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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Justbehave(m): 1:08pm On Feb 16, 2023
iamL:


It it fortunate that not all father's are depraved rapist like yours.

It's easy to spot demented bastard sons who are product of an unapologetic rapist bastard male lineage.

Dignifying a wasted specimen of a failed father with further replies will be an insult to my person.
We are saying the same thing. Just like your father is busy raping every girl child in your vicinity. So it has made you to believe that all men are like him.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Spherica177: 1:11pm On Feb 16, 2023
dawoyo:


I would love to assist; however, I’m still confused on how. I don’t mind if there’s anyone here willing so we could think of the best ways to assist.

I’m open to ideas…

Meanwhile, please send me a DM @VoidLife7
go ahead and help the poor girl sir. Do as the spirit lead you

A start up business for the family, this can also help to support the girl's education from the business

The Op sound reasonable and responsible. He should be assisted to get a reasonable job so that he can support the girl education and the family

I think you should consider these two options

Cheers!

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by gaby(m): 10:34pm On Feb 16, 2023
SuperOnyi:



shocked


Sir, I'm begging you to help that girl.

What's about to happen to that girl has happened to me and I almost committed suicide, I'll be 21 soon and still struggling to get back to my feet, go back to school and take care of my younger ones.

Please, do not let these idiotic fools that take advantage of innocent people do the same to this girl — help her if you really mean to, you could post your experience here so we can easily hold the OP accountable.

Thanks.

I couldn't respond to you on your diary where you mentioned me.

Seeing you happy and hopeful is exactly what fuels my drive and keeps me happy/fulfilled. Just keep up with the legitimate grind and never take your eyes off the ball, trust me, you'd come out best.

Will keep in touch.

No join bad gang oh... grin

God bless, yours, and your grind...

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by SuperOnyi: 10:41pm On Feb 16, 2023
gaby:


I couldn't respond to you on your diary where you mentioned me.

Seeing you happy and hopeful is exactly what fuels my drive and keeps me happy/fulfilled. Just keep up with the legitimate grind and never take your eyes off the ball, trust me, you'd come out best.

Will keep in touch.

No join bad gang oh... grin

God bless, yours, and your grind...


shocked



God bless you sir, a billion times (🙏🥺).

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by gaby(m): 10:42pm On Feb 16, 2023
SuperOnyi:



shocked



God bless you sir, a billion times (🙏🥺).

You are favored...

You'd do the IT stuff by God.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by SuperOnyi: 10:46pm On Feb 16, 2023
gaby:


You are favored...

You'd do the IT stuff by God.

shocked

Amen, sir.

Thank you sir.
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by keepingmum: 11:52pm On Feb 16, 2023
VoidLife7:
@sisisioge, thank you for your idea. I do appreciate🙏

How much is the balance for the apprenticeship and the cost of a sewing machine please

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by GboyegaD(m): 12:50am On Feb 17, 2023
OP, it will be nice to give updates so that those thinking of helping will know where to come in.

By updates, I mean those who have reached out to you and what the discussions are without mentioning names. You could also list the things she has in plans in terms of the apprenticeship. For example, she needs 3 machines 2 butterfly and 1 electric, the balance of her apprenticeship is xyz amount. By the way, if she gets sewing machines, is there space in the house to put it (them)? I believe there is light at the end of the tunnel.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by amdman: 5:25am On Feb 17, 2023
SOLUTION

I have engaged OP and I am currently working to confirm the veracity of his story. This should be completed by next weekend. Once confirmed, the plan is to do any of the following:

1. Full-ride scholarship (tuition and living expenses) to any public university in Nigeria (including cost of preparing for JAMB etc) - the condition for this is that she must be able to get admission on merit.

2. Alternatively, sponsored training in a structured fashion school in Lagos, including cost of sewing machine, transportation and stipend for one year.

