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My Cousin Who Got Married Last Year July Is Actually Thinking Of Leaving / My Boyfriend Is On The Verge Of Leaving Me. Help! / My cousin who got married this year July is actually thinking of leaving the man (2) (3) (4)
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Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by Reelmii: 3:00pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
...u are alone in that dream |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by izubext007: 3:00pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
wetin dey worry you bro |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by bigdammyj: 3:02pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Reading... |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by skj1377(m): 3:02pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
No |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by sofeo(m): 3:02pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Alright |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by fof1: 3:04pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
litigator: Satanic Mindsets 2 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by goodmike7: 3:07pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Wawelexy: He is not a coward..do you know how many times some married men have called their wives to order, do you know how many nights they have woken up their wives to register their dissatisfaction? Do you know how many times they took their women to facy restaurant or quiet places to talk sense into them? Personally, I know of a Nigerian man, who one day after so much efforts, left the house he built, the properties,kids. and cars..he took only a bag and travelled. Most premature death of men is as a result of an unhappy marriage. Some is because the loving women and respecful women they married suddenly becomes a nightmare to them. I know a lot and this is why getting married is beginning to scare me, i will settle as a baby daddy. 17 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by MissTemi1(f): 3:07pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Please shut up jare. A woman is made to run and oversea the home. It is a thing of joy. Where is it written a married woman can’t make money? Many married women own so many stores, shops, businesses, name it. Many are doctors, lawyers, bankers etc. u re talking about a woman dat married wrong plz Klass99: 3 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by PythonPros: 3:07pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
This is a very valid question. Thanks for bringing it up 1 Like |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by eventainment(m): 3:07pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Wawelexy: When you see shege to be better coward than that man go de hungry you 6 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by GloriousGbola: 3:08pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
With all the nonsense these stupid boys post about women everyday, you have to wonder why homosexuality is not thriving in Nigeria. We accept that women are the devil. Now you boys shoukd go and fk yourselves. When you are in a situation you don't like, you move on instead of whining and bitching everyday. Hook up with your fellow redpillers, adopt a child from orphanage and go your own way. That is what a MAN would do. It is a beta male that will spend all his time whining and crying 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by Angelfrost(m): 3:09pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Sad reality is that at least 80% of married men have thought about this seriously at some point. Some even wish they never got married when they did. I met a great man I held in high esteem with a seemingly happy home blessed with 4 amazing kids... He confessed to me that if he had a second chance, he would stay single till at least 40! The pressure on men in marriages today is ridiculous! If you remove the strings of religion (morality), culture, and peer pressure, many men and women will rather stay single or cohabit without the legal "chains" of matrimony! 14 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by GboyegaD(m): 3:10pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
How did his running away solve things? Is this how he will keep running away from every challenges he will face in his lifetime? He could have had a discussion with the wife either for a separation or divorce. For me, his act was planned so that he doesn't feel burdened marrying another wife where he ran to. He didn't do right. Never thought of leaving my home however, I sometimes miss the way I could go for weekend at a friend's place or just travel to wherever for the weekend while I was single. 2 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by Albertone(m): 3:10pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Kobojunkie: You always talk like you've not lived in Nigeria before. Maybe you should be on Quora and Reddit, not here! 5 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by Myketuale(m): 3:11pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
[quote author=Wawelexy post=120807288]To me, I see that man as a coward!!! Why not brace up and be brave to let your partner (the mother of your kids) know you are not feeling her anymore, tell her what the issue is and if no changes, tell her straight that you want to quit but still will be responsible for your kids welfare... I think that's better than running into the thin air like a car exhaust... Do you even have the idea of what would have ran through the mind of your family, wife and even your kids for that period of 3 months? How do you want the kids to see their father? A coward? An irresponsible man who runs away from his burdens? An unfaithful man? The list goes on and on... As a kid, I can't even forgive such father... cos if you can do this now for an excuse as flimsy as this, then my future isn't save with you when bigger challenges shows up...[/quote ] Yes he's a coward. But the thing it's not everyone that has the courage to open up to people. And again who knows if he had done that before, but the wife still remain adamant. |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by Kobojunkie: 3:12pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
