not, a good offer hasn't come her way yet. If you think your mother is wrong, pay a private investigator to follow your girlfriend for just one week to prove her wrong. 672 Likes 49 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Joey4321: 5:27pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Zikonna: You get eye sha. I can't tell you what to do. 12 Likes |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Nobody: 5:29pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Thank Goodness I wasn't raised by religious parents. Anyways, the only advice I can give you is that you should follow your heart. Marry who you love and not who your mother loves because you may end up being unhappy for the rest of your life in the name of making mama happy. I'm sure your grandparents also warned her about your father, but she still chose to be with him. She will be upset at first, but she'll eventually come around because she's your mother and she loves you, but if you want to break up with the love of your life because of mama, then the ball is in your court... Good luck. 53 Likes 13 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by JealousCobra(m): 5:29pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Zikonna: Hhmmmmmm.. You wan beat him ! 284 Likes 17 Shares
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Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Sixfeetbelle: 5:31pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
The only thing I know for sure is that anyone who listens and believes what their mother says 100% will always be held back in life. When you always do what they say without once taking a stand and going by it, then it becomes a problem. Ps: this applies to both gender. Op, your mother being your spiritual mother doesn't sit well with me. As a child/adult, your parent already has that "control" over you. Add spiritual to it, and one can only preconceive what anyone in that position can do. Not that I'm saying you are easily brainwashed this way, but then again, Nigerians are too spiritual and heed more to their spiritual leaders than their own conscience. At the end of the day, it's not even about your fiancée or her dressing, it's about your mother's approval both ways. So, let the lady go and wait for the woman your spiritual advisor will guide you to. Good luck. 61 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Jennyclay(f): 5:35pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Zikonna:You brought this insult upon yourself, so enjoy the insult my dear! Yeye boyfriend!! You need to grow up, you're not a man. Why would you allow your mother dictate for you? . ![]() Biko, answer my following questions: Is your girlfriend disrespecting you? ![]() Is she wasteful or lazy? ![]() Is she cheating on you? ![]() Is she neglecting her duties as a wife to be? ![]() So why is you and your mother creating problem were there is none? ![]() There is absolutely nothing wrong with her dressing. Most times I dress like that to salon, market, restaurants, bank and malls. Biko, don't allow your mother to use her hand to destroy the beautiful relationship you have your girlfriend oo! 81 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by advanceDNA: 5:35pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Zikonna: Let me take a wild guess...i hope she doesnt use ankle chain too? Cos the two are like 5 and 6 with babes these days A girl that wear something close to pant in public place can be a "fantastic wife" ....but ur mama understands a thing or two about risk assessment... 209 Likes 14 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by budaatum: 5:37pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Your mum is sure going to try everything to prove herself right that "this sort of dressing is from the devil", so marrying her will be you choosing between mum and "girl that wears bum shorts in public". Problem with only male child and only mother is child becomes substitute husband, and him marrying is like husband taking on a second wife. Sometimes, the wives become friends, but often, first wife makes life hell for second wife which is "serious circumstances" for husband. You are about to share the "important person in my life and I love and respect", or at least divide it between first and second wife. Are you mature enough for this, is a question you need ask. If you have truly found the "woman I have decided to spend the rest of my life with", and if you and "girl that wears bum shorts in public" are mature enough, you'd table this with her and plan a course of future action on how to deal with your mother together, though I do not advise it if you or "fiance" lack the maturity as it might have the opposite effect of fiance disliking your mother who will do everything to be disliked since religious mum can't like devil. If not, I suggest you remain married to your first wife until she finds you a second wife she likes. That said, do consider cutting the umbilical cord and grow balls! 50 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by SyrusdeHansome(m): 5:39pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Sometimes what an elder sees while lying down an infant can't see while climbing an Iroko tree, nd sometimes God can direct us thro other pple's voices but in cases like this seek God's face b4 taking any decision 67 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by advanceDNA: 5:40pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
JealousCobra: No dey murder pidgin english abeg.... 39 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by weslay: 5:48pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Your mum that carried you from -9 months till you were able to fend for yourself. The person who could not sleep on those cold nights you were down. What has she done to deserve this distrust? Personally, once my parents rejects my relationship with any lady, c'est fini. Whether she be Agbani Darego or Bill gates daughter, she dey waka. 76 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Ishilove: 5:49pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Different day, different stories. This kain shokoto in a very public place sef, na wa. When no be beach she dey. ![]() Our Nigerian society is not yet ripe for this kind of 'liberal' dressing. ![]() OP, I can't tell you what to do. Use your tongue to count your teeth 32 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Qatar2022: 5:58pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
peepydelano:Are you this daft? 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by masterflowx(m): 5:58pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Zikonna: That big bwess dey enter ya eyes and you're affraid of losing her with her big bwess to another man. Bwess is about to lead a simp to destruction. Continue... 95 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by ITbomb(m): 5:58pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
I know those boobz are deceiving you but know that a married woman isn't supposed to be wear bumshot in the street. Just tell her to apologise to the mum and assure her that she won't be wearing it outside Forget the argument whether she is right or wrong 85 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Qatar2022: 5:59pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Nonexisting1:What is that she saw on this photo? Mugu 3 Likes |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Drsnives(m): 6:10pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Omoh you dea enjoy oo.. The the kind food you dea wack on a steady 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by blahc007: 6:10pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Zikonna:You never see anything ....na u carry your matter come Nairaland where werey full everywhere.... 41 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by ironheart(m): 6:14pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Lol, bro follow your mum, she is right. She doesn't want you to bring a farm implement home o. a word is enough for the wise. 42 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by marlow1962(m): 6:14pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Listen to your mum, she's trying to save her only child from doom. Bumshort in public, exposing your dirty chicken pox killed lap (how pathetic) 52 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by ForValour: 6:14pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Your mum is very correct here. If you insist on marrying her then be ready for whatever she dish you. 24 Likes |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by Akwamkpuruamu: 6:14pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Don't wife a public material 43 Likes |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by ucee64(m): 6:15pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
My babe can't wear this rubbish in oublic though. These are the kinds of pants women wear indoors Nah. 65 Likes |
Re: My Mum Doesn't Want Us To Get Married Because Of This Picture by SlurUsername1: 6:15pm On Feb 08, 2023 |
Your bae is dressed like a Prostitute, why are u expecting ur mum to not see her as a coded runs girl...? If you don't listen to ur mother u will suffer the consequences in Life. 120 Likes 10 Shares |
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