It will be nice to collaborate with @Gaby, @Dawoyo and everyone else that would like to pitch in.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by VoidLife7: 6:13am On Feb 17, 2023
keepingmum:


How much is the balance for the apprenticeship and the cost of a sewing machine please
She's to pay #30,000 balance for the apprenticeship while butterfly sewing machine manual is #78,000


Thanks!
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by keepingmum: 8:28am On Feb 17, 2023
VoidLife7:
She's to pay #30,000 balance for the apprenticeship while butterfly sewing machine manual is #78,000


Thanks!

Thank u. Can you confirm if anyone has sent u money?
How much is the cost of the apprenticeship in full if the outstanding bal is 30k.
Whats the duration of her apprenticeship and how long does she hv left?
How can you guarantee us that after the Financial support, ur mum would allow her to focus on earning Financial independence without forcing marriage on her?

I will pay the bal for the apprenticeship and will also contribute towards the cost of the sewing maching.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by VoidLife7: 8:53am On Feb 17, 2023
keepingmum:


Thank u. Can you confirm if anyone has sent u money?
How much is the cost of the apprenticeship in full if the outstanding bal is 30k.
Whats the duration of her apprenticeship and how long does she hv left?
How can you guarantee us that after the Financial support, ur mum would allow her to focus on earning Financial independence without forcing marriage on her?

I will pay the bal for the apprenticeship and will also contribute towards the cost of the sewing maching.
My mum MAJOR reason considering her for marriage was due to our low source of income. The responsibility outweighs the income. These children automatically become hers the moment she adopt them. Her own biological children are the ones supporting the day to day running of the house which obviously has taken a toll on us and the family. My mum is 61 years old and she's really scared and bothered of the future of these children. The girl has a dream to futher her education and own a big fashion outlet as a seamstress. Her dreams seems difficult considering the family she was unfortunate to found herself. My mum would only make a U-turn to the marriage proposals if this girl dream can be achieved and actualise now that she's still alive. She's scared what would become of them if she's gone. She felt giving her out in marriage would help to an extent lessen the burden and probably secure her future and also support her little ones

No one has sent me money
Her apprenticeship cost was 50k, excluding other items like drinks and whataview. We've paid 20k and brought drinks

It was a 2 and half year training and she has a year and half left.

She can sew and her boss asked us to get her a machine, even if it's manual.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by dawoyo(m): 8:58am On Feb 17, 2023
amdman:
SOLUTION

I have engaged OP and I am currently working to confirm the veracity of his story. This should be completed by next weekend. Once confirmed, the plan is to do any of the following:

1. Full-ride scholarship (tuition and living expenses) to any public university in Nigeria (including cost of preparing for JAMB etc) - the condition for this is that she must be able to get admission on merit.

2. Alternatively, sponsored training in a structured fashion school in Lagos, including cost of sewing machine, transportation and stipend for one year.

It will be nice to collaborate with @Gaby, @Dawoyo and everyone else that would like to pitch in.

Okay… I’m game

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by keepingmum: 9:29am On Feb 17, 2023
VoidLife7:
My mum MAJOR reason considering her for marriage was due to our low source of income. The responsibility outweighs the income. These children automatically become hers the moment she adopt them. Her own biological children are the ones supporting the day to day running of the house which obviously has taken a toll on us and the family. My mum is 61 years old and she's really scared and bothered of the future of these children. The girl has a dream to futher her education and own a big fashion outlet as a seamstress. Her dreams seems difficult considering the family she was unfortunate to found herself. My mum would only make a U-turn to the marriage proposals if this girl dream can be achieved and actualise now that she's still alive. She's scared what would become of them if she's gone. She felt giving her out in marriage would help to an extent lessen the burden and probably secure her future and also support her little ones

No one has sent me money
Her apprenticeship cost was 50k, excluding other items like drinks and whataview. We've paid 20k and brought drinks

It was a 2 and half year training and she has a year and half left.

She can sew and her boss asked us to get her a machine, even if it's manual.

Fine. Pm me with ur acc details.

