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Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by GloriousGbola: 8:44pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
IbeOkehie: Which is why I have pointed out that it is far more nuanced than the op is claiming. It is however more than poverty as these traits have been evident right from the 80s. |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 8:44pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
IbeOkehie: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() They are extremely delusional Indeed poverty is a bastard. They underestimated the multidimensional debilitating effect of puvaty on a nation 2 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by shantti(m): 9:02pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
atheistandproud: Ok |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by IbeOkehie: 9:04pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
atheistandproud: So true. So sad. Everyone bargain for what they can get in the marketplace. Everyone is on their own, judge and jury of your own fate. The world is a dangerous and different very place from what we all know it was or could be. The future is ominous. 2 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by IbeOkehie: 9:10pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
GloriousGbola: Nigeria AND the Nigerian populace have ALWAYS been poor AND underdeveloped. For clarity, please consult an economics text for the proper meaning of DEVELOPMENT. So the same causes today are the same causes in the 1980's Let me emphasize it - there has NEVER been a time when the Nigerian populace hasn't been EXTREMELY poor. The poverty has only gotten worse and worse over the years. That Nigeria was EVER rich or the people EVER prosperous is a myth and fallacy that has contributed greatly to the destruction of that country. Nigeria has ALWAYS been poor! And as I read and interact with Nigerians, I'm more and more convinced the country and people will remain that way for a very loooong time to come. This is a very important truth to accept and grapple with. 2 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by atheistandproud(m): 9:10pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
IbeOkehie: I know where and when to cash out lol. The future is truly pregnant. 4 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by DonroxyII: 9:15pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
Hassanmaye:I'm in the Future Already Bro ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by IbeOkehie: 9:22pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
atheistandproud: If the future is a pregnant person....not necessarily a woman, it's likely a single parent. That's for sure. |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Nobody: 9:36pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
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Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Aboguede(m): 9:38pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
atheistandproud: I am not early to the conversation sha. Obama was actually raised by 2 parents at most or basically which is the foundation. His mother married an Indonesian Muslim and they migrated there till Obama was 12. That is why his name is hussein. No time to write much though. Nigeria's problems are multidimensional poverty., in real time, educational poverty and u will be supprised at the rate and level if u pay more attention. 4 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by DropsMic(m): 9:49pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
Exactly how Jim crow of America destroyed the black family. Till today they still haven't recovered |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by IbeOkehie: 10:10pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
DropsMic: Sorry it wasn't Jim Crow that did it. Blacks stuck together more under the stresses of those times. In 1950 over 75% of Black children were born into two parent homes, today 75% are born to single parents. It was Great Society Welfare programs starting around 1965 that degraded the American family, not just Blacks. Go and check. 6 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Chidibe212(f): 11:04pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
atheistandproud: OP nawa o, the way you are attacking the person that asked you a question so as to understand the direction of your article is uncalled for.... Now listen, you can not "DIVORCE" if you are not legally married to someone. I agree with you that parenting by two persons in raising their kids does not necessarily dwell in marriage but if you use the word "DIVORCE" for two people that are not legally married the it's wrong. Check the meaning of divorce. Note..when a person asks you a question without conclusion then that person is asking just to know the angle you are coming from because one sentence can mean a thousand thing. Peace ✌️ |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Kayclite: 11:50pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
atheistandproud: Na why I like Nigeria. No policy here dey encourage excessive liberalism. Most western schemes are already dead on arrival. |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Kayclite: 11:56pm On Feb 13, 2023 |
DonroxyII: This is exactly the opposite of heaven. |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Kayclite: 12:22am On Feb 14, 2023 |
Crumbian:That "capping" where they "gaslight" you to accept a reality that does not exist and never existed. Proudly brought to you by fake "Wokeism" 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by cococandy(f): 1:00am On Feb 14, 2023 |
Their perfect society is one full of their fellow misogynists and token desperate pick me girls who will okay or ignore all their insidiously hateful rhetoric towards women GloriousGbola: 1 Like |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by JoshuaSG: 1:09am On Feb 14, 2023 |
The point raised by the OP is a disturbing development that is turning Nigera into a society of uncultured people, who can not aid its development but collapse it. The argument is this: A society with a poor parenting family system breeds uncultured children. And soon, the society becomes a place where a moral-deficient leader lead the moraless. 2 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Gerrard59(m): 1:11am On Feb 14, 2023 |
Jovialjune1: I laugh when supporters of baby-mamaism say it is the best thing since slice bread. ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Dshocker(m): 1:13am On Feb 14, 2023 |
atheistandproud: What you narrated here was the same topic i had with my guys last saturday. I for one cannot and will never marry a girl that grew up with a single mother. And we are fast imitating and adopting the western culture to a fault and our so called celebrities are leading the way and their fans who look up to them adopts same principles as norm. 2 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Kobojunkie: 2:37am On Feb 14, 2023 |
JoshuaSG:When has your Nigeria not been exactly that though? At what point in the last 60 something years has your Nigeria not been this same uncultured mess that it continues to be even today? ![]() The other poster claimed that poverty is to blame for why Nigerians are the uncultured antisocial beings we see today, trend that has been observed since at least as far back as the 80s. So when exactly has Nigeria been this this nation of cultured individuals you lot keep alluding and what led to the transition from highly cultured to not? ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by beyondbasicsng: 2:42am On Feb 14, 2023 |
