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My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Confusedgirlie: 9:20am On Jan 24, 2023 |
Before I left Canada for Nigeria in 2020, I had heard severally that it was very lonely there for Nigerian immigrants. I didn't quite understand what people meant exactly when they said this. However, over time I now have a very good understanding of this particular challenge with migration. Here are some of the things I've learnt on the way. But first, a little background about me. I'm an introvert and I like my introversion. It gives me a lot of time to think and to be in my own space which I enjoy a lot. I read, write and love to watch documentaries. Those are the three most important things to me in life. When I lived in Nigeria, I lived a mostly secluded life that didn't have a lot of people in it. Regardless, it wasn't boring to me. I went out when I wanted to and took my time for my own activities. Since being in Canada, my observations have been that it is a lot lonelier here. The reasons are very obvious: there are not a lot of people around me from a culture I'm familiar with (Nigeria), so it's definitely a lot more difficult to interact with others. That's one key point. Another is that I don't really have to go out to purchase things (even groceries), compared to when I was in Nigeria. I can simply order everything I need while sitting in the comfort of my home. Hence, the temptation is to go this way. In addition, I don't have family around, so I'm mostly by myself. And finally, the few friends I have are often busy, so there's hardly time to get together. That's about it. I think these are some of the challenges Nigerian immigrants face. But the real question is, do I feel lonely? The honest answer to that is a No. I find that my life is exactly the same way I lived it in Nigeria, only a lot more convenient and comfortable. I can't trade this for anything. In addition, as an introvert who likes to be by herself anyways, it's just a lot more enjoyable. Nevertheless, there are steps I'm planning to take to change a few things. I am now taking more opportunities to actually go out and buy things even if I don't have to, e.g groceries, clothes, etc. Secondly, I say hello first to strangers and neighbours and get to ask them a few questions. This I wouldn't have done on the first place. Finally, I downloaded a social media application called clubhouse and have been making new friends in my area using this. As a cautious person, I'm taking baby steps here and not jumping straight into friendships I may not like. Overall, what do I think of being in Canada as an introvert? I enjoy it. My life and choices are a lot better and I find that I have the time to do much more than I was doing back in Nigeria, not hampered by lack of power or resources. My advice to others is to gauge their expectations carefully as they come to Canada with or without family. It can be lonely here, but that's not because Canada itself is lonely. It's just because you need to dig deep and find yourself in a new country where family is absent and culture is unfamiliar. 280 Likes 30 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Cutehector(m): 9:28am On Jan 24, 2023 |
How do you deal with conji. 184 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by pyyxxaro: 9:36am On Jan 24, 2023 |
Oyaaa enter GOD IS GOOD MOTORS or BOB IZUA de come back ![]() 37 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by ednut1(m): 9:40am On Jan 24, 2023 |
Cutehector:dating app dey there na, enough people to nack dey there na commitment/ relationship scarce ![]() 64 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Cutehector(m): 9:57am On Jan 24, 2023 |
ednut1:awesome. She go dey alright then ![]() Lmao.. 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Edc2: 8:17am On Feb 14, 2023 |
You are in which province and from which part of nigeria I am in Toronto and from southwest 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Sweetvie: 4:59pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Hmm 3 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by ednut1(m): 6:52pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Edc2:go and download dating apps and stop chasing shadows π€£ 176 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Gerrard59(m): 7:48pm On Feb 14, 2023 |
Confusedgirlie: Abroad is lonely in that aspect. While in Nigeria, you would think you're an introvert, but na where your introvert stop, na there their own start. You are even in a place where there are people who look like you and the language is English. Now, think about those in places where there are very few black people and the language isn't English? ![]() ![]() Nevertheless, one cannot underrate the working system and safety. Ultimately, people should know what took them abroad so that they remain very focused. 138 Likes 13 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by ope19: 1:29am On Feb 15, 2023 |
I am currently experiencing the same thing. Will start going out more soon 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Edc2: 9:03am On Feb 15, 2023 |
ednut1: You mean she is fake the few blacks I have seen on match and zoosk are over 39 which app is the best to meet my african damsels in canada 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by ednut1(m): 10:15am On Feb 15, 2023 |
Edc2:hinge and bumble 10 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Edc2: 2:45pm On Feb 15, 2023 |
ednut1: Ok thanks will check them out 1 Like |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Nobody: 1:33am On Feb 17, 2023 |
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Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Goodbadbowy419: 4:09am On Feb 17, 2023 |
Edc2: Kongi don do you bad thing ππ 69 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by inoki247: 2:18pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Lol go patronize dating site you go see plenty friends with benefits for dere..... Just focus on Hinge Wella u go see plenty people..... 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by SmartPolician: 2:19pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Loneliness or no loneliness, I am coming to Toronto! 23 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by jimmyolasun: 2:19pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
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Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by StrongAlphMale: 2:19pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Nigeria girls cannot stay one week without chopping dick. Know this and know peace! 34 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by siofra(f): 2:19pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Good for you!! |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Sonnobax15(m): 2:19pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
![]() My brother, wahala of naira notes for naija big pass any kind amount of loneliness wey you go ever pass through for Canada. 50 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by tonykester: 2:20pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Na wa.. Every Mallam with him own kettle |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Greatzeus(m): 2:20pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
So are you coming back to Nigeria or staying put there in Canada?π€π€ 12 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Lindajames1010: 2:20pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
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Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by ecolime(m): 2:20pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
This life ehn... You can't have it all. Same thing my unmarried peeps abroad are facing. Always depressed & bored as fck. What's the essence of working 247, no time to rest and no one to share life memories with? ![]() Here in Naija, some make good money, are in quality relationships, yet the environment and government frustrates the hell out of you Now imagine what people without good jobs face. Whether home or abroad, just choose your type of pain and live with it if there's nothing you can do about it. 112 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by yesloaded: 2:21pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by SmartGadgetz: 2:22pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Go to events play good music Read more books Have a close boyfriend Don't watch porn (It makes one hideous) Write your thoughts in the form of books Play outdoor and indoor games Go to recreational places Buy your own groceries not home delivery Focus on why you are there Start new business ideas or partnership Don't forget to have sex to keep body and soul together Etc etc Do these you can't be lonely anymore 33 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Guest911: 2:22pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
Confusedgirlie: Make money, no dey loose focus. Btw are you in Toronto? ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by bewla(m): 2:22pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
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Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by JASONjnr(m): 2:23pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
You're not lonely but you want to change a certain thing by going out to buy things instead of ordering online.... You are deceiving yourself..... Do you understand that being an introvert is always likened to extreme depression and in most cases, gives you alot of time to masturbae or see lots of pornographics online? You will not understand this ..... I couldn't stay overseas, even when I thought I was an introvert, I returned to work in my country.... I love it here and this is nothing compare to the racism I face everyday.... 41 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Experience With Loneliness After Canada Migration by Lumig: 2:23pm On Feb 17, 2023 |
![]() Ooooh sorry You can't eat your cake and still have it. It's one of the sacrifices you ll have to make for traveling out. I pray the loneliness and boredom will not kill your sanity or even you. Amen 16 Likes 2 Shares |
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