I ll suggest u check declutter pages for sewing machines as i have gotten x2, (used but very good) in the past 4 months for 40k. Electric machines to be precise.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by BRATISLAVA: 9:45am On Feb 17, 2023
Is the account holder zone_free or one of them? He's been less active since this post, no doubt receiving help from the females he's reviled so greatly here.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by VoidLife7: 10:19am On Feb 17, 2023
keepingmum:


Fine. Pm me with ur acc details.

I ll suggest u check declutter pages for sewing machines as i have gotten x2, (used but very good) in the past 4 months for 40k. Electric machines to be precise.
I sent you a mail

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by VoidLife7: 11:09am On Feb 17, 2023
keepingmum:


Fine. Pm me with ur acc details.

I ll suggest u check declutter pages for sewing machines as i have gotten x2, (used but very good) in the past 4 months for 40k. Electric machines to be precise.
I will check out the page

Thanks
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by keepingmum: 11:30am On Feb 17, 2023
VoidLife7:
I sent you a mail

Still waiting for ur acc
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by VoidLife7: 11:38am On Feb 17, 2023
keepingmum:


Still waiting for ur acc
i have sent it to your mail
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by keepingmum: 11:50am On Feb 17, 2023
VoidLife7:
i have sent it to your mail

Sent. Pls pay the outstanding bal of her training and use the rest for her.
I hope u get the remaining help necessary as it will be a shame for her to end her dreams when she should just be starting.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by gaby(m): 12:50pm On Feb 17, 2023
amdman:
SOLUTION

I have engaged OP and I am currently working to confirm the veracity of his story. This should be completed by next weekend. Once confirmed, the plan is to do any of the following:

1. Full-ride scholarship (tuition and living expenses) to any public university in Nigeria (including cost of preparing for JAMB etc) - the condition for this is that she must be able to get admission on merit.

2. Alternatively, sponsored training in a structured fashion school in Lagos, including cost of sewing machine, transportation and stipend for one year.

It will be nice to collaborate with @Gaby, @Dawoyo and everyone else that would like to pitch in.

Present sir.

Responded to your dm but no further replies from you.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Bigshots001(m): 1:18pm On Feb 17, 2023
gaby:


Cry no more.

She wants to go to school, she'd definitely go to school.

I'll sponsor her to whatever level she wishes to go to as part of my impacting lives project.
DM me..


Agbado Urchin,are you sure can be able to do this?
Don't brag out here, while you can't even fend for yourself.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Dshocker(m): 1:18pm On Feb 17, 2023
VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤


I advise you go into Agriculture, planting vegetables or riding Uber.

Rather than teaching for 30k

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by GboyegaD(m): 1:19pm On Feb 17, 2023
amdman:
SOLUTION

I have engaged OP and I am currently working to confirm the veracity of his story. This should be completed by next weekend. Once confirmed, the plan is to do any of the following:

1. Full-ride scholarship (tuition and living expenses) to any public university in Nigeria (including cost of preparing for JAMB etc) - the condition for this is that she must be able to get admission on merit.

2. Alternatively, sponsored training in a structured fashion school in Lagos, including cost of sewing machine, transportation and stipend for one year.

It will be nice to collaborate with @Gaby, @Dawoyo and everyone else that would like to pitch in.

Since the mom's concern is the financial burden, I think number 2 seems more viable and once she's on her feet and has the business going, she can sponsor herself through school.