goodmike7:1. It's cowardice. If said married man is not able to be in agreement with his wife, then the sensible thing to do would be to seek legal divorce from the union, not abscond like a thief in the night. 2. The man ran away from his obligations as a married man and that is a criminal offense. 3. He wasn't forced into marriage at gun point so why should he run away from it like a thief would? 7 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by jaxxy(m): 3:13pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
litigator: so when did it dawn on him thst his wife was no destiny killer? Well I tell men and also women that a wife is supposed to be a help mate meaning she's always ready to support him in any and every way to make life easy and happy and vice versa But these current women are stress mate they create stress and add all types of stress to ur life. Then she wonders why a man is tired and frustrated. |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by ednut1(m): 3:14pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
There is a twitter thread on this. Alot of men who did gave their reasons |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by thesicilian: 3:14pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
From the comments here it's very easy to separate people into 2 categories: Those who are males and those who are females (sometimes a profile can show as (m) or (f), but from the comments you'll know if that's true or not) Those who are married and those who are not yet married. The unmarried ones are always quick to jump to conclusions and paint textbook scenerios, but the married ones tend to be more calculated and weighted in their responses. 7 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by Isabi4lov: 3:15pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Some are just running away from their responsibilities |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by Ologbo147: 3:16pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
jeff1607:No where was it stated in the write up that it was after three months she filed for a missing person, you guys lack comprehension 4 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by Sixfeetbelle: 3:16pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
jeff1607: I can see that you didn't read this write up very well. 2 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by Kobojunkie: 3:16pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Myketuale:He had the courage to get married and bear kids but not the courage to admit he was wrong in marriage? Make we stop to dey find excuses for what is foolishness o'jare! 8 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by boxypane(m): 3:16pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
NEVER EVER. |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by polite2(m): 3:17pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Wat a foolish question?? Disappear to where ?? Ehh? Ewo Gambia |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by Agunesinjaweola: 3:17pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Cutehector:No Matter due diligence and the endurance, many women still put up their Eve dictatorship tendencies! If you're lucky she did not set the kid's against you, you must be ready for options A,B and C to get your life back. You must live your life to the fullest rather than staying with a woman and live a miserable life 🧬 Especially in Europe where you have little or no power to act like Alpha Male 🐏, you have to initiate flight ✈️ or fight for nothing. |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by iammolise(m): 3:18pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Why are some men so Love sick like this, it's every man's essence of being to become a family guy and have your family depend on you. Wether it's choking or not men are designed to provide and lead, at some point you have to drop that small boy 'butterfly-lovesick mentality and accept reality... Now does he want his kids to grow without him then at his old age he'll start wailing "they hate me". 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by rickleye: 3:19pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
litigator: hmm, and the marriage, he choose her. What should those from arranged marriages do ? A good 80% of people feel this way. Its just the 20% that are brave enough to go on ahead to leave. Of the 80% about 50% would do so when the kids are grown and move out of the house. Divorce is messy with regards finances as most couples would have each other as beneficiaries and there is usually just one house ( which the man would leave for the wife to occupy ) until she wants to sell. To answer your question - Yes. But, I tell myself - the grass is not always greener on the other side. So the key would be to work at your marriage and relationship. Go on dates, have grandma keep the kids for a while or get a nanny. Have an affair but keep the family together. 3 Likes |
Re: As A Married Man, Do You Sometimes Dream Of Leaving Your Family & Disappearing? by KanwuliaExtra: 3:19pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Only COWARDS run away from responsibilities and committments. Even me as a woman felt like disappearing and to never surface MANY TIMES! Some situations you find yourself feel SUERREAL and PARANORMAL. . . . You have no idea how you EVER got there in the first place. Only MARRIED men? MARRIED WOMEN TOO! Heck YEAH!!!! But, I NEVER RAN AWAY. . . I stayed and TOUGHED AND ROUGHED it out. What a question? When the lines of communications are irretrievable broken down and you have NO WAY OUT. . . You have either hit a CONCRETE SEWER or a BOTTOMLESS DITCH. . . Only YOUR GOD can rescue YOU! So glad I have survived this thing called MARRIAGE AND FAMILY. I give it to myself. . . . I AM A STRONG WOMAN. Nothing can touch me. . . .I feel INVINCIBLE. 8 Likes |
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