marriages have been breaking down since time immemorial the Internet just made it more known! I can categorically say I grew up knowing people whose parents weren't together back in the 90s and tbh many people stayed together and "endured" a life that literally destroyed the kids. I've just heard that a friend refused to get married because his parents who had separated did a number on him. At some point this boy had a nervous breakdown and had to go to rehab! Another one has been married 3x! these are kids who grew up in the 90s! For me, it's a really bad circle - I've kind of now believe that if you are from a broken home the likelihood that you will have one is also high! In the North for instance (I'm from there btw) you could divorce easily and remarry without issues - but you're still carrying baggage. Now imagine all those who grew up in the 90s with a warped family arrangement wherein mother will stay cos of the kids or wherein mother is beaten black and blue, abused, she's molested, she is striped naked etc n her kids see this! Well guess what they grow up to become abusers even worse the mother actually doesn't see their emotional abuse or narcissistic ways as abuse as long as they are not physical by all is abuse. These kids are broken and are creating a circle of kids that would be broken in future as well - so please don't just say Internet has enhanced divorce and that kids of nowadays will not benefit from a stable home - divorce did exist many years ago and those who stayed created monsters who are still perpetuating mean ways on others! Broken people break people! PS: I am not a proponent of divorce, I am not divorced and is not smthing I will venture in in future but I was reminded that people do die in silence so please let us talk about these issues and create awareness about broken people, awful women who encourage bad behaviours and raise sons who then become monsters, let's talk about emotional, financial, physical, verbal abuse. Let's talk about all the ills that would not make a family work and let's also talk about boundaries - people should have clear boundaries that others should indeed accept! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by emmaodet: 3:15am On Feb 14, 2023 |
ibkayee: And you actually think there is no pressure from modern women on men to attain a lifestyle that the man can't sustain? I really wish it is possible for people to switch genders easily so as to know how hard and tough it is to be on the other side. Do you know the constant pressure men are into just to be able to sustain a good relationship? How many times have we approached ladies who will tell you you are not her taste or class just because we have no ride or a good apartment or a good job etc? Are those not pressures? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Bfly: 6:29am On Feb 14, 2023 |
Since the advent of Social media, Humans began to experience decivilization. The concept of Family and Society don't appeal to us anymore. To get people back to start considering these things is difficult to strategize. This is simply the progression of life. In the name of utopia we create dystopia. 5 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Hassanmaye(m): 6:52am On Feb 14, 2023 |
cococandy:Will you shut up and worship the groud we walk on 2 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by atheistandproud(m): 7:43am On Feb 14, 2023 |
beyondbasicsng: I like how level headed you are in your submission so I'll take a bite at attempting to address your point. I think you have completely misread me. I didn't explicitly say that a 2-parent monogamous home was the ultimate utopia for child rearing. I have stated in the comments here that it takes a village to raise a child, from parents to the lady at the shop up the street to the teachers at school to the uncles, aunts, friends, neighbors etc. The child becomes a more rounded individual due to exposure to these different characters. I grew up in that era where you don't dare mess up because several eyes will always be watching. It keep you safe but there's no privacy. Children don't need privacy anyways. But in today's society, there's lots of overt perversion, abuse to kids and even risk to life so everyone needs to keep their children indoors. In the absence of the full community model, a 2 parent homestead is the best way to go despite it's shortcomings. There's scientific and anecdotal evidence to prove that over 60% of children from a single parent has a much higher chance to become a prisoner, a criminal, or to do poorly in life when compared to those from a two parent home. Children from 2 parent homes tend to do better in and out of school. Look at the school shooters in America, especially the teenage ones, one of the most recent cases in Uvalde, Texas was a teenager who felt neglected by his mom and his school. He took it out on society. Children from 2 parent homes can and will do poorly but these are in the minority. Children from single parent homes can also do well but they're in the minority and also if you check, the extended family or friends pitch in to help raise the child e.g. Barack Obama. That's what I'm saying. I spend time between Benin and Warri and the rate of single ladies battling to juggle a job and a child and failing to do both is alarming! I mentioned this to my guys in Lagos and they also say it's already being the norm there for decades now. These kids are easy prey for anyone with bad intentions as an overwhelming majority of these single mothers are raising these kids badly. Even when the kids do some stupid shit and get into trouble, there's no discipline or talking to. Instead the mothers will shield and defend them hence promoting these behaviors. As a former senior secondary school teacher (I quit 4 years ago), most of the difficult children with behavior issues were from single parent homes. I didn't just wake to spew shit out of my ass. I don't care about Nairaland's male vs female fight. This is my real account, had for 7 years now. 2 Likes |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by felixzo1(m): 7:59am On Feb 14, 2023 |
atheistandproud:I admire your intelligence, you have my respect 1 Like |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Nobody: 8:04am On Feb 14, 2023 |
This Post finally made Front Page. |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Nobody: 8:11am On Feb 14, 2023 |
atheistandproud: Great Reply. Kindly stop engaging St**id People. Thanks. 1 Like |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Nobody: 8:21am On Feb 14, 2023 |
oldienavie: I laughed so hard when I read this comment yesterday lol ![]() This Is Unarguably the best comment of this Year so Far ![]() I wanted to comment but an Urgent Meeting came Up which I had to attend. I actually don't know what to say anymore to the Crop of Habitants in that place called Nigeria. Very Terrible, Evil and Stupid set of Beings. |
Re: The Collapse Of Family Is The Collapse Of Society by Nobody: 8:42am On Feb 14, 2023 |
atheistandproud: You are Intellectually Savage ![]() Imagine of all Names in the world. Someone choose to call himself Gbola lol ![]() Very Dumb set of beings. How I wish this world can be grouped base on our Abilities. It would have been so sweet. One wouldn't need to come In contact with these set of beings. 2 Likes
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