It will be nice if you can figure out what the cost will be and people can take it up from there.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Aboguede(m): 1:19pm On Feb 17, 2023
Make envy no kill u sha grin

U wey don chop ur cake, now u wan chop another person own shocked


VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤

Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by onuman: 1:19pm On Feb 17, 2023
VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤


But you never revealed your mum's religious faith.
If she is a Muslim, the practice of Muslims to give out girls to marriage even without the girl's consent is a norm.
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Nobody: 1:20pm On Feb 17, 2023
Be ready to marry whoever she choses for you too
Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by Crenzywilliams(m): 1:20pm On Feb 17, 2023
Please check you mail.
Send me a massage and let's discuss.
Thanks.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by achimendy(m): 1:21pm On Feb 17, 2023
VoidLife7:
Good day all,


Please i need your sincere input to this subject matter


I am from an average family of 6 living in Lagos. My father is a surveyor, while my mother a petty trader. My mother lost his younger brother's wife after child birth, through cesarian surgery.. My mum was the only female amongst 4 siblings, she was beseeched to look after the infant and her little brother. That was how my parents began nurturing these kids. I could recall vividly how my dad often supply the house with baby food so she could be properly fed. I saw how my dad and mum took turns at mid night looking after her. My dad lost his only sister four years after and he was given the responsibility to look after her last baby who was almost 2 years. I lost my dad 2015 when the little girl was 10, her brother 12 and the other child was just 8. My mum had 4 biological kids, 3 boys and a girl. The girl was the first child, happily married with kids. I have an elder brother and a younger brother. I was intermediate my brothers. Till date, these children acknowledged my parents as their biological parents. They never knew we aren't blood from same parents. We all had same surname. The little girl wrote her WAEC last year and cleared all her papers with distinctions and credit. She had the intention to study law or foreign languages.


I enrolled her in fashion designing immediately after her secondary school, as she had shown interest. It's less than a year she got enrolled and she's already sewing styles. She's heading to become a seamstress in the not too distant future. She also makes hair. Though not professional and she never learnt it.


My mum summoned me last month informing me she'd be giving my little sister out for marriage once she clocks 18 by May this year. She claimed i had been teaching in private school earning 30k monthly and my elder brother working in a factory earning 35k. We got bills to pay for ourselves and the kids. She asserted that the burden is already taken a toll on us. I and my elder brother are the ones supporting the family with accommodation, feeding, school fees et al. My mum claimed there was no money to pursue her education. We couldn't even afford to get her a sewing machine. The little girl suggested she get enlisted into the Nigeria navy or Immigration Service with her WAEC result, and also as a fashion designer. Perhaps, that could enable her pursue her law degree in subsequent time as an officer. My mum wasn't convince with her idea. She claimed there was no one to help her get enlisted successfully. She insisted in giving her out to a 43 years old divorces whose wife had abandoned with 3 kids. My mum was so ignorance enough to believed giving her out for marriage will help lessen our burden😭


I felt like giving my mum good hot slap having realised the reason i got summoned. I felt the burden is really weighing her down, making her think otherwise. I had kept my mum at arm length since then. Hopefully, that'd propel her have a change of mind. I sincerely got her plight though but that shouldn't be an option. She seems not to understand her decision would destroy the girl's life completely. She claimed it wasn't her fault. She sincerely wish we are capable of looking after the children, then she'd support her dreams and aspirations. She believed when there's no money, you shouldn't be found discussing anything that requires money. I've been so down ever since then. She claimed i i hadn't saved myself yet and i was worried saving someone else. She's my sister and i can't leave her behind. She never treated her badly for a day though and nobody knows she wasn't her biological child. If for instance, anyone come up tomorrow informing her or her siblings that my parents aren't their biological parents, they'd never pay attention to it. I was even threatening to report her to the family but she claimed the family can't do nothing. This little girl has good plans, dreams and aspirations but my mum wants to cut it short and shattered due to our challenges.


Please i need advice going forward. I really want to keep my family together🙏❤



Don't let that happen to your sister, and she shouldn't agree to it, she's too young for that marriage thing.


Let her focus on her apprenticeship, with Time she can further her studies.

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Re: My Mum Is Planning To Forcefully Give Out My Little Sister Out For Marriage by bigdammyj: 1:21pm On Feb 17, 2023
Tagging along.
God bless all who have volunteered to assist.
May you never lack and may your children's help never elude them.
God bless all those with genuine intention to help but can't afford it now.

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